battybattybats
12-18-2008, 09:31 AM
Ok so theres some guys i know. Two are brothers.
When I met them via a mutual friend to join in a weekly roleplaying game (like dungeons and dragons) they were involved in adiscussion about how disturbing effeminate male anime characters were.
I joined in the conversation, mentioning that one of my favourite characters was Yellow from Mospeada (Yellow Dancer in Robotech New Generation).
Later discussing some of this with the mutual friend they mentioned that the two were strongly homophobic, not in a hate way but a strong discomfort and aversion one.
1 year later and one knocked on my door today. I answered it wearing red glittery lipgloss. He was not in the slightest disconcerted.
How'd this happen?
Well when they first met me I had three days growth of beard stubble but my long hair and long black-painted nails.
The character I played is masculine, a Peter Cushing Hammer Horror films inspired one.
Slowly I increased the diversity of feminine expression. Silver nails, purple, dark blood red.
We started a semi-regular second game alongside the first that I was running set in the modern world (Conspiracy X) and I introduced two long-running NPCs, one of whom is a transexual medium. They were uncomfortable with the character at first but after some months of weekly gaming were relating better with her than the officious and serious GG DEA agent.
And slowly I increased the goth androgyny, eyeliner, eyshadow, black and then purple lipstick.
I've dropped comments about corsetry, shown the other brother the pics I took of the outfit I wore out for halloween and mentioned the night to them both.
I've not 'come out' officially yet but the surprise would be if the had any doubts left.
But I think it's the gradual adjustment that is the key to their acceptance, so I keep it gradual.
Now I don't know if he noticed I had a padded bra on under my fluffly lack robe I was wearing when he knocked unexpectedly though he might have. I don't know if he got a glimpse of the pale pink robe i had on under the fluffy one. Or whether he glanced down to see my painted toenails.
But the red shiny glittery lipgloss was obvious.
And he said as he came, in so casually I hardly noticed:
"You look good."
I said "Thanks" and then the conversation went comfortably straight into finding time before people head off on holidays for a game this week. The full impact of the comment didn't hit me till after he'd left.
12 months and thats the result with two 'strongly homophobic' people.
When I met them via a mutual friend to join in a weekly roleplaying game (like dungeons and dragons) they were involved in adiscussion about how disturbing effeminate male anime characters were.
I joined in the conversation, mentioning that one of my favourite characters was Yellow from Mospeada (Yellow Dancer in Robotech New Generation).
Later discussing some of this with the mutual friend they mentioned that the two were strongly homophobic, not in a hate way but a strong discomfort and aversion one.
1 year later and one knocked on my door today. I answered it wearing red glittery lipgloss. He was not in the slightest disconcerted.
How'd this happen?
Well when they first met me I had three days growth of beard stubble but my long hair and long black-painted nails.
The character I played is masculine, a Peter Cushing Hammer Horror films inspired one.
Slowly I increased the diversity of feminine expression. Silver nails, purple, dark blood red.
We started a semi-regular second game alongside the first that I was running set in the modern world (Conspiracy X) and I introduced two long-running NPCs, one of whom is a transexual medium. They were uncomfortable with the character at first but after some months of weekly gaming were relating better with her than the officious and serious GG DEA agent.
And slowly I increased the goth androgyny, eyeliner, eyshadow, black and then purple lipstick.
I've dropped comments about corsetry, shown the other brother the pics I took of the outfit I wore out for halloween and mentioned the night to them both.
I've not 'come out' officially yet but the surprise would be if the had any doubts left.
But I think it's the gradual adjustment that is the key to their acceptance, so I keep it gradual.
Now I don't know if he noticed I had a padded bra on under my fluffly lack robe I was wearing when he knocked unexpectedly though he might have. I don't know if he got a glimpse of the pale pink robe i had on under the fluffy one. Or whether he glanced down to see my painted toenails.
But the red shiny glittery lipgloss was obvious.
And he said as he came, in so casually I hardly noticed:
"You look good."
I said "Thanks" and then the conversation went comfortably straight into finding time before people head off on holidays for a game this week. The full impact of the comment didn't hit me till after he'd left.
12 months and thats the result with two 'strongly homophobic' people.