Crossdresser or what?

[prene]

What am I?

I am a Crossdresser but what else I have been reading a lot and these are some of what I found . . .am I also transexual, transvestite, ******* or what. . . or all these?.

I love fully dressing as a GG,
Breast, corset, tucking, makeup, hair, nails, . . .
I fantasize about being a GG and have done it for up to 2 days.
I fantasize about having a GG body.
I love women and am no attracted to men. Men are hard, hairy, smelly, insensitive, do I need to go on.

I have thought about reassignment but only thought - not seriously.

I have only thought about being with a man only to feel what it is like to be a GG.

Am I Transgender, CD, GenderConfused, a lesbian caught in a male body, or what?
Am I part of all of them?

Are we all in the same boat?

[Jamie S.]

I think we're all on inner tubes tied to a boat being tugged by a large large tugboat on a TG river (if that makes any sense at all). We're all kinda going in the same direction, some just chose to cut the lines before going further down the river. Others know where they're going from the start and just ride it all the way, while some are simply seeing how far this river goes.

Do what you feel is right.

[Sam44]

I suspect that you are you :)

In all things human there isn't any pure black or white, we are all some shade of grey, whether we are talking about weight, attention deficitness, nearsightedness, obsessive compulsiveness, whatever.

I'm pretty sure that were all in the same boat in the sense that we don't know exactly where we are in relation to these (sometimes arbitrary) scales. But it also seems that the people who come to this board aren't all cut from the same cloth. I thinks it's fairly obvious that there isn't a single path that we are all progressing on. Like all of life we each have our own ups and downs, triumphs and failures, epiphanies and periods of just slogging on.

[Zenith]

...Are we all in the same boat?


I think we're all on inner tubes tied to a boat being tugged by a large large tugboat on a TG river (if that makes any sense at all)....

Yup the true S.S. Gender Identity...and the boat that I wish it were...:tongueout

[Jamie S.]

I don't think you'd want your inner tube tied to that second boat though! :P

[Zenith]

I don't think you'd want your inner tube tied to that second boat though! :P

Faster! Faster! Faster!

Some of you know what I mean...:battingeyelashes:

[prene]

I just want to ride all of these boats

[Ballerina]

Haha, I pictured the exact same thing!

As far as things go, Prene, I think you're just looking for that category that you fit into (everything in this world has a category; even words themselves are in a category). Personally, I would say that you are a normal TG/CD. Curiosity is nothing to be afraid of or question. Just stick with what you want, and what you feel comfortable with; nothing more, and nothing less.

BtW, I'm trying to remember a bit of my personal philosophy and can't think of the better word for "category".... If I remember (which will probably be at 4 AM) I'll edit it in :heehee:

[prene]

Thanks

[ErikaLeigh]

The most important thing is to be yourself and not worry about putting a label on it. Be who you want to be, you are unique, nobody else will ever be like you and you will never be like anyone else. Just enjoy the ride. :hugs:

[RachelDenise]

It sounds like you've given this a lot of thought. Why do you need a term for it? You seem comfortable with your life, you are interested in discovery, and I think the story isn't finished for you as yet. Who knows what or where you'll be in the future? Enjoy, explore and experience. When you're done, you make the label for what you are!

[MJ]

IMHO there are a lot of girls here who are tg but live in denial.. if it works for them then great ...

[Sweet Cindy]

Prene, I feel exactly the same way. I've always dreamed that medical science would someday create a magical pink pill. Take at night and you'll wake up a girl. Take a blue pill to go back to guyville.

Jamie, I loved your comment! But I'm with Zenith - I'd rather be doing 100 mph on blown alcohol than drifting along in an inner tube!

[Jamie S.]

Prene, I feel exactly the same way. I've always dreamed that medical science would someday create a magical pink pill. Take at night and you'll wake up a girl. Take a blue pill to go back to guyville.

Jamie, I loved your comment! But I'm with Zenith - I'd rather be doing 100 mph on blown alcohol than drifting along in an inner tube!


Hehe, thanks! I would be careful though, just a little wind, wake, or any slight miscalculation and you can kiss your butt goodbye in one of those speedboats! Although I know what you mean, I wish one could combine speed and safety. Oh well. *sigh*

[Vicki65]

a magical pink pill. Take at night and you'll wake up a girl. Take a blue pill to go back to guyville.


There's actually an Iain Banks book whose title I cant remember right now, in which the characters (sometime off into the future!) can do such a thing with a pill. The main character and his girlfriend frequently change sex and have sex as their opposite for a weekend.

Its quite a horny proposition!

[DeeDeeB]

Don't worry about labeling yourself. There's plenty of people who are happy to do that for you, and they're not usually kind (except on this forum). Mostly they are people who need to catagorize everyone else to make sense of their own little world. Keep an open mind and accept yourself for who you are, as we accept you. There's lots of us like you, and we're ok too.

Dee :fairy1:

[Tina B.]

Prene, life is about feelings, not labels, I think you are over thinking the whole thing. You are what you are, it needs no label, unless you plan to bottle it. Besides we really are only what we will become, because life is a journey of discovery, and I would bet you still have a lot to discover about yourself, and the minute you think you have it all figured out, then you learn something new about yourself, and have to rethink it all over again. So whether it is that inner tube, or that high speed hydroplane, just enjoy the ride, you will know when its time to get off.
Tina

[Nicole Erin]

Labels, HA!

The only question you need to ask is "How do I want to live my life?"

Technically speaking -
A "She-male" has a lot of feminization surgeries but has a fully functioning male member, and She-male is more of a porn thing. The one she-male I knew was a dominatrix she-male. No I was not a client but she came to our support group...

A "crossdresser" is someone who doesn't mind being a man but loves to dress completely in women's clothes, some even groom accordingly with the body hair eyebrows etc... I am a crossdresser. [I will speak only for me and not assume with others.]

A "Transsexual" is someone who wants to live full time as a woman, and often has surgeries, hormones, and legal name change to a woman gender.

A "Transvestite" is someone who mostly just enjoys the undergarments of a woman, usually for masturbation purposes, and may wear them under their male garb. No desire to present or look like a woman. Think of a hairy biker or gangster wearing victoria secrets [and then go vomit] :heehee: Eminem is probably a transvestite.

NOW - here is something that will probably get my ass kicked but it must be said -
Often times when someone talks about being TS on a forum or with other gender-folks, others will want to tell them "a "real" TS doesn't do this or enjoy that... so if you ask them, make NO mention if you like to wear things like a neon mini-skirt and fishnets.

But all that tech crap aside, the question is not what label are you but how do you want to live? If you insist on a definition and label, pick from the above.

Think of this - Virginia Prince is not a TS but lives full time as a woman. So she is a full time crossdresser. That is how she chooses to live.

How do you want to live? Think about it and get back to us and we will let you know if we approve or not. YOu see, we will have to cast a branding iron with your chosen label and get it red hot so we can brand you with your new label, right on your butt. :heehee: OH and if you don't like our answer, tell us where to go and live as YOU see fit, OK sis? ;)

Erin

[Kayla Shadows]

I fantasize about being a GG and have done it for up to 2 days.
I fantasize about having a GG body.

If your trying to figure yourself out...are you "fantasizing" more than you are actually feeling?.





The only question you need to ask is "How do I want to live my life?"

True

and the one I was hoping to see was what you thought of "transgendered".Some definitions include even the act of just dressing in itself.If they say,gender is between the ears,I dont get it.Is it really more than just clothes?

[Marjory]

Thought enters my mind too, but I do not think I would pass the psychological profiling due to my distaste for living with a male as a female. I think, as Zenith said, we are all shades of grey.

Marjory

[tampacd]

Sounds like a riddle doesn't it? "What am I?" And it truly is. We all are here piecing together what we know and we'll all come away with a different answer to that question. Labels can be a handy way of communicating in a general way where in the spectrum we are at the time. The label is not printed with indellible ink though.
So here's the breakdown as I understand it :
Transgender: A broad term covering all "gender bending" topics
Transvestite: The literal interpretation of the word from the Latin is "cross dress". (see below)
However the word has picked up sexual connotation. For the most part the terms TV and CD are interchangable. What I have noticed is that MTF are called TVs but FTM never. Words are interesting aren't they?
Crossdresser: A nicer word for someone who dresses as the opposite gender for a thrill, but is comfortable with their own gender and has
no desire to change it.
Transexual: Someone who feels like they were born in the wrong body and is willing to undergo medical treatments in order to cause this
transformation.

Don't know if this helps, and of course within each "world" there is a full spectrum, from the guy who just likes to put on his wifes panties, to the drag queen, etc, etc. etc.

[Ballerina]

Haha, it's funny to see how everyone on here pushes against labels, and I tend to pull them in.

I use labels and stereotypes to help build up an understanding of oneself or a group of people. Granted, I don't foolishly fall into it and say that "they are ALL like that", but it does give you a sense of protection and understanding. Let's say that someone says that a group of people generally keep themselves dirty. Now, I will associate that group of people as being dirty, but in a cautious approach knowing that it may be something to expect or not with that group (with logic, of course). As for putting a label onto yourself, it helps you understand what you generally are like. Ya, you are a different human being with a different thought process, but you at least have the gist of who you are, and that's not a bad thing at all. :)

As for me, I'd rather be on the chug tug than the speed boat. Just sittin' back and enjoying the ride and watching beauty in the most simple of pleasures :)

[emmicd]

Transgender is different for each of us. I believe their are varing degrees of transgender like there are varying degrees of autism. Crossdressing is mostlikely on the lesser degree of the spectrum and involves only dressing for the most part. TS individuals are on the more severe degree of the spectrum since they probabaly seek full transition.

We all try to find where we fit and adapt accordingly.

emmi

[Angie G]

I fantasize all the time about being a GG but it's a fantasy. I don't think being with a man will make you feel like a real woman I don't know I've never been with or want to be with a man. Dressing makes me all the woman I need to be. But if you feel you need to do that then that's up to you and I say go for it hun.:hugs:
Angie

[Janie Gunn]

Hi Prene

If you still love women, then I think you would just be a crossdresser.
Are you simply looking for a term to call this 'crossdressing thing' that we do, to describe yourself. If so, I have had similar thoughts. Crossdresser, Transvestite, *******, are all the same thing, and as far as such terminology goes, I personally prefer Transvestite, or if I were to tell (certain) friends, I would say I'm a Tranny ****. For me, that sounds, edgier, than Crossdresser, and more suited to how I dress, and personality.
It sounds like you know what you are in regard to sexuality, so theres probably a couple of terms there you could knock out, but only you really know that, but the rest of it is more simply a description that your comfortable with.

Janie

[Diane Elizabeth]

Reading everyone's take on this thread has confused me. I am trying to find myself like most people here. I thought I was a "cd". Then maybe more, a "ts" or a "tg". I still don't know. I like to dress. I fantasize being a woman. I do not care about beiing a "man". But not wanting to have SRS. Then I must remain a man, right. I have had sex with a man, but I don't see me living with one. So, as a woman I would be a lesiban, I think. So girls how do I classify myself. Suggestions are most welcome.

[Janie Gunn]

Gee, you do sound confused. I think where you may be confusing yourself, is that you say you must remain a man, but you are then trying to make a definition from a woman point of view and then think lesbian? [quote: So, as a woman I would be a lesiban ], but you arent a woman, so the lesbian term would be irrelevant. If you have had sex with a man, then something for you to consider is that you may be bi-sexual. You could be a bisexual (or maybe theres another term in this instance, I'm not sure) crossdresser/transvestite.
How does that sound?

Janie

[trannie T]

You are what you are. Each one of us is unique. Some of us can be described by a term such as "crossdresser" or "transexual" others fall into the grey areas.
Don't worry about labels, accept yourself for what you are and enjoy life.

[Christina Horton]

Reading everyone's take on this thread has confused me. I am trying to find myself like most people here. I thought I was a "cd". Then maybe more, a "ts" or a "tg". I still don't know. I like to dress. I fantasize being a woman. I do not care about beiing a "man". But not wanting to have SRS. Then I must remain a man, right. I have had sex with a man, but I don't see me living with one. So, as a woman I would be a lesiban, I think. So girls how do I classify myself. Suggestions are most welcome.


I think you may be a lesiban traped in a Mans body. I saw that on another thread. So if u need a label I think you might like that one. I am a headro crossdresser who likes girls only. So tell me if you like it hun. Huggs. Christina.

[Miss Tessa]

Go to a therapist if you can afford it. Go to a therapist even if you feel you cannot afford it. It will give you some insight, as long as the therapist is competent. It will cost you less than the cost of wondering and feeling soooooo confused about something so fundamental.


I love what you said about men. It's mostly true,they are insensetive.

I know the transmen could jump all over us for that, but to defend them, I must say they were socialized as girls for the most part and are pretty sensetive, at least the ones I have talked to or seen.

[Miss Tessa]

My opinion of a ******* is someone who usually takes hormones, maybe gets implants or pumps silicone, but does not take TS steps like anti-androgyne, spironolactone, or SRS, and usually is some kind of sex worker but not always.
A nicer name for these people which does not connote they are a sex worker is "FemmeQueen" because they are more like TS than a performing Drag Diva.

And gangster TV's? I am a real gangbanger and have been most my life I don't just wear lingerie and undies under my clothes, I am 24-7 TS and very passable and young and femmy.

[femw/i]

Prene, I feel exactly the same way. I've always dreamed that medical science would someday create a magical pink pill. Take at night and you'll wake up a girl. Take a blue pill to go back to guyville.

Jamie, I loved your comment! But I'm with Zenith - I'd rather be doing 100 mph on blown alcohol than drifting along in an inner tube!

Same here, I feel all of the above.

[Hali]

What am I?

I am a Crossdresser but what else I have been reading a lot and these are some of what I found . . .am I also transexual, transvestite, ******* or what. . . or all these?.

I love fully dressing as a GG,
Breast, corset, tucking, makeup, hair, nails, . . .
I fantasize about being a GG and have done it for up to 2 days.
I fantasize about having a GG body.
I love women and am no attracted to men. Men are hard, hairy, smelly, insensitive, do I need to go on.

I have thought about reassignment but only thought - not seriously.

I have only thought about being with a man only to feel what it is like to be a GG.

Am I Transgender, CD, GenderConfused, a lesbian caught in a male body, or what?
Am I part of all of them?

Are we all in the same boat?

Yup! we are all in the same boat honey.
what you are experiencing is called "CD dilemma"

[DemonicDaughter]

If you still love women, then I think you would just be a crossdresser...

Sexuality has anything to do with gender identification. Anyone could "still love women" and be a cd/ts/tg. For that matter, they could like men, themselves, everyone or no one and still identify as cd/ts/tg. They are two completely separate issues... and both can be just as confusing. lol

[Niya W]

Sexuality has anything to do with gender identification. Anyone could "still love women" and be a cd/ts/tg. For that matter, they could like men, themselves, everyone or no one and still identify as cd/ts/tg. They are two completely separate issues... and both can be just as confusing. lol

I was thinking the same thing. Knows more than hand full of mtf TS that are with women (gg or trans)

[Mydia]

If you still love women, then I think you would just be a crossdresser.

Just because some gay guys crossdress, does that mean that all crossdressers are gay? No.

Just because some transgirls like guys; does that mean that if s/he is trans, s/he has to like guys? No.

I'm transsexual and I'm a lesbian :/

[meadowqueen]

first of all, mydia and prene....love your avitars.....leather rules my dears.....now.........i think i'm a transvestite ............motto is my dears...."if it feels good then do it!!!".........kiss kiss-lick lick-hug hug-bite bite....;)

[Amy Hepker]

Just be yourself, who you are inside. I know that is what I am doing and it feels great to me. I am 24/7 crossdressing and at this point do not want to remove those parts of me that are in the way of being female, but you never know someday, maybe. The thing is You need to feel good about yourself and who you really are. The reason why the doctors want you to live your life as a Female for a year before you have the big change is because you can turn back to what you were. Once you have the sex reassignment operation, you cannot go back. Sure you can always wear the clothes of a man, but you will not have anything to prove it after surgery.

[JanSmith]

Your feelings are real because they are true to you. It is something to enjoy and explore in your comfort zone. I do understand.