Why is it?

[Mya Summers]

Why is that when I dress up I feel like I am sneaking around behind my wifes back even though she knows about my Cd'ing? I mean just like right now, she knew before she went to bed that I was going to do dress up tonight and do some more house chores, but for some strange reason I feel like I am sneaking, idk maybe it's just me being paranoid or something:idontknow: Does anyone else ever feel like this?

[Alexandria9919]

My wife knows I dress up and when we have sex she lets me dress up. But I still dress up when she is not around and sometimes I get the same feeling like I am sneaking behind her back to do this. And if she notices something I try to deny it even though I have no need too, though usually I tell her I did

[deja true]

Is it because you still feel guilty about doing it?

Is it because maybe you recognize an unsaid feeling from your wife that she really doesn't approve even though she knows?

If it's the first, talk to us and/ or a therapist.

If it's the second, talk to her. Find out the depth and reality of her acceptance, approval or otherwise.

Either way, it's a feeling of guilt that you and your relationship would be better without.

[Jonianne]

Why is that when I dress up I feel like I am sneaking around behind my wifes back even though she knows about my Cd'ing? I mean just like right now, she knew before she went to bed that I was going to do dress up tonight and do some more house chores, but for some strange reason I feel like I am sneaking.......

Hi Mya,

Talk to your wife about your feelings. Thats the best way to work through it.

[PamelaTX]

I feel the same way. Even though she knows about my CDing, and I hang my femme clothes in my closet, I still feel the need to hide from her when dressed. I tell myself that she's not ready to see me dressed, even though we've never really discussed it. Maybe I'm the one who's not ready.

[Karren H]

I Don't feel that way... And I didn't before she found out.. Once I accepted I am who I am and what I love to do wasn't wrong... all guilt went away...

[MJ]

maybe your just not comfortable yet. all you both need is a trip up here to Canada for a long weekend fully en femme :D

[docrobbysherry]

If dressing turns u on, that's a reason to feel guilty! It's the main reason I feel guilty about my CDing. AND the main reason I enjoy dressing so much!:o

[Jocelyn Renee]

Guilt comes from the fear we are doing something wrong. Perhaps you are worried she is not as accepting as she claims. Talk with you wife and work on accepting yourself.

[Angie G]

If she knows and sees dressed You not sneaking Mya get over it hun your just being silly. Your alright. If she is OK with your dressing all's good. :hugs:
Angie

[Ruth]

I agree with Karren that it's about guilt. I believe you have guilt feelings about what you are doing although your wife knows. Unfortunately this is something inside you which you have to resolve, and no-one else can really help.
Basically you have to believe in yourself.

[Mya Summers]

I guess I'm just nervous about looking silly or something..lol Maybe thats it

[carnut62]

Why is that when I dress up I feel like I am sneaking around behind my wifes back even though she knows about my Cd'ing? I mean just like right now, she knew before she went to bed that I was going to do dress up tonight and do some more house chores, but for some strange reason I feel like I am sneaking, idk maybe it's just me being paranoid or something:idontknow: Does anyone else ever feel like this?

For me if she was accepting I think I have hidden it for so long that I would feel weird doing it in front of her for a while. Maybe not guilt but muscle memory :)

Tabitha.

[DeSkirt]

I also feel the same way. My wife knows of my cding but in my case her original aceptance has changed to tolerance. I don't want her to do or act or be anything she is not and therfore I hid it. I wish I didn't feel this way, but I do.

[melissacd]

I dress so much now that I do not feel the least bit guilty about it, my girlfriend has known almost from the start of the relationship and has grown very comfortable seeing me dressed. The feeling of looking silly comes from focussing too much on how we are perceived rather than just enjoying the experience of dressing and being ourselves. Once I realized this the guilt melted away.

Talk to your wife about this and I am sure that she will help you work through these feelings.

[Mya Summers]

ty ladies for all the input. I thought about it the other night and I guess my biggest thing is feeling uncomfortable verses quilty when she see's me dressed.I mean why should I feel quilty about it :doh: b/c she knows that I do it. Granted I do it while her and the kids are asleep but sometimes she wakes up and can't go back to sleep. I know that it will still take her some time to get used to it and start to feel comfortable about it and when she starts feeling more comfortable w/it i will to. I am just glad that she joined this site to get more info on it.:):)

[Laurie A]

Why is that when I dress up I feel like I am sneaking around behind my wifes back even though she knows about my Cd'ing? I mean just like right now, she knew before she went to bed that I was going to do dress up tonight and do some more house chores, but for some strange reason I feel like I am sneaking, idk maybe it's just me being paranoid or something:idontknow: Does anyone else ever feel like this?

i have nearly the same issues! right now i would have to say that my wife is more accepting of my dressing than i am! for some reason i feel more comfortable dressed in bed than out, so i am trying to spend more time dressed while going about the house, in the hopes that i will develop more self confidence being dressed.