wino_tg_girl
10-12-2008, 12:05 AM
I'm thinking about being the real me more frequently, and making it a part of my real outside life.
My delima is, how does an out-CD find friendships, romance, employment, a life?
If I want to go out for the night or meet friends, can a straight CD go to gay clubs and fit in?
If you are an out straight CD, how have you lived life and built friendships and relationships?
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A bit more detail for those who don't mind reading a drawn-out story.
I'm a young-looking 35 year old with very little social life and very little in the career department.
I've let myself become pretty chubby over the past couple years, partyl due to depression, but subconsciously because it hides how masculine I looked a few years ago when I was in a lot better shape. I make a voluptuous chubby girl
I make about $32k/yr (which is adequate in my small city) and have done essentially the same technical job for 13 years. I'm debt-free and could live on as little as $25k. I'm good at my job, but it is a service that basically adds value to the product my company sells, and my company is slashing expenses right now. My job will likely be eliminated soon anyhow, even if I don't quit it voluntarily.
I love to crossdress. It is a part of who I am. I'm not very masculine, but masculine enough that I'm not passable.
I purged my supply about 6 months ago, but am seriously considering restocking and going at it full-bore. I want to have a full collection of daily undies, groom for femininity (hairless, fem brows, pierced ears, etc). In order to go that far, I need to be out. I can't be out doing what I do now.
I want to find employment where I can be out or even in-femme. I would be willing to waitress at a gay bar, or do services for people who accept CDs. I've considered working on my typing skills adn finding a clerical govt job. I've wondered what would be involved in getting a hairdressers license. All of these things are simply my imagination run wild.
Could you advise me on job-seeking for entry-level positions where a CD could be out without severe bias or risking job security?
I only have a couple years of college. Eventually, I'd like to go back and finish getting a degree. I just need to get out of my lonely rut and let myself come out, and find friends in the real world who truly accept me if I'm the real me.
Any life advice is welcome.
Hugs,
Stacy
My delima is, how does an out-CD find friendships, romance, employment, a life?
If I want to go out for the night or meet friends, can a straight CD go to gay clubs and fit in?
If you are an out straight CD, how have you lived life and built friendships and relationships?
-----------------------
A bit more detail for those who don't mind reading a drawn-out story.
I'm a young-looking 35 year old with very little social life and very little in the career department.
I've let myself become pretty chubby over the past couple years, partyl due to depression, but subconsciously because it hides how masculine I looked a few years ago when I was in a lot better shape. I make a voluptuous chubby girl
I make about $32k/yr (which is adequate in my small city) and have done essentially the same technical job for 13 years. I'm debt-free and could live on as little as $25k. I'm good at my job, but it is a service that basically adds value to the product my company sells, and my company is slashing expenses right now. My job will likely be eliminated soon anyhow, even if I don't quit it voluntarily.
I love to crossdress. It is a part of who I am. I'm not very masculine, but masculine enough that I'm not passable.
I purged my supply about 6 months ago, but am seriously considering restocking and going at it full-bore. I want to have a full collection of daily undies, groom for femininity (hairless, fem brows, pierced ears, etc). In order to go that far, I need to be out. I can't be out doing what I do now.
I want to find employment where I can be out or even in-femme. I would be willing to waitress at a gay bar, or do services for people who accept CDs. I've considered working on my typing skills adn finding a clerical govt job. I've wondered what would be involved in getting a hairdressers license. All of these things are simply my imagination run wild.
Could you advise me on job-seeking for entry-level positions where a CD could be out without severe bias or risking job security?
I only have a couple years of college. Eventually, I'd like to go back and finish getting a degree. I just need to get out of my lonely rut and let myself come out, and find friends in the real world who truly accept me if I'm the real me.
Any life advice is welcome.
Hugs,
Stacy