What do you hate?

[Katie Lynn cd]

What do you hate the most about cross-dressing? For me it would be the occasional guilt about being a cross-dresser, and also the time it takes to go from fully dressed back to drab. Going from drab to fully dressed while time consuming is actually a lot of fun. My first thought was being so alone in all this, but then I remembered that at the very least I get to share this with all of you.


Katie

[Adele]

I hate it when my wifes car draws up on the drive and I rush upstairs to change in a panic!!! My wife is ok with my dressing but our daughter doesn't know. I then appear and must look terribly flustered.

I also wish I could dress all the time but hey ho.

[ChristineRenee]

The bigotry, the intolerance, and the very apparent and widespread inability to accept cross dressing and the transgendered community by mainstream society. We, as a collective people who ALL inhabit this planet together, still have a long way to go in this regard to change the cold-hearted and narrow minds of those that are either unable or unwilling to acknowledge the basic humanity and human rights of everyone in society.

[Deborah Jane]

The bigotry, the intolerance, and the very apparent and widespread inability to accept cross dressing and the transgendered community by mainstream society. We, as a collective people who ALL inhabit this planet together, still have a long way to go in this regard to change the cold-hearted and narrow minds of those that are either unable or unwilling to acknowledge the basic humanity and human rights of everyone in society.

:iagree: Chrissie 100% and as you,ve said it, theres no point me repeating it!!

[MentalMercury]

All I hate is that I didn't realize how much fun it could be sooner

[Corrine35]

The bigotry, the intolerance, and the very apparent and widespread inability to accept cross dressing and the transgendered community by mainstream society. We, as a collective people who ALL inhabit this planet together, still have a long way to go in this regard to change the cold-hearted and narrow minds of those that are either unable or unwilling to acknowledge the basic humanity and human rights of everyone in society.



You said a mouthful in your last sentence, HUMAN RIGHTS of everyone.

We live in a free country and people are free to choose what to accept and what not to accept,this concept is what makes this country great.

The problem is people are ignorant concerning cross-dressing and that is evident in the first question that 9 out of 10 will ask a cross-dresser........are you gay?

Whats the first thing a wife will do when she finds out that her husband is a cross-dresser,I mean besides freak out and go into shock, she will look to learn about it all she can, and when she does she has a better understanding.

But this same woman would never look to learn about crossdressing if it had not impacted her life,so she would draw the same conclusions that everyone else would.

8 out of 10 cross-dressers have purged and or had guilty feelings concerning there cross-dressing, this is a red flag to the explanation of I was born this way, If you were really born this way these feelings would not surface, but we ourselves realize we are going against the grain so we feel guilty and swear never to do it again.

Anytime something goes against the grain there will be resistence and our purging is proof of this.

People are free to go against the grain if they wish and they do to all extremes but were free!

What do hate about cross-dressing, nothing,nothing at all because I chose to do it, we all reach an age when we begin to understand that cross-dressing is not right, but we continue to do it because we get hooked on the feeling it gives.

We escape who we are when we dress, I have read story after story about how most men open up and share there feelings when dressed and become more emotional when dressed, if you can do this while dressed why cant you do the same thing when not dressed?

Right now if you were sentenced to life in prison and could never dress again in time you would adapt to that fact and given time these feelings to dress would leave, but the fact is time and opertunity are present for us to fulfill our need to dress.

We need to be more thankful that we are free to dress as we please, just try doing this in other parts of the country and see what happens.

Our wives do not accept us as cross-dressers because its right they accept us because they love us for better or worse, they love who we are not what we do, as I am sure all of the accepting wives if given a chance to choose they would rather us not cross-dress, but they choose not to put themselves first and out of love accept our as I call it a fetish.

Weather people accept us or not what does it matter, I mean what does it matter what other people think do you really care?

Do you want it to be the norm for you to go out to the mall and go shopping and buy a dress and some shoes? If so then just go do it!

Go out tomorrow and mow your lawn in a cute sundress without regard to what the neighbors will think are you living for them or yourself.

We are free to express ourselves as we feel for that let us give thanks!

[Amy Hepker]

I hate not being accepted by my Lady when I am AMY

[Jennifer Devine]

Not being able to do it all the time

[Raychel]

I hate not having enough time to dress the way I like, and I hate the constant fear of getting caught, even in my own house that I work so hard to pay for. :sad:

[Karren H]

I hate it when my makeup is just not perfect....

I hate it when I buy some new makeup on sale only to find out I already have one....

I hate clerence sales because I can't control myself...

I hate it when I go over the weight limit on my suitcase because I want to take everything with me on a trip...

I hate it if I do not take everything with me on a trip... Its the one thing that I really need..

God I hate a lot... Lol

[MichelleA]

Chrissie Renee said it so well !! I hate the ignorance and the intolerance of society and their bigotry yes. The idea that I have to learn to lead a double life because of a society that would look down on me if it found out that I am a cd. They look down on me simply because they are ignorant, I hate that I have to even consider them ....but oh well... we have to play with the cards we were dealt... right ? I love that I am a cd...and I want to yell it to the world !!!!!!!! I first discovered my moms nylons when I was 8 years old, and frankly, I don't know why I waited so long.......:)

[Jocelyn Quivers]

Scrubbing off make up especially eye shadow and eye liner after a session of dressing.

[Sara Jessica]

8 out of 10 cross-dressers have purged and or had guilty feelings concerning there cross-dressing, this is a red flag to the explanation of I was born this way, If you were really born this way these feelings would not surface, but we ourselves realize we are going against the grain so we feel guilty and swear never to do it again.

I just love empty stats and false correlations like this. Don't even bring whether or not we are born this way into this thread. We occupy many places along the gender spectrum and dragging in nature vs. nurture will blow things way out of proportion, missing the point of a very good question.

As for the question, what do I hate? Changing back into guy mode definately stinks but also not being able to present more often to express the femininity which runs to the very core of my being.

[Katie Lynn cd]

I just love empty stats and false correlations like this. Don't even bring whether or not we are born this way into this thread. We occupy many places along the gender spectrum and dragging in nature vs. nurture will blow things way out of proportion, missing the point of a very good question.

As for the question, what do I hate? Changing back into guy mode definately stinks but also not being able to present more often to express the femininity which runs to the very core of my being.

I agree. I may have guilt every now and then, but I never, ever say that I am not going to do it any more. I know better.

[Samantha43]

I hate taking everything off Sunday evening after an enjoyable weekend of being Samantha. It's such a let down. :sad:

[TGMarla]

I hate that it is not considered socially acceptable, and that I have to change back in order to get anything tangible done on any given day. I hate the fact that if others knew I did this, I would be judged on this before all other things.

[Katie Ellen]

I hate that I have to turn it on and off. Usually, because of an outside influence.

I also feel guilty afterwards sometimes. Even my wife says that's stupid.

[Lanore]

I hate swet bumps under my breasts and I didn't bring any powder.

Lanore

[Shelly67]

I hate driving into my works on a Monday morning having spent the weekend enfemme .
I hate going back to drab .
I hate not having the guts to come out fully to my loved ones .
And I really hate a certain dark haired girl on here ( you know who you are too - giggle ) for living so far from me ...........:love:

[Maureen]

Even though she is supportive, I hate the pain and disappointment I have caused my wife with this all of this. Her life would have been much better if I were a normal man.

[Kate Lynn]

Even though she is supportive, I hate the pain and disappointment I have caused my wife with this all of this. Her life would have been much better if I were a normal man.


Maureen you are normal,the first step is realizing that,besides I learned a long time ago,normal is what suits the individual,not what others say is normal.
:drink:

[Maureen]

While I really appreciate your supportive attitude, I think deep down, after we are done with the semantics games, we all know we are not "normal". I don't mean to infer that crossdressing makes one a bad person, just that it is not a socially acceptable lifestyle.
We were asked what we hate about crossdressing, and I answered. For me, while I find it is something I can't control, in no way do I embrace it as being something positive in my or my spouse's life. She loves me and is supportive, but we would both be happier if this were not in our lives.

[Sara Jessica]

I agree, this isn't normal in the sense of categorizing the transgendered experience as part of the usual fabric of society, nor is it wrong. Just like morality, normal in the context of society cannot be defined by the individual. However, what is normal can evolve over time and one day in the future, we might be talking about how "normal" tg expression has become.

[Kate Lynn]

people who scream the loudest about tolerence,are the most intolerant.
:drink:

[Jocelyn Renee]

When we say we hate that society can not accept us, are we really saying that we hate that we can't face the possible consequences? I'm not trying to minimize or belittle the possible consequences by any means. However, this site is full of people who do fully participate in society while en femme with mostly positive results. My personal experience has been that the overwhelming majority of people are capable of accepting CDing. The path to greater acceptance is more ambassadors, but recruitment is difficult because the job is dangerous.

Besides, no group ever achieves 100% acceptance. Are we under the illusion that as we travel about our daily lives in drab that we have 100% acceptance? I don't think so; we will always be too short, too tall, too skinny, too fat, too black, too white, too whatever for someone out there. Rather than waiting for that perfect day that will never come, perhaps we should be embracing the moment we've been granted. Who knows how many hearts and minds you might change today. Eh, some might say that today is not the best time to be black in America, but I say it sure beats a few hundred years ago.

Oh, and to answer the original question: I hate is that it took me 30 years to realize that being bi-gendered is a blessing.

[adelle]

what i hate? i hate being allone! girls dont get me wrong you girls on this site is just as close to family as what i would ever have as all my family has passed and i only have so and kids, but the lonely part is when you dont have some one to share your special time with, i so much want some one to share Adelle time with to get dressed together, to laugh together go shopping and having a good time but that wont happen couz there aint much south africans on the forum and well i hate being lonely:sad:

[2b.Lauren]

Speaking of intolerance. I hate the fact that is is okay for females (that are born that way) to be able to wear whatever they want to, boxers, briefs, work boots, jeans, t-shirts, neck or bow ties with a suit, our dress shirts, that to me is considered dull male garb, but also sexy panties, bras, tops, skirts dresses, heels, flats, make up, you name it, and if I would be seen in public wearing a pair of flats and a skirt with a decent matching blouse I am considered some type of freak. The acceptance of duality needs to be revisited. I hate when I go to buy a pair of panties or bra at any shop and they ask me what is her size. I then say I am shopping for me, and I get the look. I hate the look. I do also hate that I am not able to enjoy the freedom to dress in the way that makes me feel so wonderful all the time unless underneath. I enjoyed this weekend because I was out of town and bought a new black chamise, sexy black panties and was able to sleep in it and parade around in it all day/night. Maybe I hate that I put limitations on myself because of confirmation to society rules. I too hate a lot!

Lauren

[crusadergirl]

I hate not being able to dress as much as i would like and having to shave all the time.

[Mitch23]

what do I hate the most? As many have said already, the come down when going back into drab mode

mitch

[Jaclyn NM]

I hate that it is not accepted in general by society. It would be so much easier for all of us if it were. No one thinks any different of women who wear slacks and flat heeled shoes, so why shouldn't we be able to wear skirts and high heel shoes. Also I wish I was able to dress most of the time, instead of just once in a while, and I wish I could wear makeup and go out dressed, but it's just not possible right now. Oh well, maybe someday.

[Butterfly Bill]

Not being able to find shoes that are big enough in the cheap chains unless I happen to be lucky. (Yeah, I can get them online, but never on sale.)

[CLARRISA]

I hate that fear of walking out the door and bumping straight into the neighbours..this evening i just wanted to go down the street to get a yoghurt for desert, i was allready to go at 8pm, but after checking the windows, pulling back the curtains to peak outside checking the coast etc..making sure the wigs ok, i absolutely lost the nerve..2 and half hours fratanizing..partly because i've been going out a lot recently and i fear i may push my luck too far..So i went back to drab..went down the street, and the blinking shop was shut..uurrrr

[Jenniferpl]

returning to male mode.
Not finding shoes.
one size fits all.

[RebekahT]

What I hate the most about cross-dressing is undressing!!!!

Rebekah

[Gwynn1]

Isn't it funny that almost everyone who preaches tolerance, are always the ones who have no tolerance policies, and hate anyone who would disagree.

[avril findlay]

I don't hate anything about CDing, on the contrary I absolutely love it. The feeling I get when I'm fully dressed as a woman is one of total happiness. I wouldn't trade it for anything.

[DeborahAnne]

The bigotry, the intolerance, and the very apparent and widespread inability to accept cross dressing and the transgendered community by mainstream society. We, as a collective people who ALL inhabit this planet together, still have a long way to go in this regard to change the cold-hearted and narrow minds of those that are either unable or unwilling to acknowledge the basic humanity and human rights of everyone in society.

Well said My feelings exactly

[sometimes_miss]

I hate that I have it at all. I didn't ask for this. It's certainly made my life very, very difficult. It's a love-hate thing; yes, I love the feeling of being dressed up, feeling 'female' for at least a little bit. But would I trade it in to be 'normal? In a heartbeat. I'd much rather have a girlfriend, and this damned overwhelming desire to dress up and feel like a girl really gets in the way of that.

[Sharon B.]

The thing I hate most is that I didn't accept myself as a crossdresser early in life that I waited until I am in my early fifties to accept what I am.
I also hate that I can't come out of the closet other than going for drives or to the post office after hours.

[Alayna]

When we say we hate that society can not accept us, are we really saying that we hate that we can't face the possible consequences?

I certainly think so. On a few occasions I've been out dressed and had literally 100's of heads turn my way. Some are disgusted, some mocking, some find it an odd curiosity. Sometimes it bothers me, but not enough to stop me from dressing up and having fun. Easier said than done for most I know, but our lives on Earth are short and only part of a much larger picture (including what mainstream religion shoves down our throats) and we ought to spend more time enjoying our lives instead of being fearful.

As far as what I hate? Not being able to find a dress that fits my narrow hips as well as my wide shoulders and long frame.

[Alice Torn]

Sometimes Miss, Thanks for your honesty! You said it for me. It is enjoyable when i get to do it, and I would like to have a ladyfriend, The church I am in, I agree with, but, it condemns this. I hate having the ramifications, and isolation of it, but, i like doing it.

[carolinoakland]

I have the amount of time and effort I have to go through just to look like a normal girl, and that effort makes it easy to rationalize not doing it right and just staying in. Carol

[lynn2c]

I choose "all the above" and will add, removing breast forms when using medical adhesive. Words that I say then aren't very ladylike. Good way to get back into "guy mode"

[Eve_WA]

SHAVING!

[BuffyCD]

Scrubbing off make up especially eye shadow and eye liner after a session of dressing.

YES!!!! By far the worst Part!!!! hehe.

[mykhelee]

The extra weight, I was a size 12-14 skirt a year ago, 16-18 now....back on the DIEt again.:brolleyes:

But really, removing the mascara reeks, don't use it unless I am actually going out.

[StaceyJane]

Having to go back to guy mode :(

Stacey :)

[Maria2222]

Nothing. It's part of me and I completely accept and enjoy it. It's disappointing that I need to hide it, but I can accept that too. I wouldn't give it up for the world. Actually, I couldn't even if I wanted to because it's an inborn part of me.

[Jonianne]

The thing I hate most is that I didn't accept myself as a crossdresser early in life that I waited until I am in my early fifties to accept what I am.......


This was what I was going to say. So much time wasted struggling with a genuine wonderful part of myself.

The feelings of false guilt was left far behind when I came into self-acceptance. And yes, you can live guilt free.

I do feel sad for those who posted that they regret being CD for the sake of their loved ones, although I respect their feelings and their right to express them. There are quite a few here that feel the same way. It's good we have this forum to support each other.

In the whole scheme of life, crossdressing is such a minor, minor thing to be causing heartache in so many peoples lives.

[Tess]

Hate is too strong a word for me. There isn't anything that I absolutely hate about crossdressing. Regret is closer to how I feel...regret when I have to take off my cloths and go back to drab. I have no feelings of guilt, even though I'm a closeted. It's just a thing I like to do so no regrets along those lines.

[lari]

I hate going back to drab and not being able to be me. I also hate being this guy character that I have created over the years.

[Celeste]

One thing I do find a little frustrating is trying to reproduce a look with makeup, It seems different schemes work for different moods.Sometimes certain applications will work ,then the next time the very same procedure will look rotten.I'll just stick with it and try to be happy until I do better.

[Selene EV]

I Hate:
When I try to time a delivery for when my wife isn't home and it gets screwed up.
When I get that delivery and it dosen't fit.
When my things get worn and need to be thrown out.
Oh yea, all the other stuff everyone else mentioned.

[Sammy777]

That it [crossdressing] has a name & an outdated & unnecessary social stigma attached to it.

Almost every fabric & article of clothing now deemed female only has been in fashion and worn by men at some time or another throughout history.

When people look at & read about history do they laugh at:
Roman soldiers for wearing [basically] cheerleader skirts?
King Henry for wearing Silk & Lace?
Are founding fathers [US] or Modern Parliament for wearing wigs?
Men of the 20's wearing rounded collars?
Scottish/Irish/Welsh men who wear Kilts?

None of these things were considered unmanly in their time.
I could go on, but you get the point.

[Toni_Lynn]

I hate the intolerance of the 'totality' of trans community by the GLB community. By that I mean that the GLB community tends to ghetto-ise CDers, particularly straight ones, who want to be allies in our common struggles.

A few years back I was involved in the local group of prominent GLBT organisation and did their website. While they did recognise that trans people needed as much support as they did, many members felt uncomfortable with us and eventually pushed us off into our subgroups.

I also hate the way that the public equates the drag queen culture with all that is trans and CDing. My heavens! All I can say, is we ain't them.

I hate the thought within our community that some hold that everything girl is good and everything boy is bad.

Finally, I hate the old CD saw that 'girls can wear anything they want to.' They can't. Yeah sure, girls can wear men's shirts or jeans and no one says anything, but hey I wear blouses and girls pants to work and no one says anything either. And when was the last time you saw a girl steathily buying men's briefs for herself. And if you did, I bet that you and the rest of the public immediately said 'Dyke'.

Huggles

Toni-Lynn

[Michelle42]

Scrubbing off make up especially eye shadow and eye liner after a session of dressing.

Count me in. :)

Also, I hate the fact that "CDing tendencies" and "feminine/androgynous apperance" don't ship in one package (actually I never received the latter! :D).

[Vivian Best]

We all witnessed history this past week. Twenty years ago it was said that a man of color could never be elected president of the United States. What changed between then and now? Public acceptance!

What do I hate about CDing? Not much! Would like to do it more, etc,etc! Like the man of color, are we going to change public opinion about us? I dislike it when we complain about not being accepted by the public and we do nothing to change the lack of acceptance. When are we going to help the cause if the cause is acceptance by the general public?

[Jennifer Cox]

... we all reach an age when we begin to understand that cross-dressing is not right ...

Who says it's not right. We need to stamp out this sort of thinking!

However, I agree with most of your original post. :)

[charlie]

I don't feel guilty about being different anymore. As Ariana Daniels said, this is us. She is right. I do feel guilty that I do not share all of what I am with all of the people that I know. Most of my friends have no idea about my dressing. My wife knows and wants nothing to do with it. Not a mention or she goes in a funk. I hate that.

[finacarina]

I hate getting a run in my stocking

[Jess_cd32]

While I really appreciate your supportive attitude, I think deep down, after we are done with the semantics games, we all know we are not "normal". I don't mean to infer that crossdressing makes one a bad person, just that it is not a socially acceptable lifestyle.........

Oh take a real good look at what society has accepted and it is in general FAR from normal or good, how many pets are killed in shelters daily for doing nothing but giving unconditional love, I won't go into anymore and depress everyone but society in whole needs a total revamp in thinking on many subjects and is anything but right on, much less to do with being civalized either.

Being cd is totally normal IMO, just as gay I feel are, bi's etc.., I'm straight but knowledgeable enough that I feel I know who we are, and why.

[Nicole Erin]

Hate most about CD'ing?
Honestly, I hate the process of dressing and doing the makeup. I love the end result but doing all the work to get there annoys me.

[Genifer Teal]

What do I hate? That I'm not actually a woman.
Hmm . . .Maybe then I wouldn't want to be one so much.
Now there is a thought to ponder.

Gen

[Sammy777]

Finally, I hate the old CD saw that 'girls can wear anything they want to.' They can't. Yeah sure, girls can wear men's shirts or jeans and no one says anything, but hey I wear blouses and girls pants to work and no one says anything either. And when was the last time you saw a girl steathily buying men's briefs for herself. And if you did, I bet that you and the rest of the public immediately said 'Dyke'.
Huggles Toni-Lynn

Uhhhhh, Never on both counts.
1) Women generally do not get second looks browsing mens clothes.
2) I had a GF that constantly wore my boxers around the house & to bed to the point I bought her, her own so she'd stop taking mine, lol.

So no, a girl in boxers does not scream "dyke" to me & I'd be willing to guess that most people here would agree with me.

I also think it's as sh*tty a stereotype as all CD'ers must be gay. You would probably be just as pissed as a lesbian reading that if a lesbian said all CD'ers are gay & whether or not you happen to be one wouldn't & doesn't matter & is besides the point.

If you want people to drop stereotypes then the people who they are used on most, like the whole LGBT community, has to be the first ones to stop using them on each other.

I'll stop ranting now & put the soap box away, lol.
Sorry for going off topic, but that comment just sorta rubbed me the wrong way.

[FlygrlChristy]

Hates a pretty strong word, but I really dislike all of the anguish I've gone through, hiding this side of me from my wife, and coming to terms with the fact that I'm TG, for both of us. I dislike immensely not being able to be honest with the rest of my family, as they are not the type who would understand, ever. I loathe the fact that I dream of what it would be like to wake up every day as a woman, and the knowledge that that isn't going to happen for me, since my life headed in a different direction, with wife, kids, family etc. I kick myself for all the purges I've done and the money I've thrown away.

On a more positive note, I'm thankful almost everyday, when I can get on this forum and read all of the posts from the girls here, and know that I'm not the only one in the world who feels the way I do, it's done wonders for my self acceptance in the short time I've been here.:D

Christy

[renee k]

I hate having to walk both sides of the street.

Huggs, Renee

[Emma26]

I hate that I do not have the female body to wear the clothes and look nice in them. T_T

and, I of course hate not being able to wear the clothes in public.

[Teri Jean]

The thing I hate is when you get ready for work and have removed your makeup and to find your eye liner is still there and a co-worker points it out. Oooooops. Dang it all , oh well. heeheehee Keli

[marny]

Sorry girls 'Hate " is not in my vocabulary

[sometimes_miss]

Hates a pretty strong word, <snip>
Christy
I often don't think it's a strong enough word, there are times I just want to bang my head against a wall, and scream, 'Please, please, make it stop!' I want a life. I want a girlfriend. I want to be able to easily just take off all the pretty things and go out, instead of feeling so right as a girl and wanting to stay dressed up so very, very much, that I wind up not going anywhere so I can stay dressed, and stay at home (and no, there's no friggin' way I'm going out dressed up; not today, not tomorrow, I..do..not..want..to..be..outed. Period. I spent my whole childhood being ridiculed, and I WILL NOT go through that again). So....I hate it I hate it I hate it I hate it. Did I say I hate it? I hate it.

[Rachel_CDS]

The things I hate about being a cd have been said by everyone here.

The main things for me though are....

Going from fully dressed to drab.
Not being able to tell people I love/friends etc...
The fear of discovery.
Not being able to wear skirts, heels etc in public when I am in male mode.
Feeling guilty when I am browsing in the ladies clothes departments & having to pretend that I am buying for a woman & not myself.
When I do buy something & it doesn't look good because I didn't get the chance to try it on in the store.

Lots of other stuff, but I would be here all day!

[Beckster]

It frustrates me that I never look as sexy as I would like. The thing is, I have no desire to be a full-time woman... only when I'm dressing (I like my junk... it just gets in the way sometimes). In my dream world, I would be able to morph into any body shape I'd like and then just switch back to being my normal self.

I also get pretty flustered when seeing an outfit or pair of shoes that I want and not being able to get/have/find them.

[Melani]

Is the fact that I have to dress just to tap into the emotional, sensitive, vulnerable and caring person I am suppose to be. I am working on that now and maybe one day the dressing will not be as neccessary as it is today.

[Laura_Stephens]

Things I hate about CDing...

1) that God accidently gave me the wrong genes.
2) that my wife thinks thinks that I am severely damaged in some way.
3) that I can't dress the way I want to without hurting the image of the company I work for.
4) that I feel so guilty after pleasuring myself while dressed.
5) that a "professional woman" who charges a substancial amount of money per hour is the only female I have met that accepts me for who I am -- maybe she just accepts me becasue of the money that I pay her.
6) that the only place I have that I can express my opinion without worrying about the reaction of others is a website.
7) that after talking to my family doctor about who I am, what I do, and asking for a referral to a shrink, he told his children not to play with my children.
8) 1,000 other things...

[Jill]

Here we go.... *sigh*

I hate that I have to hide this from family and friends, knowing that many would never look at me the same again.

I hate that my conservative mother insists that crossdressing is a sin, it makes me feel rejected an alienated from those that love me.

I hate that it seems to be an entity that makes decisions for me. The entity tells me to put womens clothing on and I obey.

I hate that it's never enough, no matter how long I wear, no matter how much I buy, it's never enough. I just scratch an itch that never really goes away.

I hate that I'm always broke, whenever I find a little bit of money, I immediately run out and buy things I don't need.

I hate that I have a mountain in my closet that is virtually impossible to hide. Pantyhose, bras, skirts, tops, dresses, heels, it just gets bigger and bigger.

I hate that all these things will likely never change...

[Melani]

Here we go.... *sigh*

I hate that I have to hide this from family and friends, knowing that many would never look at me the same again.

I hate that my conservative mother insists that crossdressing is a sin, it makes me feel rejected an alienated from those that love me.

I hate that it seems to be an entity that makes decisions for me. The entity tells me to put womens clothing on and I obey.

I hate that it's never enough, no matter how long I wear, no matter how much I buy, it's never enough. I just scratch an itch that never really goes away.

I hate that I'm always broke, whenever I find a little bit of money, I immediately run out and buy things I don't need.

I hate that I have a mountain in my closet that is virtually impossible to hide. Pantyhose, bras, skirts, tops, dresses, heels, it just gets bigger and bigger.

I hate that all these things will likely never change...

I feel so much like you do, hang in

[zoii]

I am loved, accepted, and supported by my own family, my friends, and best of all my wife. I am very, very lucky.

But.

There is not one person in my wife's family who would do anything except try to "fix me" if they found out, so I have to be very careful.

Sister in law is dating one of my friends, and while I am happy for them both, she would not accept me. I used to be able to hang out with the gang as myself, but now she is part of the gang, and I hate having to hide myself, and I hate being forced to ask my friends to censor their own speech. If she knew, my mother in law would make my wife's life a living hell.

[Sallee]

Intolerance, bigotry, hypocrites, fear mongers, non thinkers, arguments not made with logic and valid reasoning. I could go on but why bother it won't help.

As far as CDing lacking the courage to step further out

[il.dso]

This is a very thought provoking discussion.
I appreciate and respect everyone's comments.
Most of the things I "hate" have already been listed.
For me, I guess what I hate is that something I so love to do (crossdressing),
carries so many emotional,psychological and societal issues.

[janec]

i hate it that i dont get chance to dress as often as i would like to and long for the day when my wife totally accepts as at the moment she accepts as long as its not in her face and she can turn a blind eye to it

[Carly D.]

I hate "cross dressing".. the term cross dressing.. to me it isn't cross dressing but rather wearing anything I want.. but we have to be stuck with the label of that which is easiest to tag a different person...


I hate that I have taken some pictures of me dressed up that I think are pretty good but for the fact that I am in Carly mode means that I won't show these pictures to anyone I know...

[trisha59]

Trying to get that last bit of nail polish out of your cuticles

[KathrynTX]

I hate that Wolford doesn't make seamless pantyhose in my size. :sad:

I hate the fashion world as a whole for badmouthing, putting down, denigrating, and generally trashing pantyhose, and treating women who wear them like dog vomit.

I hate that Wal-Mart no longer carries shoes in women's 12.

[Joy Carter]

Not getting out as much as I'd like, to shake my tail. I mean wag my tail.:heehee:

[MelindaC]

Not being able to dress all the time --- and having to take my clothes off.

[MelindaC]

... my GIRL clothes, that is .... they all feel so much a part of me ...

[vicky505]

Hi Katie Lynn I agree 100&#37; with how you feel, but what is the answer ?

[cindyscute]

I hate the fashion world as a whole for badmouthing, putting down, denigrating, and generally trashing pantyhose, and treating women who wear them like dog vomit.



I totally agree

[Dawn Marie]

What do I hate about crossdressing? Not being able to do it all the time.

[balletchick]

It's not so much that I hate society for being narrowminded about cding but more myself for not being able to accept myself for who I was and what I am.

I spent too much time trying to please other people rather than be myself the funny thing is that the people back then aren't even in my life anymore. If my attitude was more mature and I had the Internet back then things would have been different.

I accept myself now for what I am and I'm comfortable with that the next relationship I'm in I'm going to tell her immediately as soon as it gets serious.

I still can't pass so I don't go out in public except Halloween and ballet class.

I also hate shaving and feeling confined to my home once dressed

[Miss Tessa]

I think I hate the fact that we are not entirely accepted by society

[susan fuller]

I agree with a lot of you about having to change out of my girl mode. I would like to be dressed as a girl 100% of the time. Love being a girl.

[Natasha1974]

I hate going back to drab, I get pretty depressed over it actually. I wish I could stay being Natasha longer than I do.

[Teranika]

I hate the itchies I get after shaving.

[kimberly ann487]

I hate having to make tough choices. But I guess that's life. Make the choice then live with it.
KIM

[VictoriaP]

I really hate not being able to dress en femme all the time; at least all the time I would like. I also hate taking it all off!

[Kathleengurl]

I hate that the hottest/cutest shoes are never in my size.
I hate not knowing the best way forward between dressing and raising a son in this world.
V/R--k

[KathrynTX]

I hate the itchies I get after shaving.

A bit of advice, if I may; I occasionally have a problem with my legs feeling irritated after I shave, and a nice lotion applied to the legs right after shaving should eliminate that problem. I use Suave Skin Therapy (aloe and cucumber) and it works wonders.

:2c:

[avril findlay]

Generalisations, I f***ing hate generalisations!

[Michelia]

But I know I do not like that I do not have enough time for great forums like this or just to simply spend more time with my crossdressing.

I am lucky in that I stay semi-dressed at home all the time, but I am not home all that much.

But the thing that I like the least is that so many of us complain about our lot in life and are not appreciative of our blessings:

The injustices bestowed by society upon us.
Their lack of understanding and empathy.
The lack of appreciation by gays and other groups.
The nastiness portrayed in the media about our culture.
The bigotry of our neighbors.

But we are not willing to do enough to change it.

The world historically has become more progressive and diverse albeit with many pockets left behind in cultural medievalism and/or religious extremism. We have gone from empires to enlightened monarchies to democracies. From slavery to freedom to voting rights to political representation for races and genders and sexual orientations. The day will come when we gain more respect. But NONE of the above have changes have come without a struggle and oftentimes revolutions and spilled blood. It is about power. With every right gained by minorities the power base loses a little bit more control. They lose a little bit of their "rights" to impose their views on the rest of us. This is why they kick back and try to supress us. It is normal.

While I am not advocating violence, it is important that we all do whatever little we can to change things. There are many, many things we can all do. It is up to all of us to educate and enlighten.

There have been a few courageous souls that have carried the banner for all of us. Our gay brothers and sisters have done a lot for our movement in spite of the fact that most of them do not understand us. And all those who have struggled to make this country what it is today deserve credit. Just think - we could be CDs in some dictatorship somewhere. It is time to be appreciative.

Please forgive me if I sound overbearing or arrogant in any way. In part, I feel so strongly about this because I have been less than stellar in this dept. myself.

I AM trying to change that...

[Hali]

Here we go.... *sigh*

I hate that I have to hide this from family and friends, knowing that many would never look at me the same again.

I hate that my conservative mother insists that crossdressing is a sin, it makes me feel rejected an alienated from those that love me.

I hate that it seems to be an entity that makes decisions for me. The entity tells me to put womens clothing on and I obey.

I hate that it's never enough, no matter how long I wear, no matter how much I buy, it's never enough. I just scratch an itch that never really goes away.

I hate that I'm always broke, whenever I find a little bit of money, I immediately run out and buy things I don't need.

I hate that I have a mountain in my closet that is virtually impossible to hide. Pantyhose, bras, skirts, tops, dresses, heels, it just gets bigger and bigger.

I hate that all these things will likely never change...

Ohhhh thats too bad you have such feelings which i think most CDs do, what you are talking about is called "CD dilemma"

[Deborah Jane]

Isn't it funny that almost everyone who preaches tolerance, are always the ones who have no tolerance policies, and hate anyone who would disagree.

The one thing i really hate, above all else is, people who think they are being clever/funny when making intentional spelling mistakes while trying to disagree with someones else,s opinion

That is the sign of someone who has a very tiny mind and is incapable of rational thought and respect of other peoples right to express an opinion!! :Angry3:





BTW, you know who you are, who you attacked and why this has been quoted by me

[nicole123]

I finally get a day off from work; wife is at work, kids at school, and the whole day just for me.
Got my clothes laid out, makeup ready, taking a nice hot Bubble bath….the phone rings and it’s the school asking me to come pickup my sick child.