jina
11-08-2008, 08:39 PM
This is a very personal post,.. but I see a lot of other posts that are as well, so I thought this might be ok. I was reading a post elsewhere on the board that mentioned something related to this and I have been meaning to broach the subject anyway,.. so:
I have been married twice, and in both cases past sexual abuse for my wives turned out to be huge problems in our relationships. I have told my counselor that I believe now that my "softness" presented my wives with a "safe" alternative... but it's kind of a two edged sword because over time they want more "maleness" but resent maleness at the same time.
Anyone else brush up against this dilema? I have come to believe that I'm attractive to damaged females and it has to do with my TG personality.
I have been married twice, and in both cases past sexual abuse for my wives turned out to be huge problems in our relationships. I have told my counselor that I believe now that my "softness" presented my wives with a "safe" alternative... but it's kind of a two edged sword because over time they want more "maleness" but resent maleness at the same time.
Anyone else brush up against this dilema? I have come to believe that I'm attractive to damaged females and it has to do with my TG personality.