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Ballerina
01-27-2009, 03:08 AM
I never truly did want to adopt a female name, but after my GF had shed some light I felt that it was something that could be looked into deeper. I know that many adopt their names because it "feels right", "sounds good", "an off version of their male name", etc. But, my GF had said that a female name can be a symbol of the division of both my male side and more feminine side; a sort of link in between the two halves of this whole. It creates a form of balance between being a separated and whole person.

I never have like the name "Sally", but it came with a very cute inside story between us, and I feel that it is a part of our past, present, and future love that we hold dear.

Anyone else feel that they use their female name to separate their two halves, and not just because "it sounded good", "it fits me", etc...?

tabbykat1216
01-27-2009, 03:09 AM
You explained it better than I did! Love ya, Sally!

martha mars
01-27-2009, 06:58 AM
My dad always called me marthe

Sally24
01-27-2009, 08:15 AM
My use of Sally started so that my wife and I could discuss clothing that would fit "her" or that "she" might like when we were out shopping in boy mode. Then we started going out together as girls and she had to have a name to call out across the aisle to get my attention. Eventually Sally developed a look and personallity all her own. It both separates and joins me together with my two halves.

Naleen
01-27-2009, 10:50 AM
The use of my name Naleen, started when i used to play as a female character on many Mass Multiplayer Role Playing Games (MMORPG). And Naleen in that sense fully seperated me from my Genetic self.

:hugs:
Naleen Atrens.

JoAnne Wheeler
01-27-2009, 03:18 PM
One of my FEW great moments with my Spouse was when she finally decided to refer to me as JoAnne when I dress

JoAnne Wheeler

tricia_uktv
01-27-2009, 03:48 PM
My femme name is delibrately derived from my parents names, since it is they who give you your name. What is interesting is that I go away each weekend to dress and am constantly called Tricia or Trish. It does make things more real and I go enjoy it. On Monday mornings its quite hard when someone calls me by my other name! It takes a while to sink in.

DameErrant
01-27-2009, 05:39 PM
I chose a femme name to help me "fill out" my feminine side, to help me more fully access that part of me, to bring her out. My choice of taking a new name was to help me integrate my "shadow self," as Yung put it, with my public persona. It was not my intention to "divide" myself, put to become more whole. I tried to keep the same initials, but not make my femme name too similar to my guy name.