Went out.... had to explain to SO!!

[sophie69]

Dear all....

I went out for a night out on Fri in Kent... had a fantastic night but arrived home v late (3.30am) only to fine SO waiting up and very suspicious.... she knows about my dressing but was assuming i was up to no good with other women..... the lesser of two evils was to tell her the truth lol...

Anyway, she does not like me going out (even though i was away from home) and says that it is now going too far.... BUT... going out is fanastic and not sure i want to stop doing it... no correction, i def dont want to stop doing it!

I was just wondering what you other girs have told your SO and how they reacted when you said you were going out.... i think she is making a mountain out of it as going awa from home allows me to do i without affecting my immediate family....

Thanx for reading xx

PS Pic of me last fri is attached!

[suzy cool]

If you aren't doing any harm dressing away from your usual turf, that's sensible and good thinking. I think though that you should consider that you're making her nervous and uncomfortable. She's nervous because she isn't sure what you are doing and so doesn't know what risks you are putting yourself and her in. If you told her beforehand what you were doing, then she would be able to assess the risk and whether it was ok or not. You might find she is totally ok with some things that you've been sneeky about and upset about things that you didn't think were any harm.

[Karren H]

Well unless you were born in 1969.... I'd say she has a lot to be concerned about... lol

[sophie69]

ha ha... i woz born in 69 actually.... lol

Luckly eh!


Well unless you were born in 1969.... I'd say she has a lot to be concerned about... lol

[debbeelee1]

My SO always goes with me when I go out en femme so I can't offer any advice!

[susan fuller]

I am the same. My wife always goes with me when I go out as Susan. I love it too.

[sandra-leigh]

ha ha... i woz born in 69 actually....

There is a forum rule about user names; Sophie would not have been permitted to use 69 at the end of her username if she had not been born in 1969 (or 1869 I suppose ;-) )

[Shelly Preston]

Hi Sophie

The best I can suggest is if she thinks you up to no good is to invite her to go with you

She can then see for herself how you behave
It may help put her mind at rest

[MJ]

she may not understand why you have the need to go out. as Shelly said maybe Sophie should invite the S.O out and explain it . Evan if you both have to go far far away. if it makes your wife happy.
the problem is without all the information how can one understand

[vivianann]

You should not be going out and leaving your wife at home, not good for the marriage, you need not act as if you are single, you are being selfish. bring your wife along if you are going out, if she wont go out than you need to talk to her and let her speak her mind so you can see where she is coming from. if you are out past midnight, nothing good can come of it:2c:. B.T.W. you look nice in your pic.

[Angie G]

Sophie I'm glad you enjoyed yourself but your wife is worried and a bit scared. and it is understandable. How would you feel if it was her going out without you. I've never done it and wouldn't. Think of your wife's feeling hun.:hugs:
Angie

[Jilmac]

I tell my SO whenever I plan to go out, and who I'll be with. She knows that I'll be coming back to her but that my time going out en femme is very important to me. I am open and up front with her and that's what keeps our relationship strong.

[Jonianne]

Take your wife with you, make it a special time for her as well. She does not have to participate. My wife and I usually reserve a hotel room away and sometimes we go out togther dressed, but she generally just relaxes in the room while I go out dressed for a while.

[Sally2005]

Ask her why she doesn't like you going out and then find ways to solve those issues. I could understand her being upset to find out the way she did. She could be feeling excluded. Maybe you better drag her out with you sometimes (in drab and drag only if she is up to it).

[DanaR]

Take your wife with you and let her meet your friends. She will probably get bored and not want to go anymore, and if she doesn't you'll both have fun.

[Nadia-Maria]

Not every TG has an accepting wife.
Then the dilemma is either to love her or to quit her !

To get something (a loving wife and an excellent relationship, for example), you need to abandon something (part of your total freedom, for example).

In any case it's time to negotiate with her about your crossdressing needs, it seems.

Kisses

Nadia

[Desiree2bababe]

Mine freaked when I tried to go out many years ago. Although she has let me out on Halloween.

[Sam44]

When my fiance (at the time) first expressed concerns about me going out at night I misunderstood and I remember thinking that it was a lack of acceptance of my crossdressing. At it turns out her first concern was for my safety. Being a guy I wasn't used to even considering it. She wanted to make sure I wasn't out around 2:00AM when the bars close, etc.

[docrobbysherry]

Sophie I'm glad you enjoyed yourself but your wife is worried and a bit scared. and it is understandable. How would you feel if it was her going out without you. I've never done it and wouldn't. Think of your wife's feeling hun.:hugs:
Angie

"I'm just going out for a little fun!". When she returns at 3:30, she says,
" Nothing happened!"

But, u notice her black latex and leather outfit is a little worse for wear! And her whip and DOM mask r gone!
Nothing to worry about rite? Just her having a little fun, OK?:devil:

[CandyDarling]

Well --- Thats why I have never been out. I know that Genie will not go back in the bottle.

This tranny thing seems like watering a plant - the more you let it go the more it grows. I would LOVE to go out and meet some girls like me - if I never go out I will neer be caught. Hard thing

[Shannen]

Sounds like some comprimising needs to be worked out...

Good luck, I hope you can continue to get out without making your wife nervous.

:hugs:

[mykhelee]

First things first, lovely pic and I must have those shoes, seriously, where did you get them, been looking for a pair like them since I saw a gg wearing them on a Foodnetwork show.
Secondly, I agree that it is unfair of you to expect your SO to let you run loose 'til the wee hours of the morning. Compromise is in order I believe is what the lady said. Ask her along, or I like the hotel room idea.

[carolyn todd]

hello sophie
next time you go out clubing take her with you or ask her if she
would like to go with you.

carolyn xx

[Teri Jean]

Shelly Preston is right, ask her to come along a girls night out. Then on some other night take her out where she may want to go but has not as yet and make it her night. She may be more supportive if she has nothing to worry about and the return "favor" will be there as icing on the cake. Good luck. Keli