"Straight" to the point..

[Stephanie81]

Hi!

Having had a good read through a lot of the recent threads here, after joining last week, i got a little curious as to how many of us MtF CDers identify with being "Straight"..

I've been crossdressing since i was a kid, and have been dressing on and off in public now for a good few years, and I describe myself as "Gay".

I know a few cross dressers in Torquay where I live and they are all gay or bi, but it surprised me that the majority of MtF CDers on this site seem to identify as Straight, quite often married etc.. I'm just curious really!!

[Lorileah]

I have heard several studies that claim that the majority of CD's are straight and that is probably true as far as it goes. Most uninformed people believe CD's are either gay (desiring men) or Transgendered wanting to be a woman but as this forum has shown most of us don't want to transition.

So that being said, I consider myself bi-sexual which muddies the water even more.

[CD Susan]

I am single and straight and have no regrets. Life is good!

[Bethany_Anne_Fae]

Straight, married and lovin it :)

*hugs*

Zara

[Veronica 1]

Straight, single, and looking.

[Gabrielle Hermosa]

I'm a strait man, happily married. My wife thinks I'm handsome as a man, and can't keep her hands off me when I'm dressed as a woman.

I love women so much (perhaps too much) that I need to do more than just look at them - I like to see myself as one, dress like one, feel what it's like to be made up as one, etc.

I'm not even a smidgen gay or bi. If I woke up tomorrow morning as a real girl, I'd be a lipstick lesbian! :heehee:

In terms of why are some crossdressers strait, some bi, and some gay? I think if you replace "crossdressers" with "people" in my last sentence, it spells out my personal theory on it. What does it matter that we like to dress and look like women? There are all kind of people in this world. Why would the crossdressing community be any less diverse than a community of people who happen to like peanut butter? :)

[curse within]

I am straight I find it disgusting that I have the urges I get to dress!!

[MissConstrued]

To borrow an Izzard phrase, I'm a male lesbian... shouldn't I check "gay?" :D So confusing!



May I suggest adding "Tri" to your poll?

[Stephanie81]

To borrow an Izzard phrase, I'm a male lesbian... shouldn't I check "gay?" :D So confusing!



May I suggest adding "Tri" to your poll?

lol.. I did think about an option for "confuzzled", but decided to stick with the trad 3!!

[Karren H]

I am straight I find it disgusting that I have the urges I get to dress!!

Lifes more fun when you just accept it..

[KandisTX]

I chose "Straight" simply because you did not have Heterosexual as an option. I can't imagine any of us on this site identifying ourselves as "straight" since we are either Crossdressers or TS's (With the exception of the GG's present of course).

I am heterosexual, happily married to a wonderful GG (GlitterGG on this site), BUT, I am a crossdresser, which does not fit into the text book definition of either straight or heterosexual.

Kandis:love::rose2:

[MsJanessa]

Bi and loving it.

[shelbyell47]

I am a male crossdresser since I can remember. I am very very straight.
Shelby
Indy

[Ediosa]

[QUOTE=Gabrielle Hermosa;1567087]I'm a strait man, happily married. My wife thinks I'm handsome as a man, and can't keep her hands off me when I'm dressed as a woman.

I love women so much (perhaps too much) that I need to do more than just look at them - I like to see myself as one, dress like one, feel what it's like to be made up as one, etc.

I'm not even a smidgen gay or bi. If I woke up tomorrow morning as a real girl, I'd be a lipstick lesbian! :heehee:

:cheers::iagree::yt:

[TGMarla]

Married.

Straight.

Cool with it. :coolp:

[LilSissyStevie]

I picked "straight" because I'm not gay or bi, but ....

[Morford]

Too close to call. On the one hand, given that I'm still in the ever-thinning segment of my age group that has yet to have sex at all, so it's almost impossible to say which I prefer.
On the other hand, women—be it porn, seeing a hot girl on the street, whatever—bring about arousal several orders of magnitude more often than men, especially when I'm in guy mode (which is a large majority of the time). And, all else being equal, I'd pick a girl over a guy any day. So, in that regard, I consider myself "straight."
On the other other hand—and this possibly due to the "never had sex" thing—I've been increasingly curious lately what it would be like to be with a man while dressed. I can't see myself getting into a relationship with another man, but, if the conditions were right, I might be interested in a one-time hookup.

So, all, told, I'd say I'm "straight, with bi-curious tendencies." Let's see here... darn, not in the poll. "Straight" it is then.

[Barbara Dugan]

100% Bi.... no regrets

[Patty]

I love women so much (perhaps too much) that I need to do more than just look at them - I like to see myself as one, dress like one, feel what it's like to be made up as one, etc.

I'm not even a smidgen gay or bi. If I woke up tomorrow morning as a real girl, I'd be a lipstick lesbian! :heehee:

:iagree:

[renee k]

str8

[curse within]

Lifes more fun when you just accept it..

Sorry Karren no offence...Life would be better for me if it would just go away..to each there own tho, I am happy for those who did accept it.

[linnea]

Married and straight and loving my fem self as much as my male self.

[AmandaM]

Straight, when in drag too. Figure that one out.

[BaliGirl]

Straight and single with male lesbian tendencies :-) (Thanks Eddie!).

[Tasha McIntyre]

Straight as an arrow, married with children, others see me as an alpha male ........why do I have a girly side ? :daydreaming: I dunno, but I have accepted it and adore being Tash

[sometimes_miss]

Maybe it's a reflection of low self esteem, but I've never understood what a woman sees attractive physically about a male. I find men repulsive, and the stench in a locker room is practically nauseating. While I can accept that women, and some men, like to have sex with other men, I will never understand it. Even when dressed, and imagining myself as female, I'm only attracted to females. Don't know whether that alters the concept of sexual orientation or not (lets see, if I'm pretending I'm a girl, and I'm turned on by a girl, does that make me technically gay?). It's a discussion that will probably keep psychologists busy, trying to fit us into one 'box' or another.

[Bethany38]

Married, straight, and I will agree w/everything Tasha said. I also agree with what Eddie Izzard said Male Lesbian tendencies (That's good stuff there!).:heehee:

[DawnRodgers]

Let's see. I think that I am a straight woman with bi tendencies..
Dawn

[simonestrt]

i would say i am bi as i love women but a well dressed transvestite turns me on. If you put a man in front of me as a man it has no reaction so i am bi with tv's and woman

[tanya1976]

'I'm just curious really!![/QUOTE]

That would be my preferred answer! :)

[Tracii G]

Bi. Why not try it all.Some men are repulsive yes but some women are too.
Its all about presonality for me.

[billie earls]

I choose Bi simply because the only time I think about sex with a man is when I'm in my gurl mode. I've had sex with only one man and it was okay but that was over 30 years ago so it wasn't something that I felt I was compelled to do again. I would do it again if the right person came along, but since I'm in the closet and don't have any contact with other CD's outside of the net, I don't think it will happen.

[Nadia-Maria]

Married and str8. I'm turned on by women only.

[Carole Cross]

I would describe myself as straight or heterosexual but as I progress down the road to transition who knows? At the moment I am single and not really searching for a partner until I know which direction my life is goinf to take.

[Emily01]

the guy reading and replying is straight as can be ~ the girl inside?...who knows anymore!

[Kelsy]

Straight - Have Kids - Grand kids- accepting wife - consider myself a no op transexual! Happy but driven!!:daydreaming:

Kelsy

[Rachaelb64]

Ok, I've voted straight, cus I like women and because, you don't have kinked.

Straight, kinky male lesbian, confessed, only on Sundays :D :dom: :devil:

[Sarah89]

I dont care what sombody looks like :p
Its what is inside that counts (god how cheesy does that sound).

Obviously there is execeptions, I wouldnt be attracted to sombody that looks as if they dont wash more than once a month :p

[KathyT]

I am Bi.. and I think that alot more are either bi or gay just afraid to admit it. Have met or spoken aot of men who claim they are straight but the things they want to do with me.. is not straight!!!

[erickka]

Hi, Stephanie. You are right in thinking that there are a lot of "straight" members on this forum. I read a while back that about 68% of crossdressers identify themselves as being heterosexual in nature.

[Mary Jane]

Married and straight.

I often wonder with polls like this how many vote for the way they would like to be instead of how things really are??????? Like if someone is bi-curious might vote as being bi. Just a thought.

[kaitlin]

I was honest and voted "bi"!:o

[Melissa Anne]

100% straight,
Very happily married,
and I actually like my male side and being a husband and father.

I just have this woman who roams around inside my head and occasionally wants to come out and play! So, I occasionally let her come out for a while:).

[JoAnne Wheeler]

I have always in my posts stated that I really cannot stand to be around men . That makes it a little hard because I am male - but I had no choice in that. I only love and want to be with real GG women.

JoAnne Wheeler

[tanyalynn51]

I know this was in the crossdressing thread, but I love polls. As a ts who is only attracted to women, I guess I am a lesbian, though only male on the outside.

[laura.lapinski]

I have never had sex with a man, CD, TS or anyone other than a GG. Had some experimentation with another boy at age 13, so by the formula someone else posted, I'm 99.99 straight.

I love only women, but a pretty TS (post op) and some CD's are very attractive, and in the right situation I might be tempted. I'm not attracted to men at all. By most peoples definition here, I am straight, by others I'm Bi-curious, or bi. You decide.

[beenherelongtime]

i consider myself straight but that doesn't mean that when i was very young, fantasies did not creep into my thoughts.

[mollytyler]

Single..but mental orienttion is as straight female..........

[debra sue]

That’s a good question.
I guess I would call myself Bi. I have had a few men in my lifetime, but only as Debra(both physically in outside apperaances and mentally). I have dressed up for the occasions trying to look my best and my mind is definitely totally feminine.

So my question back to all of you is: what am I ?

Since I feel totally female is it a Bi sort of thing?

I really like the statement of bi-sexual


I am different than most of the girls here as I do wish to be a total woman 24/7.
Thanks for your help
Debra

[carolinebrookes]

I like da ladies!....... therefore am straight.

[rustynail]

definitely straight, and married. Doubt if you will meet many straight CDs - they will be much more likely to be in the closet.

[Stephanie Michelle]

Married, Straight, Kids. I don't think that dressing up as Stephanie makes me any less "manly". What would change in me if people knew that I dressed. NOTHING! I am the same person, they just found out a little bit more about me. It is the stigma of society that causes the way people think what should be right or wrong. Anything outside the "norm" get people uncomfortable and they react to feel like I'm OK and your not. So they don't have to deal with it.

Stephanie Michelle

[Lorileah]

I am Bi.. and I think that alot more are either bi or gay just afraid to admit it. Have met or spoken aot of men who claim they are straight but the things they want to do with me.. is not straight!!!
Preaching to the choir hun! When I first went online in the female persona I could not believe what guys would do or say!

[Catherine99]

Straight, or maybe lesbian since i love women....

[Kalley]

I would consider myself "bi"

I definitely have the urge to be with men or cd/tvs more than women when dressed and actually even when not all dolled up as well. This has certainly grown stronger the last 5 -10 years. But I can't consider myself gay because gay men do not want to be with women sexually at all for the most part. I still love women. I'm not so sure what to label myself, but I'm most definitley not straight.

[tonya2]

Straight and looking for an accepting g/g for fun and travel and ltr if in the cards.

Tonya

[Nicki B]

lol.. I did think about an option for "confuzzled", but decided to stick with the trad 3!!

As someone born male, yet who dresses and acts as a woman at least some of the time and is attracted to women - I've always found the concept that that makes me straight more than faintly ludicrous? :roflmao:

So forgive me for not finding an appropriate answer to agree with..

[Katrina red nails]

Like many others happily married and straight.

[Joanne Curl]

I'm straight but how "straight" can I be if I like to present as a woman? Sexually I'm not attracted to men but I really like being a woman. Am I a lesbian? I'm so confused!:doh:

[Stephanie81]

I'm straight but how "straight" can I be if I like to present as a woman? Sexually I'm not attracted to men but I really like being a woman. Am I a lesbian? I'm so confused!:doh:

I think this says it all..

It's hard to label anyone nowadays.. In the end, I think there is no black and white when it comes to sexuality.. only shade of grey!

I left the poll in rigidly defined "Straight", "Bi" or "Gay" for a reason..

The fact is, in the end, if you identify as straight and dress as a girl occasionally, thats absolutely fine.. most people cannot be categorised.. I just wanted to see what the response to this poll would be!!

:rose2:

In the end, we should all be who we want to be, not what society dictates we should be.. nor should we accept being labelled as one thing or another..

We are all different and, above all, unique

:thumbup:

[danacd96]

I have always identified and related better with women than men. I have very few male friends and for the most am not comfortable in an all male social gathering, like the night out with the boy's!! I love an appreciate all that is feminine. Fortunately for me I work in the interior design industry and most of my clients and colleagues are women. I have learned the meaning of dialogue, patience, understanding, and most of all listening!!! Not always what you find with the male gender. My appreciation for absoulte femininty makes me wonder what to label myself sexually. For sure not into men, per say however I love gg cd tg. So maybe I should say I'm an all sexuall!!

Lv dana:):)

[CherylAnne]

straight, but my choice for myself would be lipstick lesbian.

[SamanthaT]

I chose 'bi' - I've been with both men and women. It's complicated though. I'm drawn to men in some ways, women in different ways. The things I most like in women are things I want to emulate and internalise. It's confusing, really..... I wish I could sort it out.

[sissystephanie]

I vote "Straight" because I certainly am! Most of my friends would say "Too damm straight!" Only had one woman in my life and I married her! Yes, we were both virgins! I was married to my late wife for over 49 years and she supported my CD activities for the entire time. There is no desire in me to become a woman in any way!

[epsxyblkm]

I was not sure what I should check. Almost all of the time I am straight, but there are times when I am dressed, that I feel like I want a man. I have been with men a few times, but dont find being with a man a turn on. Maybe it has something to do with validation. I think that I enjoy the idea of being wanted as a woman.

[missizzy]

Prefer Straight, even though I can go Bi anytime (uhm, yeah?)

[Teranika]

Bisexual. But when I'm in 'male mode' I'm usually not attracted to men.

[missizzy]

Bisexual. But when I'm in 'male mode' I'm usually not attracted to men.

:eek: We have a same taste!!:hugs:

But sometimes I don't attracted to men when I'm in 'CD mode'. Depends on my mood I guess... :P

[vivianann]

I am straight, am only attracted to GG's even when dressed as a female. I love the female image so much that I like to emulate it. I prefer to dress as a woman now that I have accepted this side of me, and am much happier since I have accepted crossdressing as a part of my persona. I am uncomfortable around other men also, whether I am dressed as a male or as a female.

[Samantha Kelsey]

Straight as they come. I adore only the feminine form. Men! what are they?

[Kelly Greene]

straight

[Tess]

Life is a long journey. At times I've been straight, at other times bi, and even sometimes gay. You might think "well isn't that bi?", but for me it has been a gradual change from one to the next due to experience and acceptance of what really turns me on. It hasn't stayed the same throughout my life.

[Cathytg]

I am straight, heterosexual,and happily married. My two grown kids will tell you that I am not gay.

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

But recently, questioning myself as to whether I am TS or just a Crossdresser I don't know what I would do in the future, if I transitioned by taking hormones or SRS. Probably if I went all the way with SRS I might experiment. But for now I'm straight and like women, if only I could find one to live the rest of my life with. :battingeyelashes:

[ColleenShivas]

I am one of these lesbians in a male body, so I guess that makes me straight.

[Angel.Marie76]

I would say about 80-90% straight with Bi-Curious tendancies. ;-) I've a few male friends that know I dress, and at least one has been a bit on the flirty side with me. He's told me already that if I wanted to dress for a date with him, there'd be no objections. :D Said something along the lines of that old saying 'If it looks like a duck...'

[Princess Chantal]

I describe myself as pansexual.... in other words I am open to members of all sexual orientations or gender identities with mainly the personality being the factor

[MaryAnn40c]

When dressed as a women I am interested in men. Having said that I guess I'm bi and loving being that way. I get twice the fun as most people.LOL:D

[kathrynjanos]

I'm a strait man, happily married. My wife thinks I'm handsome as a man, and can't keep her hands off me when I'm dressed as a woman.

I love women so much (perhaps too much) that I need to do more than just look at them - I like to see myself as one, dress like one, feel what it's like to be made up as one, etc.

I'm not even a smidgen gay or bi. If I woke up tomorrow morning as a real girl, I'd be a lipstick lesbian! :heehee:

In terms of why are some crossdressers strait, some bi, and some gay? I think if you replace "crossdressers" with "people" in my last sentence, it spells out my personal theory on it. What does it matter that we like to dress and look like women? There are all kind of people in this world. Why would the crossdressing community be any less diverse than a community of people who happen to like peanut butter? :)

Gabrielle, you're a genius and nailed my own personal theories:

I've thought about whether or not I'd ever be interested in men, and the answer is a conclusive "NO!" I have zero issues with gay men, and find I have an issue with a gay person as often as a straight one, but being one of them just isn't for me. Well, except for those times when I just feel like being a one-man gay parade, but still, I'm not interested in men sexually at all. (These times are usually when I'm doing "Sweet Transvestite" for karaoke.)

Quite the opposite, in fact, I've often joked with friends (more seriously than I'd admit) that I'm a "lesbian in a man's body." Not only am I attracted to women, I've found that many of the ones I've dated or am otherwise attracted to later become lesbians, or at least bi-sexual. The woman I came out to about my crossdressing is now a lesbian, and we had a long distance relationship for several years before she had her epiphany in college.

It makes perfect sense that the urge to crossdress is completely separate from your sexuality. When crossdressing, it's often found that when first starting, it is out of a sexual thrill, but I think that comes mostly from the association men have with women's clothes, and in particular, lingerie. As time goes on, I have started to realize that not only is this OK (if not normal), it's a part of who I am and I want to expand that and bring it out more.

Thank god the east village is just a train ride away. Maybe this summer I'll make my public debut. :daydreaming:

Oh, and hi everyone, I'm new here! :D

[Lorileah]

Kathryn, let get this straight (aw geez didn't mean that) you tend to turn women into lesbians? :)

[tvbeckytv]

Hi!


I know a few cross dressers in Torquay where I live and they are all gay or bi, but it surprised me that the majority of MtF CDers on this site seem to identify as Straight, quite often married etc.. I'm just curious really!!

i think each site has its own character and tends to skew such surveys a little. Some uk sites you are hard pressed to find someone who identifies solely as "straight". I guess you also tend to socially drift towrds your own in the real world too, not that you mean to, its just the way people are.
As for me, im gay all the way...i've only ever been sexually attracted to men, although the physical and emotional attraction took a little longer to develope.

[Maura_ohio]

I was once described as "curly" by a GG i knew.. not straight, not gay.

I am very proudly Bi, thanks!

Maura

[Christinedreamer]

OK when I am in the femme mode I am interested in just having fun- so sex necessarily. But if I do it is with a GG only. When I was younger and in my "cowby drab" days (Stetson, fringed jacket, gold tipped boots and shirt collars) I dated some professional F.Is and we had oral sex ONLY. I saw them as ladies, treated them accordingly and we went up to "first or second base" (how quaint is that?) No desuire whatsoever for thwe full on gay experience.

I guess I lived as a gurl through them vicariously.
A genuine (no mean head games) sweet and real looking CD or TS who acts like a true lady and does not get stoned or drunk still gets me going a bit. In addition I am always a true gentleman with them.

As a straight guy(?) I am not the least bit interested in men who look like men.

So what would you classify my desires as?

[Ria]

If they know me, I'm certain they consider me an alpha male, laser striaght, married with little kids, and cool with the hobby, wife knows, it's hard wired from the begining.

[MarinaTwelve200]

Hi!

Having had a good read through a lot of the recent threads here, after joining last week, i got a little curious as to how many of us MtF CDers identify with being "Straight"..

I've been crossdressing since i was a kid, and have been dressing on and off in public now for a good few years, and I describe myself as "Gay".

I know a few cross dressers in Torquay where I live and they are all gay or bi, but it surprised me that the majority of MtF CDers on this site seem to identify as Straight, quite often married etc.. I'm just curious really!!


Actally, I personally find it odd how a "GAY" guy could be a crossdresser. Being suposedly sexually attracted to MEN rather than the female form. But it apparently happens quite a bit, enough so that the general stereotype of a CD is equated with "gay" in the minds of the "uneducated" public.

There is usually some degree of an erotic element in CD for us straight Crossdressers---ranging from the purely erotic or indirectly so via fetish connections, humiliation SM, etc. At the very least we find something "Special" about women that helps to drive our CDing.

I am puzzeled and curious as to why GAY guys might CD, just as you have a curiosity about CDing in us straight guys.----My only theory is that (transsexuals nonwithstanding) Something ELSE, of a non sexual/sexuality nature, such as personal identity play, taboo tripping, etc. might be the CD driving force in gay guys----just as these things may be involved with "non sexual" based CDing in Straight men.

Its the only thing that makes sense to me---but I suspect that that is NOT the answer. Perhaps as a gay CDer you might be able to explain us us straigts what CD means to yourself. --- I for one would be very interested in your answer.

[sarahNZ]

Straight as an arrow (although most arrows I have ever fired off have a slight bow in them some where along the line). Even married my gf of 6 years only to get kicked out when she figured out this "phase" wasn't a phase. Maybe if I was born a woman things would be diferent, who knows?:battingeyelashes:

[Sophie_C]

Hi!

Having had a good read through a lot of the recent threads here, after joining last week, i got a little curious as to how many of us MtF CDers identify with being "Straight"..

I've been crossdressing since i was a kid, and have been dressing on and off in public now for a good few years, and I describe myself as "Gay".

I know a few cross dressers in Torquay where I live and they are all gay or bi, but it surprised me that the majority of MtF CDers on this site seem to identify as Straight, quite often married etc.. I'm just curious really!!

Ok, look, this really is the low down:

Most people, IMO, are bi, to some degree or another. It might be incredibly mild, but it is there. However, as a sort of psychological comfort, they put "walls" up so that they don't think about or even investigate it. By blocking it all out, there's really no question in their minds. They only know heterosexuality, regardless of what's deep, deep on the inside, so they are completely and utterly "heterosexual," to themselves.

Many of these people get into relationships. Many of those people enter these forums, with their gfs or wives being fully aware of them, even participating in here. Now, enter in the stereotype that crossdressing is done for homosexual reasons (aka to pick up guys). Forget the fact that most gays don't like it whatsoever, and the best way for someone to have a gay relationship is not being in drag, the stereotype still exist, probably because of the imprint of gender roles. Regardless, that makes GGs nervous. Nervous because, while the stereotype is illogical, it serves as a reminder to the hidden bisexuality of many people.

Those husbands (or boyfriends) of those wives (or girlfriends) in an effort to calm those worries always rush to emphatically remind their wives (by posting in the forum, whether consciously or subconsciously) of their fidelity by making a point about being 'straight', regardless if the wall has been looked beyond or not.

And, that's a good thing. I believe commitment is something that should be extremely serious, and even if someone is coming across some uninvestigated bisexuality through some sort of self-awareness, they should make every effort in their power to stay true to their commitments, regardless of that.

So, that is the bottom line why this is such a hot topic here is because this bisexual wall is realized, and it is very dangerous to commitment if the person realizing it does not have principles or willpower.

Finally, statistically speaking, you're going to find many more CDs being birth-gender "straight" than TS/TG people, since, well, there's just more "straight" people than gay people. If someone is TS/TG, they're the opposite gender in mind, so more will be oriented toward their same non-mind birth gender. It's really simple, if you think about it.

But, to give some logic for the assurance of the GGs here, remember that there are all sorts of fetishes - from leather, whips, chains, foods, you name it - and none of them have any association with orientation. So, if your man is a CD, why would a fetish for lacy clothes be any different than for leather?

Note: I am doing this in every intent to civilized and inoffensive. If it in any way doesn't do that, please contact me and I'll work to make it better. All I'm doing is assessing a question that comes up over and over again.

[Marissa Mae]

Straight. "It is what it is" :)

[kathrynjanos]

Kathryn, let get this straight (aw geez didn't mean that) you tend to turn women into lesbians? :)

You nailed it! Lesbian or bi, it would seem... lol! And here's to that: :drink:

[Princess Chantal]

Isn't it quite interesting that the percentage polled that consider theirselves as heterosexual is quite a bit lower than what is usually reported on many crossdressing information sites? I always see anywhere from 80 - 90% of the crossdressing population to be said as being straight......

[Lanore]

I'm single, straight and love who I am. Most of my close friends are female and I just seem to fit right in.

[tvbeckytv]

Actally, I personally find it odd how a "GAY" guy could be a crossdresser. Being suposedly sexually attracted to MEN rather than the female form. But it apparently happens quite a bit, enough so that the general stereotype of a CD is equated with "gay" in the minds of the "uneducated" public.

There is usually some degree of an erotic element in CD for us straight Crossdressers---ranging from the purely erotic or indirectly so via fetish connections, humiliation SM, etc. At the very least we find something "Special" about women that helps to drive our CDing.

I am puzzeled and curious as to why GAY guys might CD, just as you have a curiosity about CDing in us straight guys.----My only theory is that (transsexuals nonwithstanding) Something ELSE, of a non sexual/sexuality nature, such as personal identity play, taboo tripping, etc. might be the CD driving force in gay guys----just as these things may be involved with "non sexual" based CDing in Straight men.

Its the only thing that makes sense to me---but I suspect that that is NOT the answer. Perhaps as a gay CDer you might be able to explain us us straigts what CD means to yourself. --- I for one would be very interested in your answer.


a couple of comments.
First, some peoples sexuality is set in stone, others are a little more fluid and could go either way, depending on nurture influences and background. Im not saying the way you are brought up can make you gay, but it can allow you to be more open to the notion of alternative lifestyles. I for example had a very normal upbringing, but i became transvestite from a young age, way before puberty, so this had some inflence on the way i think and outlook on life.
you are absolutely right that gender identity does play some part, in my case at least. i dont consider myself a transexual, but i see myself as a male woman. There is nothing new about this, look back through history of various cultures and "we" have always been there.
look at it like this, you are familiar with butch femme lesbians, well, its pretty much the same thing for us gay trannys. my boyfriend is all man, typical male gender role, and i am male, but have the typically female gender role.
In somed ways its lifestyle choice...i had no choice about being transvestite, i just was one...but i did have a choice as to the degree i let it influence and dictate my life.

[Paula Klein]

Bi ... though, like quite a few others it seems, the 'bi' urges only come when dressed.

[Annie D]

I am faithful to my wife and have never strayed but through all the various threads and replies have often wondered about my sexual tendencies. As I have examined my growing feminine feelings and thoughts, I feel a yearning for intimacy and a closeness, with or without sex with another person. I think that I would describe myself as others have as a lesbian because I feel that other women have the same desire for intimacy that I want and we share that common bond. That being said, I think that if a male, as a crossdresser, or a male, as a male, made me feel that same way, I would be attracted to him as well.

No, I don't have plans to have an affair but rather to remain faithful to my wife but when I honestly search my soul about my sexual preferences, the jury is still out.

[JoannaCaroline]

My wife says I'm queer!

I told her the lead post in this thread and she told me the response. BTW some of her friends call her "Tri"

[amy canada]

I'm also a male lesbian, and I do watch some lesbian porn online, but whenever I go to the store and buy some women's clothes for myself, I tell myself "I'm so gay!" LOL

[Ballerina]

Straight and have a wonderful, understanding GF

[osteph]

Straight.

[Fionax]

Straight and undeviating ~ but in the back of my mind is the realisation that I am turned on by pictures of CDers and occasionally worry that if the opportunity existed I'd go for it. Because of my mature years [married, three grown up kids, two grandchildren] I envison taking an attractive young CDer out to dinner. Never have, never will; but the fantasy is lurking there. Now there is absolutely no desire to try it on a young man and trying in on a young GG would make me a DOM.......so does that make me even a tiny bit Bi?

[Kathi Lake]

I'm very incredibly straight. Why? First off, . . . eewwww (sorry, didn't mean to offend). Second, my wife would kill me. :)

Like others have said, I have no desire for that. I don't want to be a girl, I simply love dressing like one. The clothes are so much more interesting and fun! I am totally comfortable how I am. Inside, no matter how girly I am, I'm still a guy. In other words, lazy. If I were a girl, I'd have to do my makeup and hair every day. It would get old and less special, I believe. However, as a guy, I get to dress like this. It's a treat.

Kathi

[Raychel]

Straight, Married with Children. Why would I want to be with a guy, they are gross. :2c:

[deja true]

Happily confused!

If this is an orientation issue, I have completely different fantasies depending on my orientation. What'll it be ....horizontal or vertical?

[Paula G]

I am straight when in male mode and a lesbian when dressed as a female. Wife and I like it like that.

[Robynts]

Several girls have said they are straight because they like the ladies. So do I. But what are you if, when you are enfemme, you like tgirls too?

[Tamera]

To some this makes sense, to others they scratch their heads.

My fem side is straight to her gender,

and my male side is straight to his.

Some may call this Bi. I don't for Tamera does not like girls and my male side does not like men.
Hugs,
Tamera

[Linda Laman]

I started cross dressing about 10 years ago at the age of 50. I am straight and had never done it before, although I had always taken an interest in female dressing and accompanied my wife whenever she went shopping for clothes, taking an active part in her choices. Now I love crossdressing and often go out dressed en femme. But I am still straight and I like being a guy, and I still admire the ladies. However, I do get dressed en femme whenever the opportunity arises (like now). Luckily my wife has no problem with any of it and helps me to buy clothes, make-up, jewelry etc. We have such fun. I do have one CD friend who is gay and I respect his sexuality as he does mine. The statistic is still surpising though.

[sandy_folsom]

I'm straight but when I'm dressed up, the thought of playing the other side has crossed my mind. Never had the situation come up though.

However, there was there was one opportunity but my wife didn't want me to. I think she was jealous. ;)

[Prissy Linda]

I am Bi. I love women so much I want to be one so I am also attracted to attractive Tgirls. In MY opinion T girls just try harder to be feminine and pretty so I appreciate the effort. I have been intimate with one of these girls and it is so erotic and pleasurable. We are also good friends in guy mode who share a secret that not many know about so we feel free to discuss or display our femininity when the need arises. I suppose we are like a lot of females who feel free to discuss just about anything with their girlfriends.

[Kelli Michelle]

For the record, I am straight when male, leaning toward bi (preferably females though) when dressed. I appreciate tgirls, but am not really into them in a sexual way.

I would also figure that a large percentage of crossdressers are pretty much "in the closet" and would expect a large percentage of those to be straight. You just see a small percentage of transgender people out in Torquay. I bet the straight ones hardly come out. That might explain some of it. :hugs: