Apple of Eris
01-15-2009, 01:37 AM
i'm not really asking for any advice from this thread. i don't really know if i intend to get anything out of it, but i just need a place to put my thoughts where at least others might understand. so i guess consider this a vent, and if you have any helpful stuff to say, all the better.
i'm beginning to grow a lot more concerned over my well-being with all of my gender issues. i've been back and forth on the fence over whether i want to transition since i was 5 or 6. for three-quarters of my life, i've been afraid to let the people closest to me know that i don't feel right as myself. up until i joined this forum, i thought that i was just abnormal, and that nobody would accept me for how i felt about myself, and still that feeling's still sticking with me. it's led to a long history of self-loathing and destructive behavior. since i was young, i would hurt myself in any way i could find, i still fight urges for self-mutilation (and frequently lose), i still wonder about what i really want, i still fear that no matter what i do i'll never feel right as myself, and even now, as i finish my 9th drink in two hours, (on a wednesday, with class to attend tomorrow) i'm no closer to making healthy decisions for coping than i am to figuring out what's right for me.
even though i know i'm way ahead of the curve for people who think they're too late to transition, i still feel like i'll never be able to pass, no matter how i tried. aside from being short and tiny, i'm not even remotely feminine in appearance, i have a cro-magnon brow, shoulders twice as wide as my hips, wide, stubby hands, and a neck that's actually wider than my head, and even one of those can tip someone off as being abnormal for a girl, let alone all of them.
i don't know if i'll ever really be ok with myself, no matter what i do. i don't know if i'm "transgender" or just something completely separate, totally unsatisfied no matter what i am. but i'm afraid that there's no way i can keep on going the direction i'm aimed , because there' s really no good that can come of feeling like this forever.
i also wish i had a witty, clever way of ending this on a high note. just imagine that here.
i'm beginning to grow a lot more concerned over my well-being with all of my gender issues. i've been back and forth on the fence over whether i want to transition since i was 5 or 6. for three-quarters of my life, i've been afraid to let the people closest to me know that i don't feel right as myself. up until i joined this forum, i thought that i was just abnormal, and that nobody would accept me for how i felt about myself, and still that feeling's still sticking with me. it's led to a long history of self-loathing and destructive behavior. since i was young, i would hurt myself in any way i could find, i still fight urges for self-mutilation (and frequently lose), i still wonder about what i really want, i still fear that no matter what i do i'll never feel right as myself, and even now, as i finish my 9th drink in two hours, (on a wednesday, with class to attend tomorrow) i'm no closer to making healthy decisions for coping than i am to figuring out what's right for me.
even though i know i'm way ahead of the curve for people who think they're too late to transition, i still feel like i'll never be able to pass, no matter how i tried. aside from being short and tiny, i'm not even remotely feminine in appearance, i have a cro-magnon brow, shoulders twice as wide as my hips, wide, stubby hands, and a neck that's actually wider than my head, and even one of those can tip someone off as being abnormal for a girl, let alone all of them.
i don't know if i'll ever really be ok with myself, no matter what i do. i don't know if i'm "transgender" or just something completely separate, totally unsatisfied no matter what i am. but i'm afraid that there's no way i can keep on going the direction i'm aimed , because there' s really no good that can come of feeling like this forever.
i also wish i had a witty, clever way of ending this on a high note. just imagine that here.