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Rachel Morley
06-12-2005, 01:59 AM
As some of you might know I have a very accepting wife, Marla. Even though she actively encourages me to dress up and be sweet and feminine in the house, and I also wear really quite feminine clothes as a guy in public, I have never actually gone out completely enfemme.....that is until today.

Just one one week ago she posted about how I respect her limits and that she is not ready to go out with me enfemme as two girls. But over the last few days she has been making suggestions about how if I was ever going to pass I would need better make up and that I would need to be wearing the sort of clothes that a gg would wear to go to the store.

Today, after lunch, she decided that we should go to Rite Aid and get some better make up for me. We came back with new concealer, foundation, translucent powder, and new mascara. Then this afternoon she "went to work on me". First she tweezed my eyebrows a little...not too much just a suggestion of a more feminine shape. I don't want to bore you with the details but after she was done I had more make up on than I had ever had on in my life. I was wearing heavy concealer, foundation, translucent powder, blush, eyeliner, eye shadow, mascara, lip liner, and lipstick. I first got dressed in a sweet little skirt, white satin trimmed shell and pink cardigan (see my new avatar and profile picture) we then had dinner and afterwards she said out of the blue "wow you look really good tonight, would you like to go out?" I could hardly believe it!

Well, to cut another long story short, she suggested I change into something more appropriate first. I changed into a black pair of capris and a black cardigan but kept on my satin trimmed shell. She also lent me her sandals and purse. Now the first obstacle was to get into the car without the neighbors seeing. It was not completely dark yet, the sun was just starting to go down. Marla to the rescue! She suggested I take out my earrings and take off my wig and put a baseball cap on and do up my cardigan and go to the car like that. It worked. We then drove to a quiet side street and I put my earrings back in put my wig on and undid my cardigan except for the top button.

Marla was driving and I just sat and did nothing. All the time she was checking with me on how I was feeling and if I wanted to go home. Well actually, I was feeling pretty safe in the cocoon of the car and I really didn't feel particularly different than when I am dressed in a feminized way (but as a guy) in public. After a while she said "right, this is too easy. We need to get you out of the car." We drove to a large shopping center and parked some distance away from the store entrances. She asked me if I wanted to go inside. I chickened out and said no, that I just wanted to walk up to the store front and then walk back to the car. Now, I know this is such a lame thing to some of you more experienced girls, but for me this is a big thing. I have never been outside the house in women's clothes in full wig and make up except to a costume party once.

As we walked towards the store, we walked by an old man. Nothing, didn't even look at us. Then as we got closer a middle aged woman came out of the store and headed towards us. She walked right by me real close. We gave each other very brief eye contact. Still nothing. I was beginning to think "wow, I think I'm passing". There were a couple of other people who saw me fairly close up, an older lady and a young woman in the car that was right next to ours when we walked back, but all in all an uneventful first outing :)

When we got home Marla said that she had fun and was happy that things went well, also that with more work on my make up and confidence I will be ready to go to the indoor mall in daylight. Here's a picture of what I was wearing.

I'm sorry this is a long post but I thought some of you might be interested to hear all the gory details :)

Angel

Julie York
06-12-2005, 05:32 AM
Congratulations. That's quite a first time adventure.

Why has she had a change of heart? Is it because she knows you look more presentable (i.e. less likely to be read) ?

Sharon
06-12-2005, 07:00 AM
Congratulations Angel! It sounds like an excellent first adventure outdoors. :)

Lady Jayne
06-12-2005, 07:12 AM
Wow thats great Angel, bet you can't wait to do it again.
Oh and Yaah for Marla, bet your in the good books for......well....like, ever!

It always makes me so happy when someone has a SO who can be truely supportive, kind of gives me hope that it might happen for me one day!

DonnaT
06-12-2005, 08:25 AM
Totally cool Angel, Marla.

Maybe once i loose a few more pounds my wife will go with me (enfemme) to the mall?

RachelDenise
06-12-2005, 08:29 AM
Way too cool Angel and Marla. Sounds like you two are off and running!!!!! :)

CharleneCD
06-12-2005, 10:03 AM
Angel, congratulations on a big step. :clap: . I hope this is just a start of the wonderful adventures that you and Marla can share together. As ive been told many times about my wife Bunny, I now pass on to you, you need to treasure that gal and make sure she knows she's loved.

Priscilla1018
06-12-2005, 10:48 AM
Congratulations Angel and Marla.Way to go. :bow: :Power:

Deidra Cowen
06-12-2005, 11:04 AM
I'm gald your first adventure out went so well. Marla sounds like a sweetie!

Marla GG
06-12-2005, 12:04 PM
Congratulations. That's quite a first time adventure.

Why has she had a change of heart? Is it because she knows you look more presentable (i.e. less likely to be read) ?

Hi Julie,

As we all know, it's a woman's prerogative to change her mind :)

Seriously, there's no simple answer to this. It's a combination of things.

I think first of all, joining this forum and participating over the past week has kept the idea of going out at the forefront of my mind, whereas normally it isn't something that I've thought too much about. Going out has never been a priority for Angel anyway. However, while reading all the fun posts about you girls who do go out en femme, I started to wonder what it would be like. More importantly, I started rehearsing in my mind how it would feel, and visualizing how we would act, where we would go, and what we would do. I pictured everything going well and us having fun. This mental rehearsal technique really helped me get over my first-time jitters.

Secondly, you are so right, most of my reason for not feeling "ready" for an en femme outing was based on the belief that Angel would not pass. I am aware that there are different levels of passing....I started to think about it more, did some soul-searching, and decided that I would be okay if Angel could "pass" at a level where (1) most people in a crowd wouldn't really look at us, and (2) if they did, they would not be sure enough about Angel's gender to confront us or openly laugh. They might think some unflattering things, and they might be wondering "is she or isn't she," but they wouldn't want to risk offending us in case they were wrong. Once I settled on this as something I could accept, then I felt like I had an attainable goal.

The new makeup helped a lot. Angel had been using Estee Lauder Impeccable, which is a cream foundation with fairly heavy coverage, but we never really tried to make it look good enough for a public outing. I have a lot of experience with makeup and have tried most of the department store and drugstore foundations myself, but I have no experience with beard cover. I thought that since Angel is a redhead and doesn't have very dark beard shadow, we might be able to get away with just more concealer and maybe a more pigmented cream foundation. So we bought some Pan Stik and some Cover Girl Aqua Smooth to try. It wasn't quite perfect, but it was much better than Angel's usual "at home" look, especially after we were all finished with careful attention to eyes and lips. I thought Angel looked lovely, and I said so. And that was when I had the impulsive idea to go for a drive. I never intended for us to leave the car on our first outing, but as Angel said, it seemed easier than I had expected.

Angel and I talked about how our history of going out with him in androgynous or outright feminine clothes, but still as a guy, must have given us more practice than we realized. I mean, we often go out with Angel wearing, say, a twinset and a pair of capri pants, Keds or Saltwater sandals, fairly prominent earrings, a little mascara, a fine gold chain with a pearl pendant, perfume, and a ladies' watch. I assume everyone just thinks he's gay (never mind that I don't know of any real gay men who dress like that, but it's a stereotype that a lot of straight people have). We are kind of used to people staring and have become somewhat immune to it. I think that will help us both a lot if and when we start having more outings with Angel fully dressed.

Thanks to all of you on this forum for helping to give us the courage to take this step. You're all so supportive, and I feel grateful to have such fantastic mentors.

Sigrid
06-12-2005, 12:25 PM
...but all in all an uneventful first outing :)
which you will remember for the rest of your life! Congratulations, Angel!


And to you too, Marla! Bless you for being such an understanding and supportive wife. :)


~Sigrid

Donna Delite
06-12-2005, 12:48 PM
That sounds fantastic! What a thrill it must have been. I would imagine that since you had such a nice time the first time that more are to follow?

Holly
06-12-2005, 07:06 PM
Wow! Just a couple of girls out for a drive. What fun you two must have had. May your next adventure together be as fulfilling and as exciting for BOTH of you. :love:

JoAnnDallas
06-12-2005, 09:41 PM
I would have thought that Angel would have been more relaxed in your present, than by herself. I know if I saw two girls walking and one was very passible, I would not even think twice about the other girl.

nancy58
06-12-2005, 10:40 PM
Angel & Marla,

Congratulations on a successful outing! Having read a few your your posts, I believe you make a wonderful couple, and I am glad you are now able to enjoy being together outside as you would like to be.

Best wishes,
Nancy

DanaJ
06-13-2005, 04:55 AM
I just wanted to add my congrats with everyone else's here - well done! Keep up the good work, and don't stop now :)

DanaJ

Maria Louise
06-13-2005, 06:17 AM
Congratulations and well done!

It's great to know that there are some GGs out there who are willing to let their guy be their gal.

Good luck for the future.

Hugs
Maria Louise
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