Felix
10-16-2008, 02:20 PM
This is a subject close to my heart having been bullied during my school days and as an adult in the work place!!
Today brought the subject of bullying and being bullied right into the fore again as it quite often does during the school day!! One pupil who has been he victim of bullying quite regularly and who I have looked after and defended because of such dscusting treatment yet again on his journey to school was bullied. The issue was brought up in circle time and I don't think there was one person in the room including staff who had not been a victim of bullying some time in their lives. I am talking here of both physical and verbal bullying. An interesting point was made that when one has been a victim of constant bullying it becomes internalized and then the bullied one becomes the bully. Then everybody was asked if they had ever bullied anyone. In all truth I could not put my hand up!! Jez I wish I could have because straight away I was attacked by the teacher , I may add is one of the worse bullies I have come accross!! In front of the whole group, children and staff he confronted me and said,'You honestly can say you have never bullied anyone, ' I was like no I haven't and he confronted me a second time and said, 'Are you telling me you have never bullied anyone in your entire life?' 'I stayed calm and looked him straight in the eye and said 'Yes in all truth I have never bullied anyone!!!!' He then said, 'Have you ever been bullied?' I said calmly looking into his eyes, 'YES I HAVE'. Finally he realized I was telling him the truth and he said, 'I am sorry'. Omg that was so awful and right infront of everybody I felt so anxious and had to hide the whole thing it was bloody difficult I can tell ya!!! I must give him credit though coz he did admit he was wrong and he did appologize and in my book that was great!! But he should never have gone down that route in the first place coz I felt like he stripped me down infront of everyone I would never do that to anyone it is so destructive In a way I felt good because I stood upto a bully in a positively assertive way and proved to myself that I can.
Funny enough another colleague and friend had said to me that morning that she had noticed a big change in me since I had come out and that was that instead of being frightened to say what I think I now say what I think and don't worry about what others might think, I just say it especially if I think there is an injustice being done. Lol I guess she is right coz when I think about it I am doing that. Well I said that it was time to put my passive self to rest, compromize is still paramount as that is part of my diplomatic nature but I will not be treated like I have been in the past and now I am begining to realize that I am capable of standing up for myself in the way I have always wanted to before and never did. So thanx Felix coz its down to you my friend, my inner self coming out
Me, Myself and Felix!!! What a team xx
Today brought the subject of bullying and being bullied right into the fore again as it quite often does during the school day!! One pupil who has been he victim of bullying quite regularly and who I have looked after and defended because of such dscusting treatment yet again on his journey to school was bullied. The issue was brought up in circle time and I don't think there was one person in the room including staff who had not been a victim of bullying some time in their lives. I am talking here of both physical and verbal bullying. An interesting point was made that when one has been a victim of constant bullying it becomes internalized and then the bullied one becomes the bully. Then everybody was asked if they had ever bullied anyone. In all truth I could not put my hand up!! Jez I wish I could have because straight away I was attacked by the teacher , I may add is one of the worse bullies I have come accross!! In front of the whole group, children and staff he confronted me and said,'You honestly can say you have never bullied anyone, ' I was like no I haven't and he confronted me a second time and said, 'Are you telling me you have never bullied anyone in your entire life?' 'I stayed calm and looked him straight in the eye and said 'Yes in all truth I have never bullied anyone!!!!' He then said, 'Have you ever been bullied?' I said calmly looking into his eyes, 'YES I HAVE'. Finally he realized I was telling him the truth and he said, 'I am sorry'. Omg that was so awful and right infront of everybody I felt so anxious and had to hide the whole thing it was bloody difficult I can tell ya!!! I must give him credit though coz he did admit he was wrong and he did appologize and in my book that was great!! But he should never have gone down that route in the first place coz I felt like he stripped me down infront of everyone I would never do that to anyone it is so destructive In a way I felt good because I stood upto a bully in a positively assertive way and proved to myself that I can.
Funny enough another colleague and friend had said to me that morning that she had noticed a big change in me since I had come out and that was that instead of being frightened to say what I think I now say what I think and don't worry about what others might think, I just say it especially if I think there is an injustice being done. Lol I guess she is right coz when I think about it I am doing that. Well I said that it was time to put my passive self to rest, compromize is still paramount as that is part of my diplomatic nature but I will not be treated like I have been in the past and now I am begining to realize that I am capable of standing up for myself in the way I have always wanted to before and never did. So thanx Felix coz its down to you my friend, my inner self coming out
Me, Myself and Felix!!! What a team xx