Here's the sit rep, Your at a bar dressed,and a man ask's you to dance,your not gay..

[Christina Horton]

What do you do. This has not happened to me, bucause I have not gone to a bar. (Also I am not pretty enough to be asked) And I am not gay, but I think ( what would I do if ,say, alot of men where asking me to dance. I don't dance as a man ( I don't think I can very well), But it might be intersing to try once. I am a very open minded person open to all things , Or I would like to think so. lets try this.

1. Would you do it




2. What would you say to let him down gracefully.





3. How far would you go if you did.





If I had the chance I think I would chicken out the frist time. Unless I was with a group of girls that eurged me to do it and see what it's like. Like I said I just don't Know? what do you think.:hugs::canada:

[StaceyJane]

If there was no chance of danger I would dance. It would be fun to be treated like a lady. :)

Stacey :)

[avril findlay]

Dancings fine, I've no problems dancing with a guy or with another girl whatever gender she is.

[trisha59]

I can't dance at all, so it's a moot point for me. But as long as it is a hypothetical, if asked, I would dance if it were to a fast song. It might take a little talking or more drinks to do a slow one. But as long as he's buying...

[DeborahAnne]

Pleased to say I have had this one when on a TV holiday and an admirer has asked me for a dance. Luckily I did learn to dance as a girl and remembered left foot back and follow not lead and remember dance on your toes not on your heels.
Otherwise its just dance with your girlfriends in a circle around your handbags on the floor.

[AliciaWeb]

If there was no danger I'd dance, it would be nice to be led in a slow dance for a change and I think I could cope with anything else.
Chance would be nice at my age.

Alicia

[Jodi]

It has happened to me on many occasions. I am not into men. I just smile and say "no thank you".

Jodi

[rickie121x]

Oh, god... dancing. I have tried but I cannot follow...

It was sooo awkward!

[Jessicaparkson]

I've been dancing ballroom en male for a while now and am learning the female side of it. As for a night club? I think I'd be a dismal failure. To answer your question. There is no way in heck I'd be asked but in the odd chance of being so I think I'd accept. Just keep those hand where I can see them.

[Vieja]

Christina, Dance or don't dance but if you decide to dance you should be certain that he knows you are not a GG. If he doesn't know and doesn't care for CDs things could get pretty ugly.

Vieja

[Desiree2bababe]

My first time with a man started with him asking me to dance. I too didn't dance in drab but it came so easy with heels and a dress. I adored being held as we danced.

[valenstein]

I have a few times, as long as I got a good vibe. Most of those times I was already out on the floor. It's not a big deal to me. On the flipside, there was a time or two when a guy came on to me at the bar, and I could tell he had no interest in dancing, so out to the floor I went. Problem solved.

Most times I've gone dancing, it's one big crpwded sea of people, so actually dancing "with" someone doesn't happen a lot.

I do remember dancing with a GG at a bar one time, we had danced together through one song and she hopped up on one of the risers (room enough for two people) and I joined her. Fun night.

[sometimes_miss]

Nope. Unless you decide to try 'joining the other team', you're just asking for trouble; because very, very few men would ask anyone to dance unless they're physically attracted to them; the situation isn't one where it's a social event, and you 'mix' with everyone just to be friendly. A bar is a setting to pick someone up, and he's trying to do that to you.

[Deborah Jane]

1. Would you do it

Possibly, if i was very drunk :drink:


2. What would you say to let him down gracefully.

I think we,ve got more in common than you realise mate ;) [Said in my best Bob Hoskins voice]



3. How far would you go if you did.

Once around the dancefloor :heehee:



If I had the chance I think I would chicken out the frist time. Unless I was with a group of girls that eurged me to do it and see what it's like. Like I said I just don't Know? what do you think.:hugs::canada:

But if a GG asked me to dance while i was dressed en femme, i,d jump at the chance :daydreaming:

[KellyCD]

1. Would you do it

I have yes, I enjoyed it as well.


2. What would you say to let him down gracefully.

I'm sorry but I'm not really the dancing type



3. How far would you go if you did.

Well, that night ended up with me giving lap dances. I felt like I was on top of the world...and I had quite a bit of liquid courage in me.:o

[Marissa Mae]

What do you do. This has not happened to me, bucause I have not gone to a bar. (Also I am not pretty enough to be asked) And I am not gay, but I think ( what would I do if ,say, alot of men where asking me to dance. I don't dance as a man ( I don't think I can very well), But it might be intersing to try once. I am a very open minded person open to all things , Or I would like to think so. lets try this.

1. Would you do it

I would say "no", unless it was with someone I knew, and they knew it was a platonic event. I would most definitely dance with a GG though :D Regardless though, I think I would look like a drunk emu out there haha




2. What would you say to let him down gracefully.

Most guys will feel a bit put off if you deny them (as we well know), so this is a tricky one... more than likely I would just flat out say "no, sorry, I can't dance", while smiling as genuinely as possible. If he is persistent, I then introduce my girlfriend and say that she would love to dance! :devil:





3. How far would you go if you did.

If I were to dance... nothing closer than a hand on the hip, in front of me (no grinding!!!) But I wouldn't stay out there for more than one song





If I had the chance I think I would chicken out the frist time. Unless I was with a group of girls that eurged me to do it and see what it's like. Like I said I just don't Know? what do you think.:hugs::canada:

I am in the same boat as you (ie. not gay), and do realize that there will be times when we are confronted with situations such as this, be it asked to dance, or buy a drink, or hit on etc. Depending on where you are, it's almost expected, so you gotta take it in stride: be honest, be up front, and be courteous :) If all else fails, offer to buy him a drink and then afterwards gracefully excuse yourself to the ladie's room :thumbsup:

[Billie_P]

1. Would you do it? Depending on the particular individual, I would.




2. What would you say to let him down gracefully? "No, but thank you for asking."





3. How far would you go if you did? One, maybe two dances but that's it. I wouldn't want to put the wrong idea in his mind.

[PrettyFlowingGown]

If he was'nt drunk or had'nt had a few drinks, I'd do it for sure. I've actually imagined this. I'd love to be in a beautiful dress at a bar, and a cute guy comes over and says "Would you like to dance". I'd be flattered. Would I say no? I doubt it, but I'm bi though, so I'd have no probs.

[Nicki B]

Of course - it's just a dance? :strugglin

I have done, many times. It's never gone further than that (other than chatting) because I'm not into guys and I'm deeply married.

But dancing is an enjoyable, social activity - and just another way of expressing your femininity?


Nope. Unless you decide to try 'joining the other team', you're just asking for trouble; because very, very few men would ask anyone to dance unless they're physically attracted to them; the situation isn't one where it's a social event, and you 'mix' with everyone just to be friendly. A bar is a setting to pick someone up, and he's trying to do that to you.

Well, he may be expressing an interest - but you're not 'asking for trouble', unless you do want it to go further? You don't ever have to do anything you don't want to? :idontknow:

In general, men don't leap on you and attempt to shag your brains out unless you give them plenty of encouragement?

Women have a lot of power - just learn how to use it.. :battingeyelashes:

[TGMarla]

I've never been in that situation, and if I were, I'd say no and leave it at that. I have no desire to dance with, or be with men in any kind of male/female situation.

[unclejoann]

I would be read straight away.
I would say yes and dance all night.
I would go all the way.

[Nicole Erin]

Yeah if he wasn't some creepazoid.
If I didn't want to, I would just be like "Not right now but thanks for asking".
How far would I go? You mean like on the floor or going home with him?
Well let us just say that horizontal dancing would not be part of the plan.

[GabrielleS]

Lets see -- what would I do.

Well, I've never been much of a dancer as a guy; can't lead, etc. So, I would certainly want to see if I could follow. Actually, I think that it would be a lot of fun.

Yep, I would definitely go for it ;-}

But going any farther, guess I would have to see when the time comes.

Anyhow, lets just rock and roll,

Gaby

[Kerrylee61]

My first time with a man started with him asking me to dance. I too didn't dance in drab but it came so easy with heels and a dress. I adored being held as we danced.

I love to dance in either personna. To dance in heels and following instead of leading is heavenly for me. It's so nice to be treated like a lady in this way. Dance with a man or woman is fine with me. I've never had a problem when out in that way.

Kerry Lee

[Angie G]

First I'd let him know I'm a man. And if he says so I'd dance but let him know that all that's happening.:hugs:
Angie

[lari]

I would dance without a second thought

[Brina Halloween]

I didn't get asked this year but, it did happen twice last year....then I spoke and they realized. It was kind of funny since I was talking to ladies about dressing each time. The one dance I did with a guy, he did not bother to ask. He knew when he grabbed me though. Usually the guy starts with the left and the lady the right...

Brina

[CharleneT]

Unless I was already worn out, I would dance with him. What's a dance anyway ? Just a quick turn on the floor with another person for fun. I've danced with many men, while dressed, who had no intention of coming on to me. They just wanted to dance with me (I'm a pretty good dancer).

GO FOR IT! Life is short, enjoy it.

C.

[MJ]

First I'd let him know I'm a man. then if he is still OK i would dance . hell i would give him a kiss too. and after that well ..i claim the fifth

[Ashlyee Paige]

If he is cute no problem! If you are not interested just politely decline, I dont get asked alot by guys but lesbians ask me to dance ALOT and I have a blast :> just fun to dance with anyone, I dont like to go out on the floor alone so I usually dance when someone asks.

[trannie T]

If he wasn't creepy or drunk it might be fun.

[Jocelyn Renee]

My wife and I go to a friend's club near our home once or twice a week and I spend the majority of my time on the dance floor. Throughout the night I end up dancing with pretty much everyone there - male and female. Everyone knows us so I have no problems with people trying to take things too far. It's just good time. From time to time I have found myself in situation where men I do not know hit on me. I just let them know my situation up front and make sure they don't get the wrong idea.

[Mitzi]

I posted this awhile back...apropos this thread...

"Another story from the past, maybe to be shared vicariously by those who have yet to step out...

Back in the 80's, I was at a T-bar (en femme) in Los Angeles nursing a drink. In walks a "gurl", looking all the world like a soccer mom all dressed up for a coctail party. She says let's go to this straight country western bar in the Valley. Okay, so we drive there, take a swig from a flask she'd carried to bolster our nerves, then went in.

There were several guys at the bar, and a few couples sitting at tables. All eyes were on us as we walked in. We order drinks and nervously chat. After a bit, one of the guys at the bar walks over and asks me to dance. Umm, thanks, but I'm not much of a dancer. Okay, so he retreats back to the bar. But he comes back after awhile, come on, dance with me... well, why don't you dance with my friend. Okay, so they get on the dance floor and shake their booties. Then he comes back again...please dance with me...oh, okay...so we get on the floor, I wiggle my tush a bit, half way through the number he realizes I really am a lousy dancer and politely escorts me back to our table. No body bothered us after that. They probably figured we were lesbians."

Mitzi

[marny]

Dancing is fun! But it would have to be another girl for me.

[Bethany_Anne_Fae]

1. Would you do it
If it were at a RenFaire, YES and I have many many times, but its a much more controlled environment than say a nightclub where I would never do so. Too many creeps getting the wrong ideas when you start off this way.

2. What would you say to let him down gracefully.

"No thank you, my boyfriend gets REALLY jealous"

3. How far would you go if you did.

No slow dancing or anything involving touch.

That about sums it up for me :)

*hugs*

Zarabeth

[sterling12]

It is two to five minutes out of your life....not a big deal. Virtually all of the clubs I go into these days, your not going to have to do a slow dance, or even get touched!

You will probably be dancing "free-style," and aside from feeling "like a hamster in a blender," (Cause', that's how you will look;) it's not likely your going to run into any problems.

Take it as a compliment, and when your deciding; try to remember how it felt for your male-self asking a female to dance. Rejection, no matter how nicely put, really hurts!

Peace and Love, Joanie

[CD Susan]

I do not dance with anyone under any circumstances. I just do not like dancing. I usually avoid places where people dance to avoid a situation like this.

[Deidra Cowen]

1. Would you do it
I have danced with guys a bunch...usually at gay clubs but also at some fetish bondage type parties like Skin Too.



2. What would you say to let him down gracefully.
Ok where I don't dance with guys...at Straight Clubs! Thats trouble. I one time went down to Johnnys Hideaway here in Atlanta with 2 other Tgirls and a GG. Its the meat market singles bar for the over 40s crowd. Four guys came up during the night and asked me to dance...and guys hit on my Tgirl friends too. I politely told the guys I was a tranny and three of them had totally shocked looks and all but ran! One guy looked at me said "you are prettier than the real women here!" No joke he said that...made my night! I know that statement drives some crazy here but he said it not me!!! By the way I was really thin and had it going at that time...right now I would not fool anyone gotta diet again! For me being blendable (not passable you will notice) is a razor thin deal. Gotta have my weight, makeup, hairdo, cloths just perfect to pull it off.

3. How far would you go if you did.
If the guy is sweet and nice I have been known to.... LOL never mind this is a nice little forum no need to go into all that. :devil:

[LaurenRenee]

1. Would you do it

Yes, though I admit I would be nervous at first. It is one of my dreams though to have this happen to me.

2. What would you say to let him down gracefully.

If I were to turn him down I would just gently decline his sweet offer.

3. How far would you go if you did.

That all depends on how we hit it off on the dance floor. but... giggle

[Sheila]

I as a GG would say if you can do it in front of your partner (if you are in a relatiionship) then fine ,if not then there is obviously a problem just my 2 cents

[tamarav]

OK, how many of you in male mode ask a strange woman to dance? Not many from the sounds of your replies.

It is a dance, not a coupling on the dance floor. It is a social thing, which can lead to other things if YOU let it. The woman is in charge. In this scenario you are the woman. You keep the attacks at an acceptable level. When they cross that point you pull back, the guy is rejected and he goes on with his life. It ends there, if you are careful.

Learn to dance as a woman. The feeling is unbelieveable and the fun is indescribeable.

I regularly dance alone and when asked will dance with most partners, these are generally disco-type dances where people don't even touch each other. For slow dances I generally decline simply because there are no guys that I feel comfortable with squeezing me for an entire dance.

In one place there is a guy that likes to slow dance or some of the other ballroom dances and once asked me if I "Tango". He is the nicest guy and I had danced a few swing dances with before. I said yes, I do Tango and we were the only ones on the floor throughout the entire dance. Talk about conspicious! Think of Zorro and Selma Hayak. (If you haven't seen that dance, you should! Rent the movie)

Now when I walk into that club the waitstaff turns to other customers and tells them "Oh, this is the Tango dancer, I hope Ronald comes in tonight to dance with her". Not, Oh thats the crossdresser that comes in all the time.

Dance, it is fun, great exercise and you are in charge. Make friends with the bouncers and wait staff and ask for help if you need it. I have asked for help 3 times in 20 years of being out.

Dance, it's fun!

Tami

[Annaliese]

I am not gay but I have been in that position before, and I dance, when I am ask, been ask to go home with them I declined saying I was only interested in dancing, when ask for my phone number I again told them I am only interested in dancing. When I go out dancing I am out for fun and to have a great time. I do not drink so think cant get out of hand I can keep thing in my control.

Annaliese

[Danielle1960]

I'd be inclined to dance. After all it is quite a compliment. No one says or should expect that because you dance with them and or talk with them that you intend to do more. If it is a public place, have fun.
You can let him down that you boy or girlfriend is expecting you and and you can leave.

[Daphne Renee]

I probably would not dance. I cant really dance anyhow. I can a little on slow songs.

to let him down. I think I would just say no thank you.

If I did. No more than 1 song most likely.

[mikecd999]

1. Would you do it

Like almost everyone else here, it would depend on where I was at. Some bars, no way. Some places I have been no problem and I have.

2. What would you say to let him down gracefully.

"No thank you, my wife gets REALLY jealous"

3. How far would you go if you did.

Slow dancing would be ok depending again on who he is or what he looks like. And any touching would also just depend on the guy and situation. Some of my best memories have been pitching for the other team after starting off dancing with them :)

That about sums it up for me

[DonnaT]

I'd dance if I could dance, but can't dance. And that'd be as far as anything went.

[EveMarie]

Depending on his looks, I'd go for a cuty.

Let him down, girl, if I can pass that well in the first place, I wouldn't think of spoiling his moment!

So I guess I'd go as far as he wanted, as long as he knew what he was in for:heehee:

[Paulette]

I dance and make sure that he leads after I make sure he understands who is dancing with as I do not want some guy who's friends have set him to get hurt. Most of the time it has been at a gay friendly club and everyone has been very nice. I now have more respect for women when slow dancing as it critical for the male to lead so that I can follow. Like Tami says it a dance not a coupling and so most have been fun.

[jennCD]

Heck, I can't even dance in my guy shoes, let alone something with a heel! LOL


:)
jenn

[Sally24]

As others have said, unless it's a country club or a retro place, you will not be slow dancing. I dance with pretty much whoever asks. It's fun, good exercise, and good practice. You get a good chance to exercise those hips and get a better feel for your body. I mean, where else can you shake everything you've got, stare at the moves of the other women dancers, and not get in trouble. lol

I've danced with one gay guy at a club. He approached me and I sort of said "let's dance". Other than that people come and go on the dance floor. We don't really pair up, it's more a group thing with people mimicing each others moves for a time. It's one of my great joys in CDing and I wouldn't give it up for anything! Just wish the knees were a little younger.

[Kate Simmons]

Like Sally said, very little slow dancing at clubs these days. Usually I'm out there on the floor and both guys and girls come up and start dancing with me. I'll dance with anyone if they can keep up with me.:heehee:

[Christina Horton]

As others have said, unless it's a country club or a retro place, you will not be slow dancing. I dance with pretty much whoever asks. It's fun, good exercise, and good practice. You get a good chance to exercise those hips and get a better feel for your body. I mean, where else can you shake everything you've got, stare at the moves of the other women dancers, and not get in trouble. lol

I've danced with one gay guy at a club. He approached me and I sort of said "let's dance". Other than that people come and go on the dance floor. We don't really pair up, it's more a group thing with people mimicing each others moves for a time. It's one of my great joys in CDing and I wouldn't give it up for anything! Just wish the knees were a little younger.


I still can't get the guts to go to a bar dressed let alone wigle my hips. I still don't know if I would dance with man. Oh well if I find girl friends to go out with I might. But not alone. Huggs :hugs: :canada:

[Sarah...]

What do you do. This has not happened to me, bucause I have not gone to a bar. (Also I am not pretty enough to be asked) And I am not gay, but I think ( what would I do if ,say, alot of men where asking me to dance. I don't dance as a man ( I don't think I can very well), But it might be intersing to try once. I am a very open minded person open to all things , Or I would like to think so. lets try this.

1. Would you do it

Yes.


2. What would you say to let him down gracefully.


Thanks for the dance.


3. How far would you go if you did.


The dancefloor and back.


If I had the chance I think I would chicken out the frist time. Unless I was with a group of girls that eurged me to do it and see what it's like. Like I said I just don't Know? what do you think.:hugs::canada:

Sarah...

[pink femme]

Hey I'd dance.

If he thought I was that pretty I would feel like I was swept off my feet...chance to be Cinderella :daydreaming:

Wakeup Pinky:bonk:

[DameErrant]

What do you do. This has not happened to me, bucause I have not gone to a bar. (Also I am not pretty enough to be asked) And I am not gay, but I think ( what would I do if ,say, alot of men where asking me to dance. I don't dance as a man ( I don't think I can very well), But it might be intersing to try once. I am a very open minded person open to all things , Or I would like to think so. lets try this.

1. Would you do it

I have never learned to danced "backwards," and why dance if you can't be held?
:o

But if I felt that I was safe and that I would not disappoint my partner, then Yes.
:daydreaming:

2. What would you say to let him down gracefully.

Tell him the truth, that I can't dance and my feet hurt. Now, if he offers to teach me....:hugs:



3. How far would you go if you did.

Being straight, (so far,) no more than dancing. With more practice, (dancing, that is! What did you think I meant? Oh come on!) maybe on nights when I am really getting into who I am en femme, and maybe if he were really cute...

No, who am I kidding? To the dance floor and back, as one previous poster wrote.

If I had the chance I think I would chicken out the frist time. Unless I was with a group of girls that eurged me to do it and see what it's like. Like I said I just don't Know? what do you think.:hugs::canada:

I think that I also would like to try it some time, but I would have to be really sure that it was safe, maybe at a group function with lots of girlfriends for backup.

[charlie]

Like Katie B said, I have had them all. Yes, I danced, was bought a drink and asked to go home with the guy. It was fun, ego building, but I'm just not ready to be alone with a guy. Not my thing. I did enjoy the attention though!

[Julogden]

Been there quite a few times in my younger days, just smile and gently tell him no thanks, you're not into men. Unless you are, of course, then just say yes and dance the night away!

Carol :hugs:

[Jennifer Devine]

:daydreaming:1) Would you do it?

Depends on the man that asks me

2) What would you say to let him down gracefully?

I'm not the girl you think i am

3) How far would you go if you did?

If he was a gay hunk then all the way baby! I want to be treated like a lady!

[Tracey Corset]

no chance,i would be dancing with the girls,and the wife of course !!!!
i would run a mile if a man asked me to dance,if it was a cd no problem

[mklinden2010]

I'm with Kerrylee!

Dancing is dancing and only non-dancers get that mixed up with something else.

Goodness.... Next there will some question that goes:

"You're at a bar, all dressed up, you're not G-A-Y, and someone comes in and asks:

"Do you own a green Honda? Somebody just ran into it."

And, soooo, what would you do?

Goodness.

By the way, my SO and I will go dancing and we'll see, "out in the wild," CDers, etc., every now and then. We usually call people in dresses, "follows," not "sexual suspects."

Dance etiquette is that every lead dances with every follow, so, as a lead with my SO, I ask everybody. I get some funny looks - asking some of those "women." But... I get a lot of dances!

Relax people.

Sometimes an invitation to dance is just an invitation to dance.

Go, practice, enjoy...

PS

As a dancer, I too have learned at least the basics of following.

You want to see how "manly" someone is, put them to the test of actually leading you around.

If they aren't good at it, well, no more dances of any kind, eh?

[Kristen Kelly]

I love to dance so why not, I'm not planing on taking him home. I used to DJ in the late 70's and would do all the disco dances as a guy, out 1 night in a gay club a guy asked me to dance and I was itching to try the steps I knew, as a woman, alot tougher to follow than lead, he was a great dancer and was very good for I had told him I had never done this as a woman, but after a few dances I was doing great and even showed him a few moves that I knew. We recieved many compliments from those watching us. I would have loved to do it again but felt giving him any info (e-mail, phone #) would be leading him on, because he took full advantage of the turns that had me in him arms, we took a break and he offered to buy me a drink, I already had 1 and politely refused. The set changed from retro 70's to hip hop and after a few mins said his thanks and goodbye

[Karen C]

1. Would you do it

gay bar yes

straight bar no dont like gowing in them .

2. What would you say to let him down gracefully.

no thank you im waiting for a friend


3. How far would you go if you did.

I he nice looking ? I he drunk ? Do I know him ?

[Laurie909]

Many years ago I was at a Halloween party (i was dressed as a girl, natch) when a guy who was with my wife's girlfriend asked me to dance. I did, but it wasn't a slow dance. I don't think she (his girlfriend) liked it but she didn't say anything.

[claire2454]

Well good point would i dance ?

1, yes i would.

2, no need to let him down.

3, the dance will all that it would be as you say i.m not gay
(not that is a problem)

i say gav is not a problem is because i have gay (male) friends and going to their home tonight for a "DO" but not dressed.

:love:

[Ibuki_Warpetal]

I really am not much of a dancer or clubber, but...

1.
Yes, unless he was icky. No point in sitting around.

2.
"No way dude. Chicks only." Lol, gracefully.

3.
As far as I felt necessary. I don't find guys attractive but you never know.

[allisonrn06]

I have considered joining a support group and as part of their meetings they do go out to clubs. My wife has said she would go to meetings with me, and I asked her the question - what would you do if a guy hit on me or asked me to dance? I forget what her reply was exactly, but she has said she views it as a compliment when a girl flirts with me (in guy mode) and I think she said pretty much the same thing about this situation. She thought it would be funny. Don't know how I would respond, especially if it was someone who would drag me out on the dance floor. I do think it would enhance my feeling of being fem to be in this situation, but I am definitely not gay or even bi, so it would go no further.

[cindym5_04]

1. Would you do it

Sure, why not. As long as you are in a CD/TV friendly bar. Even being straight, what would it hurt- you're out as a woman right?

I think with the point of "if they're really drunk no way" is a good one- or if you get a bad vibe. Use your judgment.


2. What would you say to let him down gracefully.

I'm flattered, but no thank you.



3. How far would you go if you did.

I have a bit of an exhibitionist side to me, so (a) it depends if he's decently attractive, (b) depends on if I've been drinking. My dancing when en-femme seems to have really sexy movements (not bragging), so I might give him a little bump-n-grind action going on. Yeah, yeah, I know- those who know me know that I can be a bit of a tease. That's where it stops though. I don't go home with guys from bars.

[jaiden]

feel the same, to be treated as a woman, wonderful

[Alana65]

What do you do. This has not happened to me, bucause I have not gone to a bar. (Also I am not pretty enough to be asked) And I am not gay, but I think ( what would I do if ,say, alot of men where asking me to dance. I don't dance as a man ( I don't think I can very well), But it might be intersing to try once. I am a very open minded person open to all things. If I had the chance I think I would chicken out the frist time. Unless I was with a group of girls that eurged me to do it and see what it's like. Like I said I just don't Know? what do you think.:hugs::canada:


1. Would you do it

I can't say for sure 100%, but I would tend to say yes (as long as he was sober). It would make me feel good inside to know that a man felt I was attractive as a woman and wanted to dance with me.


2. What would you say to let him down gracefully.

See answer to previous question.


3. How far would you go if you did.

It would depend on how well he danced, how attractive he was........and whether I was sober or not :eek::heehee:

[Megan_Girl]

1. Would I? - Yes, been there dance it..... at the Oxwood. Lots of single and group dancing. I'm a dancing fool and I've been asked a few times.

2. Leting him down.... - I got a bad vibe from one guy and simply said no thank you. He moved on to the next girl.

3. How far....? - One guy wanted to dance a bit too close. I pointed my bright red acrylic tipped index finger into the middle of his chest and gently pushed as I took a step back. He smiled, put up his hands and we kept dancing. He was gentlemen and escorted me back to my chair at the end of the song.
Another fella wanted to go further than a dance..... I told him I'd have to check with my wife......... The look on his face was priceless :bitchslap:

Safety is my number 2 concern. Know where your going, know the security. I always greet the security guard or bouncer. They like to know your there and they are there for you if you need them. Always know where the door(s) are. Keep a clear head - don't drink too much. And go with friends....there's safety in numbers and it's more fun too.

My #1 concern - I have to look the best I can that day :D

XXX
Megan

[DinaMature]

If there was no chance of danger I would dance. It would be fun to be treated like a lady. :)

Stacey :)

ditto

[Beth-Lock]

I worried about that when I went out dressed, with a gg date to a singles Halloween dance. My date said that sometimes she will say, 'I have just been dancing, and need to rest a while.' Problem is, if the guy comes back later, she would dance with him, and I would not want to try, and either out myself, to his embarrassment, or to not say anything and try and fool him. Luckily for me, the guys were not asking the gals to dance much that night, unless they knew them from previous nights or came to the dance with them.

[JaytoJillian]

A dance? Yes, of course, though it can sometimes lead to other things. A couple of weeks ago, I was out, and a M/F couple invited me to come on the floor with them. After about 20 minutes, they asked if I'd like to come back to their hotel room. I was flattered, but I politely declined, and moved on to another section of the cavernous club we were in.