Cant sleep

[cre19035]

I need to tell someone i like to wear dresses.

Who should i tell?

Mom
Step-mom

and how should i tell them

[Wen4cd]

Do they really need to know?

[eleventhdr]

Yes well you can tell most of us sisters we are with you!. I like to wear dresses and skirts also!.

[Dallas]

I'm not gonna try to talk you out of it, or debate the issue. If you feel you must tell someone, consider who you would least like to know about 'this little activity' and tell them. At least then the worst is out of the way and if you feel the need to go further it is all down hill from there.

I would tell them while we are bonding. You stand the best chance of acceptance then.

Wen - I don't think you got it; this isn't about people needing to know, its about us needing to talk.

[Wen4cd]

Wen - I don't think you got it; this isn't about people needing to know, its about us needing to talk.

I definitely understand the need to talk, but disclosing to parental figures is an extremely sensitive and icky business, for all the obvious reasons.

1. This is one thing that's truly 'none of their business.'

2. Parents, aside from everybody else in the world, are the ones most likely to be very hurt by disclosing to them. Your parents cannot be objectice on this matter, and it's not fair to expect them to, or to burden them with this trial.

3. The temptation to tell parents is only serving a need for justification or acceptance. And they can't give it to you. You have to accept it yourself, or else not do it, or get help to stop if you think it's bad.

Unless you're dressing in front of them, or intend to live as a woman full-time, there is no real reason to tell parents your personal business.

If you need to talk with someone in your life, you should do it with someone you will live with as an adult-- your partner, friends, your adult family. They are the people who will have to live with you. They are people who need to know.

I hope this doesn't offend anyone, I just strongly feel that disclosure to someone affects the person you tell in ways that most of us don't consider, when we're feeling the need to do it. It goes beyond just 'accepting or rejecting' and puts others in an uncomfortable position that they probably don't want to be in.

Is it right for us to go around 'testing' others' personalities like this, for the sake of our own feelings? I know it comes back again to the 'choice or born-as' debate, but regardless of that, we can choose to consider the feelings of others, especially the people who raised us since we were babies.

Wen

[eleventhdr]

Yes well if and when you are talking about parents and the like the less they know or try to understand why you want to dress and be like a girl then that is none of there busniess most parents will never understand this at all but it in a very lot of cases is there own fault> but you can or never would be able to make them understand this so just go right ahead and be who and what you want to be and if this includes dressing in female clothing then so be it. There is nothing worng with this as most everone still seems to think it is high time society get over this ythat there is. People got to be who and what they realy are!.

[Darby]

Cre, Before you say anything to anyone (except us of course), got to:http://www.geocities.com/WestHollywood/5885/howtotell.html
There are a few things to decide on.
If you can't sleep, do what I do... get comfy in something slinky.