acceptance

[donnasweetheart]

Is there something wrong with me? Am I the only GG heterosexual that's loves her man to cross dress? I know and understand that everyone and every situation is different, however cross dressing is part of him, it is who he is. I fell in love with him so why would I not accept him just the way he is, why would I want to change him? He is everything I ever wanted.

Donna is part of me, she is part of our life together, it is normal and comfortable. She brings a trust, honesty and respect into our lives that maybe we wouldn't have other wise. The three of us have a bond that can't be broken. With this kind of honesty it brings nothing but good things to the both of us. We have fun together, we laugh and enjoy life. It also brings our love life to heights that I didn't even know that existed.
I guess what I am trying to say is that I am really tired of society telling me that it is wrong. It's not wrong or sick it is what is right.

If you want to have what we have than try to be giving, loving, kind and respectful. Don't be selfish and demanding. Don't lie and sneak. If you love each other things will just naturally fall into place. Remember it's not all about you. You have a SO with feelings and needs too.

[Sara Jessica]

What a wonderful attitude!!! I can only dream that one day my wife might come to a similar state of being. She is accepting to a certain degree but decidedly non-participating. One day that might change but then again, it might not...and I can live with that. I'd like to think we are always considering each other's feelings, it certainly goes both ways.

As I've told her before, she has the capacity to change when dealing with my being tg. Unfortunately, I cannot go backwards and try to be someone that I am not.

[tamarav]

You are such a breath of fresh air in comparison to so many of the stories our members write about. You are remarkable, but not alone.

My wife and I have been together for over 25 years. She has totally accepted all of my since well before we were married. It has done nothing but enhance our lives together and I feel that we are much closer than any typical couple. In attempting to think of a time when we had a fight, I cannot come up with any. We disagree on rare occasions, she is usually right, truthfully.

Thank you for being who you are.

Your sis,
Tami

[Emma England]

It is great that you are accepting. That is what a real friend (or partner) is supposed to be.

I am still waiting for the answer to this.

Why do a lot of men and women think that crossdressing is wrong?

So far, no one in the world has come up with a sensible answer.

As far as honesty is concerned, I have upset several people over the years. That is because I have spoken the truth, and some people do not like the truth (especially when they are in the wrong but won't admit to it).

I wish you a long and happy relationship.

[PhillyGuy2Girl]

DonnaSweetheart,

Your husband is lucky to have you for a wife who accepts his crossdressing. My wife is very accepting of my CDing and we are very happy. He should be very thankful for you. I know I'm thankful for my wife.

Felicity :)

[missrachel]

i accept my husband full heartedly!
i love him unconditionally. i love having a husband and a girlfriend all in one.
i could never ever ask him to change or make him feel bad for doing what comes naturally to him.
Victoria- The wife

[PhillyGuy2Girl]

i accept my husband full heartedly!
i love him unconditionally. i love having a husband and a girlfriend all in one.
i could never ever ask him to change or make him feel bad for doing what comes naturally to him.
Victoria- The wife

Right on Victoria. You go girl!

Felicity :)

[Tracy W]

Not a thing wrong with you. You are just fine. No wait, your great.

You have refused to wear the blinders that most of society does, and that makes you a special, better person. You really know and understand the meaning of true love.

My wife accepts me for what I am and I am very grateful. She, like you, knows what it means to truely love somebody. My CD'ing has brought us closer together. We are traveling this road of discovery hand in hand and loving every minute of it.

To hell with the naysayers, and enjoy. Life is too short not to.

[paulaluvssz8]

This sounds like a dream come true. Just to have someone to accept the CDing in my life would be great. I see that society will judge us on our appearance no matter what we do or say. So do as what you would; and let everyone else try and figure you out...:heehee:

[Alice B]

You are very special and offer something to your man that many of us would love to have.

[Sarah's lover]

I'm another gg who loves both aspects of my soul mate. I now know what was missing all those years when I didn't know about Sarah and when Sarah wasn't accepting of herself.

Now she is and I am able to be a lover to her my life is so enhanced. I always loved my husband but now I am so in love, sometimes it is totally overwhelming.

And yes it does add another dimension to our love life which is fun too.

The only difficulty is society and damning judgemental views.

[KandisTX]

My wife (GlitterGG on this forum) is also a lover and supporter of my CDing. ;)

Kandis:love::rose2:

[darla_g]

what an absolutely beautiful story

[Jaclyn NM]

What a great attitude. I recently came out to my wife, and so far she has been very understanding, and has accepted my crossdressing. We are taking this journey together, but I'm taking it slow. For now, I'm limiting the amount of female clothing I wear around the house, and we're getting along great with it. I hope that some day her level of acceptance grows to the same as yours, but I know it can take time, so I plan on being very patient

[abundantly_me]

We are inside a culmination of life experiences, I can truly say that I want my SO to be happy with whom he is.

Can I say I love my man to cross dress? No, I can not. But what I can say is that I know this is a part of his being and do wish to accept this side to him.

True you are not in the majority, but alone? no there are other females (gg's) that do feel as you.

[jennylogan]

Once I learned that she totally accepted me weather en femme or in drab I finally realized that the sneaking around, the clandestine purchases, and the lying by omission were far more harmful than the act of dressing itself. It took a while for the light to go on, but now that it has my cding is between her and I and if it is okay with us, the rest of the world can take a flying leap as far as were concerned.
That said, having a supportive spouse is a wonderful and somewhat rare gift and I don't do anything that would jeopardized that support.

[PamelaTX]

That's really beautiful. I'm hoping my wife and I can get to where you're at eventually. Thanks for sharing.

[justmetoo]

Is there something wrong with me? Am I the only GG heterosexual that's loves her man to cross dress? I know and understand that everyone and every situation is different, however cross dressing is part of him, it is who he is. I fell in love with him so why would I not accept him just the way he is, why would I want to change him? He is everything I ever wanted.

Donna is part of me, she is part of our life together, it is normal and comfortable. She brings a trust, honesty and respect into our lives that maybe we wouldn't have other wise. The three of us have a bond that can't be broken. With this kind of honesty it brings nothing but good things to the both of us. We have fun together, we laugh and enjoy life. It also brings our love life to heights that I didn't even know that existed.
I guess what I am trying to say is that I am really tired of society telling me that it is wrong. It's not wrong or sick it is what is right.

If you want to have what we have than try to be giving, loving, kind and respectful. Don't be selfish and demanding. Don't lie and sneak. If you love each other things will just naturally fall into place. Remember it's not all about you. You have a SO with feelings and needs too.


Nothing wrong with you at all! You're absolutely right.

And great advice for both partners! :D

[Ballerina]

Is there something wrong with me? Am I the only GG heterosexual that's loves her man to cross dress? I know and understand that everyone and every situation is different, however cross dressing is part of him, it is who he is. I fell in love with him so why would I not accept him just the way he is, why would I want to change him? He is everything I ever wanted.

Donna is part of me, she is part of our life together, it is normal and comfortable. She brings a trust, honesty and respect into our lives that maybe we wouldn't have other wise. The three of us have a bond that can't be broken. With this kind of honesty it brings nothing but good things to the both of us. We have fun together, we laugh and enjoy life. It also brings our love life to heights that I didn't even know that existed.
I guess what I am trying to say is that I am really tired of society telling me that it is wrong. It's not wrong or sick it is what is right.

If you want to have what we have than try to be giving, loving, kind and respectful. Don't be selfish and demanding. Don't lie and sneak. If you love each other things will just naturally fall into place. Remember it's not all about you. You have a SO with feelings and needs too.

Donna, you're not alone in accepting your husband. I've recently come out to my GG GF of 4 years and she is completely supportive in my journey to find out my true self. I originally adored her, but after coming clean, I feel a greater passion for her. I'm glad that you and your husband are happy together and wish you even greater happiness.

As far as being selfish to hide it from your SO, remember that it's all about fear. Crossdressing is something that is not morally accepted by many and many of us fear rejection from others; especially from the ones that we love the most. So, it leaves the question, is it really selfish to be afraid and have rational fears?

[hskrchic]

No you are not alone I speak as another very supportive SO. I'm very new to the whole aspect of crossdressing. My bf of a little over a year introduced me to a whole new world which I'm loving. He never hid it and took everything very slowly...he was very supportive and understanding of my feelings and all my questions. I probably pushed him faster because I was so intrigued. I agree with you completely you fall in love with a person not just their good qualities but their bad as well so why would not accepting CD be any different. I personally see it as a great quality...we all have a masculine and a feminine side....it is perfectly accepted by society for a woman to embrace her masculine side so why it is not acceptable for a man to embrace his famine....wrong!! I see a difference in my bf when he is dressed...there is a different look in his eyes. It is hard to describe but he is more relaxed. So if taking a hot bubble bath, reading or listening to music relaxes me who am I to deny him of something that relaxes him!! I know people dress for different reasons but don't we all deserve the right to be happy??!!

Kudos to you for being supportive...I really wish there was more of us out there.

"The world is weird....we are normal". A quote from my love "Katie"!!

[docrobbysherry]

Thank u for your post. It gives us single CDs hope of finding a GG like u!

Uh, by the way, before anyone else asks; do u have an single sister, or maybe a widowed mom, who feels the way u do?:love:

[vivianann]

No there is nothing wrong with you, everybody has things they like, you just happen to like your husband to wear dresses. that is awesome. I hope to marry a woman that has the same desires to have her husband wear dresses.

[TommiTN]

"Crossdressing is something that is not morally accepted by many and many of us fear rejection from others; especially from the ones that we love the most. So, it leaves the question, is it really selfish to be afraid and have rational fears?"

No, it isn't selfishness. It is better defined as rational self interest. It's the completely rational desire to protect oneself from possible harm, a natural component of the human psyche.

[DemonicDaughter]

I take it you've had a gander at some of the more depressing posts here on forums. I know what you mean. Reading the stories from both sides gives an impression that extremely few women appreciate this side of their partner. But I think a lot of the time, its more of a gripe session than really an every day feeling for them... or I could be wrong.

Personally, I LOVE it! BEYOND love it! Kayla (DD's Girl) is simply who my partner is and I love her with all my being. I go out of my way to get her things she needs, make her feel special and do for her as she does for me. Love and respect. No, nothing's ever perfect and I don't pretend it is but I do know that any issues we do have, aren't because she dresses.

In all honesty... I love her more when she is dressed. She just seems so much happier and so much more her true self that I wish she was able to go 24/7 (something we are working on).

I'm happy to read about another GG that enjoys all that CDing has to offer in her life as well as that of her partners. :D

:love: :hugs:

[mishelle379]

my gf left me cuz of my dressing, I was open and honest from the start, but she just couldnt deal with it, she realized it was soo much a part of me and decided she needed a manly man,xo I guess she didnt truly love ME

[Bethany38]

I am glad too see someone that has the great attitiude that you do. My wife is also of the same mind set. I have cd'd for many years and I only told her recently within the past three years. She blew my mind away with her acceptence of Bethany. I wonder alot why more G.G.
s cannot have more open minds like you do. You are one of the few women that do enjoy their men to be open with what I like to call their alter egos. Thank you soo much for being you. and know that you are not alone.

[DemonicDaughter]

my gf left me cuz of my dressing, I was open and honest from the start, but she just couldnt deal with it, she realized it was soo much a part of me and decided she needed a manly man,xo I guess she didnt truly love ME

Some people fall in love with an idea of who someone is, when that "idea" is found to be false, they cannot handle it. Whether someone is honest in the beginning or not, we all tend to fall in love with what we hope is "the one" and some people push too hard for that. Some people don't realize that the things they do not enjoy about their partner is as much a part of them as the things they like.

But in one sense, those people do us a favor by leaving... they give us the opportunity to find that one person who loves us for who we are. :hugs:

[ReineD]

If you want to have what we have than try to be giving, loving, kind and respectful. Don't be selfish and demanding. Don't lie and sneak. If you love each other things will just naturally fall into place. Remember it's not all about you. You have a SO with feelings and needs too.

How wonderful that you are so supportive! I love all of my SO's dimensions too and I love it when we share time together dressed. I sense that many GGs who participate in this forum feel just like you! But, judging by what I've read, I believe that most of the gripes center around the behaviors you outline above, which seem not to be an issue in your relationship: the self-centeredness that can accompany being in a pink fog, or the unwillingness to share the deeper femme feelings and fantasies, which can make a GG feel left out or feel as if she is not as central to her SO as the CDing.


"Crossdressing is something that is not morally accepted by many and many of us fear rejection from others; especially from the ones that we love the most. So, it leaves the question, is it really selfish to be afraid and have rational fears?"

No, it isn't selfishness. It is better defined as rational self interest. It's the completely rational desire to protect oneself from possible harm, a natural component of the human psyche.

Well said, Tammi. This may also explains why some of the non-supportive SOs cannot get past their bias. They are afraid. I feel much more at ease en femme when we are in private or in safe places than out in the mainstream.
:hugs:

[Valerie]

Thanks for such a supportive message. While my SO is very encouraging, from reading some posts of other SOs I find it difficult to totally trust her love for Valerie and that makes me hesitant, fearing that she may distance herself from me. You give me a wonderful point of view that warms my heart. Thanks again!

Valerie

[Ballerina]

"Crossdressing is something that is not morally accepted by many and many of us fear rejection from others; especially from the ones that we love the most. So, it leaves the question, is it really selfish to be afraid and have rational fears?"

No, it isn't selfishness. It is better defined as rational self interest. It's the completely rational desire to protect oneself from possible harm, a natural component of the human psyche.

Well, I left that as an open ended question, but if anyone could have finished the answer, that would be exactly what I would look for :)

I could contest that answer, though. But, don't want to stray this post off topic :heehee:

[faltenrock]

what a wonderful comment by a GG - thanks....