Is There a Bad Time to Dress?

[Penelope]

Do any of you believe that there is in fact a bad time or day to dress?
I was wondering if there was a time when you felt bad for dressing....?

Two of my old girlfriends got very angry about me dressing when it was 'their time of the month" so out of respect and to show I could be a supportive and loving boyfriend I refrained from dressing for a few days. I recall an old GF saying' gee if you want to be a woman so badly ,would you like to experience my monthly?" and she sounded serious.I didn't know how to respond to be honest.

I hope this is not considered inappropriate subject matter?, I am just relaying a concern that a few girlfriends had and something that has made me feel a little awkward about my dressing on occasion.

Hugs and no offence intended to either gurls,CD's/TG or GG's

:hugs:

[Deborah Jane]

When you,ve got a group of mates coming over for a lads night in of drinking and watching DVDs, meeting them at the door while dressed in your favourite tarty outfit probably isn,t a really good idea :battingeyelashes: :doh: :D

[Shelly67]

For me this very Friday ( started off wonderful chatting online with a friend ) was fabulous.......then influenza hit me like lightning . I,m only just able to type this as my body is seriously killing me ....... very bad and unwanted timing.

[ReineD]

Do any of you believe that there is in fact a bad time or day to dress? I was wondering if there was a time when you felt bad for dressing....?

Two of my old girlfriends got very angry about me dressing when ...

I gather you are asking if there are times when dressing around a GG will not be well received? Unless a GG is prepared to live with someone who dresses 24/7, there are bound to be certain times she would prefer to be with her guy.

In my case, it has to do with feeling vulnerable or insecure about aspects of my life at times. When this happens, I want and need the strength of my man, not the companionship of my girlfriend, even though both are supportive. Also in the beginning, on deeper levels, it did take time for me to fully come to terms with having an SO who is either sometimes female or always trans and I had to work through these feelings when they came up.

The third link at the bottom of my signature, "Now I Like It, Now I Don't", discusses several other scenarios about GGs whose acceptance levels fluctuates. See points 1 through 4 at the bottom of the post.

[KellyCD]

...."Now I Like It, Now I Don't", discusses several other scenarios about GGs whose acceptance levels fluctuates. ...

My wife is like that. If I want to dress at a time when she'll be awake(sad but no joke) I have to kinda ask day's in advance.

Sometimes she's just indifferent about it, but most of the time she just *HATES* it.

[TxKimberly]

LOL I've been married for over 21 years now and it became clear very early on that we don't discuss, hint at, or otherwise bring the world of cross dressing to her attention during that time of month. I shiver just to think about it . . .

[Sarah...]

Do any of you believe that there is in fact a bad time or day to dress?


Yes, sure is. You need to be the one to see the signs in your nearest, dearest and friends and not do it. Difficult, I know but work at it and you'll get there.

Sarah...

[Crystal Galadriel]

I hadn't thought about the SO's acceptance varying with their "time of the month", but now that it's been brought up, I think mine would/will definitely prefer me not to dress during that. She gets pretty touchy and upset easily, and I think it'd bug her during that time even if she's generally accepting of it the rest of the time.

[Sally2005]

Never mind CDing... try living in the same house for those few days without attitude leaking out every chance it gets. I've thought about letting her know about my CDing, but no way would I do it anywhere near that time.

[rhonda jane]

Is it a cross dressing rule of thumb that, if you're married, she might be uncomfortable with it during her "time of the month" days?

I suppose it's something to be aware of when that kind of mindset is part of the relationship. So, does she just frown at you or try to avoid you? How much of that attitude does she display even when you're not enfemme and she's menstrating ?

This is news to me so maybe it's a new scientific discovery in the CDsphere? Or maybe I'm a lonely old hag without a GG to keep me warm and never had the experience. I think it's interesting. Good luck kids!

[ReineD]

:yt:

I've got to jump in again. I didn't comment earlier on the period issue because frankly, I don't see how it would make a difference. True, having PMS can be a vulnerable time for some of us, but not every GG experiences this. If she is supportive of the CDing and life is going well in other areas, why would having her period change her outlook?

I think this theory is hogwash. If she objects to the Cding during her period, then she will object to it at other times too.

[Penelope]

With respect I sort of disagree with some of Rhonda's and Reine's views.Like I mentioned and a few others above some women were more touchy and not supportive of CDing at that time.Two of them being my 2 girlfriends who abhored any attempt by me to dress during that time.

Hugs, :hugs:

P
No there are no hard and fast rules each couple are unique in their level of acceptance and frequency of dressing or not dressing

[docrobbysherry]

I considered dressing that day, but thot it mite be in bad taste!:sad:

( Maybe by next year, I'll have a less tattered turkey suit for Sherry!):eek:

[Karren H]

The only time I ever felt truely bad for being dressed.... was the time my wife called me on the cell phone... and asked me who's skirts were those in the bottom of my closet... and I admitted I crossdressed.... and I was out in Ohio dressed enfemme for the day... working...

That day....... I felt really really bad about being dressed.... matter of fact I felt really really bad about living.... about everything.....

Luckily I got over it!! :)

[Beth-Lock]

There used to be a cartoon called, "They'll Do It Every Time!", and that seems to point to the likelihood that you will likely sometime, be caught dressed at exactly the wrong time, regardless of what time it is. Even if you just do it inside your home, then there is the unexpected knock at the door, perhaps a garrulous stranger lost, or a friend who does not realize, dropping by unexpectedly. That my friend, is what I think of as the wrong time.

[Jonianne]

Although my wife is accepting, supportive and has gone out with me dressed, I would not dare pop in unexpectedly dressed. That is just one of our ground rules in our relationship.

[Jocelyn Quivers]

Out of respect whenever my wife is sick or not feeling well. I can read between the lines and figure out that it's not probably the best time for me to get completely dressed and run around the house taking pictures while she's trying to rest. Also when either one of us have been out of town for a few days it's also best that on our first day together I not spend it en-femme.

[joanne_mi]

I think that going to meet your new girlfriend's parents for the first time wouldn't be the best time to dress. :)

[Kelly DeWinter]

While taking a shower ?

[Nikki A.]

Job interview (depends on the job), FBI security clearance meeting, a redneck biker bar.
Seriously, there has to be a little give and take. If she respects that this is a part of you and accepts it most of the time, then you should also respect her feelings at times too.

[Kate Jennings]

When it is 90 degrees and 90 % humidity like it is often here during Long Island's summer season! Whew! That's a bad time to dress!

[Bekka]

The day the townhome next to ours caught fire turned out to be a pretty bad day to dress :)

[Marjory]

If you're going in to combat but, after thinking about it, British Commandos wore them in WWII. Then again you wouldn't comment to them.

[Penelope]

Marjory ,
very good point but that would be equivalent of commenting to a kilt wearing Scottsman 'Nice dress you have there' and before you finish the sentence you wake up on the ground with a crowd around you,LOL!

Thanks girls for some very interesting answers to my question
hugs

Penelope :hugs:

[Ronni Seymour]

When you,ve got a group of mates coming over for a lads night in of drinking and watching DVDs, meeting them at the door while dressed in your favourite tarty outfit probably isn,t a really good idea :battingeyelashes: :doh: :D

You're too funny, Deb!:laugh::laugh::laugh:

[Satrana]

I recall an old GF saying' gee if you want to be a woman so badly ,would you like to experience my monthly?" and she sounded serious.I didn't know how to respond to be honest.


My wife says that but she is only joking. Would not want periods......period! You could always answer if women want male rights then how would they feel having to shave their face every day.

I agree with ReineD, if a girl uses her period to stop you then it is really just an excuse hiding the fact that she does not like the CDing in the first instance. While you can be respectful of her emotional state, she has to be respectful of your rights of expression.

[trisha59]

I'm thinking, league bowling night might not be the best time.

[BuffyCD]

There are DEF bad times to dress! Although it depends on your situation...My situation is pretty laid back. I make sure i ask my girlfriend if its OK before i dress, sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't. She says that she likes to feel that she still brings that "feminine" aspect every now and again, and if im dressing to often, she feels that she isn't. We actually have a really good system and communication going, and for the most part I feel like i can dress as freely as I would like! Sometimes she is super nice and lets me wear some goodies to bed! Its really alot of give and take!

B.