chrissie-h
11-04-2008, 04:52 PM
It's a real problem sharing our desires with other people. I often think that our friends and colleagues probably suspect a lot more than they let on. I work as a civilian in a military environment and I'm sure two or three work colleagues are secret crossdressers. And I'm equally sure some colleagues suspect that I could be one too!
I've only recently accepted my own feelings and would like to be more open about who I am. I'm just wondering to what extent you need to be comfortable about how you feel and look as a woman, before opening up to anyone? I think many of us 'girls' get a bad reaction from friends and family because when we are first trying out our female 'look', it's a bit like a little girl trying on her mummy's clothes, make-up, and heels for the first time. Unfortunately for us, a little girl simply looks cute in the public eye ... a mature man just looks embarassing! Many years ago, I had to spend a week at a big electronics fair in Geneva. (The Italia Telecom women were absolutely gorgeous ... short skirts and long legs clad in slinky sheer black nylon. Boy ... was I envious! But that's another story!) I will always remember on the Sunday, when the fair was open to the general public, two crossdressers appeared on the scene. They were dressed in amazing cat-walk frocks and sexy high heels. They were obviously men, but because they were dressed so well, I didn't see anyone laughing or smirking behind their backs. Everybody was just amazed at their self-confidence and their look.
I'm not saying we 'girls' need to look like cat-walk models to be accepted. But I'm just wondering to what extent the reaction we get is a function of how acceptable our look is in the public eye and how comfortable we are personally with that look?
I've only recently accepted my own feelings and would like to be more open about who I am. I'm just wondering to what extent you need to be comfortable about how you feel and look as a woman, before opening up to anyone? I think many of us 'girls' get a bad reaction from friends and family because when we are first trying out our female 'look', it's a bit like a little girl trying on her mummy's clothes, make-up, and heels for the first time. Unfortunately for us, a little girl simply looks cute in the public eye ... a mature man just looks embarassing! Many years ago, I had to spend a week at a big electronics fair in Geneva. (The Italia Telecom women were absolutely gorgeous ... short skirts and long legs clad in slinky sheer black nylon. Boy ... was I envious! But that's another story!) I will always remember on the Sunday, when the fair was open to the general public, two crossdressers appeared on the scene. They were dressed in amazing cat-walk frocks and sexy high heels. They were obviously men, but because they were dressed so well, I didn't see anyone laughing or smirking behind their backs. Everybody was just amazed at their self-confidence and their look.
I'm not saying we 'girls' need to look like cat-walk models to be accepted. But I'm just wondering to what extent the reaction we get is a function of how acceptable our look is in the public eye and how comfortable we are personally with that look?