Do you enjoy being referred to as female when in drab?

[Rikidee]

A few weeks ago I was riding my bicycle wearing male shorts, shirt and helmet when a lady stopped me to ask a question about the local area. She said "excuse me maam" and asked about where to buy charcoal. I told her the local store didn't have any and she yelled back to her husband "she said they don't have any" and said "thank you maam" pretty much made my day. Then the following week I was riding my bike again dressed the same way and I was called by the name of a gg I work with by a casual acquaintance of hers. I carried on a short conversation and the person was none the wiser. Last week I was shopping in a consignment store wearing a baseball cap (I am almost bald on top), a T shirt and a pair of shorts when a lady came down the same aisle and said "excuse me miss". Later the same night I was standing in the door of my hotel room dressed the same way and a lady came by with a beer in her hand. I reached my hand out like I wanted the beer and she replied "hold on there a minute young lady". On all these occasions the only thing fem about me was I am small for a guy and my legs are shaved. I am beginning to wonder if when I am in male mode strangers think I am a girl dressing like a guy. I know this would embarass most guys but it makes me feel all warm inside and gives me so much confidence when I dress.

[Carin]

It has happened to me a couple of times. From behind, my hair, body shape and pastel clothing colors are all female cues. I have heard the "excuse me Ma'am" from behind.

A couple of times a grocery store checker called me ma'am, when the only extra (beyond my normal wear) was larger than normal ear-rings. Yea, I did get that warm fuzzy feeling.

[Angie G]

I wish. :hugs:
Angie

[Nicole Erin]

I love being called "maam" but on the other hand, I cannot really say anything cause my voice will give me away.

On the other hand, I hate getting called "sir" no matter what.

[marny]

I've been Maamed a few times when not dressd and I quite like it. i think its the hair style. definetly looking more girl! :D

[Krystalyn]

Thats funny!:D Sometimes when I've worn my jeff gordon hat with my hair tucked inside my cap and wearing NO makeup, I've had people call me sir! I think thats funny!! I'm a GG.

[ArleneRaquel]

No, but recently grocery shopping I was call sir while in line at check - out while in drag. Marilyn - aka Katrina Maureen

[IMJenn]

Never had that opportunity. A friend does refer to me as "she" and "her" when I'm dressed up, but she is the only one that ever sees it and that has only been once.

[docrobbysherry]

I would prefer being called, " Maam" in drab, than, " Sir" in drag!:doh:

[Alice Torn]

The only time I was out dressed all day. I was walking around Seattle nothern Broadway area, and then sat on a park bench, noticed a family parked next to my car, at the little park. I waited and waited for them to leave, then finally went to my car. The man told his kids not to look, then said, "sir, can you give me a jump start?" I did it, and he said, Thank you sir." It was a tense moment, as, i had never been out in the daylight before. My wig was way too small, too.

[ElaineB]

No one has ever called me ma'am in drab, but I did catch "Memsahib" once in India. The lady who made the mistake had a friend who laughed and corrected her.

She was onto something tho... I had been dressing earlier and had cut my hair to a somewhat feminine style. It still amazes that anyone could mistake somebody my size for a woman.

[RobinScott]

I would prefer being called, " Maam" in drab, than, " Sir" in drag!:doh:

Exactly!

My hair is longer than most men. My "normal" look is not overly male. Sometimes when I am not trying to project my female self, someone will call out to me "excuse me miss..." and I don''t register that they are referring to me. Makes my day! :cheer:

Sometimes they continue talking to me as if I was a (natural) woman, and I do nothing to correct them! Sadly, others notice and correct them selfs. "er.. I mean Sir" (sigh)

A couple weeks ago, I was in a hotel jacuzii, male shorts and a T-shirt, and a woman said to her kid, careful you will splash that lady.. then corrected herself and said ..Person. (sigh)

Only time it is embarising is when I am with my mother and someone will say..."can I help you ladies"

Love, Robin

[Tracii G]

I was getting gas one day and the young girl at the next pump didn't know how to work it and said ma'am can you help me?I guess the girly jeans and sandals from the rear looked female when I turned around she said OH I'm sorry I thought you were a girl!I told he thank you for the compliment and showed her how the pump works.She was very embarrased.
I loved it.

[jenalex]

I would prefer being called, " Maam" in drab, than, " Sir" in drag!:doh:

yes, I hate being called "sir"

but I like it best when people aren't sure what to call me :happy:

[lisa_vin]

Hi! As a teen in the 70's, I had shoulder-length hair and was actually mistaken as a girl a couple of times before the mustache finally kicked in. I'd have to honestly say it was embarrassing but kinda' pleasing at the same time. It hasn't happened since then as I have a beard and mustache now. If it does happen now, I will seriously question somebody's eyesight, judgement or sobriety!:D:D:D

Hugs,
Lisa

[ElaineB]

I got caught up in my anecdote and forgot to answer the question!

Yes I enjoyed being called Memsahib. :) I am always skeptical if I could pass but there was proof it is possible ... in some parts of the world with some people at least.

[Karren H]

Doesn't really matter to me one way or the other what people call me.....

[Maibh]

Its never happened to me. Between my height, girth and deep bartone voice, I'm rather publicly male. Never managed to find my girl voice.

Pity, I'd really like to know what Maibh sounds like.

[ChristineRenee]

Being what I call "dual gendered", I find it somewhat amusing that some people can't quite figure me out, LOL.

Do I "enjoy" it then? Yeah...it's a rush...it's a kick. It means that the femme part of me does show outwardly to the general public despite being in male drab. It's me...all of me...on display. It's who I am...and I can't change that nor would I ever want to now anyway. :)

[Rachel Morley]

Hi Riki,


I know this would embarrass most guys but it makes me feel all warm inside and gives me so much confidence when I dress.
Me too! I love posts like this :) I'd so love this to happen to me on a regular basis. I am fortunate enough to have had this happen to me on more than a few occasions but I gotta be honest it's doesn't happen anywhere as near as often as I would like. The times I can remember that are somewhat similar to yours are:

I was in our local Raleys supermarket with my wife Marla. We were waiting at the end of a long line at the checkout. Not all of the registers were open. We were just starting to wonder how long we would have to wait when a voice from behind us said “if you two ladies would like to come with me, I can serve you here”. They had opened another register and we were being called over. When this happened I froze. “surely they can’t be referring to me I thought” “Come on, that’s us” Marla said. I had been mistaken for a woman, as seen from the back. What was even weirder to me was that I have very little hair and I was wearing a baseball cap, and yet the checker mistook me for a woman. I can only assume she identified me from only the size of my body (which is little), what I was wearing, and my shaved legs and sandals. When we walked over to the checker she didn’t say a thing, she acted as though nothing had happened. Did she know (?)

Another time was when we were in Las Vegas. We were walking down the strip in the Saturday afternoon sunshine, and as we approached a woman handing out fliers, she held out her flier to me, made eye contact, and said "How about a show Ladies...umm...Sir....I mean, Ma'am." I was beaming with happiness when this happened. I want to tell you I'm not a very big person to start with. I'm only 5'4" tall and I weigh 130 lbs. I have small hands and I take a women's size 8 shoe. I also have thinly plucked eyebrows and long fingernails with French nail polish. I was wearing a baseball cap, and I had my gold stud earrings in. However I wasn't wearing any make up, except eyeliner and lip gloss, that day. I was also wearing pink and white tennis shoes, tight fitting low rise boot cut jeans, a women's fitted pale blue t-shirt and a brown women's ribbed rayon/nylon mix cardigan. Add all this together and I guess I didn't look much like a man, but I didn't think I looked enough like a woman to be mistaken for one either, because I wasn't dressed fully en femme.

Another time we were shopping for some home improvement products at Home Dept. I was wearing a fairly girly t-shirt, tight fitting women’s jeans, a baseball cap and women’s white tennis shoes that had pink trim on them. We were looking at paint brushes and a woman behind us was struggling to get passed with her cart. She said "excuse me ladies". I turned around to look at her and she exclaimed to Marla "oh sorry, but it was his shoes!". I guess she was looking down because from the back I didn’t look that girly ... although I was wearing fairly obvious girl's clothes I guess.

Anyway Ricki, I'm with you ... when it happens (which for me is not that often) I absolutely love it! :)

[pamela_a]

I love when that happens. Although I have only 1 mode of dress it's normally not overly fem. At 6'5" and weighing more than I should I would expect it to never happen, but on numerous occasions I've been called ma'am or refered to as she and her. I really hate it when someone calls me sir.

-Paula-

[donnadawn]

I've been maamed a few times while in drab but mostly it is because of my long hair that I keep in a pony tail. The most fun time was when entering a national park with my wife. I had my hair put up extra high in a pony tail with a big scrunchie to hold it in place. When the ranger asked me for my ID to verify our park pass he looked at me and asked where the person in the photo was. I had to tell him I was the person in the photo. He said something about pictures don't always look like the person and waved us on.

[LilSissyStevie]

Back in the late '60s I had long, thick, black hair (sigh!). I wore the most androgynous clothing I could get away with, so I would occasionally get mistaken for a girl - especially if approached from behind. The drawback was that every now and then some redneck driving by would slow down to get a better look and would throw his Schlitz at me and say a few choice words when he realized I was a guy. I had to run for my life a few times too. Other than that, I thought it was kind of cool and funny to be mistaken for a girl. It wouldn't happen nowadays, that's for sure.