Managing "her" to make "him" better

[Nataliebabe]

This may get a bit long, please bear with me.

The other night I decided to play with some makeup and then put on my wig. I finaly got to see what Natalie really looks like. I have never had such a great feeling. I was not completely dressed(bra,panties, and a big t-shirt). I felt a huge release, like the weight of the world was lifted off of my shoulders, chest and the back of my neck. It was a feeling of a big relief coupled with a feeling of elation(no where near adrenaline, just elation). The Mrs. was upstairs and I asked if I could show her something(me) and see what she thought. It was great. She said that I looked good and we talked a bit about it. It felt SO good that she liked what she saw and that Natalie didn`t look like a side show freak. I enjoyed the moment for about 2 hours and then crawled in bed happy as a clam. I woke up the following morning extremely happy (I`m not a morning person, except for hunting season lol) and had an awesome day!

Later on in the day I talked to the wife on the cell phone and I said that my day was good thanks to last night, finally seeing Natalie up close and personal for the first time since I started dressing years ago. Later that night we talked and she asked me why I couldn`t be more easy going all of the time. I told her that I cant explain it, but being "her" helps "him". she accepts, but is still a bit leary of all of this(understandable). She also said that if being Natalie for a day or two during the week, makes me a better man, she is all for it(to make a long story short).

Truthfully, getting to know Natalie better, does make me a beter man. Not as macho, all of the time(come on, I gotta hunt, fish, fart and get a bit greasy) and I am able to deal with my children better and I can also relate to women much, much more easily than I could before. I`m starting to ramble, I`ll wrap this up. I`ll leave you all with this question. Does your inner girl make you a better man?


p.s. while looking in the mirror the other night, I heard a voice from somewhere in the back of my head say, "Honey, you need to go on a diet, your face it too fat". :D

[Mary Morgan]

Natalie, I believe getting rid of inhibitions, relaxing, feeling elated, and being happy are all things that make us better, and yes, I get all of that from releasing the woman within me. If my wife made me the offer yours has made, I'd try very hard to find out exactly what she was looking for in terms of change and I'd make every effort to deliver. As it is, I try to guess what she wants, some days I do well, some days I don't. Yes, Natalie, being the real me makes the male part better.

[Nataliebabe]

I`m caught somewhere between the two. "He" is somewhat of a control freak, macho boss man, rugged outdoorsman. Natalie is much more down to earth, happier, easier to communicate with, and generally much more laid back. My problem is getting more Natalie into his life. I.E. a bit softer on the emotions and being more level headed. I`m not letting Natalie into my place of work or my tree stand. LOL!! The Mrs. would like it more if "he" could be a bit more understanding. I`m only out to the wife and that is the way it will be, so, I have to figure out a way to let more of her out and not out myself to anyone else. Does anyone understand?

[Tina B.]

Natalie, I know just what you mean, I have lived it for years. Tina is soft spoken, thoughtful, quick to give a complement, or sypathy, and as long as she is around often, my male self shares a lot of her traits, but the trick is not to let that soft side show to much when out with people that don't know Tina. I'm an old trucker, that spent years working in an all male work place, and the soft girly side would never have been understood. Lucky for me, I am a bit of an actor, so I could come off all machco, even when I didn't really feel it. Now that I am not in that kind of work place anymore, and Tina is out a lot more, I seem to be losing that hard edge, and getting softer about how I react to things. I like me better this way, and so does the wife.
Tina B.

[Alice B]

I guess my question is does your wife allow you to dress when she is home or only when she is away. She seems to be understanding and in acceptance. I went through all this with my wife and now allows me to dress. In fact she told me that tomorrow night I can dress as she will be at a meeting, but when she gets home knows I'll be dressed. It took a couple of years to get to this place, but it has made a major change in my attiitde, making me more relaxed.

[gagirl1]

happier people tend to be less tense, and just nicer all around. glad to see you've found something that makes you happy that doesn't involve sitting around in a tree for hours freezing ;).

[Roberta Marie]

I can't help but wonder if we've been suppressing the femme side so long and so well, that the men that we've become in trying to hide that femme side are not really the men that we should have become. I think that we have personnality traits that we've hidden from ourselves as well as others, and we allow to those traits to come to the surface when we are dressed. Perhaps, with a little wok, we can allow some of those traits to surface all of the time, and become the man that is closer to the peson that we should have become.

Grace,
Bobbi

[Valerie]

I also share the experience of being much more relaxed, understanding, and happy when I can dress from time to time, but I think Bobbi is very insightful and right: it is not that we become someone else, but when crossdressing we can be who we have always been (and can be) but have repressed.

Valerie

[Nataliebabe]

I guess my question is does your wife allow you to dress when she is home or only when she is away. She seems to be understanding and in acceptance. I went through all this with my wife and now allows me to dress. In fact she told me that tomorrow night I can dress as she will be at a meeting, but when she gets home knows I'll be dressed. It took a couple of years to get to this place, but it has made a major change in my attiitde, making me more relaxed.

Yes Alice, she lets me dress when she is home(as long as the kids are asleep) and even helps a bit(wig, make up). I do indulge from time ot time when she and the kids take off for a few hours. it took us a year and ahalf to get here though.....baby steps.....

[Nataliebabe]

happier people tend to be less tense, and just nicer all around. glad to see you've found something that makes you happy that doesn't involve sitting around in a tree for hours freezing ;).

I am happy when I am in my tree stand......:D

[erica12b]

I look at my fem side as one side of the yin-yang symbol it makes me complete (whole person)