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Sally2005
11-28-2008, 01:44 AM
I just had to tell someone about my day. Nothing too crazy, but if you are thinking about getting out, do it. I've been out before, but my confidence has always been an issue. This week, I made it out twice... on my first outing all I did was fill up my vehicle with gas, otherwise I chickened out and didn't do anything, my original idea was to go watch a movie. Maybe that's what energized me to go out a second time.

Today I spent some extra time getting ready. I tried doing some subtle conturing on my face shape...I'm not exactly sure what shape I am, but I tried going from oblong to oval. I also tried to minimize the coverage since I end up looking too made up sometimes for daytime. I dressed like in my avitar. For some reason, I was feeling frisky/risky so I did a lot.

I parked my car, across the road from a movie theater thinking I would go look and maybe watch a show... unfortunately the place was closed and the doors locked... instead of going back to my car I decided to wait at the crosswalk and walk to the mall on the other side of the highway. I walked to scrapbooking store there and almost chickened out going in as several people walked out... they all looked me in the face, I smiled... no double takes...hey that felt pretty good...and it would look odd to turn around as the door was held open for me, so in I went. There were people in almost every isle, staff joking around and one young woman on a step ladder adjusting the displays. No odd looks, I didn't want to buy anything so after browsing a little, out I went.

Back on the sidewalk coming face to face with young old, males females...no odd looks, just indifference...people going about thier business and no shocked looks from anyone. The next doors I came to was Zeller's...people were loitering around the doors, but I walked right past and again no lingering glances my way...wow! Inside I just walked around and browsed items, and again no odd looks, people looked at me, but with just the regular nothing is out of place kind of looks. After that, I walked back to the car, but had some unusual encounters on the way...of a good kind. The first was a large truck, I was waiting on the sidewalk for it to pass, but as the cab approached the truck slowed way down...he was checking me out and then he politely pulled ahead just enough so I could cross the road behind him...except by then there were several cars waiting, so I had to cross in front of them... all smiles and waves to let me know I could cross. The next encounter was a surprise. I was waiting at the crosswalk and an old lady snuck up on me. She spoke french and it was hard to hear her...so I moved my face about 6 inches directly in front of hers to hear her...I still didn't get it and I said in a quiet voice 'je ne se pas' ('I don't know') and she seemed okay with that answer, I think she was just asking how long the light had changed and did I push the button. We both waited to cross together...not an ounce of detection! So then I walked by a younger male and female and I got a nice smile from the guy, the girl ignored me. Back in the car. Did I mention there is also about 3 inches of snow and ice on the ground so it is slippery and I'm wearing high heal boots so there is a lot of click clacking going on.

I then decided to go check out the thrift store. To make a long story short there were a lot of people browsing, no one noticed me. I found some low cut boots that fit, but I didn't like the shape.

Next I went to visit the local casino...I didn't have time to go in, so I just walked around the outside a little bit.

Then since I try to avoid being noticed when I return home, I pull on my male clothes over top and wipe my face clean. I parked in a dark parking garage spot and undid my look while in the driver's seat... I parked directly behind a truck with tinted windows... as I was almost finshed, I noticed the truck lights came on and it drove away...I think the driver was there the whole time since I did not see them or hear any door close...I wonder what they saw?...Doesn't matter.

I felt great after this outing. Now I feel a bit tired and mood is low because I'm still struggling with the issue of telling my SO. ...I considered saying ...'guess what I did today?'...but that's probably not the best way. I think its going to be over a romantic dinner when I spill the beans. Anyway, I had a great time, I just wish i could share it with my SO or have her join me.

a couple snap shots here (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?p=1512775#post1512775)

Sally

tamarav
11-28-2008, 08:56 AM
Sounds like you had a great day!

To many, your day would have been a regular day, but for many of us it is one of the most exciting things we can do, get out and mingle.

I tried to mingle for years and only made it when I had wasted countless hours sitting in my car trying to gather the courage to get out. Many times I just drove home after hours of touching up my makeup or adjusting my hair, looking quite obvious sitting in my car.

Over time, I learned that no one really cares what goes on or how I really looked so I went further and actually walked a mall or a street to a destination. It was a build-up of courage and confidence that took time.

Today, I work dressed and walk among the public daily. I try to look my best to move past the obvious "guy in a dress" look and give them something to really think about.

This can be a very scary activity, but the inner rewards are priceless.
76798

Your sis,

Tami

Sarah Martin
11-28-2008, 09:03 AM
I'm glad that you had such a positive experience and hope you have many more good days like this.

Best wishes,
Sarah

catriona36
11-28-2008, 09:10 AM
sounds like you had a great day out sis. :)
i wish i could do that one day but i have a bad back ( a yellow streak a mile wide runs down it) lol

that is something i so wish to do with a female friend/ lover . mmmm we can only dream eh :)

glad you enjoyed it and if you tell so dont do it in public lol

Kristen Kelly
11-28-2008, 09:18 AM
Glad you had such a great day, the only way to get over your fear is to get out and do it often. You will find that your mannerisms more than how you look (your avatiar looks great) or even your voice will give you away, people can see a guy in a dress at 100 yards, so work on you mannerisms. Find someone to get out with it's more fun to do it with a friend. I remember my first time out 3 years ago like it was yesterday. Now I go anywhere day or night, don't even bother to check who's checking me out, that comes with confidence in how you look and act, and alot of times out. Just remember it's not always going to be great, there will be bumps in the road and how you handle them will make you stronger. Get out, smile, and don't forget to have fun.

Sarah Martin
11-28-2008, 10:39 AM
PS: Sally, you look great. You'll have no problem passing!

sissystephanie
11-28-2008, 10:46 AM
Sally, if that is really you in your Avatar, you should have no worries going out in public. You are one pretty girl. Now the task is to convince your S.O. that you can still be her man, even if you like to look like a female!! I suggest you have a sitdown talk with her, and really explain yourself. Hopefully she will take it the right way!

Living a life of deceit is not good for either of you. If you have read other posts of mine, you know I told my late wife before we were married. We wore matching white silk lingerie to our wedding. She used to do my makeup and wig so we could out as two girls!!:love: I am not very good with makeup and terrible with my wig! But I still go out dressed, just looking like a guy in a skirt and nice tight top to show off my natural 40 B's. Yes, I do get some doubletakes, giggles, and funny looks! But I really don't care! I know I am a crossdresser, and I am happier in feminine clothing. B TW, I also frquently get nice comments on the particular outfit I am wearing. My late wife always said I had good taste in feminine clothing!!!:)

Stephanie

Lady on the outside, but man underneath!

Tami, I will be moving from Georgia back to Washington state sometime in the next three years. I grew up in Portland, Oregon and then lived in the Seattle area for 15 years before coming to Georgia.

I hope to be able to look you up and get a transformation! My late wife used to do tranformations on me and although not trained as you are, she was quite good. Since she passed away 3 + years ago, I have had only one done. But as my previous post said, I go out in public dressed anyway. I love to be wearing feminine clothing!!!:love:

Stephanie

Lady on the outside, but man underneath!

Karren H
11-28-2008, 11:38 AM
Awesome day, Sally!!!! You'll love the Casino!! They take your money no matter how your dressed!! They sure do mine...

Sam-antha
11-28-2008, 11:51 AM
Some first timers - and others- would have been and chickened out when they found the cinema was shut and locked in their faces.
Instead, you went and had a great time.
You have memories to hug as well.
~Samm

Sally2005
11-28-2008, 12:10 PM
I have no desire to gamble...but who knows maybe next time I'll play the slots...image winning millions while dressed! That would surely make the papers!

It has taken many outting to build up to this level without running home when something doesn't go perfect. My attitude has shifted to self acceptance and living life.

I believe success is related to attitude. I told myself I was a women for the day (I read somewhere to hold your head up, elbows back and pretend a string is pulling up on your head to walk - it works!) and gosh darn it the shoes are on so you have to walk a mile in them.

I've done my share of sitting in the car and being scared to death. I'm glad that passes -eventually-.

S. Lisa Smith
11-28-2008, 12:36 PM
You look wonderful!! Isn't it fun to go out!!! I went out last Saturday for the first ime in years. i was a mess...it took me 10 minutes to put my earrings in my ears my hands were shaking som much. Once I went out I was OK, but i sure was nervious beforehand. I'm sure next time I won't be as scared and I don't look as good as you do! Good luck!!

SherriePall
11-28-2008, 12:42 PM
Sally -- Good for you. I have found that "just doing it" is often the way to go. I get out of my car, stand up straight and walk with my hips and away I go. So far, so good! It does help to have a good pair of shoes, though.

Kristen Kelly
11-28-2008, 01:46 PM
I have no desire to gamble...but who knows maybe next time I'll play the slots...image winning millions while dressed! That would surely make the papers!

Karen is right Casino They take your money no matter how your dressed!! I love going to Atlantic City and Vegas, get comped often in Atlantic City and even check in enfem now, meaning I have to show them my male ID because my comp is in "HIS" name, no problems at all. If I hit the millions I won't have to be worried about being outed at work, but up till this time I have only won 4 One Thousand-Dollar jackpots on the slots and a few great runs on the Blackjack and Craps tables. Held the dice last Dec for 1 hr with all eyes on me, and I know nobody cared how I was dressed I was making them $$MONEY$$

Janet Bern
11-28-2008, 03:36 PM
I have only started going out this year. I am 6'3 and was always nervous about it.. I love the part where you said that there were no lingering glances and people were so busy and preoccupied that they really dont notice. Even at my height (wore flats) I seemed to have fit in and was able to stand next to ladies that never suspected that I was not a female. What a great feeling.
My advice to anyone that is the least bit passable is to make sure you arent too nervous and go about your business, and act like a lady and dress to the surroundings. then have a great time.. i love it
Janet

carhill2mn
12-01-2008, 06:08 PM
Hi Sally, based on what I see in the photos you should have no trouble being accepted for what you appear to be. The first several times of actually getting out of the car and mingling with others is very scary for everyone but, it does get easier especially, if you feel good about how you look and act like a lady would.

unclejoann
12-01-2008, 08:50 PM
I am guessing this is the perfect time of year to go strolling around the mall with all the crowds obviously focused on holidays and not us. I am hot to go to the mall anytime day or night, except I haven't figured out how to slip past my wife without being seen.

kavyaruma
12-01-2008, 10:25 PM
you looks beautiful and made a wonderful day out of your outfit . no one care as long as you are not dressed as silly

Alex!
12-01-2008, 10:35 PM
Awesome! And may I say that you wear those jeans VERY well :)