Does it piss you off when your SO calls you "sir" or "he"?

[tgirlinva]

I have been seeing this guy (although he is not my significant other (yet)), but he says that he sees me as a woman even though I have not transitioned. I do "dress" when I am around him, but I have not fully transition (although I am heading that way). Anyways, we were talking on the phone this evening and his phone was fuzzy so I told him to fix his phone. In reply, he said "yes, sir". I don't know why, but that made me sooooo angry and so uncomfortable. I'm not sure why, but I guess he is the only one who said he saw me as the woman that I am, but now, he says that i am an androgenous MAN! ewwwww. I don't know why, but I feel so hurt and so misled almost... has anyone experienced this? either w/ or w/o a SO. for god's sake, i wouldn't be shaving my legs, or considering HRT if i were a man! arggghhh

[Scotty]

I'd be careful reading into that, if it's sarcastic humor it's just a "Yes Sir" - I've done it to women before, actual GG's....

If he's doing it to make a point he wants a guy - then you have other issues to deal with regarding him....

[tgirlinva]

No, he's not into guys, that's what I liked about him. He's almost only into women. That's why I dated him... He says he's homophobic.

[MJ]

No, he's not into guys, that's what I liked about him. He's almost only into women. That's why I dated him... He says he's homophobic.

??? but you have not transitioned as yet. sometime the sir or man thing comes out it's just a old habit i do that sometimes.
take your time Hun love takes time :hugs:

[GypsyKaren]

I think Scottie may be right about the humor thing, plus you have to understand that it takes time for people to get used to the pronoun thing, especially if being around a TS'er is new to them.

Karen Starlene :star:

[ggtracy]

The pronoun usage certainly can be confusing. I know I do much better when addressing other TG's than I do when interacting with my own SO. I think its because of habit and familiarity. with others, I tend to think about what I am saying and choose my words carefully.

but as for the original posters situation. I agree that "yes sir" is just a phrase used in a sarcastic manner when ever anyone feels they are being bossed. its a joke used for males or female.

[Schatten Lupus]

It's still new to my SO, so I really can't expect her to address me as a female yet. She has a few times, but for now it's few and far between.

[Liana]

I don't have an SO, but if i did it would make furious if they talk to me like that.. would make me cry though..

[Katrina]

I'm not even transitioning and it rubs me the wrong way. I've always disliked that, even before I was anywhere near accepting myself. People would say, "You're a good man" and it would be grating.

[Lisa Golightly]

Oh, most things go over my head... Verbal clashes and gnashes take hours often to even dimly appear... It's all down to touch and body language with me, and apart from a few odd girls (One sent me a very fertile short story only yesterday... Dirty Girl!) everyone seems accepting... Apart from my best friend's grlfriend who is as green as the Hulk.

[Emma26]

If SO is just referring to my girlfriend (and not whom I'm married to because I'm not married... XD I'm kind of young to be married...) than yes it does bother me... But she doesn't do it much, she's well aware of me being transgendered and doesn't really do it...

But it has always bothered me when anybody has done it. It kills me inside everytime. Especially my mom who rubs it in my face and adds on "Mr." in front of my first name... T_T

One of my friends who knows always manages to do it... Every single time we're together. He's just really forgetful because I have to remind him everytime. It's bothersome... but I'll take it over my mom's non-acceptance anyday.

[Suzy Harrison]

Even in drab - when someone calls me 'Sir' I feel pretty sad and upset. It's silly and they are doing the right thing in their eyes I know.

[Sallee]

I think your reading to much in to it. I remember calling a friend sir at a support group meeting when we were both looking our finest. I apologized quickly But I think it was more force of habit.I felt bad about doing and I had never seen her as a male. Maybe it was me in the subconscious thinking of myself as a guy and realizing she was a guy also
Anyway don't read too much in to it and let it slide

[Alan]

Heh, people say "girl" to me occasionally, because I live on a floor with a LOT of gay people, and the flamers among them call all the GMs 'girl.' ("Girl, you need to reevaluate your outfit," for example). They know that it makes me feel uncomfortable, because technically, my body is that of a female, so they try not to, but every so often, it slips out. (They "dear" me mercilessly, though). I just let it slide, because I know for them it's force of habit.

[Steph Butterfield]

don't have a SO, but it surely does when everyone else does, including the odd member of a family that deserted me in April 2006.

I'm used to being referred to as Sir, Mate, Pal, this Gentleman etc, don't like it, get frustrated by it, but thats the price I pay for not passing

[Mariah]

No SO here ether, but I simply want to kill my dad and brother when they refer to me as he or him Grrr.

Mariah