After Halloween dress up, people suspect

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

That I am a crossdresser. Still have not taken off my bright red glue on nails yet and part of my makeup I used mascara to highlight what little eye brows I had. This simple new trick I've learned has improved my look in my opinion. But people say I am changing into a different person, a woman. They asked outright, "Are you a Crossdresser?" I wasn't ready for that question, but I didn't say yes, I didn't say no. So I think the cats out of the bag somewhat.

Have any of my sisters experienced this problem? How did you deal with it, or should I just fess up and say "yes I am, so what." Would really like to know what you all did or said.. :battingeyelashes:

[Jennie CD]

:love: I have not experienced the coming out part - even for Halloween except for the party that I went to while in the Navy - and that was many many years ago. When I finally do make that walk down the street and around the corner, I promise to come here and let you know. I am sure I will get glances - but who cares - I am me.

Jennie

[Shelly Preston]

It does sound like they know and are only looking for confirmation
Only you will know if telling friends is a good or bad thing

You have to consider if it will have any real impact on your life if you tell them

[Brina Halloween]

Well...after 3 Halloweens, I am probably in the same position, except I only have pink nail polish on my toes now. So far no one I know from dancing has outright asked. A cashier at a McDonald's in Chicago did ask on Halloween but, I am not sure a stranger counts. Only white person in the entire busy place, felt just a little out of place and she asks if it is Halloween or my thing....it is also a little hard to grow eyebrows back in 3 days too :D

edit: definitely consider carefully before telling people. Reactions can vary wildly.

Brina

[VeronicaMoonlit]

Still have not taken off my bright red glue on nails yet and part of my makeup I used mascara to highlight what little eye brows I had. TBut people say I am changing into a different person, a woman. They asked outright, "Are you a Crossdresser?" I wasn't ready for that question, but I didn't say yes, I didn't say no. So I think the cats out of the bag somewhat.


Well if you left your glue on nails on and used mascara to define your brows AFTER Halloween, of course people are going to ask. Because a guy who only did those things for Halloween would have taken the nails off and not defined the brows.

Asking if you're a crossdresser doesn't mean they think you're changing into a different person, they're just asking directly if you're a crossdresser.

Veronica
Rondelle (Ron) Rogers Jr.

[Nicole Erin]

Have any of my sisters experienced this problem? How did you deal with it, or should I just fess up and say "yes I am, so what." Would really like to know what you all did or said.. :battingeyelashes:

I didn't have time for each person but for a few of the folks I worked with, I made sure they knew I was CD and not just on halloween.
I am not shy about it.

Once you get out of the closet people get over it pretty fast...

Just casually say something like "I have other outfits like that one but I think the one I wore on halloween was one of the nicer ones..." and don't be snickering or smiling, be as serious as you can.

I just talk about my CD'ing like it is no big deal, with the same indifference I would discuss my car insurance policy.

In short - tell them "Yes".
And then be ready for the normal questions -
"Do you do it all the time?"
"What does your GF/wife think?"
"Do you like men?"
"How much wood could a wood chuck chuck if a wood chuck could chuck wood?

Wait a second....
hmmm...
Pepsi anyone?

[Brandiwvr]

hmm i am going out more often and have joined a local alliance group. remember trans week is real close. good way but keep it simple sweety. they can only absorb so much at a time. you could fase in you "so to speek", and this is my over all goal.

[Daphne Renee]

That I am a crossdresser. Still have not taken off my bright red glue on nails yet and part of my makeup I used mascara to highlight what little eye brows I had. This simple new trick I've learned has improved my look in my opinion. But people say I am changing into a different person, a woman. They asked outright, "Are you a Crossdresser?" I wasn't ready for that question, but I didn't say yes, I didn't say no. So I think the cats out of the bag somewhat.

Have any of my sisters experienced this problem? How did you deal with it, or should I just fess up and say "yes I am, so what." Would really like to know what you all did or said.. :battingeyelashes:

well.. if the cats out of the bag so to speak . really the only thing left to do is deal with it. I imagine it would be difficult but if people already know trying to deny it probably wouldnt help. It is obviously your decision what to do at this point. It is my opnion in this case the so what response would be somewhat appropriate.

[Bethany_Anne_Fae]

Once you get out of the closet people get over it pretty fast...
I just talk about my CD'ing like it is no big deal, with the same indifference I would discuss my car insurance policy.



Yep, its all about ones attitude and presentation! Positive and normal everyday attitudes can go a long way for all of us in the long run

Well done!

Zara

[Teri Jean]

This past weekend was one that I will not forget either. It was so much fun I stayed dressed for the weekend and on Sunday I took an afternoon nap in the recliner. After a half hour or so the doorbell rang and I quickly answered the door without thinking to find a co-worker. She was doing door knocking for the upcoming elections. Oooooooops, I told her that I was heading to an after halloween party and was going to finish dressing after the nap. Did she buy it or seen through the smoke, that is to be seen. I know when I seen her at work she looked closer to my attire. Again ooooooooops.
Keli

[carolinewalker_2000]

As you decided to leave on your nails and some make-up after Halloween, it seems to me that you must, at least subconciously, be ready to come out. I'd own up and enjoy the enhanced opportunities to dress that will follow. Good luck.

[Vicky_Scot]

Hi Kimberly

Let them assume what they want. It has nothing to do with them.

Live your life as you see fit. We are only here for a short time so enjoy your life and to hell with what the nosey BLEEPS think.

That is the problem in society today. Everyone is so busy taking an interest in everybody elses lives instead of checking their own is in order.

Xx Vicky xX

[Katheryn]

Have any of my sisters experienced this problem? How did you deal with it, or should I just fess up and say "yes I am, so what." Would really like to know what you all did or said.. :battingeyelashes:

After one Halloween, my 13 year old (at the time) niece said to my sister on the drive home "That dressing up is more than just for Halloween, isn't it?"

My sister said yes it was. My niece said "cool".

A few weeks ago my niece (now 18) told me I'm her favorite aunt. How cool was that!

Kate

[Angel.Marie76]

I think this is an occasion for what I call the "that old thing" response. (You know, like when a husband asks his wife what her new dress cost and she replies: "What, that old thing? I've had it ages")

It works like this: somebody says "are you a cross-dresser?" and you reply: "Me? Good Lord, yes. Didn't you know? Have been since I was a kid. Anyway, as I was saying..."

In other words, you (pretend to) take it so much for granted that the status quo shifts in your direction - you become the norm. The conversation goes on from there on your terms.

You might try it.

I LOVE that idea. :D It sounds like something I would say if I ever decided to out myself.

Someday this may be a worry I have at work too.. Though, as was said earlier, if you went and left on makeup and accessories for the next time 'of' work, then you're asking to be outed. Best of luck and wishes in the endeavor!

[kimmy p]

Let's see.... skirts three out of the last four years, a better job each year, cleavage this year so believable that one lady friend asked "where did you get those"? Followed by another friend saying "I think that they're real:eek:"! Yeah, people are most likely suspicious. I really don't care, my friends are not treating me any different.

[Kimmie]

Hell if any of my buddies gave me grief. I'd tell them "dude I just did that so you'd have that picture in your head for a long time. God its fun fu--ing with you"

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

I think that when the subject comes up again I will non chalantly say yes, I've been for years and say so what. I want to thank you all for wonderful advice.. :battingeyelashes:

[obsessedwithpantyhose]

when people ask me i tell them the truth :D

tell them how much you hate lables and that you are a human being :love: