Ive finally made my descision

[Joanna-Louise]

Hey Ladies, Gents...

My recent split from Kim85 has sent a number of random amount of confusion to us both.

As some of you are aware Kim85 has been a very loving and supporting SO of the fact that I am a cd, but has also known my desire to become a woman.

Around 7 years ago I started looking into GRS, but due to my family not liking the idea i decided the choice wsa not the correct one.

7 Years later ive decided, even tho my family still won't 100% approve, this is something I need to do.

SO id like to introduce myself as Joanna-Louise. Not a cd but as a ts.

Im planning on speaking to my GP later this month once ive finally got my head round living my "out of work life, including socialising as Joanna" about HRT and where I go from here.

If anyone has any thoughts or is in the same position id love to hear back from you.

Love and Hugs

Joanna
xx
:hugs:

[Jessicaparkson]

I'm in somewhat the same position. I lost my SO recently to my decision to transition. My family is (with the exception of my grandmother) completely nonsupportive. I began seeing my counselor today so we're going to get this going. A pleasure to meet you by the way. Best of wishes to you hun :)

[Steph Butterfield]

Hi Joanna,

Coming to terms with yourself is one of the hardest steps we can make on our journey, and the fact that you have is something to be proud of. Families will always find it difficult, but not all will abandon their loved ones, I wish you well.

If you ever want to chat, as I am quite a way on my journey in the UK, don't hesitate to message me.

xx

Stephanie

[morgan51]

sorry to hear of your split with the s.o. I know first hand how difficult being ts is and wish you all the best.some family can accept and some never will you just take care of you and be true to yourself this board is a great source of support keep talking. Morgan

[Miss Tessa]

I'm very proud of you for coming to terms with being TS.

Alot of TS still hold on to the thought they are just a Crossdresser.

Alot of CD's are more like TS but they are too cowardly of accepting the perils of transitioning or even accepting their own true selves

[Suzy Harrison]

It is a difficult decision to make, but in many ways you have no choice. If like me, you feel that way, then you can't pretend forever. Of course it would be less trouble in the short term to leave things as they are - but in being a TS you will never be happy you if don't make the change.

When you see your GP do it enfemme if you can and dress appropriately. If you always present that way to the GPs, Gender Therapists and Endocrinologist then they will take you very seriously and this will make your journey easier and quicker.

That is the approach I have taken and as a result things have moved smoothly for me.

Good luck on your special journey !

:hugs: Suzy

[GypsyKaren]

Hi Joanna

I'm sorry about the split but I do understand how you feel, it is a difficult decision and step forward to make. I hope things go well for you, remember that we're always here, and let me know if I can help you with any questions about having GRS. :hugs:

Karen Starlene :star:

[Kayla Shadows]

Im very sorry about the breakup but Im happy to hear that you decided to go with your feelings.It is a very difficult decision.Its easy to keep things as they are but sometimes the easy way isnt the right way for some of us.I wish you the best

[Sharon]

I'm happy for you, Joanna, in that you are now aware that sacrifices do not need to always be made by the transgendered person alone. You have done all you could for seven years in trying to suppress your needs for the benefit of others -- now it is your time! :)

Good luck to you and don't be hesitant to reach out to others. :hugs:

[Donnadcd]

My wife recently found out about me recently. At that point, I was totally honest - to the point where I told her I'd transition in a second if I could. She has not taken it well, and I really don't think we'll ever really work it out. I really think it's going to mean the end of 23 years of marriage.

But I also told her that this is who I am, and I can't change that, or hide from it. At least she seemed to agree with that point.

I have my first psych consult on Tuesday. My hope is that he recommends that I begin transitioning. I've had these feelings for over 38 years now, so I don't think he's going to tell me something I have already wrestled with in my mind.

As far as my wife - I am trying my best to give her the room she needs to deal with this. I am hoping we can talk more about it at length - and hopefully there's a chance we can work it out.

[Joanna-Louise]

Thanks ladies for all your suport and advice. Ive done a multiquote reply so i cant get told off for post pumping lol


I'm very proud of you for coming to terms with being TS.

Alot of TS still hold on to the thought they are just a Crossdresser.

Alot of CD's are more like TS but they are too cowardly of accepting the perils of transitioning or even accepting their own true selves

Iv tried to stop dressing for yeras, in the fear that it will always bring me back to this point in life. I firmly belive there is a fine line between being a cd/ts, but then i also belive if you have always looked at yourself as a little girl, wanting to wear pretty dresses and look beautiful in your teen years then being a cd will soon lead to our ts feelings being brought into the limelight. While ive come to terms (finally with who i am), i belive this is the way forward for me to go. Thanks for the reply hun :hugs:




It is a difficult decision to make, but in many ways you have no choice. If like me, you feel that way, then you can't pretend forever. Of course it would be less trouble in the short term to leave things as they are - but in being a TS you will never be happy you if don't make the change.

When you see your GP do it enfemme if you can and dress appropriately. If you always present that way to the GPs, Gender Therapists and Endocrinologist then they will take you very seriously and this will make your journey easier and quicker.

That is the approach I have taken and as a result things have moved smoothly for me.

Good luck on your special journey !

:hugs: Suzy



Thanks for the luck hun, Im going to need it lol. I would love nothing more than to go dressed, but the problem i have at the moment is i drive buses in the west sussex / sussex asreas and have done for the past 5 years. Walking through town as him i get looks from ppl as where have i seen you before, so to go to the docs first time en - femme could cause problems at work.

I plan to go the docs in 2 weeks time, Dispite the Split Kim85 said she'd come with me for support, she is being a true friend to me and looking forward to all the girly days out (and nights out lol)...

My plan for seeing the councillor is by the time i get reffered my hair would have grown to an exceptable length so i can get it styled as i want it, my other plan is to look for work as Joanna, obviously ill need to change my name and be up front and honest with my plans in the hope the new employer will be understanding with needs for time off work for surgery as the time comes.





Hi Joanna

I'm sorry about the split but I do understand how you feel, it is a difficult decision and step forward to make. I hope things go well for you, remember that we're always here, and let me know if I can help you with any questions about having GRS. :hugs:

Karen Starlene :star:

Lol ill bear that in mind hun, ill prob be emailing you lots :heehee:xxx


I'm happy for you, Joanna, in that you are now aware that sacrifices do not need to always be made by the transgendered person alone. You have done all you could for seven years in trying to suppress your needs for the benefit of others -- now it is your time!

Good luck to you and don't be hesitant to reach out to others. :hugs:
Thank you hunni means alot at this time :hugs:


Im very sorry about the breakup but Im happy to hear that you decided to go with your feelings.It is a very difficult decision.Its easy to keep things as they are but sometimes the easy way isnt the right way for some of us.I wish you the best

Thanks hunni xxx:hugs:


My wife recently found out about me recently. At that point, I was totally honest - to the point where I told her I'd transition in a second if I could. She has not taken it well, and I really don't think we'll ever really work it out. I really think it's going to mean the end of 23 years of marriage.

But I also told her that this is who I am, and I can't change that, or hide from it. At least she seemed to agree with that point.

I have my first psych consult on Tuesday. My hope is that he recommends that I begin transitioning. I've had these feelings for over 38 years now, so I don't think he's going to tell me something I have already wrestled with in my mind.

As far as my wife - I am trying my best to give her the room she needs to deal with this. I am hoping we can talk more about it at length - and hopefully there's a chance we can work it out.

I wish you luck hun, would be good if you could let me know how it goes and the path you take whilst you begin to tranisiton. :hugs:


Thanks for the support. Can't wait to come back and let you all know whats happning.

Take care ladies

Joanna

:hugs:

[Shelly Preston]

Hi Joanna

Good luck with this journey :hugs:

I wish you every happiness

[ggtracy]

You are a lucky person. Its obvious that Kim85 loves you very much. Just remember that this is going to be her journey too. Share it with her and your relationship may evolve into something stronger than you ever thought possible. I wish you both the best.

[Joanna-Louise]

You are a lucky person. Its obvious that Kim85 loves you very much. Just remember that this is going to be her journey too. Share it with her and your relationship may evolve into something stronger than you ever thought possible. I wish you both the best.

Thanks hunni :hugs::love:

[Lisa Golightly]

Bon chance mon ami...