Fantasy - sexual - blend in - how do you dress

[JoAnne Wheeler]

When we dress, do we do so to create our FANTASY WOMAN or do we dress to look like our thoughts about how a SEXY WOMAN should look or do we dress to BLEND IN WITH REAL WOMEN ???????? Maybe I'm just getting old, but 9 times out of 10, I want to dress to BLEND IN. If we go outside, don't we want to BLEND IN with real GGs in hopes that we will pass ??? From so many of the photgraphs that have been posted, it looks like we are so OVERDRESSED that we would stand out in a crowd and/or we are so SEXUALLY DRESSED that we look like we work in a *****house.

What are your thoughts on this and is it important to try to BLEND IN ?

Love,

JoAnne Wheeler

[tricia_uktv]

Not a smple answer to this one. It depends on my mood, what I am doing and the time of day. I definately dress more provocatively in the evening when going to night clubs etc.

[deja true]

I like to dress like a woman on the street for the most part, but she's gotta be a fashionable woman, not a Walmart drone! Think Beverly Hills casual, not Peoria casual!

(no offense to Peoria!)

As for the sexy bits, what's underneath those (stylish) skinny jeans and that (slightly tight) leopard print top is my business, not for public consumption!

Give me kitten heels over tennis shoes any day!

[Kate Simmons]

Most of the time we overblow the whole concept in our own minds. As my wife originally told me matter of factly when I told her I CD'd: "There is nothing glamourous about being a woman." The glitter and glamour part is superfluous and is supplied by us for the most part. The reality of being a woman comes down to a lot of hard(although rewarding) work. We don't see this until we really get into the feelings behind it all.:)

[cindym5_04]

When I would typically go out, I would try to blend in. This is when I would go to bars, etc, though you can be a little more sexy in those environments. When I've gone to the movies, I've been more toned down in jeans and something conservative yet casual. There's always the point of trying to achieve the look of your fantasy woman at the same time.

On the flip-side, there was a time when I escorted and depending where I was going, I would totally sex-up the look to a high degree.

[Jilmac]

Joanne, A very thought provoking thread indeed. I know many of us overdress and would stand out like a sore thumb in public. I myself, dress to blend in. I don't wish to make a spectacle out of my dressing so I dress in what I consider appropriate attire. I also dress appropriate to my age. As my avatar shows, not too overdone, just a simple feminine appearance.

[Jess_cd32]

I just dress to have fun and enjoy the end result I see in the mirror.
I like the borderline hookerish look as well as a tastefully done sexy look, still yet to try a conservative look:doh:
Would I go out in public dressed like that, nooooooooo, I think it would attract to much negative attention.

I also am attracted to sexy dressed women over conservative ones, the things that caught my eye when I met my SO was her egyption eye makeup and her mode of dress which was classy, but very sexy, she captured my heart in that mini:)

I dress basically the same I like my SO to dress, she just needs more convincing now than I do, a lot more! and I usually hear no way!:heehee:

[TommiTN]

Joanne, A very thought provoking thread indeed. I know many of us overdress and would stand out like a sore thumb in public. I myself, dress to blend in. I don't wish to make a spectacle out of my dressing so I dress in what I consider appropriate attire. I also dress appropriate to my age. As my avatar shows, not too overdone, just a simple feminine appearance.

:yt:

[Deborah Jane]

I dress to blend in and i would too....If i went out in a "Red light district" :heehee:

[Katrina red nails]

I could never dress as my fantasy woman as i could never afford all that black leather. No for me its because i enjoy the feel of the clothes and the relaxed comfortable feelings it gives me. Also as jess said earlier enjoy looking at the end result inthe mirror (although i look more at the neck down than the face) :)

[Nadia-Maria]

I dress primarily to look feminine in my eyes. :battingeyelashes:

When I get a result that I am very pleased to, I take a picture or a little video what will allow me to recall forever that good event. :)

Then I post the pic or the video at my Flickr site and I enjoy very much whenever it happens that the pic or video is positively rated (say, more than 1000 views). :hugs:
In that case, I believe to have given as much pleasure to some others at watching as I have got for myself at dressing. :love:

The best results (pleasing me and pleasing others as well) are reached when I dress :
. either feminine, elegant and classy
. or feminine and sexy and looking like a "goodgirl"
. or as a tomboy in the mountains.

[Paula G]

How I dress really depends on how I feel and what I want to look like for the night, whether I want to be elegant, sexy, dressy, or just around the house casual. I do try to dress for my age, though.

[Christine Hanes]

I'm all over the place on this one. I am still exploring why I enjoy being Christine as much as I do.

Primarily I enjoy the feel of the clothes, I find it very sensual and relaxing. So I guess you could say that is somewhat sexual, and really relates to my undergarmets. As far as what happens over my undergarmets I would say I try to blend in. But I tend to want to "blend in" at more fancy dressier events in my fantasies as I dont go out in public. I do have more casual outfits that I can lounge around the house in though.

What it all boils down to is. .. it makes me happy to dress.

[Karren H]

Well its not sexual.. And no way am I the woman of my dreams.... And I don't blend in.. So what else is there? I just like to wear womens clothing and play with makeup and hair... And shop!!

Yeah!!

Add "I love to crossdress because I love to shop". Lol

[Lorileah]

Lori dresses to turn heads. OMG I just referred to me in the third person! I am such a Princess

[StevieTV]

I regularly go out dressed to blend although girls will check out each other so I make sure I have something unique to stand out a bit. I find that wearing leather pants aren't as common this season. I still wear my red pair though and have compliments from GG about them.

[Toni_Lynn]

At home -- its just to be like every other girl -- your normal boring -- ABBA said in Thank You for the Music: 'nothing special, in fact I'm a bit of bore'.

But when the romantic sparks fly with my wife, well, that another story, and it depends on where it takes us, from tomboy to princess.

Huggles

Toni-Lynn

[Kate Jennings]

I don't see a disconnect between being my "fantasy woman" and blending in. I try to do both. The look I go for, however, is, at least for me, the kind of woman I am attracted to. Is it I love myself? lol

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

I try to blend in and generally dress fairly conservatively. I do wear heels all the time when I go out so that's not the norm for most woman, that's my only real departure.
I have gone to shops that have woman model lingerie for you and I try the lingerie on and get comments about how it looks on me from the girls, you can't believe the rush you get from this experience. I guess that I am a little "out there" at times.

[Joanne f]

At first with not quite knowing what was going on there was quite a lot of fantasy dressing but as things moved on the need to dress over rode the fantasy part so now it is what i feel comfortable in plus looking sensible yet bit of a style of my own (you can`t dress mutton up as lamb):heehee:

[renee k]

I dress to blend in and that depends on the venue. My tastes in clothes are a classy tailored look.

Huggs, Renee

[Nicki B]

We have to pick just one? :strugglin


Surely 'all of the above', depending on how we feel and the occasion..

[Rochelle Exploration]

For me my goal is to blend in with those around me. I certainly don't aspire to be a pole dancer and don't choose to dress like one. I just want to be able to go about life as me, as how I really feel I am.

Now that said in photos I may appear overdressed at times, but aren't most people? For the most part aren't photos of special occassions? The family get togethers, weddings, dances, etc where one would be dressed to the nines. So often I believe photos may not be reflective of the person in everyday life.

[Christina Nicole]

When I dress, it's to go out like any woman. Talbots had an advertising slogan a few years ago that sums up my style philosophy, "Stand out, don't stick out."

I guess this topic ties into the Autogynephilia one? Isn't what Blanchard was describing the "fantasy woman"?

Warm regards,
Christina Nicole

[Sara Jessica]

I like to dress like a woman on the street for the most part, but she's gotta be a fashionable woman, not a Walmart drone! Think Beverly Hills casual, not Peoria casual!

(no offense to Peoria!)

As for the sexy bits, what's underneath those (stylish) skinny jeans and that (slightly tight) leopard print top is my business, not for public consumption!

Give me kitten heels over tennis shoes any day!

Very well said, this describes me as well...couldn't have put it any better myself!!!

[NicoleScott]

Much of my dressing is home alone, so blending in isn't relevant. I dress as my femme identity compels, which is, I admit, overdone, and without apology.
When I go out, I like clubs where I am accepted as I am. I try neither to stand out nor to blend in, but to enjoy the experience.

[TGMarla]

But...but....

I like overdressing. It's fun. :sad:

[beenherelongtime]

when i was very young i tried to dress sexy, didn't work. i was much more comfortable when i tried to blend in. i tried to emulate the woman i admired and wear clothes like they did

[Emily01]

as i have become more and more comfortable with my femininity i have also come to realize that the dressing is a way to confirm to my mind what's going on in my head. when i dress to go out i dress down from my usual wardrobe which is much more refined and femme. so going our i try to look like any other woman who has an interest in her appearance and wants to make a good first impression. that often means jeans and slacks and a day-wear skirt, sensible shoes and understated make-up. so i think i' with you on this one JoAnne. i don't like leaving the sheath dresses and high heels at home but those have a place and it isn't the mall or Barnes & Noble or the grocery store. lol

[KimberlyS]

For me it is more dress to blend yet feminine. I am usually on the more feminine dressed and looking edge of places I go. But not usually way over dressed for the location.

kim
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[joann07]

Whenever I'm out shopping or just running errands, I dress modern and contemporary. And when I'm out at night, I dress classy or in clubbing wear.

Hugs!

[tamarav]

If I wanted to blend into the background I may as well go en drab. Since I work in the beauty industry I take full advantage of it and show off what I can. Just like every other woman that does not want to be overlooked.

This is how I look at work and during the day....Blend it? Heck no, I don't want to anymore!


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[jenniferTgurl]

I depends on my mood and where I'm going but 90% of the time I dress to "blend in"

[docrobbysherry]

Answering that, will probably answer the thread question.

If you're a closet CD, why would u ever dress to blend in? Unless you were preparing to go out dressed? Which most closet CDs don't do!

If u dress for your pleasure only, why would u NOT dress up as the wildest, sexiest, youngest female u can image? Only limited by the look(s) u r capable of imitating?:daydreaming:

If u end up looking like an idiot, either don't take photos, or burn them!:devil:
No one will know, and u can always do a better job next time!:heehee:

[MissConstrued]

If I'm going to spend hours cleaning up, de-hairing, doing makeup -- I'm going out. So I dress to impress. :) There's no "blending in" for me in girl mode anyway. And invisibility is my forte in guy mode.

[Billijo49504]

A lot of the time when I go out, I go with my wife. And I would never want to imbarass her. So I usually dress like a "normal" woman. What ever that is? But if I don't pass inspection, we don't go out!! If I look trashy, she will let me go by myself, but not with her. I have to be one of the gurls to get to go with her...BJ
ps... A thought for the GG here. When you go into the ladies room, the gurl in the next stall, might be a guy in a skirt...:eek::devil:..BJ

[DawnRodgers]

Basically I do dressy casual. No slacks, or socks or sneakers. Heels or dressy flats. Always nylons. Dress or skirt and blouse. Wig. light make-up, jewelry and a touch of perfume. Want to blend in as much as possible not attract attention.
Dawn

[AmandaM]

Lori dresses to turn heads. OMG I just referred to me in the third person! I am such a Princess

Oh geez, not another one! :tongueout

I dress to look as much as a woman as possible. Unless the wife has other ideas. :)

[Anna the Dub]

I dress to express my personality. Since I am quite a shy, introverted person, I tend to dress on the side of conservatism, without attracting too much notice. So I blend in, in a tomboyish sort of way.

[Kelsy]

Joanne,

Actually being or becoming a woman has always been my fantasy - I want to dress like one act like one and be accepted as one! I never got into dressing like lil bo peep or anything:) There was a time when I found dressing very erotic and sexual but I rarely dressed as a ho, even though my wife calls me that now and then:) I want to fit as a woman and always try "and I said try"
to choose fashion that fits my age and tastes. I do have some sexy outfits as any woman would Soo I guess I dress to blend which,by the way , makes me feel very feminine!

:hugs:Kelsy

[sherib]

I dress to be sexy. But if I wasn't in the closet and ventured out, I would dress to blend in so I wouldn't draw attention to myself.

[Sharon B.]

I would have to say I dress as my fantasy woman would. Dress and heels or skirt blouse or sweater and heels.
As far as blending in I only wear jeans when guy mode and I can't see wearing them in fem mode.

[Sarah Martin]

It depends what mood I'm in. Sometimes I'm a lady, sometimes I'm a tart! I usually dress modestly, though.

[SatinSarah]

i have always wanted to create the sexy woman I crave to be and over estimate how close I can get. I have not been out dressed properly so I haven't needed to belnd in but I am increasingly buying 'normal' everyday womens clothes. However, I still always put everyhting with heels. I am sitting here in heeled boots and a short dress which could do for daywear. But underneath I have very sexy lingerie! When I am with my SO i would love to just crash in jeans and top with my lingerie underneath but I don't get the chance too often so its only dressing in the bedroom with her - which usually is no more than basque - stockings - heels.

[Mistybtm]

I dress because it makes me feel good. my latest buy:
I have both.:D
http://www.roamans.com/clothing/Metallic-Leggings.aspx?PfId=156800&DeptId=15468&producttypeid=1&pref=ps&PurchaseType=G

[Nicki B]

Actually being or becoming a woman has always been my fantasy - I want to dress like one act like one and be accepted as one! I never got into dressing like lil bo peep or anything:)

Genetic women are perfectly capable of dressing in fantasyware and fancy dress on occasion - like Katie B said, there are times and places? :)

[CD Susan]

When at home I dress very casually and usually don't bother with a wig or makeup. I just started doing this as I used to dress as sexy as I could at home. I think the full glam mode is starting to lose it's appeal. When I go out dressed I want to blend in but I usually overdo it. I wear skirts usually when out even though jeans might be more appropriate to blend in. When I am out I want to look like a lady and jeans just don't cut it. I like the look of denim skirts as they are on the casual looking side but look more lady like than jeans.

[PretzelGirl]

I am with CD_Susan (hmmm maybe there is a link here). Most of my dressing at home is casual and without make-up. My driver is that I still get some relaxation from it and I may not have time to go "all the way". A little casual attire can go a long way.

[Bethany_Anne_Fae]

I'vew done the everyday look and its not as much fun as the fantasy stuff. You could say that I blend in when I perform at the renaissance faires, but that same garb wouldnt work in many other places.

I could do the 'sexxy' look and maybe one day I will indulge that idea. For now, I'm content doing what I do.

*hugs*

Zarabeth

[matrioshka]

Depends on the situation, my mood, etc. I have a bunch of vintage stuff I wouldn't go out in. Most of the clothing in my pictures is pretty normal. The one time I've gone out, it was in a blouse and jeans, nothing fancy.

I'm going to a drag ball next month. Now that may be a little over the top, and that's OK for that venue.

Katrina

[Paula T]

I try to blend but usually with a little class. Like a long jean skirt instead of jeans and flats or lower heels. But usually more makeup than I need.:eek:

[jeenie67]

Hi, When I go shopping, or out for lunch I dress similar to what the girls are wearing and don conservative makeup for that time of day. Usually a pencil skirt and blouse, 4" heels and neutral hose. Evening wear might find me in a slightly tighter skirt, more accessories, and a little more provocative makeup; deeper mascara, lipstick and gloss. Depends on what I have in mind for the evening and where.

[linnea]

I'm very happy just blending in.

[Kelli Michelle]

Since I mostly go to clubs, I guess you'd say "clubwear". When I do go to other places and am not going to a club later, I definitely try to blend in more. However, I still try to dress sexily, but in a refined way. The skirts are sorta short, but not at crotch level. The tops are sexy but not too revealing. Still at 6'1" and only somewhat feminine face, i am gonna stand out. So I might as well please myself, I'm thinking. The men and women I meet out think I dress "tastefully". In the guys place, I just think they like looking at my legs---lol!!!:brolleyes:

[kathtx]

Depends on the occasion, of course. Casual for a shopping trip, dressy for a night out, sexy for the bedroom.

[sometimes_miss]

I dress to look like the type of girl that I've always wanted to be: Pretty, sexy, mid teen female. I've been dressing this way since I was a kid, and probably will until the day I die.

[carolinewalker_2000]

One of the best things about being a CD'er is that you are not stuck with just one style. I love playing around with different looks according to my mood. (See my albums for evidence!!)

[prene]

First, I love dressing very feminine and very curvy.

I don’t usually go out in public unless I am with friends. Friends keep me relaxed and secure. If I am out of town . . . like in Las Vegas or New York-parts of the village I go out by myself.

When I go out by myself I try to blend in. My problem is I love a curvy figure and I am usually attracting a little attention. I don’t wear lace or sexy dresses but my curves usually get noticed. I sometime go out and wear fem jeans and a sweat shirt but I still look curvy

[Helen Raines]

I guess I'm lucky because the clothes that make me feel most femine are the clothes that make it easier to blend in with.I love skirt suits and silk tops with a pair of really nice heels.A designer purse helps give me a little extra.I've never been out enfemme in slacks or flats..just me

[JODINYCTV]

My choice of clothing and other accoutrements is often a tad over the top. I try for sexy but not exactly ****ty... unless the gig calls for ****ty in which case I’m generally willing to let my ‘Inner ****’ out to play.

But invariably I try to dress in the manner I believe (based on actual user reviews) best enhances my not particularly femme face, and shows off my definitively femmy body. A gal doing that is I’d say, dressing for success.

Jodi

[Kathi Lake]

I find that when I dress, I definitely attempt to "blend in" as much as possible because during that second (or third) glance, I might get "read."

I tend to dress in an upscale professional look. Skirts at the knee. Tasteful blouses and sweaters. Minimal jewelry and makeup. I just bought a custom-tailored suit in Korea. It's a beautiful charcoal gray two-button suit that will look great with a black turtleneck and my grandmother's pearls. My wig is probably the "youngest" part of my ensemble. It's a rather longish razor cut that frames my face nicely. It works for my more elegant outfits, and it also works with my tight sweater and skinny jeans.

I'm normally a Talbot's kinda girl, but a friend at my local boutique has tried to get me out of my shell with some more "fun" clothes. I actually bought a pair of Baby Phat jeans. They look wonderful! I was shocked. I came in in them a few weeks ago and she said "Has you wife seen how good you look in those jeans?" I said that I was waiting to show her until she had worked off a bit of our Holiday treats first. She said I was a good husband for that. As I've lost a bit of weight lately, I'm now a size 4 or 5 in pants. My wife is now an 8. I really don't like "rubbing it in" to her, so I may never show her!

So, since I didn't ever get the chance to dress like an 18 year-old girl, as long as my body will allow me to, I will "sizzle it up" a bit. I will never "tart it up," however. To me, dressing isn't really sexual, it's psychological. I feel great when dressed as a woman. I feel that by dressing like the local denizens of the street corner, I would be further objectifying women, and I respect them too much to do that.

Kathi

[janet p]

At 62 I can't really try to dress ****ty but so I always try to blend and look dressed for my age.:love:

[Leanne2]

I grew up in the fifty's so I love the full skirts, petticoats, and bouffant hair. But if I went out dressed like that now, it would cause quite a scene. I wear simple skirts and tops when I get my hair done at a beauty shop. But I'm still dressed up more than the other ladies in their jeans and sweatshirts. I'm the only one there in heels. Leanne

[Janet Bern]

I dress to blend. It is pretty hard to be very tall and blend so I need to put more time in my makeup wig and correct outfis to blend in.

[Alice Torn]

At six foot six, and in 2 1/2" heels, or 4" heels, no matter what i wear, even in drab, i stick out, so, I very seldom go outside, but, the first times i did, i was over dressed, tarty, got lots of attention!

[suchacutie]

About 6 months ago I purchased two pieces of clothing without my wife's input. OMG I sure won't do that again. They both fit perfectly, but they both accentuated the wrong parts of my body and although they felt good, they didn't do it for us. That's when my wife said, "the most important thing is that the clothes should feel good, and you should feel good in them (i.e. both looks and feel)".

Now, when's the last time any guy worried about his clothes "feeling" good? Ok, when I'm in drab in a tux, I have to say that the clothes feel good and I look just great in them (okok...but who doesn't look great in a tuxedo? huh?). But the concept is to make sure you are comfortable with the way you look, and also feel good.

With that in mind, I realize that I finally have clothes that cover the range. I can look like a tart, I have dressy casual clothes, and I have a long sweater and leggings as well. I guess that means I just dress for the mood, and have slowly, without realizing it, given myself the option of just about any mood!

tina

[immike]

When we dress, do we do so to create our FANTASY WOMAN or do we dress to look like our thoughts about how a SEXY WOMAN should look or do we dress to BLEND IN WITH REAL WOMEN ???????? Maybe I'm just getting old, but 9 times out of 10, I want to dress to BLEND IN. If we go outside, don't we want to BLEND IN with real GGs in hopes that we will pass ??? From so many of the photgraphs that have been posted, it looks like we are so OVERDRESSED that we would stand out in a crowd and/or we are so SEXUALLY DRESSED that we look like we work in a *****house.

What are your thoughts on this and is it important to try to BLEND IN ?

Love,

JoAnne Wheeler
I love to dress,for the fantasy aspect&just to see how I look.I am a closet CD&I secretly
use mothers ultra expensive wardrobe,prefering to dress in her short skirts,silky soft
white blouses&tops,&heels.I prefer to order frilly undies&pantyhose out of her womens
catalogs,or online.Many times I'll slip on a pair of pantyhose&dress in one of her good
short cocktail dresses,and a pair of heels.My ultimate fantasy is to wear a near perfect
replica of a Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders uniform,just to see how iut feels

[sandy_folsom]

Being 6' 4", I think I would stand out (literally!) not matter what I wear.

I like to feel sexy when I dress up, so hence I like wearing sexy things while I'm Sandy.

However, I don't think my outfits are that outrageous.