Lisa Maren
05-28-2005, 10:44 PM
Hi Everyone
Forgive me for talking a bit about religion (and for the length of this post), but I have a genuine question for anyone who has advice to offer. :confused:
This afternoon, at my brother and his wife's house, my brother's wife told me that they'd like me to be the godfather of their three-month-old baby girl. I'm thrilled about that. I spend time with her (including a couple of hours today just feeding/burping/letting her fall asleep in my arms) and we're all close, my whole family and theirs. The baby girl is just so adorable!
On the way home, in the car, it occurred to me that they do not know I'm a crossdresser (and possibly transgendered to some extent). Welllll my mother "knows" but the last she heard was several years ago when I told her I'd made the decision to stop crossdressing. Pffffffff! Yyyyyyyeah, apparently that wasn't the right decision! ::Puts on his dress:: lol
Anyhoo!
For those who aren't Catholic or don't know, the purpose of being a godfather is that should the child be orphaned, you would then care for the child (it's also, traditionally, to ensure that the child's religious education continue, but these days it's mostly about caring for the child).
Now, I know that this must technically be documented and specified through legal means (i.e. their wills) and that the little girl's mother tells me it's "just a title" and they're not really making a big thing about it. They're not baptising the child through a Catholic ceremony but rather through what's called "baptism by desire" which just means, in simplest terms, that if you look up to God and tell Him you want His baptism then you have it. I'm not sure of their reason for doing it that way but I do know the Catholic church would not allow me to be a godfather (even crossdressing aside) simply on the grounds that I'm Episcopalian, not Catholic.
Do you think the parents should know I'm a crossdresser? I rather feel they should. That is, if they're at all serious about the concept of me looking after their daughter should she be orphaned, then I feel they should know. I'm pretty scared of telling them, though. I guess I'm just worried (has any of us not been?) about how various members of my family might react if they found out). It's also possible that my parents (the little girl's grandparents) would take over raising her -- especially since I'm still single.
Has anyone else been asked to be a godfather? What did you do? Did you find out what is specified in their will first? Thanks for any advice!
Hugs
Lisa
Forgive me for talking a bit about religion (and for the length of this post), but I have a genuine question for anyone who has advice to offer. :confused:
This afternoon, at my brother and his wife's house, my brother's wife told me that they'd like me to be the godfather of their three-month-old baby girl. I'm thrilled about that. I spend time with her (including a couple of hours today just feeding/burping/letting her fall asleep in my arms) and we're all close, my whole family and theirs. The baby girl is just so adorable!
On the way home, in the car, it occurred to me that they do not know I'm a crossdresser (and possibly transgendered to some extent). Welllll my mother "knows" but the last she heard was several years ago when I told her I'd made the decision to stop crossdressing. Pffffffff! Yyyyyyyeah, apparently that wasn't the right decision! ::Puts on his dress:: lol
Anyhoo!
For those who aren't Catholic or don't know, the purpose of being a godfather is that should the child be orphaned, you would then care for the child (it's also, traditionally, to ensure that the child's religious education continue, but these days it's mostly about caring for the child).
Now, I know that this must technically be documented and specified through legal means (i.e. their wills) and that the little girl's mother tells me it's "just a title" and they're not really making a big thing about it. They're not baptising the child through a Catholic ceremony but rather through what's called "baptism by desire" which just means, in simplest terms, that if you look up to God and tell Him you want His baptism then you have it. I'm not sure of their reason for doing it that way but I do know the Catholic church would not allow me to be a godfather (even crossdressing aside) simply on the grounds that I'm Episcopalian, not Catholic.
Do you think the parents should know I'm a crossdresser? I rather feel they should. That is, if they're at all serious about the concept of me looking after their daughter should she be orphaned, then I feel they should know. I'm pretty scared of telling them, though. I guess I'm just worried (has any of us not been?) about how various members of my family might react if they found out). It's also possible that my parents (the little girl's grandparents) would take over raising her -- especially since I'm still single.
Has anyone else been asked to be a godfather? What did you do? Did you find out what is specified in their will first? Thanks for any advice!
Hugs
Lisa