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[erica12b]

I just read a posting about a husband and wife that share and bond when he dresses and they do makeup and hair together, and it brings them closer ,

This hits me right in the soul, this is what I have wanted my whole life to be apart of, and have never found, they are sharing, loving and open .

my ex-wife has made me a very paranoid person, just being a cross dresser makes a man paranoid but I now have a lot of feelings that I have a hard time with, there is the guilt, (I dressed and enjoyed it) there is the guilt of wanting to do it, but not wanting to make my partner go along with it, also just the secret (I want to keep my job)

but when I hear about the bonding ,sharing , the fun, (I hurt) I cry for the longing I have , and the feeling I will never find a soul mate. How do I find someone and still hold on to what’s left of my life, sometimes I am so lost.
i have a my space page that i use to try and meet gg's with , i state, im strait with a crossdressing hobby im trying to be as up front and open as i can, how do i find a gg that will except me as i am

(i do not want to half to tell her about erica after we have dated, there is the trust issue on both sides)
any thought? am i doing it right or is there a better way?:sad:

[docrobbysherry]

On how important dressing is to u. And how often u dress. If u want to go around dressed all the time, u couldn't hide it even if u wanted to!

If u r a closet CD, I don't think telling a GG before u have formed some sort of bond is a good idea. Others may have different advice for u.

But, u bring up another point about finding a GG to dress WITH!
I have actually had a couple of GGs that wanted to meet me. After seeing my pictures on CD websites. I didn't agree to meet them, because all they talked about was how they were going to dress me up and do my makeup! I could see from their pictures that they didn't use their expertise on themselves!

Like u, I also would like to find a GG to dress WITH! But, not one that only wants to dress me up as her alter ego manikin, or live dolly!

My idea of sharing CDing, means us as a couple, sharing our clothes, experiences, and the fun involved in dressing! NOT having it all about making Sherry look better/hotter! I can do that all by myself! Maybe u can, too!:devil:

[Di]

I think when you least expect it you will find them. The page is a good idea. But I think if you meet someone out in your everyday life I would not say anything untill you know this is the one...by then you will know how open minded they are ect and if you would even want to spend time with them.Then by all means share your complete self with them.

[Rayanne42]

I have the same problem, And i wish there was magic words that would make all are lifes better. But its a hard world and its even harder for us girls. hope you find the right one.

[pinkeverything]

I dream of finding the same woman. Life sure is complicated.

[Jenna Lynne]

I have a my space page that i use to try and meet gg's with , i state, im strait with a crossdressing hobby im trying to be as up front and open as i can, how do i find a gg that will except me as i am

(i do not want to half to tell her about erica after we have dated, there is the trust issue on both sides)
I have to begin with the Consumer Warning Label: I am not an expert on how to get into relationships, healthy or otherwise.

Having said that, if I were you I would probably tell her on the second or third date, not before. My theory (which is not well tested) is that if you toss something like that on the table before the first date, most women will think, "Uh-oh. He might be nice, but more likely he's a neurotic mess. I think I'll shop elsewhere." Whereas, on the other hand, if they meet you first and realize that you're a nice guy, then they're a lot more likely to take a chance on something they don't understand, unless they're just totally freaked out by it.

If you're specifically looking for someone who is trying to find a crossdresser, that would of course be different.

And by "the second or third date," I definitely mean "before you go to bed with her." Sex before honesty would be a very bad violation of trust.

***Jenna Lynne***

[Ruth]

It's hard being a CDer. Hard finding a balance, either putting yourself out there and being a public CDer, or living a secret double life. So it's hard making a lasting, loving relationship with a woman work whilst being a CDer, either openly or in secret. So there are no easy answers. We hope you find the right woman.

[Angie G]

I dress 5 days a week infrount of my wife. We shop together Foe Angie and she colors My hair. And we talk about dressind like nothing theres nothing to it. :hugs:
Angie

[Tina B.]

Sorry, but there is no easy answer, you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince, or in this case, a princess! I America 50 % of marriages don't last, and I would venture to say we are even higher on that statistic. But you should never give up hope, as I am sure you have read on here many times, their are excepting women out there. But you have to get out there and make yourself available to meet them.
Tina B.

[Sarah...]

I think when you least expect it you will find them. The page is a good idea. But I think if you meet someone out in your everyday life I would not say anything untill you know this is the one...by then you will know how open minded they are ect and if you would even want to spend time with them.Then by all means share your complete self with them.

Ah, sage advice I feel. Wise, this one is.

Really, don't look too hard, you'll miss out on a lot of life if you do. You'll know when you find "the one".

Sarah...

[Mya Summers]

Thats sad. You will find the right person that accepts you for who you are, it just takes time till you meet that person. I don't think you would loose your job over it if they found out, they can't fire you just b/c your a CD'er, unless your in the military or a special type of high security job. Hope everything works out for you. Kepp us updated

[erica12b]

i have talked to some gg's and some dont understand it (do any of us) and some are ok with it as long as we just talk, most have a hard time with the us and them ,(guy looking for a gg is a them)

most of us just want to feel good, and be excepted , im dressing as little as i can stand, it makes me grumpy and moody , when i dress more im more relaxed and easy going this puts me more at odds with my self and the world, then i put trying to date in there , do i tell her or not , makes me nuts you know,