Good experiences with teenage girls?

[XOPrincessBoyXO]

So I know a lot of people have horror stories with teenage girls, but being 18 most of my friends are teen girls and are very accepting of me and I'm just wondering if anyone has ever had any good experiences w/ teenage girls when going out?

[emmicd]

I only dressed a handful of times in public and once I went to the mall dressed up fully in a dress and coat. The teenage girls could tell and I felt intimadated so I never went back . It was too stressful! The teenage girls know!

emmi

[Jinny M]

I just posted this yetserday in the "Out Playing in the Snow" Thread , this is my only moment so far ; I walk in my neighborhood regularly , yesterday the wife and I went out for a walk in the day after school had let out. I went wearing old navy "The Sweetheart " low rise flared leg jeans , a Danskin white and pink top, with a Danskin padded sport bra , i didn't need my forms as this sport bra is heavily padded and provides the look of breasts for you . I of course had on my panties and pink with black pokadots ankle socks, my white with powder blue and silver trim girls sneakers and a columbia jacket . No make up or wig though just the clothes. My wife was wearing pajama bottoms and a top with a sweat shirt and light jacket , it was day light usually we go at night so I can dress in femme . We went on our usual route , came around a courner and there was a group of teenagers , 4 girls and 5 boys . I said to the wife ut ! oh ! should we go the other way, she said no , lets just continue on. I knew there'd be something said out of that crowd about the way I was dressed . I noticed 3 of the girls had jeans similar to mine being they were flared at the bottom and tight in the legs and rear. I figured they'd notice right away and I figured they'd say something about the way I was dressed , but the only commit was about my wifes pajama bottoms. my wife and I laughed , I said I got away with it , all the attention was on your PJ bottoms . we had a good laugh for a good part of the walk . That was the 1st time in daylight , I got bold. I usually try to wear panties under my male clothes. We do go out walking at night sometimes it's in male clothes or my danskin work out outfits.. so far so good.

if those girls did notice they didn't say a word , they may have had a good laugh amongst them selfs .

that was a little pulse racing incident. what a rush. I usually walk at night when it's dark to basically wear what i want, as to no one is usually out. however I have my parents and sister and her family that live across the street , So i am taking a chance to being seen by them . however I'm almost to the point i don't care if they find out and know. I mainly have to watch out for my kids ,if they find out. I guess in a way by going for walks dressed , i'm almost looking to get caught.

Jinny

[tricia_uktv]

Teenage girls sitting on a bench dissing everyone in sight. They made a comment about my short skirt. I turned around and winked at them.
"Wow, a tranny, cool!"

I also met about fifteen teenage girls in a Department store in Manchester. We had a long chat and it was fun. They wanted to know everything!

Just keep smiling and you'll get through, promise

[XOPrincessBoyXO]

Well that's cool, any other good expereinces?

[Tracii G]

Teen girls are pretty sharp and figure it out quickly.Never had any say anything bad they just smile and check out your clothes.
I was at Claire's buying earrings one day en femme and had a high school girl say wow I have the same jeans you look nice cute top too, then she read me and gave a huge smile and a thumbs up. That was very cool of her not to out me.

[vivianann]

Since I go out crossdressed alot, I have run into alot of teenage girls, and so far they have been quite wonderful to me, they read me instantly, however they always compliment me, and say things like it is so cool, I have a friend that crossdresses also, I have had them ask me if they can do my makeup.
I think the teenage girls today are much more understanding than they were 20 plus years ago. Back then when a teenage girl were to spot you in the mall or store they used to yell out to everyone and point, there is a guy in a dress. they just dont do that anymore.:thumbsup: to the teenage girls.

[DanaR]

I posted this before, but is so appropriate to this thread. Several years ago, while at a TG convention, a friend and I were walking back to our hotel. As we were walking down the street, several teenage girls confronted us and said, “Are you guys”? We were startled and then as we were saying no, my friend (that is on hormones) plopped one of her boobs out and these girls’ mouths just dropped open. It was a Kodak moment. We didn’t say anything else and just walked away.

[deja true]

Yup! There could be good and there could be bad...

My only experience with young girls was at a big gay/straight night club in Chicago. A lot of us attendees at the Chicago BeAll went there one evening for a night of dancing and there was a large contingent of local girls and boys. We mostly got snickering stares from the young guys, but we outnumbered them by more than 3 to 1, so no problems. The girls, on the other hand, spent a lot of time with us dancing and chatting and taking pictures. It was sort of a fun experience for them... and neither us or the girls felt threatened in any way.

I did get hit on by an older guy later in the evening, but I think he had broken his really thick glasses earlier!

Still, I'd be wary of groups of mall rats unless I was in a group, I think...

:)

[sybercom11]

When I was teen a lot of girls accepted me as their friend and a couple had me as their special close friend. But they did not want to date me. They wanted to date the "real boys," not a sissy.

What's funny is that they would ask me what I thought about certain boys before they decided whether or not they wanted to date them.

[Mean Green Irene]

When I came out to my daughter of 18 she immeadiately accepted me and said that many of her Anime stories have CD's in them. She has had no problem even going out with me.

Irene

[StaceyJane]

I have a teenage daughter in my house that I really should come out too.

[XOPrincessBoyXO]

Well that's good to hear they haven't all been bad!

[Annie D]

I have stated in the past that I coach high school girls and although I am not out, there are several physical characteristics that are public; pierced ears, shaved legs, waxed arms and manicured nails. None of the girls (50 total on Varsity, JV and two freshmen teams) have remarked about any these noticeable things. Over the last 3 months, my fingernails have started breaking and splitting and I had two repaired with solar nails and nobody noticed. During Thanksgiving break, I went ahead and got solar nails applied to all my nails and each are about 1/4 inch longer than my fingers. After one of our off-season workouts as we huddled to break for the day, one of my seniors noticed my nails and exclaimed, "Did you get your nails done? Cool!" And that was all that was said.

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

I have had both good and bad, it all goes with the maturity level of the kids you come across. I will tell you that all the girls you passed by noticed your clothes, that's what girls do. They just didn't comment but they surely talked about it afterwards. I wear fem jeans most of the time and really don't worry about any comments. I don't wear them when my daughters are around since they don't know about Sandra and my wife wants to keep it that way. Once I got caught wearing an obvious pair of womans jeans, they are Old Navy, ultimate low rise size 10 jeans and my youngest daughter commented immediately, I played dumb and said that they did feel wierd but that they were in my drawer so I put them on. She knows that men are really stupid and she knows that I am about as manly as they come so0 it was left at that.

[Karren H]

I haven't had any bad experiences with them... but then again I shy away from where they frequent so I don't have any problems...

[TxKimberly]

I've had a few teenager girls compliment my skirts and shoes when out. Also the teenage daughter of one of my wifes friends told me she thought it was cool and that we must be so brave. (her words, not mine). So far, in 15 years of going out, I've never had a teenage girl be anything other than nice, interested, and admiring of our courage. This is NOT the same world it used to be. In many cases people admire others for being different and brave enough to show it, ESPECIALLY the young.

[Nicki B]

In many cases people admire others for being different and brave enough to show it, ESPECIALLY the young.

That would be my experience, too.. They've been brought up with far fewer hang ups about difference than their parents?

[charlie]

I usually go out and about at night. The younger girls that I have come in contact with have come up to me and been friendly, inquisitive and encouraging.

[MsSamanthaErica]

When I came out to my daughter of 18 she immeadiately accepted me and said that many of her Anime stories have CD's in them. She has had no problem even going out with me.

Irene


Yes, I now recall Ranma 1/2 where the hero would change into a girl after, I think, being splashed with cold water or something. I had the video game years and years ago. That was back when I first started dressing a little -- now I am more mature. I actually started working on a story (not anime, written) but on a similar vein...

I'm sure teens can read you right away they can be pretty perceptive!

Still, going in groups is the safest thing a sister can do!

~Samantha
___
I'd rather be dressed...

[goofus]

After reading the reactions you all have gotten, I think that, as The Who sang, The Kids Are Alright :)

[Lilith Moon]

I think the teenage girls today are much more understanding than they were 20 plus years ago. Back then when a teenage girl were to spot you in the mall or store they used to yell out to everyone and point, there is a guy in a dress. they just dont do that anymore.:thumbsup: to the teenage girls.

I had exactly that experience 20+ years ago in a shopping mall. That walk away from the screams and howls of laughter was the longest one in my life.

A few weeks back I walked through a group of about 8 teenage girls and....nothing. They didn't show any signs of noticing I was a tranny.

So, it does seem that things have changed for the better.

[Carin]

Posted in an old thread (full story here (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=89230)), the comment from my daughter after being with me while trying on clothes at Forever 21 with lots of teen/young adult girls around was: "I love you and the fact that you aren't ashamed or hiding who u are is beautiful".

[JoAnne Wheeler]

Have not experienced the problem - but have decided that if and when it happens, insteady of wanting to crawl in a hole and hide, I want to go talk to them and tell them how much we wish that we could have the opportunity to experience their current life. We emulate them. I want to educate them.
Love,
JoAnne Wheeler

[TxKimberly]

Posted in an old thread (full story here (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=89230)), the comment from my daughter after being with me while trying on clothes at Forever 21 with lots of teen/young adult girls around was: "I love you and the fact that you aren't ashamed or hiding who u are is beautiful".

Oh wow, that is SO awesome! Well done Carin - clearly you raised a good person.

[Wendi0012]

I would have to say that teenage or younger women are defantly the nicest of all social groups. They always seem pleasant and some what curios. I have always had the best time while dressed meeting and chatting with them. When I first starting having the courage to go out in public I was shopping at a local mall when I was approached by a group of young ladies who asked what I thought of a dress on sale. To my surprize when I turned to them and said it was nice they looked surprized and asked if I would buy it. I simply told them it was not my style and most likely not, one of girls said she liked and was going to get it and thanked me for my help. As I was leaving the store the small group of girls ran up to me and said that they had never meet a man who wore girls cloths and wanted to know why I dressed that way? I simply replied that I love to dress this way and there reply was thats pretty cool!! Point of story is there is someone who accepts us and that's a start!!!

Love Always,
Wendi

[Tracii G]

Was out dressed tonight and needed to make a call. I had left my cell phone at home which I NEVER do.So at the payphone in front of a conveince store I made the call.
Two cars pulled up and the folks went in the store.Well the one car had a young girl about 17 and she watched me for about a min or so.
I hung the phone up a walked back to my car and she said "you look really nice I love your coat its so pretty"I told her thank you and got in my car.
I had the window down and she smiled real big and said you look so nice really.I said thank hun that means a lot to me.
I agree young women are the best and so accepting.

[XOPrincessBoyXO]

I agree that alot of younger girls are much more accepting than everyone seems to think. Any other expereinces?

[leesametz]

Good experiences with teenage girls?

the last time i went out...NO

you can read about it here:
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=97269 post #4...

[Nicole Erin]

I agree that alot of younger girls are much more accepting than everyone seems to think. Any other expereinces?


Alright so from the other side -
I don't go out all the time, and when I do I tend to avoid teenagers like the plaque.

Make no mistake - I hate kids and teenagers.

Maybe they somehow pick up on that.

I have had really no good experiences with teenagers except maybe if they already knew because they had a friend/father/whoever who was CD.

I have however had plenty of bad ones. I think probably 90% of negative reactions I have had were from the 18 and under crowd.
I just hate kids and teenagers and would prefer to not be around them at all.

Maybe that is the difference between people like me and those CD's who have had mostly good experiences is the lack of hate they feel towards the younger generation?

[Nicki B]

I agree that alot of younger girls are much more accepting than everyone seems to think. Any other expereinces?

Does the 19-20 (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=97581) age group count?

[deja true]

...

Maybe they somehow pick up on that...Maybe that is the difference between people like me and those CD's who have had mostly good experiences is the lack of hate they feel towards the younger generation?

Kinda like dogs, huh?

They can smell the fear on ya!

[TxKimberly]

the last time i went out...NO

you can read about it here:
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=97269 post #4...

Lessa,

I just read the thread you linked to, and I don't mean to sound accusatory, but it seems to me that you sort of brought some of that on yourself. Going on your account of events, those kids were talking among themselves when you chose to walk up to them and turn it into a confrontation. If you hadn't done that, it probably would have stayed a small thing with them giggling among themselves.

[leesametz]

Kimberly...

probably...

i just didnt care for the pointing and comments so it set me off...

not something that happens very often. EVER...

[Emily Anderson]

I wish I could have some good experience with teenage girls! :)

Ooops... :tongueout

[roogby]

im 18, and i would have no problem with a cder, but seeing as i'm on this site, i suppose that expected :)

my younger sister, 16 - her favourite movie is hewig and the angry inch

i have a HUGE group of teen female friends who LOVE the rocky horror picture show. i had one friend (male, 18) dress up in that character in drag for halloween, and everyone loved it (he did my female friend's makeup too, loool.)

i have friends who are twins (both female) and they celebrated their 18 birthday with their female friends at a cafe or restaurant or someplace where they were served food/entertained by drag queens...

i really liked hearing about your positive experiences with teenage girls, it makes me happy to hear about kids my age who are actually pretty cool!

[Staci]

The only teenage girl I had any experience with was my daughter. that's because I don't venture out. She caught me once wearing a pair of pink sparkly high heel sandals. She noticed the right away and all she said was "Nice shoes Dad". That was it. She was probably 17 or so at the time. I typically will choose to go to a younger sales associate when shopping as well as they seem to just help and not ask a ton of questions.

[XOPrincessBoyXO]

It seems like it goes either way with younger girls, they either think it's cool or seem totally disgusted by it. Any other comments?

[dilane]

My most embarassing experience was when shopping in Forever 21 (filled with forever 15 year olds, and a few old ladies like me). Three girls read me while I was waiting in the 20 foot line to pay for something, and whispered excitedly, then one walked around to get a better look after I had paid and was walking out of the store. I gave her a little smile and continued on.

Generally, if there's a group of guys or girls talking loudly and being giddy, you're in danger of rude behavior if outed. So I avoid boisterous young people (are older folks ever loud and boisterous in public??).

I've written this before here, but once about 12 years ago I was walking in an outdoor mall in Santa Monica on a summer day wearing a sundress, and a group of 20-ish people approached. One attractive girl looked me in the eye, and beginner that I was, I stared back at her unsmilingly, like a guy on the make. Her jaw dropped, her eyes bugged out, and without missing a beat she said "Well, Helllooooo there!". Then she turned to her friends and said "That was a guy!". On the bright side a couple of her companions said "What, no way!". Shortly after that I learned how to make eye contact with GG's (briefly, and flash a quick femme smile, or if not so cheerful, master a girl expression and quickly look her up and down and turn your attention elsewhere).

If you handle yourself right, teenaged girls will quickly appraise you, see that you're old and no competition, and move on to ... Boys (which is what they're really interested in)...

[Hope]

It strikes me (and I am certainly not the authority here as I have NEVER been out en Femme - though my day IS coming!) that teenaged girls are both the most self-absorbed and insecure creatures on the planet (with the possible exception of ourselves). If they lash out, it is not out of malice, but rather out of that insecurity. You can use that knowledge to defend yourself "Yes, I might be a guy - but at least I don't have to walk around on those chicken legs..." though - I would not suggest that tactic. It will be devastatingly effective against this one girl, but it does nothing positive for the rest of the TG community. Nor will it be likely to make her behave more kindly to the next TG person she meets.

I think the way to deal with obnoxious people of both genders, and of any age, is to retain your composure, comport yourself as the lady you are, and be brutally honest, both with yourself, and with your "attacker." Deal with them the same way you would if you were in drab and this person was shouting some sort of racial epithet (which, essentially, is what she is doing) "Yes sweetie, so what?" It puts her on the defensive instead of you, she has to justify outing you instead of you having to justify your existence. If you don't respond the way she wants you to respond, you have taken away her power to control you - and her play for control of the situation has failed - which will reinforce in her brain that the next time she sees some one who is TG she needs to play nicely; AND those around will get to see a TG person behave as an adult; AND you will get to retain your dignity. That is the rarely heard of win-win-win.

I remember reading a blog written by a drag queen a few years ago (I wish I could find it again) in which she recounts being heckled on a street corner by a group of men in a pick-up truck (danger! danger!) who shouted something along the lines of "Hey it's a tranny!!!" Her response was something along the lines of "Yah baby, you like my legs?" completely diffusing the situation - simply by responding in a way that was unexpected (and humorous). Her goal was to turn a negative - potentially horrible interaction into a positive one. The guys in the truck learned that drag queens are not only wearing dresses - but humans too (who knew?).

When people read us and out us, they expect us to run and hide - instead, stand up (straiten your stockings) and say "So?"

"So?" is a powerful question.

During the recent presidential election many people accused President Obama of being a Muslim. Colin Powell (god love him!) stepped up and pointed out that 1) Mr. Obama IS indeed a Christian, but that 2) the more relevant question is "So what?" Where is it written that the President of the United States is required to be a Christian?

If you have trouble with someone, ask them to explain to you what the problem is. Chances are good that they will not be willing to tell those within earshot that they are small-minded bigots. That and keep pepper spray in your purse like every other girl - for when that truck full of drunken red-necks circles back a second time...

[Magickman]

I have had generally good experiences with meeting young girls in public. I get lots of very nice unsolicited compliments, and very few negative reactions.

Girls as young as three, give me compliments, and young women in their teens and twenties frequently stop me in public, with gushing praise.

I credit my positive attitude, rather than anything else, for the women's reactions. Girls have a top secret radar system, that penetrates male psyches. If you are positive and confident, they pick that up instantly, and respect you for it.

It is not what you wear, but how you wear it, that counts.