Omg!!!

[Syndi]

Well....my worse fears have come true. But stupid me it is my fault. I should have stayed behind closed doors. I went out again just to Walmart at 2 am and like they say the third time is a charm. I was spotted by my Mom's friend and she snapped a camera shot . Wasn't dressed over feminine just ladies jeans , shirt, lipstick ,my hair pulled back with acap, and sunglasses. Anyway Mom is angry and will not discuss this further. So Syndi is behind close doors for good. As far as I know the rest of the family don't know...I am still in one piece so that is a good sign. Getting my Mom to see things different would be useless she is an old school hispanic lady set in her ways. I just feel sooooo depressed:sad:

Why do I have to love wearing girl's clothes soooo much?

[Clara]

Sorry to hear that Syndi. Hopefully, it stays between you and your mom and mom's overzealous friend. Good luck.

[mklinden2010]

Congratulations, you're out.

Long story short, those are the facts.

(Hey look, the sky is still way up there!)

You didn't mention your age, but if you're living at home, maybe you're still relatively young. That can seem a bad thing, but if your Mom knows, and her friend knows, then everybody knows or will know. The issue of being out or not is, at least, pretty well settled for you.

Unless, of course, you were "just out on a dare" or something - three times in a row.

Whatever, the sky is not going to fall...

So, give it up and just admit it freely:

"Yeah, that's the deal."

You can add:

"Yeah, that's the deal. Who knows why? But, you know, it wassss kinda fun. You know, like parachuting or something."

Relate, relate, relate....

Your Mom has been around long enough to know that no one is perfect and she may be waiting for you to explain what you were doing so that it makes some kind of general sense:

"Dang kids... Always jumping off of cliffs and stuff!"

Brace yourself for some hard winds. But, hang in there. If you're repeatedly going to Walmart for some thrills, you'll be back to your "old tricks" eventually. That's just the way it is....

(Good thing this is no longer listed as a crime on the books.)

Might as well make the best of this and recognize that this might be your road in life. Fine. Just be good at it.

Be a good person too.

Your Mom may be upset at you now, but you will always be her child and she will always be your Mother. Take care of each other then.

Good luck and good living.

[CD Susan]

Hi Syndi, this might not be as bad as you think it might be. It sounds like you are young at living at home. If this is so you are outed to two people that will probably not say anything to anyone else about it. Many of us go through most of our lives hiding this but you longer have to do this. You don't need anyone elses approval to do what you want so in a way you are lucky in that you have already been outed.

[Angie G]

Sorry for you bad luck Syndi. Hope thing get better for you hun.:hugs:
Angie

[Karren H]

Wow... What's the chance of that happening!!! At 2am. With a camera.. Your screwed!!

[Princess29]

that's awfully unlucky

[rhondamichelle]

Syndi,

Try not to be depressed for who and what you are....a unique and special individual. Everything happens for a reason sometimes it just takes a little while trying to figure out what the reason was so keep the faith,

Rhonda Michelle

[Jenna1561]

I'm sorry the encounter isn't working well for you. But like others I believe this may be a blessing in disguise. Your Mom now knows. Telling parents is one of the most difficult things we have to do. For you it's done. I know it's difficult but try to put a positive spin on this event.


Jenna

[MJ]

yep your out now no point in hiding it any more. you might as well do what you do in the open.
welcome to the real world sister :hugs:

[jackie_p]

Syndi:

I agree with the others.The ice is broken with your mom, just
try, delicately mind you, to talk about it with her. She might be
a little more understanding than you think. After all, you are
child, regardless of how you're dressed. Good luck, hun.

[Mollyanne]

Hiya Syndi, I can't exactly relate to your situation but I was "caught" by my mom many many years ago. Needless to say she was stunned and I was frozen in stone but it was openly discussed between her and I and she NEVER stopped loving me.
After our discussion she actually helped me and took our secret to her grave. Hold your head high, take a deep breath and go forward. BTW, you like wearing girls' clothes because it feels right!!!!!

:love: Mollyanne

[Jess_cd32]

Rent a camera w/ a zoom lense, park outside that womans house some evening and maybe you can catch a few pics of her to give Mom, some very unflattering ones and oh BTW, don't forget to post them on the net also.

That was an invasion of your privacy bigtime on her part, give her a taste of her own medicine.

[cindyscute]

That's pretty sad that your mom's friend has nothing better to do then take pictures at 2 am to mess with your life. She's got to have issues of her own. Now that your out to your mom the best thing to do is keep the lines of communications open, talk about it, show her some of the facts here online. She may become a great allie for you once she understands.

[suit]

That's pretty sad that your mom's friend has nothing better to do then take pictures at 2 am to mess with your life. She's got to have issues of her own. Now that your out to your mom the best thing to do is keep the lines of communications open, talk about it, show her some of the facts here online. She may become a great allie for you once she understands.



??? make a challange..."she thinks i looked girly there."....do it up right with your moms help and go talk to her ,with your mom ,about why she took your pic. and let her see you in all your "glory"

would she be speachless then ?

[MsJanessa]

assuming you are over 18 and reasonably independent you now have a good reason to move out of your mother's house (I'm assuming you still live there)--also a good reason to develope some independence financially and emotionally from your parents--although this may be hard are first, once accomplished you will have a real sense of freedom. If you are already on your own I wouldn't worry about it too much. I bet your mother will eventually come around and will accept you for what you are. And I would not leave Syndi in the closet if you are on your own--after all it is your life.

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

You are over 18 aren't you? I would tell mom the truth and live with the outcome. If you are anything like most of us you will not be able to suppress thwe urge for long periods of time and it will only cause you undue hardship. Oh how I wish that I had been "caught" at a young age.

[Syndi]

Thank you all for the kind words. Just to clarify some things : it was a camera/phone( my typing is bad) and yeah I was stupid for going to Walmart that late but I am not too bright attimes.
Yes I am over 18 BUT I live athome because of the high cost of living and because of a health issue that at times requires monitoring. Iam under the careofa neurosurgeon forit. Any way yes my mom knows now but is really upsetat me . Called me some spanish words for gay. Though it may sound easy it really isn't. She has oldbeliefs and isn't likely to budge. Anyywaygirls thanks abunch for the support. :hugs:

Though my mom is never accepting Syndi Iguess thingswill return to normal butfor sure my night escapades will cease.

[Raquel June]

And what did you say to her obnoxious friend for taking your picture and sending it to your mom? How rude is that???

[Mandy Burgundy]

How she was able to tell it was you with a hat and sunglasses is confusing. Were you wearing it in the pic? How did she manage to get a clear shot pic of you? at 2 am? Im sure its not you just like smiled and say cheese to the camera. Oh well, bummer. Hope things go well for you.

[charlie]

How unlucky can you get? Who in the world is out with a camera at 2am. I do agree with Mary though. You are outed now. To me the worst has happened. You might as well go on with your life and be you out in the open. What could happen? Someone might take another picture of you and tell your Mom!