tamarav
09-19-2008, 04:28 AM
You have all heard it before, animals can sense it if you act like a victim. Unfortunately, humans are still animals and we still have the ability to determine when a person acts like a victim, ready to be pounced upon.
I deal with clients daily, all sexes, who are assured and stand strong in situations. But, I also deal with poeple whose heads are hung down, walk with no purpose, and seek ridicule wherever they go. Sad but true, some people just spend their lives acting like they should be attacked, over and over.
No one should be like that, and as special people we really have to watch how we act. We sometimes tend to avoid eye contact with people we meet, look down and scurry away from contact, hide in the darkest corners of the room, talk in whispers. You know the look, we have all done it to some extent. Unfortunately once again, we draw more negative attention to ourselves than we can overcome by how good we may look.
I see it in un-sure women who just "get by" everyday, get taken advantage of by everyone, miss out on opportunities because they don't have enough positive feelings about themselves that they don't even try. They are afraid to try a new "out of comfort-zone haircut" because of what someone else may think. They dress in the dumpiest clothes because they don't feel that they will look good enough in anything else.
Well, lets not let this happen to us. Be proud of who you are, hold your head up, smile at everyone you meet. When you smile you show that you are self assured and that you are not the victim. Don't let others dictate how you live by allowing them to stiffle your creative side. Be creative, be happy with who you are (you don't have to be dressed to to do this!) and love those that are precious to you.
Above all, love yourself and accept yourself for the special person that you are. Don't allow yourself to be or become the victim simply because you don't feel you are good enough. You are!
Your sis,
Tami
I deal with clients daily, all sexes, who are assured and stand strong in situations. But, I also deal with poeple whose heads are hung down, walk with no purpose, and seek ridicule wherever they go. Sad but true, some people just spend their lives acting like they should be attacked, over and over.
No one should be like that, and as special people we really have to watch how we act. We sometimes tend to avoid eye contact with people we meet, look down and scurry away from contact, hide in the darkest corners of the room, talk in whispers. You know the look, we have all done it to some extent. Unfortunately once again, we draw more negative attention to ourselves than we can overcome by how good we may look.
I see it in un-sure women who just "get by" everyday, get taken advantage of by everyone, miss out on opportunities because they don't have enough positive feelings about themselves that they don't even try. They are afraid to try a new "out of comfort-zone haircut" because of what someone else may think. They dress in the dumpiest clothes because they don't feel that they will look good enough in anything else.
Well, lets not let this happen to us. Be proud of who you are, hold your head up, smile at everyone you meet. When you smile you show that you are self assured and that you are not the victim. Don't let others dictate how you live by allowing them to stiffle your creative side. Be creative, be happy with who you are (you don't have to be dressed to to do this!) and love those that are precious to you.
Above all, love yourself and accept yourself for the special person that you are. Don't allow yourself to be or become the victim simply because you don't feel you are good enough. You are!
Your sis,
Tami