Your experiences out in public

[yms]

Hi

I was perusing the thread about what we hate most and there were some mentions of bigotry and a lack of social acceptance.

I have never experienced this and was wondering the extent to which those of us who venture out have had problems.

So this poll is aimed at TGs/CDs/TSs who spend time on a regualr basis out and about as a woman. It does not suggest or ask about whether you feel you are passable.

And please feel free to share your story after you vote.

Thanks

[Miss Tessa]

I actually HAVE been arrested for being a TS girl.

They thought I was a prostitute when all I was doing is hanging out on street that is considered the Tranny stroll in my city.

[Angie G]

I've only been out 3 times not counting driving home from work at late night on Halloween with on problems.But even in the dark I got made.:hugs:
Angie

[carolinebrookes]

Can't say that I have anything to report at all about the times I have been out and about.

I was once the victim of an attempted mugging whilst in girl mode, but I very much doubt that it was because I was perceived to be tv/cd, more a crime of opportunity.

The guy got one helluva wallop from my briefcase! :D

[erickka]

My times out have been uneventful. I dress to blend, and act the part. I have had many GG's compliment me on my outfits, and guys have rarely even given me a second look. I have had a few rude comments, but nothing that could be considered totally demeaning.

[LisaElizabeth]

I normally go out with a group of girls when I do go out, so we do tend to draw a little attention because there are 4-7 of us together. Like any large group enering a restaurant.
Yes, we get made, but it all seems to be ok with most everyone.
Last time out we were invited to party with a bachlorette party!! Had a lot of fun dancing!!
Lisa E

[TGMarla]

I have not been out much, but the outings I have had have been pretty much incident free. I got some stares, but it may well have been for the people I was with more than for me....hard to say. But it was no big deal, really.

[avril findlay]

I only go out with female friends now and I pass well enough to avoid any hassle. But when I was younger I used to get the ocassional stupid remark and maybe my skirt lifted up on a Saturday night, but not with any real malice that I can remember.
Further, to your poll. Where can you be arrested for simply being a crossdresser? You're from New York, surely not there?

[LindaTS]

I've been going out for many years and have never had a problem. Like most of us I'm sure that I'm sometimes read but nothing has ever happened because of it. Way back when, I used to go out to one of the tranny/gay bars in San Diego at night and occassionaly venturing to downtown SD during the daytime. Now it's always out during the day doing my shopping. I just try to blend in and it usually works.

[yms]

I only go out with female friends now and I pass well enough to avoid any hassle. But when I was younger I used to get the ocassional stupid remark and maybe my skirt lifted up on a Saturday night, but not with any real malice that I can remember.
Further, to your poll. Where can you be arrested for simply being a crossdresser? You're from New York, surely not there?


You're right. I didn't mean that as if there were laws against it. I don't know if there are any now. Mostly I was interested in a person's perception of what they think happened.

[Vicky_Scot]

I think this should have been a multiple chose as I for one could have chosen all those below..

My ventures out have been routine and free from incident.

I have noticed people staring and whispering, but nothing else.

People have yelled out unwelcomed comments but otherwise left me alone.


Xx Vicky xX

[AliciaWeb]

I haven't had much opportunity to go out but recently have managed several trips in the last month. It seems that the level of notice being taken is much lower now than two years ago. I don't know if this is a result of my increased confidence or of a growing indifference and acceptance of CDs.

Alicia

[yms]

I think this should have been a multiple chose as I for one could have chosen all those below..

My ventures out have been routine and free from incident.

I have noticed people staring and whispering, but nothing else.

People have yelled out unwelcomed comments but otherwise left me alone.


Xx Vicky xX

Hi Vicky -

What you say is true. I also could have selected several of those replies. But most of my experiences have involved an occasional double-take, then someone leans over and says something to their friend, who then turns to look at me. And that's it. So I consider that a pretty harmless thing. Many have also been completely uneventful.

[pamela_a]

I voted for routine and incident free. I'm sure there have been instances of "point and laugh" (especially when I first started going out fem) but nothing overt or in my face. I've never had a bad experience while out, even when I've passed teen aged girls in the ladies room.

-Paula-

[Laura Evans]

I go out fairly frequently to shop or business. Mostly I am not noticed or ignored if I am looked at I would say it is no more than what we may all do when we look at another person out of curiosity or interest as I do whenever a good looking woman walks by. I have had a few stares and comments made to the person next to them, I just ignored them. I have never had rude or threathening comments made. In general I am treated as a woman.

[uknowhoo]

I think this should have been a multiple chose as I for one could have chosen all those below..

My ventures out have been routine and free from incident.

I have noticed people staring and whispering, but nothing else.

People have yelled out unwelcomed comments but otherwise left me alone.


Xx Vicky xX


same as Vicky ;)

[Annette_boy]

At one time in many states crossdressing was a crime New Yore included.Fortunatly these laws have been changed mostly because women were wearing pants. Some places do have laws aginst wearing a disguise . I am not sure which ones .
Hugs and Kisses
Annette

PS
my ventures out have been so far without incident
Annette

[Rachel_CDS]

I think that you should have put an option in the list saying something along the lines of....."No problems because I don't leave the house dressed".

This would make the girls who are not able to/don't want to go out feel better.

I always like to make my contribution to a poll, but couldn't in this case:sad:.

[Miss Tessa]

There's more than a couple ways depending where in the U.S. you are located which can land you in county jail.

You could be waiting somewhere and the police arrest you for "loitering or prowling" which is Florida's statue that they use to cover what Texas and Tenessee call "Common Streetwalking"

Cops use those two legislatures to pick up transgendered women and actual hookers who they just feel like arresting for the hell of it.

Next, there's the public bathroom issue. Some states and municipalities have laws set up so you can only use the restroom of your birth or legal sex.

Also, you could be arrested in some REALLY backwards towns and counties simply CD'ing. These horrible bible thumping towns have either laws stating that you can't crossdress in public, which is inclusive of TS women too who live as female role.
And another law that some of those backwards highly relgious country cities have is "Overt public lewdness" or "perverse acts".

It's hard to believe, but there have been MANY cases where T girls and CD's were charged with lewd conduct or perversion simply for being who they are in public.

It's all true!

[serinalynn]

Most of my crossdressing out experiences have been during daylight hours and other than my wife, not one other person said any thing to me, and i don't look that femmine either. I wear womens pants, a moderately femmine top, a plunge bra, panti, stockings, womens soft sole shoes, and some times a ladies denim short sleeve shirt. I comb my nearly shoulder length hair as neatly as possible and walk around a local mall for 2 to3 hours.

[Teri Jean]

I have not had any real problems but it is probably due to having not been out as much as some. Dressing and the public may bring out feelings that people have a hard time with and yes there are bigots out there. That is why one has to be careful when going out. Good luck and hope things go well. Keli

[Nicki B]

I think this should have been a multiple chose as I for one could have chosen all those below..

My ventures out have been routine and free from incident.

I have noticed people staring and whispering, but nothing else.

People have yelled out unwelcomed comments but otherwise left me alone.


Xx Vicky xX

I voted for the first option, because that's overwhelmingly my experience.

But I've been assaulted only once while being out regularly for over six years now - and it's been years since I got any unwelcome comments?

(And over the same period I got assaulted once in male mode, as well?)

[Nadia-Maria]

(And over the same period I got assaulted once in male mode, as well?)

I have been assaulted once in drab, and still never enfemme.
However I am much more confident, as for safety, when en drab.
And enfemme I avoid any troublesome place.

[MsJanessa]

In all the times I've been out, I've only been verbally harrassed once and that would be .002 % of the times I've gone out---nobody has ever said anything to me in a mall or a store--although once I noticed a couple of SAs looking at me in a walmart---one time I went christmas shopping wearing a tight midcalf black leather skirt, with matching 4 inch stilletto heeled boots, a red satin blouse and a corset style belt, with black leather gloves--all under a black leather trench opened so all could see my outfit--I looked like the ultimate leather Queen---and I got no funny looks or comments---in fact a middle age man approached me to ask directions---I gave them to him and he thanked me and left.

[TerriM]

I started going out in either 1977 0r 78. The worst thing that ever happened to me was a laughter from teens or a stare from someone. I have gotten pulled over by police and let go with a warning, had a vehicle accident and we exchanged info with no problem. I have ridden trains, ferries, subway etc.
As far as being arrested, my advice is dont go to places where illegal activity is taken place (drugs, prostitution, etc) There are a few maybe backwater towns or counties that have ordinances against crossdressing but I have never come accross them. As far as restrooms goes, do your business and get out and usually you will have no problem. A lot of places now have unisex bathrooms.

[tricia_uktv]

Interesting, I'm now out in public every weekend. Sometimes I dress provocatively because I like the edge and the comments. Other times, particularily if travelling, I dress down and try to mingle.

Remember that the crowd is your friend, not your enemy and when you first go out you will assume (wrongly) that everyone is looking and laughing at you. They aren't. I now get more "Wow that's a transvestite" and admiring smiles and glances than anything else.

We are brave, more of us need to be brave, but for me its now like shelling peas. I do know plenty of places which would cause me trouble so I just don't go there. Actually I may have trouble in trouble in drab also.

Get out all and have fun. And it absolutely is fun I promise.

[Butterfly Bill]

I couldn't answer your poll truthfully because you provided a radio button one-only choice. Except for "arrested" and "attacked physically", all of the choices have happened to me at least once.

[trannie T]

Every time when I go out I know that any laughter I hear is directed at me.
Every comment made within earshot is directed at me.
Every time I go out I become a little bit paranoid.
When I look upon it realisticaly, twice construction workers have laughed at me and I received only one rude comment from a guy on the street.
Nothing has happened that would deter me from going out again, each time I go out has been a good experience and has only reinforced my desire to go out again.

[Lisa Renee]

In the at least 10 years I have been going out, only once have I been yelled at. And that was going into a grocery store, some kids in a blazer, but when I came back out they were quiet, I didn't hear anything from them.

[yms]

Biased poll!

Why were there no categories: "People applaud and congratulate me" or "People ask to have their photo taken with me" or "People ask me for my autograph" ?


Ha! Good one, Katie! I am guilty.