"Aggro"

[Nigella]

Sandra and I recently had the good fortune so see one of the girls on here embark on her first trip out in daylight.

She had reservations, but was calmed by the fact she was with friends. We obviously talked about being "clocked" and how to react to this.

The comment made, which I have found true in my time "out", is that no-one will confront you with their reactions to how you look. They may stare, they may pass comment to their "group", they may double take, but it is very unlikely they will approach you.

Has anyone here had any adverse reaction to "going" out?

[Deborah Jane]

I,d just like to say thank you to Nigella, Sandra and of course Sheila :love: for giving me the confidence to take my first trip out in daylight. [Yes, it was me :)]

Everything Nigella said was true, some people clocked us, some stared, but no one approached us.

I thoroughly enjoyed my first time out in daylight to a crowded garden centre, where we even sat in the crowded restaurant and had lunch and i would recommend going out in a group for a first time.

Another thing i noticed, was that most people were so wrapped up in there own lives they didn,t really notice us, and if they did they didn,t seem that bothered.

[Violet]

We only went out once, and it was to P-town, during the summer. P-town, in Massachusetts, is one of the most LGBT-friendly towns on the planet, I think, so I can't say our experience was typical.

Anyway, my SO doesn't dress fully, and we were both scared as mice. No one said anything, not even the friends of his that we ran into. We talked about it with them, and they were incredibly cool with it.

When we had dinner, a lesbian couple at the next table chatted with us a bunch. They never mentioned the breasts, but I'm sure they noticed them. They just didn't care.

The only person who said anything, actually, was a drag queen who said, "Nice boobies, honey!" It made my SO feel good; she was being totally sincere and sweet. Hedda Lettuce personally handed us an invite to her show, and I was particularly tickled when she was on Project Runway later.

No, yeah, no negativity! We did encounter a few stares, and I did worry that folks would think my SO was poking fun at them or something, because he wasn't fully dressed. But no one reacted negatively, or said anything mean at all.

[TommiTN]

Congratulations, Debs! It's so good to hear that you finally got some sunshine. And it's just as you say; we do get read but rarely does anyone comment or approach. I'm sure you'll have many, many more adventures!

:hugs:

Tommi in Tenessee

[Teri Jean]

The other day I went to a casino dressed and had a good time. The staff and patrons noticed a 6-4" woman but said nothing and even was polite when I needed to write a check for more cash, ( more of a donation ). But even in a small casino in the heartland of Iowa people mind the own business and leave one alone. Glad to hear you had a good time Deb. Huggs Keli

[JoAnne Wheeler]

I think that is what we are here for - to provide support to a Sister when we get the opportunity

JoAnne Wheeler

[mykhelee]

Wonderful Debs,
The first time you put your toes in the water can be a wee bit scary. Always good to have along a few life peservers to help us float amidst the public ocean.
Congrats:love:, I am going out for the first time in years soon, first time ever that wasn't to a cd friendly club, shopping mall and dinner.
Luv Ya,
Khelli

[JenniferR771]

Myself and two other crossdressers met at a donut shop. After a few minutes two young moms came in with their 4 kids, 8 to 10 years old. Where did they sit? At the next table and two 10 year old girls sat facing me about 6 feet away. I got a good many stares and some whispers and giggles. As they left, the mom actually apologized to me, "I am so sorry if my kids embarrassed you!" :straightface:

"No problem at all.":)