Speed Dating

[IMkrystal]

Three days ago I participated in a speed dating event. The two requirements were, you were between the age of 35 to 52 and you were a "professional". During the seven minutes spent talking with GGs, I did not mention that I enjoyed crossdressing because of the fear of of the response.:eek:

I joined this site over three years ago and have read many threads & comments about relationships, GGs acceptance, hiding crossdressing, or telling GGs upfront, and how to find or where to go to find accepting GGs. :doh: Many of these threads and comments are "logical" on paper, but have not helped in finding a solution to one of the reasons for joining Crossdresser.com. :sad:

My question is, how many GGs and Cds would participate in a speed dating event in which crossdressing was a requirement?

[trisha59]

Sounds like an idea that should be put to use.

[Alicia_lynn419]

If I knew the requirement was for me to be dressed en femme and would be speed dating with "accepting women", I'd be the first to sign up. As it is I have a date this weekend with a very nice lady I met on Match.com... she says she is very open minded, and so far we seem to have a lot of similarities, but only time will tell....

[IMkrystal]

If I knew the requirement was for me to be dressed en femme and would be speed dating with "accepting women", I'd be the first to sign up. As it is I have a date this weekend with a very nice lady I met on Match.com... she says she is very open minded, and so far we seem to have a lot of similarities, but only time will tell....

Thanks for your comment. However having read many GGs comments on here, it appears they are more accepting of some privacy

[renee k]

I'm all for this. Where do I sign!

Huggs, Renee

[IMkrystal]

It would have been better to separate GGs and Cds poll responses

[Teri Jean]

I'm not a fan of speed dating as a whole but the idea of finding a gg who would accept me as Keli as well as my male side appeals to me. Keli

[Cari]

usually there is like one accepting GG for about every 50 MTF CD's

If you could get serious GG's it would be fantastic.

Cari

[Karren H]

I saw that on Psych.... and my wife would kill me I think!! lol

[Sammy777]

I think doing this dressed could get confusing and/or interesting, lol.

Now maybe if being dressed wasn't required.

Having all of the GG's know upfront what they were getting into would be a nice idea.

Now if you can just find enough accepting GG's & get'em all in one room at the same time, then sign me up. LOL

[Erica Lauren James]

Absolutely I'm In!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Erica

[docrobbysherry]

It would have been better to separate GGs and Cds poll responses

I wasn't sure from your poll who was dating who!:eek:

If it was CDs meeting GGs, I'd be in! Except I couldn't pass your, "under 52", age requirement!:sad:

[NewDresser]

There would be no question whether the women are accepting or not, if they weren't they wouldn't be there.

[Nadia-Maria]

usually there is like one accepting GG for about every 50 MTF CD's


I'm very interested in such stats.
Do you have any poll to support these figures ?
Or is it just a guess from yours ?

[melissacd]

I would definitely go to a speed dating for cross dressers. I have reached a point in my life where it is extremely important that whomever I date would need to know right up front that I am a cross dresser. Cross dressing is a big part of what defines me and so if a potential partner did not know about this then I could not be myself and being myself is very important now, not something that I can compromise on anymore. My last long term relationship ended because I was not honest about this part of who I am, I do not want to repeat that.

I am now in a new relationship where I told her up front and made it clear that it was a big part of what defines me and that if she could not accept that that she should walk away. She has not walked away yet and now I dress up around her all the time both in private and in public. Her family knows, her kids know, her friends know...it is all on the table and so far all is going well.

She understands that there is a distinct possibility that I may dress 7/24 and she knows that she will have to base whether or not to stay on that decision when and if I should make it. I am not prepared anymore to compromise on this aspect of my life.

I have been very open and honest this time around and I am also willing to accept that a relationship can end in spite of the best of intentions and communications about who you are and what you want in your life. I think that we have to be prepared to lose the one we love for the sake of being true to who we are, everyone will be happier in the end. To thine own self be true...that is the axiom that I live by now.

So again, I would attend a speed dating for cross dressers assuming that I needed a date, since that is not the case right now the question is academic.

Huggs
Melissa

[sometimes_miss]

I'm very interested in such stats.
Do you have any poll to support these figures ?
Or is it just a guess from yours ?

I'd tend to agree with the concept that there are very few women interested, anywhere. There are simply not a lot of women out there interested in dating crossdressers. Try putting up some personal ads, identical other than mentioning the crossdressing and see the difference in the number of hits you get. I did; the difference was staggering. Over a few weeks, I well over a hundred interested women on the 'straight' ad. On the one with the crossdressing, I got some guys, some prostitutes, one gal in england, and that's about it. There's a 'date a crossdresser' site; it's inhabited almost completely (about 99.9%) by men. I tried contacting the few women there, and I didn't even get a response at all. None. Not even a 'no thanks'.

Crossdresser speed dating? While it sounds like a good idea, I can't see it working. I think that the few women who might be interested are also not wanting others to know about their attraction to feminine guys; or, they already have CD boyfriends. You will find some, though. But the numbers will probably about 100:1 guys to gals, so us not so pretty types probably won't stand much of a chance. However, should anyone wish to try, sign me up. It's worth a shot. But only if the numbers are remotely close. Otherwise, forget it. I have no intention of going to anywhere where several hundred guys in dresses have to compete for three nasty, demanding women who want to get married tomorrow.

[docrobbysherry]

There's a 'date a crossdresser' site; it's inhabited almost completely (about 99.9%) by men. I tried contacting the few women there, and I didn't even get a response at all. None. Not even a 'no thanks'.

I have no intention of going to anywhere where several hundred guys in dresses have to compete for three nasty, demanding women who want to get married tomorrow.

U did better than I did on that "dating" site! I gave up because it was too difficult trying to figure out who were GGs, and who were the CDs that listed themselves as, "women"!:sad:

Several years ago, I took a dating tour to Ukraine. While there, I attended a few parties where us 40 guys were among 250+/- women looking for boyfriends or husbands! The guys had a ball, but it wasn't much fun for most of the women!:eek:

[sometimes_miss]

U did better than I did on that "dating" site! I gave up because it was too difficult trying to figure out who were GGs, and who were the CDs that listed themselves as, "women"!

I think I came across about 10 GG ads there, of which 6 were pretty obvious fakes to get people to join. The other four were SO's of other CD'ers or dating someone already. The other hundreds that listed themselves as female were just male crossdressers indulging themselves, and confusing the rest of us. No GG's returned my emails; I did get several men interested in me though, but that's not what I was looking for. They ignored my ad stating that I had no interest in men.

[cdjoanne]

if there was a place for cd's to meet and take place in speed dating, i would definately be interested. it would be nice to meet somebody like me

[melissacd]

I have to agree with the previous sentiment that being a cross dresser definitely makes finding a GG partner extremely difficult. If you then add to that that you are looking for someone who not only is okay with cross dressing, but is also close enough to date and also compatible with you and your life goals both inside and outside cross dressing, well then there is the real challenge. All of this reduces the chances to an infinitesimally small chance of success, but even that small chance is a chance. You have to go into this with the attitude of success.

My approach, which was a big learning curve on many fronts, was to try in parallel as many sites as possible and as many approaches as possible. On some sites I listed myself as a cross dresser, on some sites I did not though in this case after getting to know someone I would tell them about my CDing very soon and let them know how important it was to me.

I have met many wonderful women and last year I dated a most beautiful, accepting person. For a variety of reasons, mostly me not being ready to commit and being unsure about my sexuality, I totally messed up a possibly wonderful relationship with an amazing woman. I cried for a long time about the mess that I made of it all and carried on. I have since found another wonderful woman who totally accepts all of this and loves me totally. I don't know if this is 'the one', however, I enjoy her companionship and her acceptance.

It is possible to find partnership, you just have to get yourself out there, be very open, date a lot, take some risks of getting hurt, make some mistakes and just keep trying but always be true to who you are. You will eventually find someone if you persist.

Huggs
Melissa