Pressure on Accepting Wives

[Clara]

Recently my lovely wife bought me a beautiful Simply Vera Vera Wang winter pajamas which I wear pretty much every night now. Today she was shopping with her mom. At Kohl's she pointed out the same pajams to her mom and said: “aren't these cute?” Her mom said that they looked comfortable. And my wife said: ”They are comfortable, my” and then she stopped. Yes, she wanted to say: “my husband wears those”. So, I realized that now she is burdened with the secrecy pretty much as I am. Sorry.

[Sheila]

Clare yeah there is some (lots) pressure on accepting partners if you are both in the closet, which is why it is vital that you keep talking & being honest & never let them get to the point where they feel as if they come second to your inner selves presenting externally.
am sure you do a fine job in all depts from having read a lot of your posts hugs:

[emmicd]

It sounds like your wife really cares about you and wishes to protect your secret.

You should reach out to her and surprise her with a nice present and cater to her femininity. Make her feel special as she reached out to you. You should always realize that we dress as a need and not many understand. Your wife surely does and you should always remember that and make it positive. Let her know though that you love to see her dress pretty and that you like to buy her nice things or ask her to pick out something she really likes for herself.

emmi