I sometimes feel really guilty after dressing....

[heathr1]

I've never dressed fully, but occasionally, even after only putting some lipstick on, I feel guilty as if I'm doing something dreadfully wrong.

Do you?

[Stephenie]

I to use to feel guilty but now that I have accepted the fem part of me as real. I have begun to feel more secure in who I am. I don't feel the need to be as mucho and ultra male to hide the part of me that likes pretty things and lace. If my wife was more accepting if would be like being released from a unjust prison sentence. To be able to enjoy life as myself. Try and see why you feel giulty and maybe you will see that you done need to.

[mand]

Not now Heathr, definitely not :)

However years ago yes the shame, the guilt used to really get to me, but now it's my life, it's who I am. I think it's quite natural to experence some guilt about being a crossdresser but I can only speak for how I feel when I say all that passed a long time ago.

Try not to feel bad Heathr, you really aren't doing anything wrong.

love mand xxx

[womantrapped2005]

i feel gulity just thinking about doing it, but i remember this is for me, not others

[Priscilla1018]

Hi Heathr,

Before I joined this forum I used to feel guilt and shame but all that changed as I got more comfortable with my feminine side and my male side.Now I feel that I am more balanced,it's okay to have emotions,it's okay to like pretty things and want to look my best.I don't have to behave like a Neanderthal,I don't have to watch stupid sports just because it's the manly thing to do,if I watch now it's because I want to ,not because it is expected.

[StephanieCD]

I've been dressing since I was 5 - for 23 years now... I still feel the guilt.

You're not alone.

[beverlylowery]

I have found that the only time I feel guilty is when other people make me feel guilty. We are what we are and after 72 years of this and after my wife died, after 51 years of marriage, I don't feel guilt anymore. When my wife was alive I have foun d that she was not the one that made me feel guilty I did that all on my own because I thought I was causing her problems. $9 years ago when I gtold I know she didn't approve, but thatnk Gopd she sdtuck with me. She didn't approve for many years until we both went to see a phsycologist and she gopt me involved with TRI ESS. THat helped a great deal. Hope this helps.

[beverlylowery]

I've been dressing since I was 5 - for 23 years now... I still feel the guilt.

You're not alone.
Stepahnie from yoru picture you have nothing to feel guilty about ;)

[Amelie]

I have never felt guilty, I am not doing anything wrong, so I don't feel guilty.
Amelie

[gender_blender]

Having done this unquestionably since age 4, I've never felt guilty for doing what I was clearly born to do. I consider the ability to step outside the male gender role to be a gift and I won't give it up for living a monotonous delusional gender conformist lifestyle. Ever.

There's no need to feel guilty for doing what makes you happy as long as you aren't hurting anyone.
Guilt and Regret are intangable psychological cancer. If any purging is ever done, those should be the first (any only) to go.

Be true.
Charlie

[philmaria]

I used to feel guilt,i have been dressing since i was 5 and it wasn't till i was in my late 30's that i finally accepted who i am,and now no more guilt

[MonaSmith]

I used to think that I felt guilt after dressing, but on reflection it was more like depression, at having to take it off and revert back to boyness. I have no guilt, and some would say no shame either :D

Mona xx.

[Julie York]

Yes.

[carolynhcd]

No guilt ever now. I haven't felt guilt since I was a teenager. You shouldn't either. This is the only sane thing to do. Everyone else is nuts. Wanna be like them? I agree with Mona, I only really ever felt depression about taking MY clothes off and putting someone else's back on to suit the ignorant, the intolerant, the insecure. I am finer as Carolyn than any GG who takes another woman's man to prove to herself that she can because she is prettier. My hand to God, you aren't doing anything wrong, just sexy. Be yourself and all will be well. Lie to yourself and others, and there will be hell to pay. I have a fabulous GF who adores me as Carolyn. These kind of diamonds are out there, but I think it takes real confidence to find them. She loves the fact that I am bi and lets me be who I am. I have promised her that she will always come first in my heart and I think she knows it. Be the girl and let the others sort themselves out. It is everyone's responsibility to make their own way in this world, without regard for the blind prejudice of the uninformed and unenlightened.

[Mira]

At least 32 of 35 years was spent guilt ridden after every episode of dressing. I think it's a natural feeling considering the stygma's and stereotypes society puts on crossdressing. Learn to accept yourself. Tell yourself it's ok to dress, to express yourself. You can see on these very forums, a world full of people just like you, just like us. Acceptance and understanding go so very far in every aspect of life and one's journey while here on this planet.

Take your time and learn about why you dress. Enjoy it, nurture it. And always feel at home here on the forums, sharing your thoughts, anxieties, curiosities, and comments. Guilt is not good if you never let go of it. You've taken the first important step to freeing the chains that bind you, that bind us all. Good luck and keep dressing. You can only be who are, so why not enjoy it! :p

[jo_ann]

I used to feel guilty when I would "ahem" spurt while dressed, thinking "what kind of freak am I?" and "I wonder if dead family members can see this, or is heaven recording my every move to be played back later when I die?".. I don't worry about it anymore, life was meant to be fun.

[womanatheart]

It is a very personal question which brings us all here to CDing. I have been CDing (in some form or another) since age 7. Why did I become involved with CDing? It certainly wasnt my choice at age 7 and after many years of scars and tears and guilt - the of the results of CDing - I am still not convinced it is my choice even now- 30+ yrs later. Why - I don't know? I will ask my Creator that one (no disrespect intended) One of life's mysteries I believe. Could I divorce myself from it? Probably at gunpoint - yes. And I realize the cost to my marriage, children, family, professional life, private life, money invested, emotionally involvement and time wasted on something I will never be - a woman. Am I still CDing? Yes! Why? Because I enjoy it and I realize it is part of me. As odd as it my seem. :) I have realized I am a CDer.
Lots of luck and love,
This is a great place to find love and understanding.
Love,
Stephanie.

[Sweet Jeanette]

Don't feel gulity.---If you like it, and it makes you feel good, then DO IT!---We only go around once, in this life, so, ---ENJOY IT!

[Katrina]

I don't feel guilty when I dress. I do feel guilty when I don't wear any of those pretty clothes I have bought ;) They deserve to be worn and if I don't do it, then who will??? Seriously though...I feel guilty if my GF had a bad day and I dress up since I know she would rather have me in guy mode.

[crispy]

it passes.

two factors helped me get over it. decades of CDing and finding this forum. without those I would still feel guilty.

as it is.......... 'frankly my dear I don't give a damn!' :cool:

[Holly]

Guilt? No more. And it will pass from you also.

[Stephanie Brooks]

I have never felt guilty, I am not doing anything wrong, so I don't feel guilty.
Amelie
I can't think of a better way to say it or live it.

[donna anne]

use to feel guilty before i told my wife. the sneaking around, felt like i was lying
to her and all. after joining this forum and telling her the guilt subsided

[mariej]

Sorry what was the question? Hic.
L&P
Mariej
xx

[Mira]

mariej, I'll have whatever you're having....does this constitute as thread hijacking???

[racquel]

As Holly said,it'll pass.It did for me. ;)

[norbie]

No I don't feel guilty and never have about CDing. But my main concern is worry, will Elizabeth come home early tonight or not?
I suspect she senses something but to be honest to you - I am afraid to damage a 28 years of Marriage. b.t.w. tommorow, 11 June is my 28 years wedding anyversary.
Love to all from Norbie :D