Stepping Out and Foward

[Jessicaparkson]

Hello all. First off I'm new to this community idea of CDing. I have enjoyed the concept, and for lack of a better word, act for some time now. I grew up in a very conservative family where even considering shaving anything besides your face was nearly a death wish. Now that I'm 18 I thought I should begin to embrace this side I've always enjoyed in secret. My problem is that even though I've experimented over a few years with things I never got any definitive advice or guidance. I enjoyed CDing not mainly because of the taboo aspect, but because its relaxing (if that sounds odd). Lately my girlfriend has been causing me headaches galore and my stress level nearly led me to have to seek medical attention. I decided to "cross" the "line" my family had put down regarding crossdressing. My search for guidance led me here and I must say I am more than relieved to see, not that I thought I was, I'm not the only person out there. What makes me more secure is how proud, not in a bad way mind you, the members are.

I'm working on gaining confidence to be able to acquire some clothing (what I had was thrown out when I moved, not my fault). I read the post on how to tell your significant other and I'm still apprehensive about telling my girlfriend. Shes always said she "knows" any guy who dresses as such has to be gay, which I am not. Hopefully she won't freak on me. Anyways, now that I'm of age (and nearly 19)I hope that I'll be able to live my dream out now and I wish the best of luck to all of you.

(Ok, so it's not a question but I thought someone wouldn't mind hearing some thoughts)

[gennee]

Welcome to the site, Jessica. You have many questions and they will be answered. Enjoy the times when you dress up. As far as telling your gf; do it only when you are ready. I have been crossdressing for over 3 years and love it. It is relaxing and I feel liberated and complete.

Gennee

:hugs:

[VictoriaP]

Welcome sweetie! I think you are very brave and I admire you a great deal. I am much older than you, and the fact that you have come so far so fast is to be admired. I do not know much about you, but tread tenderly with your GF; if you are both from similar families and she has not been exposed to many things, "outside the norm" it may be very difficult for her. Be compassionate with her and with yourself. You have a wonderful life ahead of you and Cd'ng will be a wonderful part of it; don't exclude, or preclude anyone because they are not ready to understand. There are lots of books you can get for both of you to read; a wonderful one is "My Husband Betty", and there are many others.
Good luck and I hope to hear from you again!

[VictoriaP]

....forgot! as long as I have been crossdressing, and I was about 11 the very first time, it has been relaxing! Better than drinking, or drugs!!

[Kayla Shadows]

If you accept who you are,you will do great.I wouldnt wait a long time to tell your girlfriend.When she finds out that the person she thinks you are is someone different,there can be problems.Hopefully she will be accepting.

I stopped thinking about why I do this and just have fun.I love it,I feel good and thats what matters.

[Tasha McIntyre]

Jessica,

I recently came clean as they say to my already suspecting wife. With the help of a couple of very informative websites, it turned out to be a relatively painless experience. These websites helped me enormously.


http://www.geocities.com/senorita_cd/mustread.htm
http://www.geocities.com/senorita_cd/menu.htm


The best thing I have got out of this forum is the knowledge that I am not the only guy out there that loves dressing in girly clothes, and that there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Good luck to you in your endeavours, you have many friends here wishing you all the best. Above all else though, is that the girls here are a constant source of support and experience. YOU ARE NOT ALONE :)

[Angie G]

Be all that you can be Jessica just be careful hun.:hugs:
Angie