trying to understand!!question for CD only

[Becca_Ia]

when you crossdress how do you feel?
do you want to have sex with women,men, other crossdressers or is it just that you enjoying the crossdressing and you feel more comfortable expressing your feminine side?
no offence to anybody i am just trying to understand some

Bruno,

While enfemme I am at my most feminine. I do enjoy being Becca, and I don't think it's really a sexual thing, at least not for me.

As far as which sex I prefer while enfemme.....I do consider long romantic evenings with other "girls", women and then men....in that order.

Becca

[bruno]

no offence to anybody just wanted to ask!
when you crossdress how do you feel?do you want to have sex with women ,with men, with other CDs, no sex at all or you just enjoy it expressing you feminine side?
i guess there is no standard answer just wanted to get some ideas!!
thanx

[Nicki B]

no offence to anybody i am just trying to understand some things!

Bruno, you'll find you get as many different answers as there are of us... but I'm not sure that will help you? As a community, we are a hugely diverse group, with different motivations, sexualities (and asexualities), presentations...

All human difference is here? :)

[Jaydee]

Bruno,
When I was a teenager, there was a strong sexual component to it. Nowdays, it is almost non-sexual. I find that I feel more relaxed and "centered".

Jaydee

[renee k]

Hi Bruno,

For me it's the clothes, hair and makeup. Nothing sexual, still prefer GG's
in a hetrosexual way.

Huggs, Renee

[bruno]

bruno, you'll find you get as many different answers as there are of us... But i'm not sure that will help you? As a community, we are a hugely diverse group, with different motivations, sexualities (and asexualities), presentations...

All human difference is here? :)

it is not going to solve my problems but it might hepl in a way!
We are all different and there are many different behaviours, thats for sure!but i am new member trying to understand..
Thanx for your answer!!

[Veronica Lacey]

When I crossdress (clothing only-I do not wear makeup nor a wig) I feel relaxed and free.

While sexual experiences are sometimes part of the package I do not consider sexual relations with other women or men. It would be quite the experience to make love with my wife as such and it does cross my mind. She would not go for it, however, but the thought is always pleasant.

For myself the feel and comfort of the garments and fabrics really make this more of a relaxation method than an outlet for feminine expression (although most certainly such a feminine side shares a strong existence.)
:)

[jessiejess112]

My CDing is triggered when I see a beautiful woman dressed in a way that I find sexy: I am sexually attracted to her, but then I also want to dress like her.
I do have to admit that I did consider going out on a date with a guy while dressed just to get to experience that situation. But guys that I talked to online were only interested in sex, and I ended up not meeting any of them.

[2b.Lauren]

I would agree with what others have said in previous comments. As a teenager and young adult (mid to late twenties), my dressing always had a very strong sexual connection. Now in my forties I no longer have the sexual urges and see my dressing as an expression of who I really am. I am not saying that I don't have certain fantasies but they do not control my dressing like they did a long time ago.

[Karren H]

Hi Bruno,

For me it's the clothes, hair and makeup. Nothing sexual, still prefer GG's
in a hetrosexual way.

Huggs, Renee

:iagree:

[StacyCD]

100% hetero and deeply committed to my SO.

[Tracii G]

When dressed for me its about letting the female side out.I love the clothes and the feeling of being feminnine.
Sex is not part of the femme thing for me.I do like the guys checking me out while shopping I can't deny that and I like it when a guy flirts just a little.
I do like both genders but sex is a very personal thing and that dependes on the person envolved and has no link to CDing for me anyway.

[Intertwined]

when you crossdress how do you feel? Comfortable.

do you want to have sex with women ,with men, with other CDs, no sex at all or you just enjoy it expressing you feminine side? My attire has no more effect on my sexuality than any other person, if I am wearing something sexy, feminine or masculine, I will feel sexy.

I am a heterosexual male, I joke sometimes that I am a Male lesbian.

I wear feminine things because I like the feel and look of certain items, no different than a non-crossdressing man wearing a comfortable pair of shoes.

[Angie G]

My dressing brings no sexual desires I do some time wonder what it would be like to be with a man but only if I was a real girl. the only real sex I want is with my wife.:hugs:
Angie

[Tora]

I agree with Renee and Karren, the clothes are the thing, hair, make-up the image we strive for is a special goal, challenge. The Bride is the only intimate persuit, required. As Jimmy Carter once admitted, I have lusted in my heart, but that was a GG. I am sure there are other opinions.

[TeriAnn]

Bruno,
When I was a teenager, there was a strong sexual component to it. Nowdays, it is almost non-sexual. I find that I feel more relaxed and "centered".

JaydeeI 2nd that emotion

[Cissy Chiana]

wearing ladies clothes makes me feel more normal, sometimes I feel that wearing mens clothes is more like crossdressing, I'd love to live as a woman 24/7 but right now I'm not at a place in my life where that can happen, I'm not ready for it so I have to live the male lie to protect my vulnerable real self.

[Jenny J]

Definitely the clothes and make up too. Completely hetro and I love to look at women for more than one reason but mostly for what they are wearing and how they look.

[Anna the Dub]

I am not interested in a sexual relationship with anybody. When I dress, I just feel that everything in my world is ok. Of course, I very, very rarely go the whole make up, dresses, etc. route (too much bother, and not much point unless I am going out) but I do pretty much wear female clothes all the time now, jeans, tops, underwear, comfortable shoes and so on. In fact, I wear pretty much what GGs wear to be casual.

[immike]

no offence to anybody just wanted to ask!
when you crossdress how do you feel?do you want to have sex with women ,with men, with other CDs, no sex at all or you just enjoy it expressing you feminine side?
i guess there is no standard answer just wanted to get some ideas!!
thanx
Bruno-
i tend to relax,as I dress in secrecy.I have a basic wardrobe,but one of my private
joys is sneaking into my mothers closet,and dressing in her good wardrobe.We are
about the same size,so I can slide into a pair of my private stash pantyhose&go in
her closet&wear one of her mini skirts&a silky blouse&a pair of her heels,with little
trouble.Sometimes I enjoy wearing one of her good skirtsuits,as well

[Shari]

For me, dressing has always been and remains a sexual rush.
There are times when I just enjoy the feelings of the softness and the restrictions of some of the materials. High heels are absolutely wonderful. A sexy pair of heels makes me feel most feminine.
I am hetero and have had sex with my wife while dressed, but sometimes I fantasize and wonder what it would be like to be with another girl.
I imagine the perfect scenario, but being relaistic, I know that will never be.

[Samantha Kelsey]

Whether drab or en femme I have no interest in sex with any one other than my SO/GG. However I adore only female beings.

[flatlander_48]

no offence to anybody just wanted to ask!
when you crossdress how do you feel?do you want to have sex with women ,with men, with other CDs, no sex at all or you just enjoy it expressing you feminine side?
i guess there is no standard answer just wanted to get some ideas!!
thanx

Yes! And when not dressed also...

[PortiaHoney]

I am asexual. However, I like sex with women. I am curious about sex with men. I have never thought about having sex with another CD.

When I am dressing, I get the business over with and then I can relax and be me.

I do not see the sex component as being part of who I am or the reason why I dress, but a means to an end. I just want the frustration out of the way to be able to have a clear mind - not clouded by male urges. I do not see satisfying my male urges as the driving force behind my behaviour (I am sure there are many counsellors who would argue the reward theories). I would much rather not have the urges I do.

When I was a teen, I had a very sheltered life and did get aroused by my dressing. This never led to fruition as I didn't understand why I was having the reactions I had. It was only after my first sexual encounter that I understood what it was all about. It was only then that the sex link was established and understood.

I cannot dress and have relations with a woman. I have never tried this link with a man. I have no desire to try sex with either while enfemme. This is not to say that I have not fantsised about sex as a woman with either sex.

In fact, I do not miss sex with either sex at all. I miss the intimacy. Maybe this is just my feminine side growing stronger. But women also have sexual urges - so maybe not.

In short, I dress to feel comfortable, in myself physically and mentally. It does not involve anyone else and I have no compulsion to express this with anyone else. I do not need to dress completely, but I do need to express some or all components of dressing the majority of the time to feel complete, regardless of the thoughts of others. If I find someone who can accept me as I am for who I am, well, all good and well. I refuse to hide who I am any more.

Which bits are the lies and which bits are honest?

[JoAnne Wheeler]

Real GG's only !!!!
Joanne Wheeler

[gennee]

It's non-sexual for me. I just love to express the feminine side. It feels so natural.

GENNEE


:)

[sometimes_miss]

I'm intensely attracted to women, and yet feel like I was supposed to be one, at the same time. It's screwed me up since I was a kid. I thought it would go away once I figured out why I felt that way, but it turns out understanding the problem and the cause, and solving it, are two entirely different things. When I meet a woman I am attracted to, my initial very, very strong feeling is to want to be pretty and submissive to her. Doesn't work out real well, as if she is attracted to me, she feels the same way. Two bottoms do not make a top.