Ranae
11-08-2008, 10:45 PM
I just read a blog about a t-Girl hiding her lifestyle from your spouse/SO it was written by a TG, It that started off with this statement:
"There are a lot of TG's that think that hiding their dressing that they are "protecting" their GG and SO's."
So you tell me, Is it really our GF's and Wives that we are trying to protect by hiding our lifestyle? Isn't it that we are really protecting ourselves, our self shame we may be compressing? A big lie that we are holding with-in ourselves looking for an excuse? The thought of what our SO/Wives may spread about us to our family and or friends? Our worries of what others may think or say about us?
Is this really us? Have we really grown to be liars in this inner-circle to be this low and self-centered to only care about ourselves and not the ones we love?
Could it be we are far too embarrassed to acknowledge the truth, to the ones we love about our TG lifestyles. Some of us don't really understand it ourselves, so how are we supposed to explain it to anyone else mainly our spouse?
Telling the truth about yourself to the one you love can be very difficult, specially when you are so embarrassed about being the way you are. It is always a fear that she will not want to be with you or she will look at you in a way that you can never over come.
Girls by hiding the fact you are TG is a huge lie within your self. In likely, over 95% of long term relationships or marriages the SO will find out about your very hidden secret.
We can choose to tell those that we want to share our lives the truth. But remember, The truth does not always have the results we want. Although T-Girls have ways of becoming very good at lying, and hiding who she is and what she is doing behind her SO and loved ones, telling your SO/wife the truth gives her the well deserved right to feel however she feels about it and it gives her the choice to be with the real you or not.
Honesty is the best way to go. Wouldn't you rather be loved and wanted for the true you and not the hidden you? Truth can be hurtful but then again it can be the best thing you ever do . It may be your best acceptance in your relationship. At least it will be truthful and the real you.
"There are a lot of TG's that think that hiding their dressing that they are "protecting" their GG and SO's."
So you tell me, Is it really our GF's and Wives that we are trying to protect by hiding our lifestyle? Isn't it that we are really protecting ourselves, our self shame we may be compressing? A big lie that we are holding with-in ourselves looking for an excuse? The thought of what our SO/Wives may spread about us to our family and or friends? Our worries of what others may think or say about us?
Is this really us? Have we really grown to be liars in this inner-circle to be this low and self-centered to only care about ourselves and not the ones we love?
Could it be we are far too embarrassed to acknowledge the truth, to the ones we love about our TG lifestyles. Some of us don't really understand it ourselves, so how are we supposed to explain it to anyone else mainly our spouse?
Telling the truth about yourself to the one you love can be very difficult, specially when you are so embarrassed about being the way you are. It is always a fear that she will not want to be with you or she will look at you in a way that you can never over come.
Girls by hiding the fact you are TG is a huge lie within your self. In likely, over 95% of long term relationships or marriages the SO will find out about your very hidden secret.
We can choose to tell those that we want to share our lives the truth. But remember, The truth does not always have the results we want. Although T-Girls have ways of becoming very good at lying, and hiding who she is and what she is doing behind her SO and loved ones, telling your SO/wife the truth gives her the well deserved right to feel however she feels about it and it gives her the choice to be with the real you or not.
Honesty is the best way to go. Wouldn't you rather be loved and wanted for the true you and not the hidden you? Truth can be hurtful but then again it can be the best thing you ever do . It may be your best acceptance in your relationship. At least it will be truthful and the real you.