Miss Tessa
11-11-2008, 11:22 AM
"I think people go thru phases in their life."
"You're being influenced. You only started this after you met all these trangendered ppl."
"And if you've been hiding it you have hid it pretty well." (Which I then told her many TG people hide for DECADES from their spouse and family and join up with the service and do the most manly things they can in a wasted attempt to man up)
She did tell me one time that "You don't have to man up for me"......
Yet when we were shopping together at the mall one day early in transition I wanted some pink girl's sneakers and she was trying to talk me out of it saying it was women's shoes and I'm "crazy" and that we are better off looking in the mens so I don't look "fruity".
Those are a few things my mother said when I was starting to come out to her after I began transitioning.
It really bothered me. It's like.... How do you explain to somebody that your gender imprint is not a phase if you're transsexual? And only TV's and CD's go thru phases, and they are only phases of being in the mood to dress which lasts different time periods for different people depending on many factors such as convenience to dress and actual mood to dress up.TS people don't have that trait.Maybe in early transition we dress like our male self on occasions when we don't want to out ourselves yet, but it is not a phase like being into a kind of music or trend is for children and teenages and even very young adults.
It took so long to convince her and be really real and honest about some of my transgendered feelings I have shared with her. And I feel she is still not totally convinced. She thinks it could be like some fashion/music trend that kids go thru which is utterly ridiculous.
It's a legitimate medical diagnoses. She knows that because I told her so, but she might think I'm just doing it for some odd trendy reason I have no idea she would think.
Who WANTS to be born transgendered? Now in MY perfect world we would still exist but we would have equality and respect and employment so most of us MTF's wouldn't have to sell our bodies. I'm kinda proud to be a transgendered TS girl. I'm proud to be a girl with a ding dong and my unique qualities that makes me ME. But still, it's a looooong hard road and it doesn't end after transition. I think we're always sort of in transition because the obstacles never end, we always face the assumptions, ridicule and blatant discrimination and hate crimes even. My parents actually think people kinda "choose" to be gay also. Which is retarded. Nobody wants to be born TG or gay if they could have the gender they want and be comfortable with it and a "normal" sexuality. My mother told me that same day in the car, "I wish all these gays stayed in the closet because now kids are so confused."
It's a terrible thing to say. I called her on it too! Nobody deserves to be deprived of love and affection I told her.
And I also made the point that being gay OR transgendered is NOT CONTAGEOUS like some kind of desease.Nor does it spread like drug use and addiction spreads.
I wish I could educate my family better so they would understand as best they could so I could feel loved more.
I stand to inherit a fortune and I will get the money and everything nomatter what gender I am on the inside and out, but I want to feel loved and accepted by my family and understood.
When I was in elementary school I was diagnosed with ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) and was hyper and distracted from school work, which is pretty normal in fact for young kids.
And also later in my teenage years I was diagnosed manic depressive and now take some mood stabilizers so I won't be too energetic or get depressed.
My mother got her hands on all the literature and took me to the best doctors and therapists and tried her best to understand and help me.
I just wish she would do this same with my TS. I think the only thing stopping her from proper education and acceptance of me for the girl I am is if she is finally convinced without doubt and actually talks to some good doctors and finds for sure that it's indeed something I can't control and is medical in nature.
I have no problem with me.I finally accept me.
I just want my family to love me as their second daughter. I look JUST like my sister when dressed only thicker and taller.
My family not understanding the uncontrollable medical nature of the gender issue trait I have is the biggest cause of pain in my life right now.
Otherwise life is pretty sweet and I'm lucky to be one of the few people who aren't crapping a brick because of the economy.
"You're being influenced. You only started this after you met all these trangendered ppl."
"And if you've been hiding it you have hid it pretty well." (Which I then told her many TG people hide for DECADES from their spouse and family and join up with the service and do the most manly things they can in a wasted attempt to man up)
She did tell me one time that "You don't have to man up for me"......
Yet when we were shopping together at the mall one day early in transition I wanted some pink girl's sneakers and she was trying to talk me out of it saying it was women's shoes and I'm "crazy" and that we are better off looking in the mens so I don't look "fruity".
Those are a few things my mother said when I was starting to come out to her after I began transitioning.
It really bothered me. It's like.... How do you explain to somebody that your gender imprint is not a phase if you're transsexual? And only TV's and CD's go thru phases, and they are only phases of being in the mood to dress which lasts different time periods for different people depending on many factors such as convenience to dress and actual mood to dress up.TS people don't have that trait.Maybe in early transition we dress like our male self on occasions when we don't want to out ourselves yet, but it is not a phase like being into a kind of music or trend is for children and teenages and even very young adults.
It took so long to convince her and be really real and honest about some of my transgendered feelings I have shared with her. And I feel she is still not totally convinced. She thinks it could be like some fashion/music trend that kids go thru which is utterly ridiculous.
It's a legitimate medical diagnoses. She knows that because I told her so, but she might think I'm just doing it for some odd trendy reason I have no idea she would think.
Who WANTS to be born transgendered? Now in MY perfect world we would still exist but we would have equality and respect and employment so most of us MTF's wouldn't have to sell our bodies. I'm kinda proud to be a transgendered TS girl. I'm proud to be a girl with a ding dong and my unique qualities that makes me ME. But still, it's a looooong hard road and it doesn't end after transition. I think we're always sort of in transition because the obstacles never end, we always face the assumptions, ridicule and blatant discrimination and hate crimes even. My parents actually think people kinda "choose" to be gay also. Which is retarded. Nobody wants to be born TG or gay if they could have the gender they want and be comfortable with it and a "normal" sexuality. My mother told me that same day in the car, "I wish all these gays stayed in the closet because now kids are so confused."
It's a terrible thing to say. I called her on it too! Nobody deserves to be deprived of love and affection I told her.
And I also made the point that being gay OR transgendered is NOT CONTAGEOUS like some kind of desease.Nor does it spread like drug use and addiction spreads.
I wish I could educate my family better so they would understand as best they could so I could feel loved more.
I stand to inherit a fortune and I will get the money and everything nomatter what gender I am on the inside and out, but I want to feel loved and accepted by my family and understood.
When I was in elementary school I was diagnosed with ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) and was hyper and distracted from school work, which is pretty normal in fact for young kids.
And also later in my teenage years I was diagnosed manic depressive and now take some mood stabilizers so I won't be too energetic or get depressed.
My mother got her hands on all the literature and took me to the best doctors and therapists and tried her best to understand and help me.
I just wish she would do this same with my TS. I think the only thing stopping her from proper education and acceptance of me for the girl I am is if she is finally convinced without doubt and actually talks to some good doctors and finds for sure that it's indeed something I can't control and is medical in nature.
I have no problem with me.I finally accept me.
I just want my family to love me as their second daughter. I look JUST like my sister when dressed only thicker and taller.
My family not understanding the uncontrollable medical nature of the gender issue trait I have is the biggest cause of pain in my life right now.
Otherwise life is pretty sweet and I'm lucky to be one of the few people who aren't crapping a brick because of the economy.