Just told my mom

[Jamie S.]

My parents stopped by San Antonio earlier today after I told my mom this weekend that I needed to start seeing a psychiatrist for my severe anxiety and depression, which I do. I told them that I had other issues but couldn't go into them. They were very supportive of my decision to seek treatment. I just got off the phone with my mom, where I finally broke down and told her that I'm transexual.

Needless to say, I was terrified. I had been dreading this moment all my life and today it was just too much to bear.

She loves me and says she supports me 100%, that I should persue whatever it is that will make me happy in my life. She said that she more or less started to realize what my problem was when I wouldn't tell my father earlier today what all my problems were. She'd known of my CD'ing in my younger years and pretty much guessed what was eating away at me over the phone after a few minutes.

We've decided to keep this from my father for now. Who is a very loving man but isn't exactly very open-minded.

So far this week is looking pretty good, I'm out to my mom and she accepts me and loves me unconditionally and Obama might just become the next president (unrelated but it makes me happy).

:D

[Zenith]

That is a big step Jamie...I hope it helps BOTH of you. Told you your family loves you...:hugs:

[Mariah]

grads! I know that is the hardest part to start at.

Mariah

[gagirl1]

Congrats, Jamie! I'm so happy for you!

[StaceyJane]

I think it's wonderful. Coming out is really the first step.

Stacey

[VeronicaMoonlit]

I just got off the phone with my mom, where I finally broke down and told her that I'm transexual.

Needless to say, I was terrified. I had been dreading this moment all my life and today it was just too much to bear.

I told my mother and sister that I wasn't just "transgendered" but wanted to transition just a month ago. I basically wrote a letter, which I won't post full here, but just the beginning:



This is the letter I've been wanting to write, but dreading to write for a long time. I've been wanting to say things, but have been too scared to do it.

What you did, was brave, very brave. And I think in small ways, you (and I) will start to feel better, don't you think? Bit by bit?

Veronica
Rondelle (Ron) Rogers Jr.

[MJ]

Congratulations Jamie. it sure helps to have someone in your corner. Evan better because it's your mother :hugs:

[Jillt]

brave girl good for you

[Miss Tessa]

That is almost exactly what happened how my parents figured it all out.


Not only had they known I regularly wear makeup and sometimes femininte jewely and clothing before transition, but they also knew I had alot of transgender friends. And they knew I made hints all the time about it.

And around that time of transition I was telling them I needed appointments with my psychiatrist in the middle of the month when I didn't even need prescription refills, telling them I had important things to talk to him about.

My mom asked me one day in the car, "Are you a transvestite?"
I said, "Heck no!!! I hate transvestites because they usually look and act ridiculous and make transsexuals look bad! And most ignorant, uneducated people missuse the two words interchangably like you just did."

So there was alot of hints I dropped. Also they would find clothes and wigs at my house when I would invite mom mother or father and sister over for dinner.But I told them they were my transgendered friends which was true since some of the stuff belonged to my friends anyway.


One important thing.....If you live close enough where you can meet your family members in person.....Do not come out of the closet on the phone. You need to be together so reactions can be understood better and hugs can be given!

[GypsyKaren]

Jamie, I'm very happy for you, I know how hard it was to do. Loved ones for the most part want to be in your corner, you just have to give them the chance.

Karen Starlene :star:

[Kayla Shadows]

Im very happy for you as well Jamie.Glad your mom is supportive.It must be a big relief after being so scared to say it

[Jamie S.]

Like I told Zenith, It was like looking at a huge band-aid on a really hairy leg and not wanting to remove it because of the pain that would likely be caused. The anticipation of pain and heartbreak was to much to bear at times. Yesterday I just couldn't take it anymore, so I just broke down and told her. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Now I just have to tell everyone else, oy vey!

[TxKimberly]

Yeah Moms are kind of cool that way! Congrats to you that you had the courage to tell her. :)

[Kaitlyn Michele]

congrats sweetie..

i told my mom and sister about 6 months ago...now i tell my dad...soon i keep saying...

i know how much of a lift this can be and remember you are asking your mom to bear some of that weight for you..

in my case, it took some time before mymom stopped tryng to convince me to stop "being a transsexual"...if only it was that easy!! lol