Poltergeist
01-18-2009, 06:58 PM
I'm posting this here instead of in the ftm part of the forum, because I don't think gender matters here...
I'm so confused... I've been SO sure that I wanted to transition... and in a way, I still am... I want the transition, but I'm not sure if I can handle the consequences. Or, actually, it's just one of the consequences, but that's a big one... that I won't be able to have a partner. I'm 31, very into men, and have never dated anyone. And I'm not the type of person who enjoys being single... I'm so lonely that I sometimes feel suicidal. And from the reactions I've been getting so far, I am pretty sure that no guy will ever date me as a transguy.
I know I can't stop being trans... I'll always be a guy in my heart... but right now I'm not so sure if I should get the surgery or not, because I feel like I'm closing the door if I do, that I'll always be lonely. I keep thinking that maybe I should try living as a tomboy instead. On the other hand, the thought of giving up my transition is killing me too.
I would love to talk to my therapist about this, but the problem is you won't be allowed to have hormones or surgery if you're not attracted to your own biological gender ONLY... that's the way it works here. And I was asked early on if I was prepared to stay single, if no one would date someone like me... I said yes, because I wanted to be accepted for the operation.
But now I don't know what to do anymore... it's seriously driving me crazy...
I'm so confused... I've been SO sure that I wanted to transition... and in a way, I still am... I want the transition, but I'm not sure if I can handle the consequences. Or, actually, it's just one of the consequences, but that's a big one... that I won't be able to have a partner. I'm 31, very into men, and have never dated anyone. And I'm not the type of person who enjoys being single... I'm so lonely that I sometimes feel suicidal. And from the reactions I've been getting so far, I am pretty sure that no guy will ever date me as a transguy.
I know I can't stop being trans... I'll always be a guy in my heart... but right now I'm not so sure if I should get the surgery or not, because I feel like I'm closing the door if I do, that I'll always be lonely. I keep thinking that maybe I should try living as a tomboy instead. On the other hand, the thought of giving up my transition is killing me too.
I would love to talk to my therapist about this, but the problem is you won't be allowed to have hormones or surgery if you're not attracted to your own biological gender ONLY... that's the way it works here. And I was asked early on if I was prepared to stay single, if no one would date someone like me... I said yes, because I wanted to be accepted for the operation.
But now I don't know what to do anymore... it's seriously driving me crazy...