Being in love with best friend

[womantrapped2005]

I have another issue about me being in love with my best friend, I'm pretty sure he's straight and he's seeing this one girl named Amanda. But I can't help but be in love with him, he's a great guy, one of the last remaining gentleman like guys left in the world it seems like sometimes. What do I do about my problem?

[derminator]

Ohhhhh to be young and in love.... it's a great dilemna to have and one that I'm sure you'll encounter many times over (it's just that right now it seems like that there possibly could be no-one else in your life, right????).

My advice... if you think he's straight, and unless you don't value losing his firendship then I would steer clear of confronting him for a while. I guess just tread carefully around the subject.... maybe you can ask his opinion on gay related stuff and that might give you a furhter insight.

[womantrapped2005]

thanks i like that advice :)

[sarah]

There is so much good advise i could give you but how boring would that be?So try this go somewhere mutual relax over a few drinks and when the time is right just talk start by telling him about his good points watch the signs and follow your heart you will never know what he thinks unless you test the water ....you wont put yourself in an embarasing position but you will get abetter idea of whats in his head....

[womantrapped2005]

thanks

[Amelie]

Leave him alone. He is seeing someone else right now, let them be, and don't make things bad for them. Find someone else.

[Tristen Cox]

I have to agree with Amelie, if he is involved then let him come to you if he is interested. But putting forth your feelings while he is with someone else is only setting yourself up for disappointment. Enjoy his friendship. Perhaps someday you will have the opportunity to take that farther. And keep a look out for others in the meanwhile. ;)


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[Jeannie9]

If he has a girlfriend let him be. There are too many people waiting to be on the Jerry Springer show. Please do not be one of them.

Take care.

[Priscilla1018]

Hi,

I think Tristen,Amelie,and Jeannie have given you some great advice,this guy is involved with another girl,DO NOT INTERFEAR.Trust me,you will find the right one for you,keep looking.

[Holly]

I have to agree with Amelie, Tristen, Jeannie, and Priscilla... for the moment, he has made his decision. Your interference at this point could bring resentment against you if things should not work out between them. You need to be playing the "friend card." Should things not work out between them, you'll have the inside track to his ear, his mind, and possibly his heart.

[Raina]

I agree with all the ladies above, but I also think like Sarah. It wouldn't hurt to test the waters a bit. Just like Sarah said start with some conversation and read his responses. You will know where is soul lies. I think it is important for you to learn where he is at. Your curiousity and questions will be answered for good or bad. At least you will be able to move on, either with him in arm or without. All this should be done within the confines of your friendship though. The last thing you want to do is alienate him.

Good luck Hun

Raina

[Billi49504]

I too am in love with my best friend, my wife....Billi

[Ibuki_Warpetal]

Don't intervene.

But do whatever you want otherwise.
Find out if he swings both ways.
Find out if he doesn't, but is not prejudiced to those who do.
Find out if he wants nothing to do with you.

After you find out and all is safe you can make an educated decision on whether or not to come out.

Being yourself and keeping your friend is the win win scenario right?
Try for that.

If it were me I'd keep my gay friends. I like hugs and stuff. (:

[Ashley Allison]

You've said that you are pretty sure that he is straight. Well, if that is the case. Think of it this way. Wouldn't it be rude for a straight woman to insist upon having a relationship with a gay man? Well let's flip the tables for a moment. If this logic holds true, it's equally as rude for a gay man to force himself upon a straight man. If he's really your friend, you should respect him for what he is.

[Ibuki_Warpetal]

You've said that you are pretty sure that he is straight. Well, if that is the case. Think of it this way. Wouldn't it be rude for a straight woman to insist upon having a relationship with a gay man? Well let's flip the tables for a moment. If this logic holds true, it's equally as rude for a gay man to force himself upon a straight man. If he's really your friend, you should respect him for what he is.

All of my friends are pretty sure I'm a gangster don't use a CD forum.... >.>'''

[Ashley Allison]

All of my friends are pretty sure I'm a gangster don't use a CD forum.... >.>'''

:lol: Sure thing. I know it's hard for you hold back that THUG PASSION! :kissing: