Age Limit?

[Paige Philips]

Hi-I have to ask a question that might offend some people, but isn't meant to. The situation is this: I don't cross-dress & be as feminine as I can for the fun of it-I do it to appear sexy & desirable to a certain type of person. (I think you know what I mean-I'm sure there are other people here with that orientation). My question is-at what age should people like me realize that we are too old to be trying to attract people? What I mean is, with attractive women, there is a sort of age-limit, on one side of which they are "hot and sexy" and on the other side of which, they are "attractive for her age" (or something), meaning "nobody wants her now." I know that most of you guys AREN'T attracted to CDs yourself, but surely some of you have been around enough to have an opinion. So, to rephrase the question: for a CD/TGirl like myself, with my orientation, who is now thirty-something (& looks it), fairly attractive (not gorgeous by any means, but I am petite, slender and feminine, on a good day), at what age should I say to myself-"Give this up, nobody wants you now"-? Late thirties? Forty? Forty-five? What do you think?
This question is very important to me, because I haven't had much experience, and I don't know anybody I can ask. And I really, really love the thought of being a "sought-after CD/TGirl," but still-don't want to make a fool of myself. Thank you for any response. Paige Philips.

[JoanAz]

I am 69 and still trying to look like I feel;

[Karren H]

All depends on what age group you want to be saught by, in my humble opinion. If your 35 and want to be atractive to 25 year olds that's good but if your 55 that's a stretch... On the other hand if your 45 and want to atract 55 year olds!!! Personally I'd say I'm never too old to not attrace someone!! They may be 75 and I may be 65........ But so what!! Lol.

[DonnaT]

If you can pull off the look, like Joan, then age shouldn't matter. Dress how you want.

If it's not working, then you can try toning it down. Some people get scared off by certain looks, while others get turned on.

[geri-tg.]

I don't think age is important.We all change as we get older.For myself I would still crossdress if I was in a nursing home.It only seems to get better the older I am. LOL Geri:)

[Phyliss]

Paige, as long as you're not trying for too big of an age difference, I'd say you can dress to "attract" until they put you in "The Final Box"

P.S. JoanAZ
Have you thought about working in a cardiac care unit? You made this old persons heart feel good. Beautiful picture

[brianna-lynn]

i always think of myself as younger when i am dressed

[TGMarla]

Just as with anything you do in life, your motives change over time. Men or women, when we're young, we often dress to attract others. When we're older, we often dress to please ourselves or our significant others. In my case, my motive behind my choice of wardrobe is that I want to appear pretty, feminine, and perhaps somewhat sophisticated. When I was younger, I sometimes went in for a sexier look. I never stopped dressing, and my desire to dress never went away. I just changed in my choice of attire.

[renee k]

Just as with anything you do in life, your motives change over time. Men or women, when we're young, we often dress to attract others. When we're older, we often dress to please ourselves or our significant others. In my case, my motive behind my choice of wardrobe is that I want to appear pretty, feminine, and perhaps somewhat sophisticated. When I was younger, I sometimes went in for a sexier look. I never stopped dressing, and my desire to dress never went away. I just changed in my choice of attire.:iagree:

I agree with Marla, I dress to please myself and come off as an attractive middle-aged woman. I'm not out there to attract men, it's not my cup of tea. I just to look feminine and sophisticated.

Huggs, Renee

[Kate Simmons]

It all depends on your purpose and point for doing it Paige.:)

[MJ]

it's not about look or how thin we should be or age . it's about the essence of the person. as for dressing i like to dress for comfort . if guys like what they see then I'm doing it right the thing is I'm not attracted to men but it's good to know some guys like what they see . too bad the women don't.
guess I'm not bad for 48 3/4 :D

[Karren H]

it's not about look or how thin we should be ..........

What??? You mean I'm on thus ube-post holiday diet for nothing??? Lol

[deja true]

" ...they are "attractive for her age" (or something), meaning "nobody wants her now."

Hey Paige!

You never heard of us 'cougars'?

[Jess_cd32]

I don't even understand why your thinking like this at your age. If you think 30's -40's is old I'd hate to see how your going to feel at 50 and up.
I've seen some 60's y/o cd's here that give 20's y/o cd's a good run for their money still on looks:thumbsup:

I personally wouldn't waste my time worring about this, but if your going to then at least make the best of times now for yourself.

[Nicki B]

What I mean is, with attractive women, there is a sort of age-limit, on one side of which they are "hot and sexy" and on the other side of which, they are "attractive for her age" (or something), meaning "nobody wants her now."

You think? :strugglin

I'm sad for you..

[MJ]

What??? You mean I'm on thus ube-post holiday diet for nothing??? Lol

nothing wrong with getting healthy... hell i might give it a go. once i get my thighs unstuck out of this computer chair...

now back to the original post

[sami1952]

I never really thought about if i was dressing up to attract some men,i really just dress because deep inside i feel like i was suppose to be a female and i happen to attract someone of the opposite sex at my age,well it makes me feel good.

[JoAnne Wheeler]

As Tina Turner might sing (by a play on words) what has age got to do with it ? I'm probably youth challenged (old) compaired to a lot of you and I feel like I'm getting better expressing myself as a CDer. Age is a part of life - I hope that if I reach a 100 that I'll still be CDing in the nursing home !

Love,

JoAnne Wheeler

[Emily Anderson]

Age doesn't come into question, appearance does.

Ask several people, and you will know the answer. Preferably ask strangers, because friends tend to lie :)

[CD Susan]

I don't even understand why your thinking like this at your age. If you think 30's -40's is old I'd hate to see how your going to feel at 50 and up.
I've seen some 60's y/o cd's here that give 20's y/o cd's a good run for their money still on looks:thumbsup:

I personally wouldn't waste my time worring about this, but if your going to then at least make the best of times now for yourself.

I couldn't have said it any better than this myself.

[Jennifer Cox]

All depends on what age group you want to be saught by, in my humble opinion. If your 35 and want to be atractive to 25 year olds that's good but if your 55 that's a stretch... On the other hand if your 45 and want to atract 55 year olds!!! Personally I'd say I'm never too old to not attrace someone!! They may be 75 and I may be 65........ But so what!! Lol.

Don't worry Karren - if you ever get really desparate I'm here for you! :)

[trannie T]

I'm 61 fat and ugly. On New Years some guy still tried to pick me up, I guess when you've got it, you've got it.

[docrobbysherry]

Yours, AND theirs!, ( The ones u want to attract!):battingeyelashes:

I don't dress to attract anyone. Probably NEVER did that very well!:doh:

But, I'm in my 60's, and was out with a GG on New Years, who was making me feel like a teen again!:o

If u have confidence in yourself, age doesn't seem to matter too much!:D

[MissConstrued]

What matters is how much they have had to drink. :D

[sacha jay]

hi paige i have a male friend as a friend only who takes me out for lunchs and long talks because i attract him as sacha and sacha is the only person he can talk with re his age and cd questions he is 65 years young and i am 50 now but i do not look my age and have allways looked feminine as sacha i find that as you get older you have to try a little harder dress for your age and any way the young men love a well kept older lady SO paige CHIN UP BE HAPPY FOR WHO YOU ARE AND GO FOR IT please take it from meIT WILL WORK OUT FOR YOU ANY TIME YOU WANT TO TALK IM HERE ok :love: sacha jay

[Nicki B]

What matters is how much they have had to drink. :D

Yeah.. I found that out again on NYE.. :rolleyes:

[Janie Gunn]

Age is something I dont take into consideration. For as long as I can pull off the hooker look I've adopted I'll keep doing it. Neither do I dress to try and attract anyone. If the chicks dig it, then thats great, I milk it, but I dont always exactly expect it, and I dont try to attract men!!

[BLUE ORCHID]

At age sixtysix I do a pretty good job of pulling of a
mid fourty something look . Youre only as [young/old]
as you feel . I wish i knew then what i know now when I
was your age
Orchid

[xdress2lady]

I don't think age means your ugly meter rises once a year. Age helps us blend better. In fact, I bet with age things may get easier for dressing. I find that older ladies seem to have more covering attire than young women. At that rate, I would think it will be easier as age goes on to cover my male body and enhance my femininity.

I know since "smokin hot" won't be in my corner forever, my goal is to look as GG as I can instead. And the outfit that makes me the prettiest Josie I can be and makes me the most convincing female is always the winner in my closet. But if smoking hot is your thing, the train always stops shorter than you want. It will all depend on how you deal with your age. And i know that when hot is NOT me anymore, I will still be dressing up. Quitting CDing is not an option.

I found this web article below for GGs last year regarding aging and beauty. It gives tips for hair, skin, makeup, clothing and more for your 20s, strait through till your 60s. It may not be a fashion/beauty bible but it did make it easy to see where to draw the line on some fashions and when to start wearing others. An interesting read for all at the very least.

http://www.canadianliving.com/style/beauty/timeless_beauty.php

:2c: my 2 cents here is this: A 55 year old CD wearing a mini skirt, tube top, 4 inch heels, shopping for skinny jeans at the GAP is the equivalent of a 55 year old woman wearing skateboard sneakers, big baggy jeans, AC-DC t-shirt, and throwing water ballons at traffic.





hugs all:hugs:


Josie

[Angie G]

Paige never give up hun. You mat want to keep it in a age appropriate area. make it sexy not trashy. I don't think anyone should stop trying to attract people they are attracted to.:hugs:
Angie

[Jocelyn Quivers]

I don't even understand why your thinking like this at your age. If you think 30's -40's is old I'd hate to see how your going to feel at 50 and up.
I've seen some 60's y/o cd's here that give 20's y/o cd's a good run for their money still on looks:thumbsup:

I personally wouldn't waste my time worring about this, but if your going to then at least make the best of times now for yourself.

Paige, you consider the ages of 30-40 as being old?!!!:eek::devil:

[TxKimberly]

. . . My question is-at what age should people like me realize that we are too old to be trying to attract people? . . .

Paige,

This is an easy one. You should stop trying to be attractive the moment you die and not one second sooner. This may surprise you, it did me when I first noted it, but as you age, your tastes will change also. At 20, I didn't find your average 40 year old woman all that attractive. I swear I'm being honest with this, now in my early 40's, I find a woman in her 40's and 50's to be every bit as beautiful as I once found 20 year olds. I'm not trying to "make the best of a bad situation", or "put the best light on things", or be politically correct - I REALLY do find these women to be very attractive. What a shame it would be if these women had all decided "Oh hell, I'm 35, it's time to throw in the towel and go frumpy!"
So, at no age should you ever say to yourself "I'm too old and shouldn't bother trying to look attractive".

[Carol A]

I started at 14 am now going on 70, my loving wife and I still work on my look and presentation. Never to old to learn a new trick :heehee:

[MsJanessa]

Paige,

This is an easy one. You should stop trying to be attractive the moment you die and not one second sooner. This may surprise you, it did me when I first noted it, but as you age, your tastes will change also. At 20, I didn't find your average 40 year old woman all that attractive. I swear I'm being honest with this, now in my early 40's, I find a woman in her 40's and 50's to be every bit as beautiful as I once found 20 year olds. I'm not trying to "make the best of a bad situation", or "put the best light on things", or be politically correct - I REALLY do find these women to be very attractive. What a shame it would be if these women had all decided "Oh hell, I'm 35, it's time to throw in the towel and go frumpy!"
So, at no age should you ever say to yourself "I'm too old and shouldn't bother trying to look attractive".

ditto--I know both T-Girls and GGs well into their 60s who are totally hot and some in their 20s who have given up on it.

[Lanore]

I'm 57 and have no desire to attract any one, especially male. I accept that. I have always be who I am and all I want, is to grow old as a woman. I have a lot of women friends and feel so comfortable around them. I can't see sharring my life with any but God. If he has other plans for me, he'll let me know.

[rickie121x]

One of the posters said: "Age doesn't come into question, appearance does." On that I agree. But first let me mention that when I go out - and some of you know that my venue is BDSM parties - I am always hunting for a partner. Now that is complicated by my age, 74, and my predilection, cross-dressing. Not to mention that within the BDSM community, the ranges of preferences for taste and styles and just as complex and broad as within the normal community. Result; the number of possible matches and selections is very very small.

I have been dressing and "hunting" for at least 35 years, and so have a large database of experiences on which to base my opinion. It has been clear that age is a huge factor. Almost all youngish women are attracted to youngish males - sure there are a few who do older guys - and thank god for that! And there are some cougars - and thank god for them too! My personal conclusion is that there is a clear factor here: My opportunities, possibilities, and successes have reduced as my age increased. So very sad, but true!

Another factor is not "them", but actually me. As my successes decrease, so decrease my assurance and confidence with a net result of my "being" less attractive. Nevertheless, my intention is to keep on trying, to keep my delights in my cross-dressed feelings, to hope, to work, to laugh and to love - just as often as I am can.

[Sarah...]

This is an easy one. You should stop trying to be attractive the moment you die and not one second sooner.

:yt: ...with knobs on.

Sarah...

[sometimes_miss]

At any age, in any condition, everyone's attractive to someone. Now, finding that someone, that's another story. Paige, I can't ever imagine a time when I will stop wanting to be pretty. I reconciled long ago that I will never be the 'hot chick' that I wanted to be, garnering the admiring looks from some, the envy of others, neither of which I ever experienced as a guy. But it's more about how I feel about me; my crossdressing has always been about 'feeling' beautiful, whether I actually am, or not. From my visual angle, all I can see is the great clothes, nice shoes, and the pretty hair. And that makes me feel wonderful, at least for a while. That feeling will never go away. I might someday live to be a 100 year old decrepit man in a cheerleader dress, but it will still feel great. Age, it's all in the mind. And, I don't care to mind very much.

[Fallen Angel]

I came out in my thirty's, wich was along time ago. But At 50 I think Im still Going on 30

[SherriePall]

Paige -- You'll know when you're too old to dress hot and sexy. If not, then I'm sure others will clue you in. Besides, there are different levels of hot and sexy. What you may find to be true today will not hold true sometime in the future. Trust me on that.
That being said, being hetero and faithful, I dress to please myself, to make myself as attractive as I can at this point in time. If I garner any compliments from other women, that's a plus, but not what I aim for.
Just enjoy life.

[carolinoakland]

The only person who's going to know what that age is; is you. When you stop getting the response's and attentions that you want then it will be time to start cruising the bingo parlours hon. Caron.

[Paige Philips]

Guys (Girls, I should say): Thank you all! Two pages of responses is more than I hoped for- I printed out all your responses, & I'm re-reading all of them. I'm getting something valuable from all your responses. Can't thank you all individually, but to trannie T, if you read this, Good for you!!. Take care, and thanks again. Paige Philips.

[Nadia-Maria]

One of my GG neighbours is aged 82 and she believes to be still highly desirable. She even speaks convincingly about her conquests ! :battingeyelashes:
In fact, she has been very pretty in her youth and is still very living, and in good shape, and sort of an adorable person, so that she can certainly attract a certain kind of public.

It's mainly a matter of personal confidence and depends on the person, I mean. :tongueout

And I can't see why quite a few of us, CDs and TGs, might not be still pretty babes at 90 or more. :devil:

I certainly will go on wearing blonde wigs, miniskirts and heels at that age, if good health would allow it.... :battingeyelashes:

[satin_luva]

I am twenty and I have known myself to lustfully look at women from twenty-five upto forty-five. Maybe even a few upto fifty. I know that to some that may sound a little disconcerting, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And there is someone for anyone. So, it's not a case of 'she looks good for her age', but who still finds her sexually attractive.

[marny]

Get a life you rude little twit. You should be kiced off here, Deeply offensive

[Mary Morgan]

I would say You should give up when you are 100 years old, or when you lose interest, whichever occurs last!

[Melora]

Answer to th Question :
As soon as puberty
As well as: whatever the LAW ALOWS!!