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Penelope
11-27-2008, 01:24 AM
Hi Girls,
I just wanted to ask if you get more of an emotional sense of satisfaction,sexual or some other unique feeling/experience from dressing?

We need not get too explicit with the 's' word, lol.

I find this is emotional for me,soothing,and also liberating.

Hugs

Penelope :hugs:

Farrah
11-27-2008, 02:18 AM
I also find it soothing and comfortable. It takes me to another place. It sometime feels like a dream.

Nadia-Maria
11-27-2008, 02:20 AM
My best feeling if to feel pretty. It's soooooooooh wonderful and amazing !
Even told a rather good looking boy, I missed almost lifelong the constant feeling of being a pretty girl, just admired for her beauty, not for anything else. I dream to be born the dumbest blonde (even dumber than Deborah Jane), but the prettiest (sorry Deborah !!).

Maybe, I am narcissistic ?

avril findlay
11-27-2008, 02:24 AM
I'm inrtregiued as to what are "s" words?

Nadia-Maria
11-27-2008, 02:27 AM
I'm inrtregiued as to what are "s" words?


I didn't understand at all too. And I'm told a very naive blonde ...

mykhelee
11-27-2008, 02:31 AM
I would have to say emotional, been celibate for four years now.

Joanne f
11-27-2008, 05:26 AM
Emotional, not sure as i think this could describe how i get when i cant dress how i like for a while.
Satisfaction, yes as i am satisfying my needs to be how i wont to be , then the rest seam to just follow, fulfillment, happiness enjoyment, calmness then that puts one into a good frame of mind for doing anything you have a mind to do . ( playing it safe):heehee:


joanne

tricia_uktv
11-27-2008, 05:33 AM
I would say emotional, sexual and everything else. I can get to a place I have never been before as Tricia, so its also calming and relaxing.

Mollyanne
11-27-2008, 05:34 AM
I find myself in a different place so to speak when I dress. I find that when dressed my emotional state is totally different then when in "male mode(ugh ugh). I find that my female persona is much more viable and I LIKE THAT!!!!!

:love:

erica2054
11-27-2008, 06:30 AM
hi feel more relaxed as erica- i just love it - wish i could dress more often0 and i lve shopping

Jess_cd32
11-27-2008, 06:42 AM
............. I dream to be born the dumbest blonde (even dumber than Deborah Jane), but the prettiest (sorry Deborah !!).

Maybe, I am narcissistic ?

Oh is she gonna give you a good kick in the a** for that one:heehee:, luckily for you Nadia she has a great sense of humor so I doubt it'll hurt to much:thumbsup:

I just dress to enjoy it, play around with different looks and like the feeling of taking on a different persona. Feel very at ease and relaxed when dressed like alot of others, lifes problems seem to just melt away.
Its something now I'm glad I was born with.

FanciJewel
11-27-2008, 08:40 AM
This is a very good question. I don't think is is sexual. Being sexually aroused while dressed puts lumps and bumps in places that should not be. I think it is more of a sensual feeling rather than sexual. In my mind I want to be sensually attractive. I want to feel attractive in a way that is pleasant to myself and others. It is a bit like being an artist with me as both the canvas and the artist. I wish to create a piece of art that is satisfyingly pleasant to both me, the artist, and those viewing me. When I can accomplish that there is a great sense of success. ( I have yet to experience that, however)---Fanci

sometimes_miss
11-27-2008, 08:42 AM
The best way I can describe it is, well, that I'm comfortable. When I'm in male clothing there's always the underlying feeling that I'm dressed wrong. An example, it feels like wearing a t-shirt and jeans at a formal function where everyone else it wearing a tux. Sure, I'm not exposing anything, but just always feels like I should be wearing something else. I never feel that way when I'm dressed in female clothes. Certain female clothing just feels different, and oddly, I notice it more when it's not there, like there's something missing (examples, a bra, or the way nylon panties or a slip slide on my skin when I move).

Tip or Ozma
11-27-2008, 08:53 AM
It is a sensual and sexual escape providing relaxation and stimulation. Perhaps it is like a four-dimensional self-portrait sculpture. As a writer, painter and sculptor I often disappear into my creative projects. As a cross-dresser I do the same, but it more like performance art. My only audience is my wife and me. In fantasies it is the whole world, but only time will tell if it is wise for that.

Sarah...
11-27-2008, 08:54 AM
I get a deep sense of individuality. A feeling that I've finally arrived where I am supposed to be.

Sarah...

Carol A
11-27-2008, 09:47 AM
Well for me it's just and everyday normal thing as I have been CDing since I was 14 and my mother knew, my wife knew going into our marriage. Yes at first it was very sexual and as time when on it was just normal as it is today. I am just as comfortable in fem as in drab but prefer fem. :daydreaming:

tanya1976
11-27-2008, 10:00 AM
Hi Girls,
I just wanted to ask if you get more of an emotional sense of satisfaction,sexual or some other unique feeling/experience from dressing?

We need not get too explicit with the 's' word, lol.

I find this is emotional for me,soothing,and also liberating.

Hugs

Penelope :hugs:

I usually experience a combination of all 3 although the one particular emotion will be stronger than the other at certain times.

Celeste
11-27-2008, 10:15 AM
I like the creative aspect of it,then being stunned at the transformation,and yes sex is a genuine part of it for me.

Karren H
11-27-2008, 10:25 AM
Beats me... I'm driven to dress.... and I enjoy it.....

Janetmichelle
11-27-2008, 10:27 AM
The best way I can describe it is, well, that I'm comfortable. When I'm in male clothing there's always the underlying feeling that I'm dressed wrong. An example, it feels like wearing a t-shirt and jeans at a formal function where everyone else it wearing a tux. Sure, I'm not exposing anything, but just always feels like I should be wearing something else. I never feel that way when I'm dressed in female clothes. Certain female clothing just feels different, and oddly, I notice it more when it's not there, like there's something missing (examples, a bra, or the way nylon panties or a slip slide on my skin when I move).


I would have to totally agree with this. I feel the same way!!

Sara Jessica
11-27-2008, 10:28 AM
Purely emotional to me. Dressing is just a means to match the body up with the mind as best I am able.

ElaineB
11-27-2008, 11:05 AM
I'm inrtregiued as to what are "s" words?

Shave, shower, shomething else? :heehee:

For me, dressing is a thrill and while not completely a sexual thrill it is tied up with one.

I have heard many comments from people saying it is an identity thing and they feel more natural when dressed, and similar remarks, but I cannot relate.

On the other hand, just like Andy Kaufman I am happy to admit there is no "real me" so this might not prove anything!

geri-tg.
11-27-2008, 11:20 AM
All of the above for me. I just love to dress and love the look and the feeling I get when dressed.It is a wonderful transformation.:)

docrobbysherry
11-27-2008, 11:21 AM
I want to feel attractive in a way that is pleasant to myself and others. It is a bit like being an artist with me as both the canvas and the artist. I wish to create a piece of art that is satisfyingly pleasant to both me, the artist, and those viewing me. When I can accomplish that there is a great sense of success. ( I have yet to experience that, however)---Fanci


It is a sensual and sexual escape providing relaxation and stimulation. Perhaps it is like a four-dimensional self-portrait sculpture. As a writer, painter and sculptor I often disappear into my creative projects. As a cross-dresser I do the same, but it more like performance art.

Fanci and Ozma have said it quite well, for me.

When I begin to dress, I get caught up in all aspects of what I want to wear. All the extraneous noise in my mind stops! Only my dressing is in my thots!

Inevitably, when I finish and see Sherry in the mirror, it is such a RUSH! :daydreaming:
Then, comes the excitement and turn on! Not emotional, tho. The excitement continues all thru my CD session. I conclude my sessions with sex, after taking my photos!:o

Jennie CD
11-27-2008, 11:28 AM
:love: I find it the most wonderful, sensual and greatest feeling I can feel - it is wonderful when I am Jennie - which is 24/7. And now that I have gone out of that darn closet - it is even more wonderful. I feel pretty, sexy (:o) and just so great being Jennie.

Happy Thanksgiving to all. :love:


Jennie CD

Jess_cd32
11-27-2008, 11:29 AM
....... I conclude my sessions with sex, after taking my photos!:o

I believe in a massage parlor they call that a "happy ending" Sherry:heehee:

Sarah Martin
11-27-2008, 12:08 PM
It just feels natural and 'right' - matching clothes to the 'me' inside.

Sarah

gennee
11-27-2008, 12:23 PM
It's completeness and contentment with me. I'm equally comfortable fem or in drag but I prefer the feminine. I love being and living as my true self.

Gennee


:)

Nadia-Maria
11-27-2008, 12:33 PM
I dream to be born the dumbest blonde (even dumber than Deborah Jane), but the prettiest (sorry Deborah !!).


This joke of mine was directly related to the "dumb blondie" label that Deborah Jane has added between her name and her gorgeous avatar showing herself as the most lovely and wonderful blonde. This funny label of hers is obviously to be taken with humour.

Moreover, remember that Deborah is at the moment conducting the most funny thread: "Blonde thought of the day...." on another forum of this board.


So that I never thought that my joke about the dumb blondes could be misinterpreted as being somewhat rude to Deborah, and I feel extremely sorry if it had been the case. :o

I am honoured instead to be Deborah's friend and especially praise, among other qualities of hers, her great sense of humor.

For the case my contribution has not been read as a good joke by some readers, I want to apologize a lot for my badly worded joke. You have to excuse me since I'm a dumb blonde too. :battingeyelashes:

Kisses :love:

vivianann
11-27-2008, 12:40 PM
For me it is very liberating when I am dressed as a woman. I feel like I belong in a dress, like I am at home when dressed. It is like I found a new sense of freedom to be Vivian, I have finally arrived.

izzfan
11-27-2008, 12:43 PM
When I first started CDing it was mostly a sexual thing, often combined with other stuff (see the thread on CDing and Bondage).

However, it gradually became less about sex and more about emotional things. I don't know exactly why I enjoy it so much, it's just so relaxing, I feel more able to express my emotions when 'en femme', I feel a lot more beautiful and I can look a lot more like how I often want to look. As for how it affects my personality, I am generally happier, more social (when I have got over the fear of stepping out of my room en femme... usually only on halloween and a few fancy dress things though) and I generally tend to think of myself in a somewhat less self-critical way when I am en femme.

Oh, and I usually end up sleeping sort of "en femme" (casual dress but no make-up, tights etc...) - I just find it more comfortable and it is pretty good to wake up in something other than "bob mode".

Angie G
11-27-2008, 01:16 PM
For me it's both thrilling and relaxing and nothing sexual. But somewhat sensual.:hugs:
Angie

mklinden2010
11-27-2008, 01:33 PM
The main thing for me is to just be able to do what I what to do.

I think you just pick up things in life and you want to repeat the pleasurable experiences. Things like making a really great wooden birdhouse, seeing the Grand Canyon again, thinking about that black skirt and white top and getting the shoes right next time.

On one of my first outings, years ago, I was in a "support group" meeting and we began discussing some issue, something political, rising taxes or something, and I realized with a bit of surprise that I was exactly the same person no matter how I dressed. Keep that in mind next someone says something about you being "weird." You're probably just as "weird" either way.

Why people get hung up on the "s" word, sex, I just don't get. Most people get turned on by hot scenes at the movies, some go looking for magazines to buy, genetic women see "Firefighter" calenders and go "Whoa! Gotta find me one like that!" And, nearly everyone is auto erotic at one time or another - they just get in a mood. So, what's the big deal?

I may just be a "type" of CD on these boards, but I think it just comes down to whatever you think works for you. And, that can be debatable if it costs you jobs and stuff. Like, you can either stop doing that, or, find a different job/church/set of friends. In any case, if, like me, you don't want to stop, who cares why you do it or how, so long as it doesn't cause the planet to fall into the sun?

docrobbysherry
11-27-2008, 08:29 PM
I believe in a massage parlor they call that a "happy ending" Sherry:heehee:

To me, that's just part of my dressing process!:straightface:

For me, the "happy ending" is, if I like the pics I took during that session!:D

Rachael
11-28-2008, 06:58 AM
I believe that there are many reasons why we cross dress, but the words sensual and sexual seem to crop up a lot. I myself find wearing skirts and panties comfortable as well as arousing. I get excited looking at a new skirt and wondering what it would look like on me. Very often I find I am attracted by the clothes a woman wears rather than the woman (Incidentally Iconsider myself heterosexual). I have never made any attempt to pass but wear mostly male attire on top with skirt and panties with tights or hold ups. As to the sexual aspect I alsways dress to masturbate, but don'y always mastrubate when dressed.:eek::o

suzy
11-28-2008, 07:10 AM
For me it is sensual and exciting but not sexual. I love dressing to the degree that I can without causing conflict. I retired from a very "manly man" job with a great deal of constant conflict and now I just want to take my days (and nights) a bit more leisurely. Dressing seems to put me in that place. It just makes me much more happy and contented when I can dress.:hugs:

Toni_Lynn
11-28-2008, 07:37 AM
Hi all

For me the levels of each have varied with my age, and even now vary with the situation.

As a teenager, when I first started crossdressing regularly, it was emotional. Then the hormones kicked in and it was sexual (heck seeing a display of peaches in the produce department at the grocers was sexual) and continued as such, although on the wane, until I was 27. Then it became emotional.

Now, at 51, it is emotional. I NEED to dress. It is something that I cannot be without. But, since I met my wife, the sexual aspect has re-asserted itself, at the appropriate time, and is absolutely heavenly and romantic! When I dress for her in a pair of lacy panties and a bra, and we make love -- ooooooh!

I best go now -- don't want to sound like a letter to Penthouse Forum :)

Huggles

Toni-Lynn

amber 07
11-28-2008, 07:44 AM
I'll try to answer your question Mary K.
Why people get hung up on the "s" word, sex, I just don't get. Most people get turned on by hot scenes at the movies, some go looking for magazines to buy, genetic women see "Firefighter" calenders and go "Whoa! Gotta find me one like that!" And, nearly everyone is auto erotic at one time or another - they just get in a mood. So, what's the big deal?

We are not supposed to talk about the S word on this forum, because we are supposed to be ladies, and that is not the PROPPER thing to talk about, unless you are a ****ty type. Well, in all seriousness. GG's and SO's visit this site and I guess it it might offend one of them. But, My GOD we are mostly men here and we know what men like to talk about BUT there are plenty of porno websites out there where you can be human and talk about that aspect of CDing. This forum is closed to all such discussions. I hope this helps a bit Mary K. Hugs and Luck, Amber

lynn2c
11-28-2008, 08:00 AM
It depends on my mood and situation how I feel when dressed. Sometimes it's just emotional. I love the feel and the look when I'm dressed. Other times it can be sexual. I'll even dress differently if it's emotional or sexual. I"m lucky to have a wife that finds my dressing sensual. On those evenings, I'll dress sexy. If it's dressing to fullfill my emotional side, I'll be more conservative. I strive for the "classy" look.

Penelope
11-29-2008, 04:15 AM
Girls I meant the 'S' word meaning sex,I asked if it was emotional or sexual satisfaction that you got from dressing but didn't want us to get too explicit talking about sex in case we offend the moderators or break the rules of conduct.

hugs
P

Joanne f
11-29-2008, 05:49 AM
Girls I meant the 'S' word meaning sex,I asked if it was emotional or sexual satisfaction that you got from dressing but didn't want us to get too explicit talking about sex in case we offend the moderators or break the rules of conduct.

hugs
P

And we all know what happens to naughty girls if they brake the rules don`t we ( well at least i do ):devil:
They get a good ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- talking to :heehee:


joanne

Jess_cd32
11-29-2008, 06:05 AM
This joke of mine was directly related to the "dumb blondie" label that Deborah Jane has added between her name and her gorgeous avatar showing herself as the most lovely and wonderful blonde. This funny label of hers is obviously to be taken with humour........

...........So that I never thought that my joke about the dumb blondes could be misinterpreted as being somewhat rude to Deborah, and I feel extremely sorry if it had been the case. :o

I am honoured instead to be Deborah's friend and especially praise, among other qualities of hers, her great sense of humor.

For the case my contribution has not been read as a good joke by some readers, I want to apologize a lot for my badly worded joke. You have to excuse me since I'm a dumb blonde too. :battingeyelashes:

Kisses :love:

I think everyone knows it was a friendly joke with no bad intent between friends.
I know I responded to what you said knowing Debs as well, as having a great sense of humor and would look at your post with such.
I saw no harm in what you said, rather just humor which Debs is known for.

Your joke was funny and worded OK, I'm sure she'll find it that way as well when she reads it Nadia.

I would have taken it that way if it was directed at me, its all in fun:hugs:

KellyCD
11-29-2008, 06:40 AM
For me it's emotional, and sensual and sexual somewhat.

But then again I'm 25, anything and everything can be sexual to people my age.

It's really hard to describe though. It boils down to just FEELING "right".

amber 07
11-29-2008, 10:00 AM
You're right Kelly, when you say it "just feels right". and don't lose any hope, I'm 60 and its still a wonderful sexual experience for me also. Hugs, Amber

Patty
11-29-2008, 10:19 AM
To me it just makes me feel happy and whole.

Intertwined
11-29-2008, 10:44 AM
Interesting question.

I am always relaxed when dressed in what i consider my propper dress.

I would have to say Emotional and Spiritual.

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/attachment.php?attachmentid=76917&thumb=1&d=1227940700

Marjory
11-29-2008, 11:15 AM
When I first came to notice there was something different about me I new, even at 4-5 YO, that is was sexual even though I didn't know what sexual was. At ~13 it was sexual. The older I got the less sexual it became. Now, at 65, it's very relaxing. My BP will drop 10-15 points when dressed, even just slightly (slacks and shoes).