I spotted a sister

[Sally2005]

I'm not about to judge anyone else, but I wanted to share this observation. While I was walking through the mall in drab the other day I clearly spotted a man who was dressed as a female. His outfit was fine, makeup was light but fine, but what didn't look right was his hair. It was longish, but he had the tell tale pattern baldness. So combine that with other subtle male features he was obvious. However, he looked happy and at ease. I also noticed other people in the mall didn't really take exception to him and if they saw him they probably would have known also. I have two points, he could have taken more effort to look more passable, but on the other hand maybe he wants people to know he is transgender and I guess that's fine if that is your goal. The second point, no matter how you look, if you are confident with who you are people notice it and don't think much about you...like I did, they probably think, oh there goes another CDer, not ... oh oh, why is that man in a dress looking around so much and nervous...better keep an eye on him.

It is good to know others are out and about and looking happy. I'm glad it was a non-event to other people and I just felt happy knowing that I knew a little bit about the incredible jouney this person has taken in life.

[Karren H]

Hey!! My hair is receeding!! Luckily I wasn't out and about... :) That pretty cool, Sally!!!

[Angie G]

Well good for her she living her life ahe way she likes. And that's a good thing.:hugs:
Angie

[Kittykitty]

and to think, I just felt extra sneaky, guilty and worried, running the garbage to the curb at 1 am!!! good for her!

[Tracii G]

I have seen a few over the last 6 months or so and no one around acted like they noticed these people being any different.
That kind of gave me the push out into the world heck if they can do it I can too.
Joining a TG support group has been great too.Just getting to know more folks like me has been a great help also.
I did see a very attractive CDer at the mall and just gave her a friendly smile and a knowing wink she smiled back.I wish I had been dressed that would have been a hoot.

[AmandaT]

I think it is just wonderful that she felt so at ease with herself in such a public place. I think in that situation I might try to take a little more time to be "passible", but isn't it fantastic that
a sister can go out just like any other woman? If they want to take a little more time in the mirror before they go out thats fine, but its just as ok to go to go shopping in what feels comfortable.
Hugs to her!
:)

-Amanda

[Nadia-Maria]

It is good to know others are out and about and looking happy.


Completely agreed. I spotted quite a few sisters for the last 12 months either in Paris or in its immediate suburbs. They were mostly driving her car, but I spotted also other ones at shopping or walking. As a rule they look confident and more or less happy, although some may seem quickly to act a bit nervous when they notice you are kind of staring at them. And I do it mainly because I try to get as much info (about the TG phenomenon) as I can from such encounters. And I also look for an opportunity to come out to a few of them, if at all possible without much trouble for them.




I'm glad it was a non-event to other people and I just felt happy knowing that I knew a little bit about the incredible jouney this person has taken in life.

OK, it is a non-event, but maybe only an apparent one just because :
How many of people having read them will later gossip with family and friends about them, just as I am kind of doing now ? :devil:

In any case, I feel very empathic to every sister I happen to read. :love:

[MJ]

I'm "transgender" lol guess i better make more of an effort :D. well good to know someone has there t-radar tuned up and scanning for others. if you ever peg me you better come and say hi ..sis

[Sara Jessica]

Every time I see one of these I hold my breath to see if it was I who was spotted!!!

[Jonianne]

I'm not about to judge anyone else, but.......he could have taken more effort to look more passable, but on the other hand maybe he wants people to know he is transgender and I guess that's fine if that is your goal.......

Maybe she was just comfortable in her own hair and skin and not concerned about whether other people wondered if she was transgendered or not.

[Sarah...]

Confidence is the key boys and girls. Be who you are. What could be easier?

Sarah...

[Lori A]

My last home call my wife, daughter and myself had to go into town to the laundry matt, as my daughters boy toy tore up my wife's Matag Neptune washing machine and I didn't want to use the old ringer washer out side, Yes! we still have one and it works, my wife found it a few years ago and wanted it so she bought it and I got it back into operating condition, great for blankets and rugs too. Any way, while we were there there was a large guy there with his hair in a long pony tail, a big T-shirt with a flowery picture on it, and clearly covering man boobs and wearing pink clogs on his feet. My daughter wasn't sure if it was a man or a really ugly woman, he needed a shave, but I assured her that it was a man. Later his FAB SO or it may have been his sister came in and helped him fold their laundry and they left. None of us spoke to him, but probably will if we see him again. It's a small town.

[JenniferR771]

OK, so I went Christmas shopping. Jeans, forms (but heavy sweater), tall black boots with chunky heels, wig, earrings, necklace, bracelet. Clean shave, but no makeup except lipstick. I am small and passable at times. No one seemed to notice. Went into a dress shop and was greeted--but then--shopping for an outfit for my wife--I waited forever for SA to help me. Finally, I had to ask older lady SA for help. I said, "You spotted me right away didn't you? " She said, "No, not really." She was helpful, but not comfortable with me trying on my selection--because a lot of other women were in fitting rooms. ("Might cause a ruckus.")

[CD Susan]

It sounds like she was comfortable in her presentation even if it needed a little refining. Having confidence and showing it is just as important as appearance. When I go out I try to act with confidence and no one has made any negative comments to me.

[beenherelongtime]

last sunday i went to meet my brother and sister for breakfast. i was last in and i noticed this blonde guy sitting at the table by them. as it were the restuarant was closing for renovations, so they were only serving brunch, i never got a chance to sit down. when we got to the next diner my sibs were talking about this fellow. my brother said did you see the high heels on him/her. i told him no, because i didn't sit down. i asked were they high heels or maybe cowboy boots. he told me they were real high heels. my sister said that she thought she saw the outline of a bra on him/her. they were not sure whether he was a him or her. i told them he was definetly a him and if that was made him comfortable, more power to him. my brother knows that i crossdressed as about six years ago i was going through a heart bypass and asked him to purge my closets if i didn't make it. i had also told this sister about 50 years ago, but i think she put it out of her mind. anyway when we finished and went outside and my sister left, i said to my brother, i hope you weren't making fun of him because you know how i feel about that. he said he wasn't but because my sister started the conversation he had to go along with it

[Paula T]

I was waiting with my daughter at the baggage area for her to pick up her luggage. And this rather tall gal came walking up to retrieve her luggage I guessed right away I suppose because "I are one" as they used to say. I don't think that my ex wife and her husband even noticed this gal as I looked for a reaction and didn't see any:eek:(they were there too) In about 1 or 2 minutes a real GG came and hugged the CD and then the suitcases came and they were gone. I still remember the gal had on a light colored skirt suit and lower heels.:o

[tanya1976]

If you're looking for something you'll usually find it. I noticed a crossdresser when I was out and about recently. The funny thing was I wanted to go up and say hi but I wasn't sure if I would be imposing on the persons privacy and whether they would have been offended or not...

[Laura Jane]

If you're looking for something you'll usually find it. I noticed a crossdresser when I was out and about recently. The funny thing was I wanted to go up and say hi but I wasn't sure if I would be imposing on the persons privacy and whether they would have been offended or not...

And sometimes when you're not! I have had my attention drawn to two crossdresser out and about recently when they have stumbled in their high heels!

[JoAnne Wheeler]

When I am out in drab, I actually look for sisters. I look for well dressed GGs too. I would never embarress a sister.
Love,
JoAnne Wheeler