Sanity Overrated

[Patrice]

Told a friend of mine today that I was going fulltime transgender, he basically asked me if I had lost my *expletive deleted* mind. Ive been pondering if he wasn't right, I mean by any rational judgment of potential downsides and drawbacks inviting this much angst,anxiety, disdain, stress, negativity, and just plain prejudice into my life is pure gibbering batpoopery.

But its the right thing for me to do.

The immense feelings of calm, serenity and rightness that have entered my life since I made the decision are proof of that enough for me. Though to say I don't have anxiety and concerns about the future would be a lie. I can see the rapids ahead, the potential forces of 'normalcy' arrayed against me and my freeeky life choice. I will handle them one at a time though, and come through the other side proud and head held high.

If am crazy then pass me my paisley silk straitjacket:heehe

[SissyMin]

I wish I was as brave as you...

[Sally2005]

Maybe, maybe not. I suspect if you agree he is wrong and otherwise not. You might want to test your solution before going all out, there is no 'undo'.

[Carole Cross]

Patrice, I can relate to how you feel right now because I am going for transition. if you feel that going fulltime is right for you then you go girl! :love:

[Kate Simmons]

Sometimes following our heart is the way to true sanity. The drama keeps trying to pull us in though. Learning to distinguish between the two makes all the difference in the end.:)

[Kelly DeWinter]

Just remember "where ever you go , there you are"

[Sara Jessica]

One has to assume you have the guidance of a qualified therapist, etc. as you embark on this path. It's certainly not for the faint of heart, nor is is something to entertain on any kind of whim. Once you let the gennie out of the bottle, it's pretty much impossible to put her back inside. Good luck to you.

[kimmy p]

Just look around sweety, if the rest of the world is sane then insanity starts looks pretty good! I don't want to go the transition route myself, but I believe that we would all be better off if we all lived and let live! Congratulations on your decision.

[Melinda G]

You really need to be sure before you proceed. There's no going back.
If your crossdressing is sexually driven, that excitment and motive will be gone, with the jewels. If you masterbate while or after dressing, that will no longer be an option. And that pleasure and relief will be gone.
Longtime crossdressers seem to get bored with the status quo, and always seek to up the ante, looking for new thrills. We imagine ourselves as real women, looking beautiful, and going shopping in heels and the whole nine yards. That is never the reality. Most transexuals cannot pass, or just barely pass, even after years of hormones. There is nothing you can do about your masculine shoulders, or narrow waist. The voice will be a problem. Thousands of dollars for laser treatments to remove hair. You will no longer be able to make it with women, and most men won't want you either, except a few who are into trannies. Many transexuals commit suicide, from deep depression, when they don't turn out to be the raving beautys, they imagined they would be, with just some surgery.
Most crossdressers come at it from a male viewpoint. We are turned on by the clothes, the look and feel, and the sexual turnon. Actually becoming a female, would end all that. Give it a lot of thought. Then think about it some more. Or maybe you should stop thinking about it, and just enjoy the dressing. We,ve all thought about it at one time or another. But actually acting on it is a whole different ballgame!

[Patrice]

If your crossdressing is sexually driven, that excitment and motive will be gone. Most transexuals cannot pass, or just barely pass, even after years of hormones. Give it a lot of thought. Then think about it some more.


I would only suggest that you take a lot of time to consider this decision - my SRS brother has lost his family and his children and has had to face an awful lot of trials and tribulations.


One has to assume you have the guidance of a qualified therapist, etc. as you embark on this path.

Wise word of advice, and greatly appreciated. I have been thinking about this for a long time, this decision has been over a year in the making (longer in my subconscious mind) and is not decided rashly or on a whim.

My dressing has never been a sexual thing, there's no amount of 'thrill' derived from it. Beyond that Ive never been a sexual being, I have never been sexually attracted to anyone or anything - man, woman or other. My biology may make me male but in that frame of reference Ive always been somewhat neuter.

I have no wife or children, its never been a thing I have desired or missed. I am quite comfortable with the fact I will be a bachelor (or bachelorette) to the end of my days. As far as family goes thats another story entirely, suffice it to say there are only 2 members I am at all close too (brother and sister) and they are accepting of me. I am also blessed in that all but one of my friends are supportive as well.

I also am fully aware I will never pass, and I'm not trying to. A team of top-notch surgeons and enough hormones to float a battleship couldn't make me cute (a fairy godmother would burn-out 3 wands trying). I plan on a wardrobe appropriate to a lady of my age and body type; conservative, neat and basic. Nothing flamboyant or eye-catching. I'm not trying to be a woman, I am not nor will ever be (until they invent genetic surgery). I'm not trying to be a woman, I'm just trying to be myself.

I do realize a therapist may be a good idea now or soon, but I have yet to find a qualified Gender Identity specialist in my rural area. I have also had bad experiences with therapists in the past, It would take some convincing to get me to believe (in my situation) that they are operating more from concern for my mental well-being rather than trying to make me conform to their own moral paradigm.

[amanda w]

just do what makes u happy

[Jennifer Cox]

I've been asking myself the same question - just based on the amount of girly shopping I've been doing lately. Plus the fact that I'll probably rarely get the chance to wear anything I've bought! :sad:

[Sara Jessica]

I've been asking myself the same question - just based on the amount of girly shopping I've been doing lately. Plus the fact that I'll probably rarely get the chance to wear anything I've bought! :sad:

If this was criteria or logical rationale for going full time or transitioning, we'd all have done so by now.

[RobertaFermina]

I see it as a life :fairy3: or death :skull: decision.

The physical and social parts of us may suffer if we take the steps we need to be whole-with-our-soul.

If the only enduring reason I suffered in my soul was from gender-dysphoria, if the only way the unending black&white humdrum could be parted by occasional storms of Technicolor Joy is to 'take certain steps', well, I'd take them.

It is not true for me, so I don't take those steps.

My Blessings to those who do, and my deepest sympathies for their agonies, courage, setbacks, persistence and victories !

:rose: Roberta :rose: