I’m scared & nasty Comment about me being a CD..

[LeotardMan]

As I mentioned in a pervious post a while back my Mom who is 57 is getting back into the ring and boxing next month. I just came from visiting her and watching her train and I’m truly scared. My mom was never a good fighter she only had 17 wins and 20 losses I was watching her train and she is just not the same he stamina is not the same, her strength and everything is just no the same. This woman used to be able to do 100 pushups on her toes and now she has a hard time doing 40!I talked to her trainer and she is also scared to and we have both tried to taker her out but she is determined to get back into the ring.

I happed to see her opponent trainer and she is a dang monster! She came up to me and made a point to mention that my mom was a dead woman in a few weeks and happen to start going on about me being a CD. She started calling me fag, queer, and everything else. In the past I probably would have been devastated, and I simply said the was jealous that I was able to look more like a woman than her!!

Geoff

[Karren H]

Well I'd certantlly talk some sense into your mother for sure!! Is there some reason she's fighting again? And if she doesn't win what will she get out of it? If the chances of winning are slim and the economic benifit if she looses is negligent.. Then it isn't worth the risk!! In my humble opinion.

[docrobbysherry]

Last time I saw Lela Ali, she was stunning! Maybe u should call her dad and have him tell her to ease up on your mom!

Never mind. He may want a date with your mom, so u should probably forget that idea!:doh:

[Alice Torn]

I second Karren's advice, and , on the lighter side, suggest taking up hockey.

[JoAnne Wheeler]

How in the world did your mother take up boxing ? It sounds way to physical and dangerous to me - tell mom not to do it - if she is still determined to do it, and if she knows that you are a CDer, then tell her what all the other boxer called you - get your mom worked up to avenge what she called you . I would still try to talk her out of this first.
JoAnne Wheeler

[Sara Jessica]

...and I simply said the was jealous that I was able to look more like a woman than her!!

No one should have to endure hateful taunts like the ones directed at you. However, your reply was mean spirited and quite hollow. We are transgender, it's not about whether we look more like a woman than any particular genetic female. Comparisons such as that are divisive and at the end of the day, there is no jealousy on the part of gg's. They will ALWAYS have scoreboard on us, they are genetic females!!!

:2c:

[cindym5_04]

When the opening bell sounds, run up and just throw the white towel in the ring. DONE.

[DemonicDaughter]

You know, I can understand your fears. No one wants to see someone they love get hurt. But its your mom's life to do with as she sees fit. There are people who believe you are risking your life by cding because of all the hate crimes out there. Yet you do what you feel you have to in order to be yourself and be happy.

Let your mom do the same. Support her, love her, tell her your fears and worries but that's all that you really can do. Might she get hurt? Yes. Might she lose? Yes. But we all have to learn for ourselves what we are and aren't capable of.

And not for nothing, but you should really have a lot of pride in a parent that is willing to be that active, that adventuresome and have that much gumption later in life! I know people in their 30s who settle down and wouldn't ever consider doing something like that... right or wrong.

[MarciManseau]

I have a bridge for sale in Brooklyn... anyone interested? I'll take a pair of very large breast forms as a down payment, or a really cute unicorn. :battingeyelashes:


Marci

[TxKimberly]

I am 100% with DD on this. My Mother and Grandmother both pretty much called life quites in their late 50's. They sat around doing nothing but drinking coffee and watching TV, and neither of them lived very long lives.
You Mother on the other hand is out there, staying active, physically fit, and involved in life. You should be very happy about this. Your Mother may get hurt, but if so, she will heal, and when she is done healing, she will still be in far better shape than most people her age. As much as the thought of her getting hurt scares you, you should try to support her. I admire the fact that you tried to talk her out of it - that was a reasonable and loving thing to do. If she insists on going through with it anyway, now you need to get behind her and support her, as she has apparently supported you.
You know it might be that you are not being objective too - don't count your Mom out yet - she may still kick some butt!

[DemonicDaughter]

I have a bridge for sale in Brooklyn... anyone interested? I'll take a pair of very large breast forms as a down payment, or a really cute unicorn. :battingeyelashes:


Marci

So you find it hard to believe someone 57 and female might get back into boxing? Well aren't you the optimistic! lol

My father is 67 years old and still climbs trees for a living. He's in great shape and is very lively. I think its a shame that so many people just seem to just stop living once they get older.

Whether or not this is a bogus post, the point is to always encourage someone to follow their dreams and continue to live life to the fullest. :)

[SherriePall]

Speaking of climbing trees, the last time we had our trees trimmed, one treeman spent three hours in the tree, climbing up and down without setting foot on the ground. He was 78 at the time and you wouldn't have guessed it. So, sometimes age is irrelevant to fitness and ability.
However, Geoff, I hope your mom wears the appropriate headgear and all.

[mklinden2010]

Boxing, with an alert referee, is perfectly safe most the time. By the rules of the sport, you can't put on a mismatch. Age, weight, skill levels must all be about the same - otherwise it's not sport, not fair, and not smart.

Some dope wants to make it about more than a sport bout? Well, that's ego, not sport. You have the "heads up" on their attitude. So, insist (as you always should) on a fair, above board, careful match. If your Mom then gets bumped around for a bit - well, that's her lookout as a willing participant.

I do agree with previous posters about staying busy as you get older. Lots of people do MA, etc. primarily to stay as fit as they can and to stay mentally alert. Boxing can be fine for that and it's especially good as it's 99% preparation - you train for weeks to see how things go in minute-long rounds.

So long as your Mom feels healthy enough and alert enough to compete, good for her. On the other hand, if she's clearly not thinking straight then you may have to get her checked and declared incompetent. Demenia is a real thing and sets in at early ages for some people. Hope to goodness this is not what is going on. But, be aware it's a possibility.

As for the trash talking opposite corner. Be a good sport and let the gloves do the talking when the time comes. There is no money on this, no reputation that matters 100 feet beyond the gym door. Have a good round, and, win or loose, be glad you can do things to make you feel better about yourself - while helping others do the same. If you are an ungracious person in life, that ultimately is a personal problem until you learn to behave better...

You'll note LM, that how you handle CDing issues and people who react to it, will call upon you to practice fielding questions and sometimes insults. Life is a series of one-minute rounds and your eventual win-loss record - in all things - may take years to prove one way or another. Sports, you know, is just practice for life in many ways.

Good luck to all three of you on match day.

[Lilith Moon]

So you find it hard to believe someone 57 and female might get back into boxing? Well aren't you the optimistic! lol

My father is 67 years old and still climbs trees for a living. He's in great shape and is very lively. I think its a shame that so many people just seem to just stop living once they get older.


No need to stop...this isn't to brag...just a comment on what us old 'uns are capable of....

I got back from a 6 mile run 3 hours back, since then I've chainsawed and chopped logs for the fire...then some music practice, learning keyboards. Tonite I shall be partyin, dancin until I drop. I'm 63 yo and looking forward to 2009. So much to do. So much fun to be had !

[TxKimberly]

. . . I got back from a 6 mile run 3 hours back, since then I've chainsawed and chopped logs for the fire...

Oh cut it out, your making me feel lazy! :-)

[sometimes_miss]

Yup, nothing like still wanting to get into the ring at 57 and wanting to bash someone's head in until they fall flat on a mat, unconscious. Some people never grow out of that. Remember that there are two people getting into the ring with that intention in mind. Someone's going to get hurt, if not both. Hey, if that's what they want, there are plenty of people who want to watch it. Intermural fighting, the original 'sport' after you've caught all you can eat for the day.

[LeotardMan]

Hi!

Thanks for all for you posts, questions, and support.

My mom started boxing about 14 / 15 years ago and hung up the gloves about 8 years ago. She decided about two months ago, to get back into the ring for the simple fact she misses it, she misses competing, and so on. I think I would not have a big problem, with her boxing, if she wasn’t fighting a monster, her opponent is about 5’9” and approx weight is 155, my mom is about 5’3” and approx 138lbs. I tried talking to her but no luck; she is determined to get back into the ring. That being said I’ll continue to support her. When she was boxing on a regular basis and I finally got used to seeing her in the ring I watched her take some bad beatings.

Geoff

[Tracii G]

I agree with DD let her do the deal for HER.
I still love to mix it up at 56 and do martial arts matches from time to time.Age can be an asset sometimes.I wish her well win or lose.

[Salene]

Dude...ski mask, dark ally and brass nuckles....:thumbsup:

but seriously... thats cool ur mom's a boxer at that age. Her opponet sounds like a douche, though. Thats just poor sportsmenship and completly uncalled for.

[Sally2005]

I wish her well. You might be surprised how well she does. Also, its probably a lot of words and the other girl is going to sound pretty sad bragging about beating your mother so I would expect she doesn't go too hard if its an unfair fight or someone might return the favor in the future. Anyhow, you have to let your mother figure out for herself, if she is anything like my mother she would never listen anyway.

[Angie G]

I don't see why anyone would want to be a boxer and have someone punch my face. You realy need to make her see she can't win. So keep talking hun.:hugs:
Angie