Wen4cd
07-09-2004, 05:20 PM
I've been dressing for years, and while I don't have a problem with it, I do have some issues with the reasons.
I don't wish to be a bad person, but cd'ing is a self-obsessive thing, and that is bad. In other words, I don't feel guilty for dressing because it's not wholly accepted by society, but occasionally because I think it's not exactly healthy to be so self-absorbed.
My main question is:
Am I narcissistic in general, or do I do this because I'm so not narcissistic in real life that I want to balance the scale.
In normal guy clothes, I dress basically in rags, and I have no thought of my appearance whatsoever. This has cost me jobs in the past, and no real physical self-image to think of.
But when I dress, (maybe twice a month,) I am completely aware and obsessed with the fantasy image. I guess that's the point.
What I am wondering is am I deficient in self-love, or am I over-indulged in it? Even in introspecting this, I am wondering whether I am thinking about myself too much.... or too little, so that it seems uncomfortable and wrong whenever I do so. (Think about myself, that is.)
I'm not keen on exactly what a 'feminine side' is and I think if I used that reasoning, I would be making a false rationalization for my self, so I believe that when I dress, I'm basically luxuriating in an altered self-image to fill a need, or as a pleasurable recreation. This isn't universal I'm sure, but it's true for me, and probably a lot of others.
I'm worried that dressing might be a sign that I am way too self-centered. And if I am, how do I not be?
This make sense to anyone?
Wendy
I don't wish to be a bad person, but cd'ing is a self-obsessive thing, and that is bad. In other words, I don't feel guilty for dressing because it's not wholly accepted by society, but occasionally because I think it's not exactly healthy to be so self-absorbed.
My main question is:
Am I narcissistic in general, or do I do this because I'm so not narcissistic in real life that I want to balance the scale.
In normal guy clothes, I dress basically in rags, and I have no thought of my appearance whatsoever. This has cost me jobs in the past, and no real physical self-image to think of.
But when I dress, (maybe twice a month,) I am completely aware and obsessed with the fantasy image. I guess that's the point.
What I am wondering is am I deficient in self-love, or am I over-indulged in it? Even in introspecting this, I am wondering whether I am thinking about myself too much.... or too little, so that it seems uncomfortable and wrong whenever I do so. (Think about myself, that is.)
I'm not keen on exactly what a 'feminine side' is and I think if I used that reasoning, I would be making a false rationalization for my self, so I believe that when I dress, I'm basically luxuriating in an altered self-image to fill a need, or as a pleasurable recreation. This isn't universal I'm sure, but it's true for me, and probably a lot of others.
I'm worried that dressing might be a sign that I am way too self-centered. And if I am, how do I not be?
This make sense to anyone?
Wendy