Being mistaken for a GG

[Steph Butterfield]

Last night in a chat room I was asked "what is a beautiful GG girl like you doing in a place like this ?"

I was astounded, this is the second time that I have been mistaken for a genetic woman inside a week, so I must be looking much better than I give myself credit for.

Long may this improvement last


xx

Stephanie

[Empress Lainie]

Congrats Steph, long may it last.

I am always accepted as a gg.

[MJ]

you see i told you so .. just relax hun you give off more femme vibes

[Kaitlyn Michele]

Steph

Hi!!

thats terrific and i know it makes you feel great...
sometimes in all the pain this stuff can cause we forget why we're doing this

michele:drink:

[Sharon]

you see i told you so .. just relax hun you give off more femme vibes

I seem to recall saying this also in a past thread, Steph. :)

[Empress Lainie]

ts Empress Lainie went to the pharmacy for estrace, and she warned me about using the applicator in my vagina - made my day

[Melissa A.]

That's fantastic, Steph! And I have to concur. Ya look great, and more importantly, seem comfortable with who you are. Similarly, I finally got a chance to talk to my new downstairs neighbors day before yesterday about the fact that I'm a transitioning-but-not-yet-full-time ts, although, they've no doubt seen me coming and going dozens of times in the two months they've been here. Not only was the guy perfectly ok with it, he said, "until a few days ago, we just thought it was your girlfriend."(!!!)He also said his girlfiend(who I bumped right into in the driveway just the other evening, lol) said I seem much happier as a woman. Made me feel all warm inside. :) Things like that are always sooo nice to hear! Congrats again.

Hugs,

Melissa:)

[Steph Butterfield]

sadly it was only online, not face to face, I am still referreds to as as sir or mate or pal in the real world sadly. Was again abused on my own doorstep by a door to door tout, again asking if I want my garden done.

In real life I am never referred to as female EVER and to be honest with you, I don't think I ever will.

Today is my birthday, I'm 45, and I should be happy, but I'm not, because I look so male. You would think after 576 days on hormones people would greet me as miss or madam or whatever, but no, they don't. Most people abuse me or laugh at me when I'm go out anywhere.


Stephanie
mood depressed:sad:

[GypsyKaren]

Steph, you need to stop letting this eat at you and let it go. Dwell on the good changes that transitioning has given you inside your heart, you'll be a lot happier for it.

Karen Starlene :star:

[Sharon]

I'm so sorry you're depressed on your birthday, Steph. :hugs: And I am also very sorry that the people who live in your community are so small minded and vocal. :hugs: :hugs:

Anyway, try to look at your birthday as a new beginning, a time to embrace the positives of your life and the deep filing away of the negatives.

So, if I may, I would like to finish this up with a great big...


HAPPY
BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!

:bday2:

:bday:
:Party2:

[Steph Butterfield]

awww thanks Sharon

that cheered me up

xx

Stephanie

[ChristineRenee]

Steph, you need to stop letting this eat at you and let it go. Dwell on the good changes that transitioning has given you inside your heart, you'll be a lot happier for it.

Karen Starlene :star:What Karen has said here Steph. The femininity within for us is far greater than just what is on display on the outside to the public. Just be the most woman that you can be and stay positive, and you will do just fine hon. :hugs:

Oh...and have a:bday::gift::Party2:

[Sarah Ellis]

Steph. (think it's the first time i've replied to you on this forum), as I've mentioned before, depression is a horrible thing to have to go through. I'm not going to talk about that here though as it has it's own section.
First of all, Happy Birthday. Secondly, and I'm not being a pain, stop me if you ever feel as though I am, please don't put yourself down too much. Think of yourself in a upbeat manner. Think of the girl inside. Go treat yourself. Be positive and more people will think of you in that positive way. You are a lovely person, don't you forget that and you, like all of us, deserve to be happy.
As Karen said don't dwell on it. Think of the happy things in life. And going back to the depression thing (I wasn't going to), it's the positive thoughts that lift us. People will notice this and see you in a different light.
Hold your head high and think of nice things. Make a weekly action plan of things you'd like to do. Be realistic and above all, don't give in.

[GypsyKaren]

I forgot, Happy Birthday! 45? Damn kids...

GK :star:

[Steph Butterfield]

Thanks everyone, I went to a friend's flat in Cleveland to celebrate my birthday, she supplied wine and pizza and she was very complimentary about me and my looks. She had never been out en femme, so me and Janice managed to persuade her to attend Club T in Darlington and she loved every minute of it.

Its nice to make new friends who don't judge, thanks to girls who sent private birthday greetings as well.

xx

Love you all

Stephanie

[Empress Lainie]

Went dancing tonight and met my gg gf Kathy and her friend Myra. When I talked to Kathy later on the phone, she told me Myra asked her who her lady friend was (me!) and K told her.
Myra had seen me several times before my transition and she didn't even recognize me. YAY for ME!!.

[Chari]

Best Birthday Wishes to you Stef! We all hit low points going through life, but it's our good friends and magic memories that get us up and going again! It is not the packaging we wear, but the feelings we carry in our heart and mind that make us comfortable being who we are. Do what you feel is comfortable and right for you! Enjoy another year!

[Paula Thomas]

Steph (and the rest of us) - If you don't think that you could pass (if you had on makeup), just go to your local mall, sit in tthe foodcourt, and look at the GGs walking by.

You will see a lot who look no more "GG" than you do.

The real difference, is that they do not worry about someone "reading" them.

If you can get over that fear, you will probably do O.K.