Best companion while dressed: CDer, GG, or male friend in DRAB?

[danam]

I've never been out with another person while dressed, and I'm wondering who would make the best companion while out-and-about. Would it be another CDer, a GG friend, a male friend in drab, or a man who is attracted to you?

[MJ]

for me i am happy with anyone who likes to shop. i love the company and friendship.

[Nicki B]

..I'm wondering who would make the best companion while out-and-about.

That depends surely on you, on them, and on what you are both doing? You can't make that decision based on a label, but on personalities... :idontknow:

[DanaR]

I believe that a GG friend would be the best; probably best that you are about the same size, as well. I seems like when out with another CD, we are always read.

[Nadia-Maria]

Two CDs together are twice as likely to get read as one. More than two, and it's a certainty.

With a real girl is great fun, but make sure she's better looking than you (not too difficult, probably) or you'll be the one getting all the attention.

But best of all is a guy, if you can arrange it, because nobody looks twice at another woman if her partner is with her. They just don't. Trouble is, it's hard to persuade a guy to accompany you unless he really is your partner or at any rate fancies you, which can raise other problems...

Perhaps the ideal would be another CD who agrees to take it turn and turn about, who will dress and who be in drab. But have you ever met a CD yet who is willing to forego just one opportunity to dress?

Katie B


Great response, Katie !
Very thoughtful and excellent advice.

Nadia

[countrygirl]

I would like to go out with a another crossdresser just cause if nothing else we can support each other and I can find out how the other "girl" is doing her thing and she can do the same (another words find out about each other tips on dressing and presenting our selves as the women we are and even want to be). I would also go out with a guy in male clothes (I would like to do this even if I get read I do not care). People can think what they want. I am one of the few I guess anyway by being gay and a crossdresser.

Amanda

[Michl41]

I've nver been out with somone else either, but it sounds as though Dana has the best advice...................................:2c:..... ...........Michelle

[Deborah Jane]

A dog!!! My cute Spaniel seems to get all the attention when i take him out when i,m dressed.
I don,t think people even notice me :sad:

[MarinaTwelve200]

Go with a GG. Even a "passible" CD has somewhat of an 'Odd" look about her, but alone these variations are often chalked up by others, as simple "personal appearence variations", so long as they still fall into female ranges or parameters. With ANOTHER CD, BOTH of you will have that "odd look"---to much a coincidence for the averave outside observer---who will conclude that BOTH of you are bio- males. More chance of being read.

[Teri Jean]

I have not been out with anyone as yet but I would have to say my sisters-in-law as they have been so supportive. Love Keli

[Denise01]

I have been out shopping with Pre-op TS girls, and we did not appear to get any looks other than those that we were 2 girls out for a day of shopping.

Maybee i am fortunate, that i am told, by more than one person if they saw me on the street, that they would take me totaly 100% female.

Denise:):)

[Ballerina]

For me, it'd be my GF. Though, she is 350 mi. away and hasn't seen me dressed yet.. But one can hope :)

Woot! 100th post! Most I've ever made on a single forum! lol

[SexyLatexSamantha]

It would have to be my G/F. She loves to sgop for me anyways. So, who better to go out with while dressed.

[Carroll]

Easy one....my wife

[Wendy Seymone]

I guess I am just a little bit confused... :strugglin Nothing new really, but...
Won't it really depend on where you were going and what you were doing? :idontknow:

[Miss Tessa]

Fun post gurl!!! =)

I personally prefer other TG's, no matter if they are Drag Queens, FemmeQueens, TS, or CD's......

If I cannot hang with other TG girls I prefer Genetic Girls next.

Men are last on the list.

However I would not mind a latino guy my age that is in great shape, with short buzzed hair, tough gang tattoos and the thug style if he was sensetive to me enough and wanted to fool around maybe.

I just don't like guys very much at all.

I have no male friends. All my friends are either some kind of TG or GG girls.

I am VERY picky about the men I like. I only like the type I described.

Right now I *LOVE* my new best buddy/sort of gf that has been dressing since age 7, she is considering transitioning because she cannot decide yet if she's CD or TS.

[LACD]

I can only theorize about going out, but if I did I think it would be with my Dear Wife. She has helped me immensely with my dressing. I think it would be a blast going shopping dressed enfemme with her. We have talked about it but so far that is as far as we have gotten. I have a lot of work to do before I shock the world.

[jennylogan]

I'd prefer the company of my wife. She knows all about my dressing and is very supportive. In fact she looks forward to it probably more than I do.

[Samantha43]

It would have to be my wife. I haven't been out dressed in a long time, and have no plans on doing so any time soon. I've often thought it would be fun to go out for coffee or shopping with her. She has always been supportive and said she would go out with me dressed, but I really just don't have much desire to go out dressed.

[Christina2008]

I first went out with my Gran and GG cousin. Although I don’t think either of them knew I had black pantyhose and a pair of white lacy panties on under my jeans. I was 13 at the time.


But I think a GG would be best really.

[Maria2004]

have you ever met a CD yet who is willing to forego just one opportunity to dress?Katie B

:) Yes I have.

[tonya2]

I would have to say a gg would be the only way for me to out in comfort,
haven't yet, but planning on it, wish I could find a gg to go out with when I am ready, that would be cool. Second choice would be another cd or ts.
Diffenately not a guy. That would be too weird.

Tonya:daydreaming:

[Samantha B L]

It would have to be a CD or a GG. Either one is fine.

[Megan70]

but prefer alone as first choice, with my wife or another gg friend, both of witch I've been to symphony concerts with and a male in drab who is gay, a friend of 40 years but we go out on a mock date with him playing the husband role to me acting en femme, We've done that to philharmonic concerts over 2 dozen times. Lastly I have gone out to the theater and concerts twice with very passable CD friends. We sat together with no problems but at intermission we thought it would be wise to split up in the lobby and corridors to avoid drawing too much attention with 2 CD's walking together. All went well though.
But try to avoid the dual CD scenerio.:battingeyelashes:
Megan

[Nicki B]

But try to avoid the dual CD scenerio.:battingeyelashes:

Good grief, why? :strugglin


Okay, so the collective noun for trannys is a 'book' (it gets read) - but, so damn what? If you go out with a GG, be quite sure you will get read next to her anyway?

I know of girls who do go out in turn dressed, as a woman accompanied by a man does get looked at less, but I honestly think you're all getting far too hung up - just go, do what you you want to do, the world really won't care, trust me?


And it's much better doing new things with a good friend (or friends), than on your own? Ask the girls who just did SCC.. :rolleyes:



Edit - pic added, taken in the Bellagio's foyer (LV) by a male passerby who lay down on the floor to take it...

[Susan4]

An interesting thread.

I am struck by how many of us seem focused on the need to pass or to avoid being read - even to the point of not going out with another CD.

If the goal, or the game, is to pass, I can understand that. It's good advice.

There is another option. It's not caring whether you pass. Me. I'll never pass and it stopped me from leaving the closet for years. But, I discovered recently that I can, in fact, go out. 'Cuz, even if I don't pass, most people (in a big city anyway) don't pay any attention. I'm only read when people focus on me when I ask for service or sit down for a meal. And, even then, they treat me as they're trained to treat customers (so far, at least). Whether this is because they want my money, a tip ... or they've just been socialized to be 'sophisticated' and urbane ... I don't know. I don't care.

I haven't yet been out with another CD or a GG ... so I can't comment on that. But, I have been out with a part-time DG, 50+ gentleman, who was en drab. He was great company. It was cute, in fact. It was like he was protecting me and wanted to ensure, since I was a newbie, from being hassled. I wasn't, as it turned out, but it was interesting when, after a lifetime of my own socialization, he opened doors for me, helped me down stairs and demonstrate the little social graces that older men sometimes show towards GGs.

I'll avoid answering the question, tho', until I go out with another CD or a GG.

Hugs

[KathrynTX]

A dog!!! My cute Spaniel seems to get all the attention when i take him out when i,m dressed.
I don,t think people even notice me :sad:

Deborah Jane, you're a genius!

If I ever go out dressed again, I'm borrowing one of my SO's dachsunds.

[jennifer41356]

I have had more fun going with women..I had one female friend years ago that would go shopping with me and we woulg try on clothes in the same dressing room:eek:

went twice with other Cd's and one didnt pass well. we went to a dress shop and she got a phone call and went outside to talk on the phone and a 11yr old girl was with her Mom in the store and they started to giggle, so I left and went outside with her and we left, didnt want her to be put in an uncofortable situation

[CD Susan]

I have never been out with anyone else before. My times out have always been alone. It would not matter to me who I went out with as long as this person was someone that I felt close to. Being read is not that big of a deal. I might get some strange looks but so what, no one ever says anything. I like Debs idea about the dog. I have a springer spanial and I plan on taking her for walks in the city park. I think this would be fun.

[JaytoJillian]

Being "read" as some say, is half the fun for me. At my height, I know I'm not fooling anyone. I totally prefer stepping out with another CD who has good fashion sense and good make up skills. Was out this past weekend with an awesome CD friend and we had a blast and were accepted like VISA everywhere we went. We were complimented, hit on, flirted with, stalked, etc by guys and GGs alike. It was great fun!


Cheers,


Jill

[Amy Hepker]

Anyone who will go with you, not meaning anything bad by that, it is fun going shopping and I would do it with anyone who would do it with me.

[Annemarie]

However passable you are, it is highly likely you will be read by some people some of the time ; so it is important to relax when going out, whether alone or with a friend. Obviously you are less likely to be read if you go out with a man.

[Sammy777]

If all sides were equally OK with me being out:
My sisters 1st, one of my close GG friends 2nd,
a fellow CD'er a close 3rd & my male friends a distant 4th.

Mostly due to the comfort level in the yrs of knowing the first two.
If I knew another CD'er [I know none personally right now] for the same length of time as my GG friends I would think differently.

It would take me a while before I was comfortable dressed around most of my male friends, no matter how accepting, & more time before I would be out & dressed with them.



Perhaps the ideal would be another CD who agrees to take it turn and turn about, who will dress and who be in drab.
But have you ever met a CD yet who is willing to forgo just one opportunity to dress? Katie B

Yes, Closeted and/or indoor only Cd's like myself.

I think being out n about in drab with a fellow CD'er would be a win win for those of us in the closet.
Sort of a first step. You get to experience first hand how people would interact with you & a feeling for what to expect when you finally brave it out there yourself.
At the same time the person your with knows you can relate to anything that might happen with a nod & at the same time you both get to talk freely about everything else.

Even if your not the "out" one you gain all the positives & learn to deal with the negatives, if any.

That is my take on it anyway.