I got caught by my neighbour

[faltenrock]

I feel really bad, my neighbour opende her window this morning and looked over to me, while I was standing on my terrasse, wearing my red wig and a skirt. I'm sure she saw me, not sure whether she recognized me a her neighbour. If I'm lucky, she might have thought it's visitor...

What can I do??? this is terrible, I knew this was going to happen one day.

[MAJESTYK]

Is you neighbor the Police? Is it illegal where you live to crossdress? If not then what kind of person are they? Maybe you could talk to them about it if they ask. At the very least , you could educate them about us a little. Just a thought...Maybe they might like the other you?

[Sara Jessica]

I'm sorry this happened to you but I think I must point out the obvious...going outside like that was inviting this sort of thing to happen sooner or later. I may roll the dice by going out and about many miles from home but you won't catch me any time soon lounging about in girl mode on my patio. If I were to do so (I do wish I could present as myself full time), it'd be on my terms with the expectation that the neighbors would be likely to see me.

That said, Majestyk's advice seems to be very appropriate given the situation.

[Deborah Jane]

Chances are she may not have recognised you if you had your red wig on and were wearing womens clothing. People don,t really think about our existance unless it,s blatently obvious too them.
She probably thought you had a visitor.

[MsJanessa]

your neighbor will probably never mention it to you and even if she does why would it matter one way or the other---My assumption is that you live in Europe, either France or Germany, both of which are much more tolerant of Us than many other places, including some parts of the U.S.

[DAVIDA]

Yes, I too was "caught",if you will, by a neighbor. She new it was me and started a conversation. I, unlike you, was not wearing a wig! I am also getting to the point where I just don't care that much what people think.:tongueout

[MJ]

sooner or later we all get caught it's just a matter of time . the best you can do now is some damage control go talk with your neighbor.
all the best

[Michelle 51]

Depends how close she lives to you.If it was any distance at all she probaly thought it was a girl who spent the night.

[faltenrock]

Thanks, well, she couldn't really see my clothes too well, there is a little wooden fense in between her view towards me, there are also some plants in between, but the leaves have all fallen down, so the view is more clear now. I saw her looking at me - so she saw me too...even just for a second, because I left into my office quickly.

Her distance from the window to me was about 30 - 35 feet. She is 20 years aloder than me and the property is large, hers and ours. She would not be someone to talk to about such an incidence.

[CharleneT]

Tis hard to say what she recognized. If she just glanced over, likely as not she didn't realize it was you. If when she looked over you and she "locked" eyes, then the gig is probably up ( the eyes are one of things we key on the most in "recogition").

In a way, depending your relationship with her, I would recommend going over and seeing if she brings it up, or if with some subtle comment you can see if she knew. If she does, then I would say talk to her, let her understand etc...

If you ignore it, it will probably go away. It was one quick look and she has no idea why you might be dressed that way. Remember, we always think that everyone that looks at us imediately thinks "cross dresser" if they spot some small bit ( a piece of feminine clothing etc). Reality is that given no other reason to think you are a cross dresser, she probably just wondered "what the heck ?" and likely several possible answers. If you want to stay under the radar and the subject comes up - tell her it was a costume you were trying on for a party or the like.

When we step outside, we take that chance of someone knowing us and seeing us dressed. Have to settle in your mind whether that is going to bother you before you go out. Given that, I still recommend going out !

After the second time I went out dressed I came home, very late (went to another city to see a band play). It was 4:30am and I didn't even think to look around. Got out of my car, fully dressed still, and there was my neighbor, sitting on a stone about 15 feet away talking to his girlfriend. I was surprised and so were they. Never said a word, and there has been no difference in life. In fact, they invite me to their parties etc often. I still normally do not dress outside in my own city, but when in other cities, I know sometime I am going to run into a friend ... will just have to see how it goes. I'm not sure how I will react, but I feel that I can take that chance.

I hope it all works out for you !!

hugs,

Charlene

p.s. nice shoes in your avatar pix !!

[Melinda G]

If the subject ever comes up, just say you were trying out your Halloween costume. Tis the season. Tell her you were going to a Halloween party that evening, and wanted to try on the costume.

[StaceyJane]

I think My neighbor saw me yesterday but it was from a distance and she probably did not reconize me. I didn't have a wig on just an old beret to cover my head also I was carry some stuff and I had made a point of carrying it up over my chest like girls do not out by my side.
I had a moment of panic.
Then I thought so what? What's the worst that could happen? Maybe she will think I'm a crossdresser? !!!! Well if the heels fit......


Stacey

[Jennifer Cox]

I wouldn't worry unless she says something. She's probably got bad eyesight anyway :D

[Mary Morgan]

Good News! Tomorrow the Sun will come up and you will be fine. Things happen and what is done is done. Who knows, she may surprise you with some things to add to your wardrobe. The worse thing that could happen is for you to fret over this.

[Sheila]

She probabley did not notice a thing ............ heck i will stand looking out the window not particulary looking at anything maybe just thinking about somrthing ............. and if it is first thing in the morning forget it, until i have had 3 cups of coffee i notice nothing.

But maybe you have leaarned a valuable lesson without it costing you more than a quiet panic :D

Edited to add ........... or perhaps subconsiously you are looking to be caught :hugs:

[Sam-antha]

There is no way in which you would be recognised at that distance on a first time sighting.
Maybe there was a second look "A woman...." . Were yo wearing a bra etc ?

[Lisa Golightly]

Pfffffffffff.... Panic ye not... We are our own worse enemies... As Sherlock Holmes once said 'You see, but you do not observe'... She saw a girl, you knew was a boy, she assumed was a she.

[Schatten Lupus]

That's what I hate about living in an apartment complex. There is no going out for me, at all, unless I want to be seen. I especially hate having a room mate, who if he knew, would tell this one "girl" (I'd prefer the "c" word), and then she would proceed to tell everybody she comes in contact with, just to try to ruin my reputation, stir the ---- pot, and to just try to hurt me, my girlfriend, and our relationship.

[Angie G]

That's some thing we must chance if we go outside hun. if she don't say anything Just let it go :hugs:
Angie

[June Campbell]

I go into my back yard to hang out the washing or sit on the patio to eat lunch en femme. So I might get caught, life goes on. Chances are from a distance, unless you are built like Charles Atlas, they probably won't realise either, it is me, and that it is a guy ( I hope).

June

[nikitataylor0210]

happened to me too when i lived in an apt. complex... my neighbor was loitering around my car and I was doing the usual quick dash for the car, when she looked right at me and i just said hi how are u etc etc... in my girly voice... next day she saw me and said, i met your sister yesterday... :) lol i was like "oh yea! she told me.." lolllll

it was dark at night of course... true story! :)

[victoriamwilliams1]

I have been caught twice by my neighbors and asked about it once and thats when I lived in an apartment. We talked about it and I said it was "Research" I recently ran into her at a store and restaurant an I looked pretty manly on those days (it was not a clean face day).

[Paula Siemen]

Proably not too great a problem.............Her eyesight probably sucks and your were just a blurr that she didn't quite recognise. We often give to much credence to what we think people actually see. Just look at the number of unjustly convicted persons based upon an eye witness accounts sitting in prisons. Most times, if you are not a trained professional at paying attention to detail, a quick glance at an object or person does not really register in our minds that well. Your neighbor is likely just a bit confused at what she thinks she saw??? and possibly thinks she dreamed it tomorro. Anyway, by tomorro she won't remenber the incident at all!